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I do believe he's on RentMen and also has a thread on him here. https://rent.men/AlexDuvallFit https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/153098-411-alexduvallfit-in-nyc/#comment-2315532

He's also Heffe on RentMen. https://rent.men/Heffe Have seen him pop up on the front page when he was in my town last. I don't have experience with him though. Seems very well reviewed though.

Both. Even when it gets very good with a long time regular it can also sometimes get repetitive, which can happen in relationships too. So i gotta change things up and keep it fresh after a while. So when i was hiring more actively i had regulars i loved seeing repeatedly. They'd get about 60% of my spending. 20% would go to trying new guys on my own. And the other 20% would go to a mix where me and my regulars who like group fun would find new guys to try together, usually either friends/colleagues of theirs or guys i found on RentMen. There would sometimes be overlap there where i'd send him some guys RM link and he's like "oh i know him/worked with him before" or he sends me some guy and it ends up being someone who was already on my wishlist.

Yeah cosplay kink has always been a thing, but it being Spiderman specifically being the most popular is definitely it's own specific thing. It initially popped up during the Covid era OnlyFans boom and it's now considered over done/played out, but simultaneously still highly popular. So a lot of people still do it. There's a lot of Nightwing (who is the adult version of Robin, Batman's sidekick) cosplay kink as well. Nightwing is often drawn in comic books with a purposefully plump round butt, so he's become the new big thing for cosplay/kink. Though still nowhere near as popular as Spiderman.

Agree with you both. I've done the same in terms of making my own choice on a provider by provider basis (i have no always/never send a deposit rule) and having criteria needing to be met to feel ok sending a deposit. And because of that, I have not been burned by providers who've asked for a deposit. So i really can't relate to how intensely against deposits some here are. However, as evidenced by the 7 million threads on this topic there are on this forum, I'm completely aware we're in the minority there 😅. At the end of the day though, i think deposits themselves aren't actually the issue, unprofessionalism is. Like Jamie21 said. A bad provider will be bad regardless of if they ask for a deposit or not, and most of the clients here who are super against deposits also are generally aware of the red flags to look out for for a bad hire. So it really makes me wonder what these providers are doing that where nothing else about their ad is tipping off their red flag radar.

Definitely not for most of us here, but dudes like this I've seen be fairly popular on Twitter and OnlyFans. Guys like this appeal to those who are the crossover point between having an intense straight guys fetish, are into muscle worship, enjoy give but non reciprocated oral, like being degraded, and like being cash pigs. People that check all/most of those boxes simultaneously love these dudes. My friend is one of them and i make fun of him for it constantly 😆

No, he's just making a joke out of it. Border patrol always asks too many questions if they get the slightest hint of suspicion because they're trying to catch you in a lie they think you're telling them, they're not looking for "is this guy gay?". They're looking for how many layers deep does your possible lie go and for a string to pull where the tale they assume you're telling them unravels. Giving them further probable cause to detain you.

I've never run into that, but I'm also personally not into nipple play, so I've never reached for them. But as far as gauging it from the profiles. If it's not listed on the I Am Into's section (where there very much is a specific check box for nipple play), i assume it's something they aren't into or are at the very least neutral about and should be asked for to confirm they're cool with it. Maybe those guys you hired have hyper sensitive nipples to the point that nipple play is painful for them? Kind of like how some guys love when you keep sucking after they cum and other guys it becomes painfully sensitive and you have to stop. I don't know. I actually have this problem from the client perspective, i have a lot of providers both masseur and escort assume i'm into nipple play and start playing with mine while working. It's fairly common and popular, so i get it, but it doesn't do anything for me and i find having to tell them not to bother messing with my nipples to be awkward and momentarily a vibe killer. So definitely better they just not go for it to begin with. So maybe that's how the providers you hired are feeling too?

This is true in that it definitely is firmly against both sites Terms of Service, but I've personally found they don't enforce it unless someone actually uses the Report function. Not saying people should go try it all willy-nilly. But it's, in my past experience, not to the level of merely asking or bringing up the topic gets you instantly flaggged/banned. Maybe it's different and more strict from the model account's perspective in that they can't be the one advertising/soliciting though? OnlyFans specifically does have a list of keywords they don't let you send in a message, like Escort (the message will simply bounce back and say your message contains a banned word but won't tell you which one, but it's usually obvious which word it is and you can re-edit the message and send). But Esc0rt with a "0" rather than an "o" is not on that list. Meet is also one of the words but you can use M33t and get around it last i recall. And discussing it in more subtle ways is even less policed. These sites list rules like that because they have to for liability reasons, but they are not putting in that much effort to enforce them in my experience. This was only like two years ago last time i had a conversation with a creator like that on OF, back before i knew about RM and stuff. But yeah to your point though, for the OP. Twitter doesn't care at all, that site is the wild west haha. A lot of creators I've also noticed have Telegram channels you can message them on to buy content (which cuts out the OF middle man taking 20% of the creators sales), but I'd imagine it's also much easier there to set up other transactions with them if you have the proximity and the means.

In my experience, asking if they're available for meet ups seems to be the code for that. I've seen some porn/onlyfans creators on twitter who specifically put "i don't do meet ups" on their profile bios. And i've known others who don't have that to be hire-able despite not being on RM and sites like that. You also probably could ask about if they're into meeting "gen"/"generous" guys. That's the more usual code i see on Grindr and hook up apps for.

It's a thing, but definitely not new (though a bit surprised they did it without you asking them for that specifically). They're probably just playing to the "masc bro" aesthetic/vibe a lot of people are into. Certain clothing that plays to that is backwards baseball caps and keeping your socks on during sex.

I haven't had almost any of these issues either. A small handful of providers asking for partial deposit here and there sure, or even one or two asked for payment up front while in person right before starting the appointment (and they only did this on our first meet but took payment after the session in subsequent meets), but I've never been asked for full upfront payment prior to arriving to the appointment. The other things you've listed definitely are not the norm on RentMen or RentMasseur in my experience.

Gen guys on Grindr/hook up apps scam by usually getting you to message them off platform on Telegram or another messaging app and they try to pull a phishing scam on you or the common Venmo/CashApp scams usually. They never actually meet up or gift you. Not really the same "scam" as guys on RM who actually will meet you and just give lackluster service.

All the usual apps "work". Screening out bots entirely isn't really possible without sites/apps making us verify our identities by uploading our government IDs. Which sites like Discord are currently finding out is a logistical and privacy nightmare. The main sites/apps still seem to be Grindr, Sniffies, and Scruff. But there's also ones new and old like Tinder, Feeld, A4A, Growlr, Archer, and many many others that have varying levels of user base sizes compared to the bigger apps. You can find hook ups on any of them. All will still have bots and other annoying things like too many ads. Just is part of the game unless you pay money (and paying money only removes ads/unlocks features to focus on a type of guy you want, there still is no true way to avoid bot profiles other than just using your due diligence/common sense). In my experience, it largely doesn't matter what app/site you use, it's going to be mostly all the same guys on each one just by nature of any given cities local gay community not being big enough to have entire groups of them being only on one app. Most of us who use one app are using many/all of the apps, in my experience. The only time i see new people is when people who have never used the apps finally join out of desperation or when someone who's been in a monogamous relationship becomes single and joins, or when young college age guys join for the first time. I personally get my hookups from Grindr, Sniffies, and Tinder.

Ah that's unfortunate. He may still be filming/banking videos and hasn't started posting them yet. You could message him and ask when the massage content is coming?

This guy does massage content on OnlyFans and Chatterbate (live stream site). When you hire him you can volunteer to be in the content if he has his filming equipment with him when he's in your city too. You'd have to message him for the OnlyFans link cause i don't really use OnlyFans anymore, but I'm pretty sure the screen name is the same or similar to his name on RM from what i remember, but i couldn't find it in a quick search. https://rentmasseur.com/Hogannathaniel

More than i should but not enough to put myself on the street. I only spend money on this that i get from working over time. 2025 was a particularly hard working year and it was also my first full year of hiring so i was mostly still in "oh my god this is new and awesome!" mode. Definitely a good couple grand over the course of last year. I'd be spending like @savantsav if i could though, they're living their best life 😆

Yeah I'm similar. I don't really make much effort to hide much from providers. Real name is there on Zelle. Most providers won't reply/answer if you use a Google Voice/app number and i never bothered with a second/burner phone. I'm pretty open with providers when we make small talk, so our interests/hobbies come up or sometimes they ask me about my work projects. I tell providers what part of town I'm in but i don't give them my address. In my experience, most providers I've seen 3 or more times usually let their walls down and don't really keep much info from me either. I usually can see their real name via Zelle and see they're also using their real number when the number i Zelle is the same one i text them at. I've known some providers who've told me about their main/day jobs. Some tell me about their family or friends. I've dropped providers off to personal engagements after our session before, so not only were they comfortable with me meeting them at their apartment and knowing where they live, they didn't mind me knowing where their friend i was dropping them off at lived either haha. It's all pretty chill, I've never really experienced anyone being hyper secretive/discreet.

I relate to this heavily, as someone who loves doing this but does not have the funds to do it as much as i wish i could or try new guys as much as i'd like to. I run into this issue as well every couple months whenever i start getting low or run out of my fun money. Start having to hire less or stick to my main guys or take full on hiring hiatuses till i have funds again. I just stick with some form of i don't have it in the budget right now and i just keep letting them hit me up every month or whatever it is. I know a lot of them have some scheduled alert that reminds them to check in with regulars usually. They're just doing their due diligence. I just tell them the truth that i don't have it in the budget for right now and to either check back again later or wait for me to reach out first. It's never been a problem. All the guys i hire know they aren't my only regular, but i don't tell them which ones i'm prioritizing at a given moment. Doesn't seem necessary or beneficial for them to know, to me. Same way i know they all have other clients who are way richer than me and book them far more often and are more "generous", but i don't want or need to know those details haha.

I've had 4 and 6 hands. It only really works if the guys have some kind of coordination or even choreography in who has their hands on you and where. Otherwise i can only imagine it'd be a messy massage experience. So i would echo the sentiment to specifically look for providers who specialize in it and have partners they work with regularly, if you're going to try it.

My recs. https://rentmasseur.com/MikeChris https://rentmasseur.com/ProfessionalHand

I've had providers in the past who i was seeing on a regular basis while his RM profile was inactive. I had his number so i would just text him or he would text me about meeting up. I asked him about why his profile was expired/frozen and he said he was prioritizing other sites at the time. He has a rotation of sites he spends the subscription money on and isn't using them all actively at once. I've also known providers to sometimes take breaks from fielding new clients and just focus on their regulars. A frozen/inactive profile is only really an issue or a "don't engage" for potential new clients, in my experience. So if you already have met with the guy and have his number, it doesn't hurt anything to text and see if he's available. If he's available he'll be willing to set something up and if he's actually not available he'll either tell you that as well or he just won't reply.

No one is saying you HAVE to pay the deposit, again, what i'm saying is don't be an asshole just because some providers do charge one. Providers ask for them to get some kind of peace of mind that the client is serious about the meet, not because they think they're hot shit, the latter of which is the general consensus here in this thread and is the attitude i'm calling out. I literally never said anywhere we clients HAVE to pay the deposit. That's the disconnect. I'm very specifically talking about the "gasp, how DARE a provider have the GALL to ask for a deposit" as if providers have no legitimate reason to ask for one, attitude on display in the thread.

I don't think comparisons to other businesses are really that apt in this particular topic. It's an unregulated/not legal profession (for most of us, i know not everyone here is American) that is unlike literally any other profession. There are no legal protections for either the client or the provider and legal protections are what set the expectations you refer to for other industries. So it's up to us as individuals to decide how to treat each other and many here choose catty-ness and apathy. It's not surprising that customers want to be treated like valued customers and we overwhelmingly are, but I'm just saying the "until proven otherwise" bit has already happened to everyone including the providers and a lot of clients completely lack understanding or empathy for this. Some clients are coming at providers with the other expectation that htey already know you're "one of the good ones" and the provider doesn't have any way to actually know that about you. And many here's attitude is basically "tough shit, i don't care, you still owe me good service regardless". By your own logic, sure don't pay the deposit or whatever, but don't be surprised when the provider then doesn't give you the assumption of being a good client because they have been burned by other clients who have no relation to you just the same as many clients have deposit/upfront pay horror stories. That again is the grander thing i'm getting at here. Clients are the ones going much farther in treating providers with a certain negativity based on the actions of a few than providers are here. Even so, the clients are here acting like you are owed this and that and that's weird because when providers voice their own grievances from the other perspective they're met with the catty-ness within this thread of how "oh wow you think you're so cute you get to ask for a deposit" over something that some providers do as a safety or vetting precaution, which is understandable, if one has empathy for the provider. It's just ugly attitude for no real reason that disproportionately comes from clients.

You're welcome! It's generally recommended here that when we come here with a name to request info on to search the name first. It'll pull up threads mentioning that name and you can reply to that thread and it'll bring the thread back up to the top of the forum. Or sometimes the moderators will merge the threads together.