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Since you have to have a paid membership to leave a review, i think RM reviews are mostly useless now personally. A provider might see hundreds of clients who would speak highly of them but some of those providers have no reviews on RM because those clients aren't paid RM users. Some providers might have one client who has a bad time but that happens to be a client who is a paid member and thus would be more motivated to leave a bad review, making that provider seem worse than they actually may be. So unless it's a provider with dozens of good reviews, or dozens of bad reviews. Showing an actual track record of performance among multiple paid members. I personally think it's not a good enough data point to make any judgements on and i mostly ignore the ratings/amount of reviews unless it's a large amount of reviews. I get that having the paywall would help stop review botting/spamming, but it also makes for a much smaller user base that can leave legit reviews. There's no real good way to handle it. As far as wanting providers to reply to reviews... Kinda feels a little needy to me personally. You write the review for other people to make use of, not to flatter and get a "thanks" from the provider.

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Like @ThirdEye said. Posting those pics/videos for free doesn't make sense for everyone. Especially in a world where OnlyFans/selling content exists. Honey that's free for everyone to taste means a lot of those people are going to take their free taste and keep moving and never buy the jar cause they can just get full on everyone's freebies. And yeah sending photos or doing video call verification while/after agreeing on booking details is already what a lot of these guys are doing rather than unlocking their pics for anyone that asks.

I think it's largely about them just being upfront about the fact that the sheer volume of unlock requests they get is one they will no longer be dealing with and that they have to have some sense of feeling like you are actually going to book for them to bother to take the time to unlock. This doesn't automatically mean a 100% success rate at ruling out all potential scammers, pic collectors, and time wasters, but that's still better than them sitting there clicking yes to all 100 a day unlock requests they get when realistically like 10% of those might turn into a conversation and even less than that will turn into a booking. I've also seen some clients get pissy and send mean messages to providers who don't unlock in a timely manner too so i think the message is mainly to those people to get those people in particular to not even bother to engage. A lot of stuff like this made sense to me after i saw the DMs of a provider friend. Lot of clients are entitled assholes, to be perfectly honest.

I promise you none of those providers care. This isn't some hill of nobility you're dying on.

They have the right to charge whatever they want because there are people happily paying those prices (and higher), and you have the right to book someone who charges less because there are plenty of people charging less. Some providers are simply out of our price range and in someone else's and that's ok. Someone else sees the value you don't. So i really wouldn't let yourself get that "ooo i'm too good for this price" feeling and wanting a bunch of us here to co-sign that lol. That's the start and end of what i think about it personally. There is no "reasonable" price for any of this, it's not a legal market (in most places) and we aren't owed this hobby being cheap/affordable (there are plenty of affordable options though, you might just have expensive tastes your wallet can't keep up with, which is relatable).

Sorry to hear that, that's really unfortunate. Yeah i've definitely seen some guys who are terribly flaky/hard to book but if you happen to catch them at the right time and can meet it's great. But man are they making an awful impression on all the guys it doesn't work out with and missing out on a lot of business because most guys (rightfully) are not that patient.

Yeah i see this more and more as well, for the reasons and it 100% is for the reason @Venite said. I see more and more profiles that explicitly (and with attitude) say "don't bother asking me to unlock my pics unless you're a real client". And i get it, because i've seen a friends Provider profile DMs/notifications before. They get HUNDREDS if not THOUSANDS of picture unlock requests. He just ignores them now, it's impossible to go through every single one of them and say yes, especially when only say less than 10% of those are going to turn into an actual booking. It's not worth the providers time to bother unless they are getting an easy to manage (low) number of pic unlock requests.

Yeah i've mostly been dealing with guys who charge the same rate every hour and i've been really appreciating these guys who offer 90 minutes lately. 1 hour usually feels just short enough that the session feels a little rushed or i can feel the time ticking by. I can kinda become aware of the provider hitting their beats/cues ya know? 2 hours often leaves me with about 30-40 minutes where i need to just talk/hangout with the provider (which, depending on the provider i don't necessarily want that from them lol) or i just leave early leaving time/money on the table. So 90 minutes usually is just right for me unless it's a provider i have good rapport with and can enjoy the chill time with them after the exciting part is done. Similar to what some others have stated here. A new guy I'm about to try soon quoted me 300 for first hour and 150 each hour after that. If he performs how i hope he does he's going to shoot up to the top of my regulars list 😆

Or they could just Google an abuse hotline and have a 100% correct result come up at the very top. ChatGPT is terrible for anything that is actually important like this.

It definitely still could be. The same way in the U.S. how auto manufacturers all make their cars adhering to California's emissions rules because it's too difficult for them to make different cars for different states/regions of the country that all have wildly different standards. Rules in some states for websites, depending on how they have to be implemented in the back-end, makes it easier for the website to just do a change across the board rather than on a state by state basis. Age verification laws are popping up all over the country and eventually will hit federal courts/attempt to be passed federally too. So it's not unheard of in situations like that for a business to want to try to get ahead of it once a certain tipping point is hit. From their perspective, maybe if all the explicit content is behind a paywall, that then offloads the burden of age verification to the bank of the user. RentMen having to handle age verification themselves would mean them needing all of us to upload our IDs or other proof of identity and stuff like that and storing it (which they know would cause us to abandon the site). Or to shutter service to States with age verification laws like PornHub did in Florida earlier this year. But it also very well could just be a profit driving decision on RentMen's part lol. The more features they put behind the paywall, the more likely people are to bite the bullet and subscribe. In their minds at least.

I can too, but only of guys who already unlocked their private album for me. Otherwise, as a basic member, i don't see any explicit photos.

He kept the sheet on you? Holy shit... I get you though. You've seen the other 99% of the time he's good, but everyone's got their off days lol. And nah it's not a fin-dom thing at all. I actually hate fin-dom and like being in control of what i spend, i tell him no plenty of times if i don't have enough or just don't want to give. Like i said, it's complicated. It's more so about (and to be fair i didn't get into all the other details/context) feeling needed because he's told me about how meeting new clients and having his phone blow up with DMs stresses him out and of course him being mostly straight he's not really super keen on doing stuff with so many different guys anyway. But he's got 3 of us he feels comfortable doing stuff with and he doesn't take new clients anymore unless he finds himself in a situation where he needs extra cash and all 3 of us are simultaneously tapped out at the time. So we're his regulars and we like that he feels safe/comfortable with us. He also just kinda scratches that straight guy fantasy itch from back when i was young. Every gay friend i knew had some closet case guy they were hooking up with secretly and i always heard the stories but never did that myself. So it's more about just living out the old fantasy for a little while.

I can't say "not a soul" had a positive experience with him, but he has split/divided opinion on him here. I personally have a great time with him 10 times out of 10, but I've seen him on an off night once where i knew he had some stuff on his mind or had a bad day or something. That night wasn't his best work and if you don't know him/have familiarity with him i could see how it would come off badly to a new client for sure. He also has a very particular way of texting that i think also reads badly and i've noticed a lot of guys here take that very seriously/personally. They want highly cordial flowery flirty texts and anything short of that to some guys here is like the equivalent being told to fuck off lol. He's a favorite of mine personally, but if you searched his name here you'd find multiple multiple threads of people criticizing him lol. I have a second provider i hire a lot. This one is different, he's objectively a horrible provider. I could never in good conscious recommend him to anyone. Just that typical early 20something Gen Z who overcharges a bit for his services and just is trying to make his quick buck while doing as little of the "work" as possible. He's flaky as fuck, he's straight(ish) and has a bunch of "i don't do that"'s, he unsolicited hits me up for money when he needs help, so on and so forth. You know the type. Buuuuut for a series of complicated reasons. I kinda like it.......... 😅🫣

Definitely always worth being careful, but just some perspective... It's very easy to get scared by things like this happening but you should also remember that extreme cases are the ones you hear about most, but that doesn't actually mean they are happening frequently or guaranteed to happen. For every hookup that goes wrong to this extreme there are literally hundreds if not thousands if not tens of thousands of hookups that go perfectly fine, but that's not newsworthy/clickable or worth making a Netflix show about (referencing Dahmer there). It's similar to how flying on a plane is statistically the safest way to travel but many people are terrified to fly because the once out of whatever bajillion flights that does have something go wrong is what everyone hears about and fixates on, because it's so rare. But the way media reports about a plane crash hits your brain subconsciously leaves you with the feeling of "omg this must happen all the time! Flying is soooooo dangerous! I shouldn't get on planes!". Those same people will then all get in a car, every day, and not think about the fact that a car accident is statistically millions of times more likely to be how they'd be injured or die. No one thinks about that or is actively afraid of it or lets it stop them from driving to and from work everyday because the risk is so normalized and non-sensationalized and not covered by the news unless it's a horrific 20 car pileup on the highway. There were a little over 36,000 car accidents every day, across the U.S. in 2021. A little over 13 million for that year. That same year, there were "just" a couple dozen commercial plane crashes out of a little over 6 million total operated commercial flights globally. But because of the media, planes are the one everyone's nervous about. This obviously is not a 1:1 comparison to Grindr crimes vs successful hookups, but the fear one feels in both is because of Availability Bias. So... Yeah, take reasonable precautions and be safe of course. Learn how to identify red flags like they mention in the video, but you should still live your life too.

There's always an asshole who ruins it for everyone else, but by and large the actually legitimate ends of the porn industry are very stringent about the models/actors being tested regularly. This video doesn't disprove anything @Jamie21 said.

Only thing i'll say about doing it with crypto is that even doing it with crypto isn't totally anonymous unless you get somewhat advanced with it. Most regular people who buy crypto do so through a popular and well regulated exchange like Coinbase in the U.S., but to use Coinbase you have to KYC (Know Your Consumer), which means submit your ID/prove you are who you say you are. Which is normal for basically any financial/bank organization anywhere. But it means that the crypto you buy there is tied to your identity which is tied to the crypto wallet on your Coinbase account, and sending crypto from your Coinbase wallet to say RMs crypto wallet is public on the Blockchain. A regular person wouldn't be able to make the tie though unless they had access to your bank statements like a spouse or trusted family member possibly might. But it does mean, if it ever happened, and law enforcement/government was investigating you, they can compel that information from both RM and Coinbase and your bank. But generally, something else has already gone wrong for you if that is happening. So unless you go through more advanced steps like going to crypto exchanges that aren't regulated and are anonymous (and usually they don't allow U.S./Western customers on, but a VPN usually can get around that) and buying crypto coins that are specifically designed to be anonymous like Monero (there are other ones too but i don't know them), crypto isn't much to hide behind either. Unless you're dealing exclusively in cash, it's near impossible to not have some kind of trail that points back to you.

That sounds like a really convenient 3sum to me. I woulda went through with that one if they were down 🤣

Yeah, PrEP + DoxyPEP really has made things different. There's definitely still the chance of getting something but it's not drastically more than it is than with a condom now. And anyone on PrEP + DoxyPEP is also getting tested more frequently (every 3 months required to maintain access to PrEP + DoxyPEP) than people who are just using condoms but have to test at will on their own. Also have to factor in the other STIs and how condoms Vs PrEP + DoxyPEP protection rates there too. The overall protective coverage I'd say is somewhat close/comparable. Close enough at least that many feel ok to go ahead and take that load 😆

I've definitely seen many a provider on the apps. I always either just hire. Or i shoot my shot and if i miss, i will never hire them (or if i ever go back on this, it will be after some abstract amount of time has gone by where i know they wouldn't remember me from the app photo). I'm sure they probably wouldn't care but i'd be too embarrassed that they might remember swiping left/leaving me on read/blocking me on whatever app when i show up to the session 🤣

It's a hookup app like Grindr. But it technically is a website with no app (but it's meant to be accessed on your phone). And because of this they don't have to adhere to the same rules an app does. So you can have nudes in your profile photo for example. It's culture is a little different than Grindr too. Sniffies is more specific to cruising, anon hookups, finding group sex/cum dumps and stuff like that. So @harlow must have seen the guy on Sniffies nearby and shot his shot and missed lol.

In my experience it means they are down to play safe or bb and the decision is up to you. With providers i've hired it usually means safe by default, bb if you pay extra or after a few sessions and you become a regular. The guys who specifically put Anything Goes, in my experience means they only bb, and the guys who put safe do so exclusively as well. Can't say that's how everyone means it, but that's been my experience.

With you on this. Part of the reason i hire, other than wanting to get off myself of course, is i specifically want to see a guy i otherwise would not be able to attract cum and know "i made him do that" 😅😆

Again, you literally are saying "he does one thing here, but a different thing here, my brain hurt and i no understand!". Clearly the thing he says he does on RM is the thing he does if you hire him through RM.... It's really not that difficult.