DMonDude

There's a thread on him here:

This is personally something i don't really care about as much as others here do. I've been asked for deposits before and it's never once been a problem, I'm aware I'm the outlier there compared to others here who have obviously been burned by providers asking for deposits. If the providers profile seems fairly legit and the deposit is low enough i've had no issue paying it. I've never had a provider i paid a deposit to not show up or give a lackluster performance after. There are plenty of other context clues to take into account that can let you know if paying the deposit is going to result in you getting scammed/no showed or not. Same stuff many here have suggested in other threads about how to gauge provider quality/legitness. That's just been my experience though.

Not saying you should do it. But on OF i have asked a guy if he was on RM before. I specifically just called it "RM" and assumed if he was using it he'd know the abbreviation. Then the guy responded and clarified and said "oh the esc0rt site?" (OF DMs block certain words like escort but it's easy to change a letter and get around it). He knew of it but he wasn't on it. It didn't cause any OF moderation issues for either of us. But that was like 2 years ago. I'd say X would probably be the next best place to try to contact him. That's probably the next most likely place he checks DMs most frequently to field collab inquiries from other content creators since many content creators do the bulk of their advertising on X since it's adult content friendly.

Azdr0710's got you covered with intro to hiring topics. Here's a recommendation. I'm not in New York but this New York guy has come to my city a bunch in the past and he's great. So he's my one go to recommendation/hire for NY guys. Just let him know what you're interested in doing and that you're new at this and he'll take good care of you. https://rent.men/BenjaminMilliano

I'm curious. What do you feel like you gain from being able to see if they've read your message or not and how do you act/respond after you see they've read it and how long after they've read the message do you then act that way? Anyone who's ever asked me to have my read receipts on whether for social reasons or business/transaction reasons has only ever wanted it on so they can freak out on me if i don't immediately drop everything I'm doing and respond to them within some arbitrary amount of time they've deemed reasonable, but i didn't agree to or confirm with them. Without any thought to what else i may have going on. It's always been a "i am owed your attention" and trying to police my time thing to them. I personally don't see many if any other logical reason anyone would want/need read receipts on other than that, largely because anything you need that urgent a response for you should just call them and if they don't answer that just confirms they are not available. But if one exists i'd be fascinated to hear it.

So @JockdudeP, you didn't want an answer to your question. You just wanted someone to agree with you about wanting Read Receipts on. Got it.

You pretty much got it, yeah. The "second wall" or "second hole" is actually the 90 degree right angle bend your rectum takes going to your sigmoid colon. What we perceive to be a tight second "hole" being entered is that 90 degree angle straightening out (due to the muscles around that area relaxing) as a long dick, arm, or other objects enter it. It's also why people refer to sex sometimes as "getting your guts re-arranged" lol. That is technically what is happening inside. Relaxing the "second hole" muscles requires a deeper relaxation because the muscles around that area are involuntary muscles, meaning you can't consciously control them like you can your anus/sphincter.

I find this annoying too, the ambiguity of that info field. I'm the opposite though, I'm cool with weed and/or a little bit of vaping but i can't handle guys who smoke cigs/cigars (no judgement, just probably not gonna kiss you lol). I actually don't even really like vaping either, but so many guys my age and younger do it I've had to learn to deal with it a little bit. I generally really hate vape/cigarette/cigar breath but i can handle vape breath if it's minimal. But also yeah the younger you go the more likely it is any kind of "yes" to smoking usually means vapes or weed instead of cigs/cigars. Millennials and Gen Z almost universally don't smoke cigs/cigars. The whole no smoking campaign and accompanying laws in the U.S. in the 90s and 2000's was pretty effective on us. But yeah "big tobacco" got Gen Z in particular on the vaping big time in it's place. Tinder actually specifically lists Cannabis use and cigarette smoking as two separate things you can say yes/no to and every other app or website along these lines all should copy that. They should even go the next step and have a vaping designation too. Though that's a bit easier to lump in with cigs/cigars because it's just a different vessel for nicotine.

"Seoul Dinero" on TikTok/Instagram.

Anyone who has Read Receipts off are people who like having peace and not having people who are socially needy pestering them about "omg why haven't you responded yet? I see you read my message!" Read Receipts is one of the worst things that's ever happened to texting/messaging lol.

Preferential treatment for regulars can come in many forms. I've definitely had ones who said on first hire they don't do certain things, later offer it when asked nicely during conversation about trying new things or offer it on their own after many visits and they were comfortable with me. Obviously, some providers may be playing a version of themselves to appeal to your fantasy/provide the type of service they advertise to you. I've seen providers kind of drop their persona/character when they're comfortable with you for when you're not actively in session. Some may see this as unprofessional or breaking the fantasy you hired them for, others may see it as nice social intimacy. So providers who do this around a client probably do so after they've gauged if the client would be into the more natural side of themself or not. Some providers may feel comfortable enough with you to talk shop with you casually. If i ever ask a provider how their day was, a newer one will usually give me a fairly generic answer but one who I've seen a bunch and who's comfortable with me won't be shy mentioning it was a slow or busy work day (referring to other clients) for example. This is another one some clients may be put off by and others are cool with. Some providers may grandfather regular clients into same prices while new clients get prices raised for them. If a provider is a traveling provider. If they are coming to your city, clients who are regulars usually get an early heads up the provider is coming to town so they can get first booking. The biggest thing is you shouldn't ask for or expect these kind of things from them. These are balls that are in their court to offer you if they feel inclined to do so.

Yeah I'd just put "will be on Atlantis Cruise X date to X date and will be available!" on your ad directly. Or i would also bet that people will be on Grindr/Sniffies on the cruise. You could try to see who you can get through there as well. You just have to be a bit careful with how you advertise on there because words referencing hiring (like "generous"/"gen"/"g3n") usually are blocked or will get your account suspended, but people come up with new code words to get around that all the time.

Man that sucks. Happens to the best of us. We go too big and then have to go home lol. Do you think you could handle that size now? Have you leveled up since then? I'm still not on that level. Unless he's suddenly become fluent in 4 months, i don't think he's telling the truth there.

Yeah sure haha. He's Houston, Texas based i believe, but travels all around. I saw him in L.A., but as of this comment he's in Seattle. https://rent.men/Eleizertop

Pretty sure i told this story on the guys review thread in this site i think, but i met up with a provider in 2025 who only spoke Spanish. I only speak English. This was not a problem, at first. I was curious about a dick as big as his as i had never went that big before (10 inch and very thick). We spoke via text where he was using a translator app on his phone. It was here i said i never had a dick as big as his and that he needed to go slow at first and he said ok. Then in person we also spoke via passing his phone back and forth using the translator app. Once we were getting physical and got naked, and phones left in our pants pockets, i realized too late i had no way to communicate with him without our phones actively in our hands. He started slow on insertion like i asked. After putting it in and waiting till he felt me relax, I handled the thickness better than either of us thought, so he thought he was good to start thrusting. I however, was not fully prepared for the length. So when he went too deep too soon, he hit the wall and i didn't anticipate how that'd feel (it hurt). He didn't realize he was hurting me and i didn't know how to tell him to slow down/stop. He was a much larger guy and was on top of me, so i wasn't fully in positional control to take it out/stop. Eventually i think the sounds i was making tipped him off and he stopped. We ended the session there. We cleaned up, he gave me a goodbye hug, spank, and a kiss, and i left. He didn't know he was hurting me at first and he wasn't doing so on purpose and he stopped when he did realize. So i don't hold it against him nor feel like anything happened to me against my will in a way he was aware of or anything of that nature. It just was pure language barrier/miscommunication and learning the hard way that i was not ready for that size yet lol. I was sore for a couple hours but was fine after i woke up the next day. Lesson learned, no hard feelings. If you're going to be inexperienced and hook up with a big dicked guy who doesn't speak your language, make sure you memorize a couple important phrases that make sense for that situation in his language. Keep the phone with translator app open next to you in the bed or just make sure you know you can handle that size so you don't need to say slow down/stop to begin with lol. I'd honestly see him again once i knew i could handle that size or if came prepared with a little Spanish memorized. He's hot as hell and it felt great, till he hit that wall lol.

I treat it the same as Yelp reviews for a restaurant or a car mechanic or whatever else. No one review is gospel, you have to take an average of many reviews together. Look for things multiple different review all or mostly separately say. If a business has 50 reviews, and 1 person says "service was terrible!", i would assume that customer probably is a Karen and was the troublemaker or that the waiter was probably just having an off day. If the business has 50 reviews and 25 of those reviews all say some semblance of "the food is good but the wait staff could use some improvement", that's a pattern and something that's likely a fairly consistent experience at that business.

I've seen him during a 4 hand massage with another provider who's my long time regular (they're friends). He adapted to my regulars massage style, so he did what I'm used to getting from my regular. So I can't speak to how he operates on his own, but he's very chill and friendly and fit into what my regular does well, so i would imagine he's good solo too (but again i can't confirm). I personally would try him solo too. He doesn't have a solo page on RentMasseur that i currently know of, but the provider who is my regular has a 4 hands page he runs with various friends of his (whoever is in the photos with him is who he's working with at that current moment) and there are more photos of Vinny on there (and obviously you could book both of them together through there if desired). Both this 4 hands page and the other provider KenJohn have threads here (with varying levels of positive/negative reviews from what i recall but I've personally had great times with him and most of his various provider partners, so your mileage may vary). https://rentmasseur.com/FourHandsOnly

Definitely share. What point is there being on here if not to share those exact types of good and bad experiences so others can make booking decisions accordingly?

Agree with @oclatin92xxx. It's almost certainly more often the latter (but probably both a lot of the times at least, i would hope). It's the other "work as a waiter till you book your first acting role/get discovered" starter job for a lot of hope to be entertainers. And it's honestly probably an equally decent way to run into some one who might discover you and network. A lot of industry people who work both in front of and behind the camera as well as above the line in studio exec offices hire.

This has been my experience as well. A few regular providers I've seen all know each other and they tell me about other providers they know in their circle and/or ask me about other providers I've seen for market research like what'd i do with them, what'd they charge, if i would want to see him (my regular) and such and such other provider i've seen on my own together as a group, etc. They've also sometimes told me about other clients. Nothing identifying or bad mouthy though just like oh i got this guy in NY who flies me out or oh this one client likes when i do XYZ to him and it's fun. One provider did tell me about two celebrity clients who's names i shall not repeat lol. So i know for sure they definitely talk about us to some extents, just not to the extent the initial OP posits, there's probably no Company of Providers site where they're doing 411 posts on us (but if there was and i was a provider, i'd never tell 🫢)

Very valid concerns and points. It's appreciated. But i do know it's not a fake match, this app verifies photos by having the user upload a photo and then do basically a full 3D face scan. So i know he's behind the profile. I also have the bottom rung paid tier of the app and can see the actual Likes i get when someone hits Like on my profile. It's not the fake ones the app sends you with blurred photo to entice you to swipe more. So I'm not concerned about that part luckily. Definitely could still be playing con man games if he hasn't got his act together since quitting Twitter/OF. But at least now I'd know to deny the money request if that happened again, i was a way easier target a couple years ago when he first got that money out of me. I know better these days. I also know it was him behind that twitter account, he was known/had enough followers where it was easy to know which account was his account and which were fakes re-posting his content. His OnlyFans page also had his link.me site that listed all his official accounts (twitter, payment app, Instagram, and more). So i do know it was him then that got the money out of me and it's him now on this dating app. I have no interest in getting money back from him. I'm coming at this purely from the standpoint of being willing to getting to know him and try something casual or romantic if mutual interest is there, on the condition that he has indeed dealt with his demons and isn't who he was back then anymore (not in terms of making content or being a provider but in terms of conning people for money and abusing substances, the latter of which he posted being the reason he was quitting twitter/OnlyFans at the time he announced his exit). I'd long forgotten about that money till i i remembered who he was after seeing him pop up on the dating app and if he's changed then i'd easily be a non-issue again. I'm not one to hold grudges and I believe in forgiveness for low/mid level transgressions, especially if someone has actually changed for the better. Also valid concern/point to bring up. Yes i am sure. The urge to disclose is purely from a place of having seen too many sitcoms/rom-coms where problems happen solely because people simply didn't communicate or kept secrets or omitted information and my own need to figure out a solution/my response when i foresee an issue or conflict coming down the pipeline so i'm not floundering in the moment. That + general anxiety lol. I have no intention to try to get money back from him or even tell him specifically about the money and how he got it from me. The money i only bring up because the transaction history is the main vector through which he could possibly figure out that we've interacted in the past. For all he knows, with how much time has passed since it initially happened, that money could be money i could have sent him to buy content rather than him getting it from me under the guise of helping him with a late bill. It's not about any guilt tripping or "look what you did to me back when" or any of that. The main thing i would want to let him know is that i recognized him from viewing his content. It likely would come up anyway because i don't hide from dates/potential partners that i enjoy porn/OnlyFans content or that i hire providers because an ideal partner for me would share those interests with me or would at the very least have no issue with me engaging in it on my own. So it just feels like something i shouldn't keep a secret. Can confirm if no money changed hands, i would still feel weird about knowing that past about him without him knowing that i know. If he made the connection on his own, I would be worried it would make him feel violated that I've seen him naked before he's chosen to be naked for me on the individual level or other wise tricked/misled/etc (kind of going back to the why celebrities usually don't date non-famous people example i gave up thread). It has nothing to do with any sense of moral positioning or anything like that. It's purely about transparency.

It's mainly an honesty/transparency thing for me. Sitting on the info would cause me stress from feeling like i was waiting for the shoe to eventually drop (the payment app and him realizing we've transacted before scenario). I wouldn't want there to be the chance that he later realizes on his own we interacted in the past and that i recognized him from his prior work and didn't say anything and then think that i had ill intent because of it. Kind of like how celebrities usually don't date regular people out of fear of ulterior motives ranging from someone just wanting to get with them for their money/fame or to fulfill some celebrity crush/groupie fantasy they have. So that's mainly what I'm trying to avoid by getting the conversation out of the way fairly early. I'm also the kind of person where something like this would sit in my head nagging at me basically forever. So with stuff like this i either need to just actually deal with it or remove myself from the situation entirely usually.

Recently a hot guy matched with me on a dating app. He looked very vaguely familiar. After a while of thought i recalled where i recognized him from. He used to do Twitter/OnlyFans content and you also could hire him through Twitter and he was a guy i followed on Twitter and attempted to hire via Twitter DMs years ago. He quit content/escorting a couple years ago. So i don't think he's doing that thing some content creators and providers do where they go on dating apps to promote. I don't know if he was on RentMen or other sites when he was working cause i didn't know about those sites back then. Trying to hire him back then didn't go anywhere after he asked me to front him some money for a bill he had due and then he ghosted after i gave that to him (very dumb of me back then lol). I moved on. He eventually quit Twitter/OnlyFans to focus on a different career path and apparently handle some demons he was battling. If i talk to him and it actually goes somewhere, I don't intend to sit on this realization, i think he should know that i know about that era of his past and that we've interacted before. It would be too weird if it ever came up in the future where i need to send or receive money from him for a dinner or whatever else and he realizes we've had a payment app transaction from before we "met". Even with out that scenario coming up, it's just not something i could have in the back of my mind all the time till he eventually brings it up himself (if ever). How, and how soon, should i bring this up and explain to him in a way that doesn't weird him out? If that's even possible.

I'm starting to notice personally, guys who have the size they say they do, take dick pics at all kinds of random angles and sometimes have items you can tell are big near it for scale. They look big almost regardless of how they're photographed. Guys trying to make their dick look bigger than it is usually use the tried and true angles that make a dick look a little bigger and don't have other items nearby for scale.

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