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I can too, but only of guys who already unlocked their private album for me. Otherwise, as a basic member, i don't see any explicit photos.

He kept the sheet on you? Holy shit... I get you though. You've seen the other 99% of the time he's good, but everyone's got their off days lol. And nah it's not a fin-dom thing at all. I actually hate fin-dom and like being in control of what i spend, i tell him no plenty of times if i don't have enough or just don't want to give. Like i said, it's complicated. It's more so about (and to be fair i didn't get into all the other details/context) feeling needed because he's told me about how meeting new clients and having his phone blow up with DMs stresses him out and of course him being mostly straight he's not really super keen on doing stuff with so many different guys anyway. But he's got 3 of us he feels comfortable doing stuff with and he doesn't take new clients anymore unless he finds himself in a situation where he needs extra cash and all 3 of us are simultaneously tapped out at the time. So we're his regulars and we like that he feels safe/comfortable with us. He also just kinda scratches that straight guy fantasy itch from back when i was young. Every gay friend i knew had some closet case guy they were hooking up with secretly and i always heard the stories but never did that myself. So it's more about just living out the old fantasy for a little while.

I can't say "not a soul" had a positive experience with him, but he has split/divided opinion on him here. I personally have a great time with him 10 times out of 10, but I've seen him on an off night once where i knew he had some stuff on his mind or had a bad day or something. That night wasn't his best work and if you don't know him/have familiarity with him i could see how it would come off badly to a new client for sure. He also has a very particular way of texting that i think also reads badly and i've noticed a lot of guys here take that very seriously/personally. They want highly cordial flowery flirty texts and anything short of that to some guys here is like the equivalent being told to fuck off lol. He's a favorite of mine personally, but if you searched his name here you'd find multiple multiple threads of people criticizing him lol. I have a second provider i hire a lot. This one is different, he's objectively a horrible provider. I could never in good conscious recommend him to anyone. Just that typical early 20something Gen Z who overcharges a bit for his services and just is trying to make his quick buck while doing as little of the "work" as possible. He's flaky as fuck, he's straight(ish) and has a bunch of "i don't do that"'s, he unsolicited hits me up for money when he needs help, so on and so forth. You know the type. Buuuuut for a series of complicated reasons. I kinda like it.......... 😅🫣

Definitely always worth being careful, but just some perspective... It's very easy to get scared by things like this happening but you should also remember that extreme cases are the ones you hear about most, but that doesn't actually mean they are happening frequently or guaranteed to happen. For every hookup that goes wrong to this extreme there are literally hundreds if not thousands if not tens of thousands of hookups that go perfectly fine, but that's not newsworthy/clickable or worth making a Netflix show about (referencing Dahmer there). It's similar to how flying on a plane is statistically the safest way to travel but many people are terrified to fly because the once out of whatever bajillion flights that does have something go wrong is what everyone hears about and fixates on, because it's so rare. But the way media reports about a plane crash hits your brain subconsciously leaves you with the feeling of "omg this must happen all the time! Flying is soooooo dangerous! I shouldn't get on planes!". Those same people will then all get in a car, every day, and not think about the fact that a car accident is statistically millions of times more likely to be how they'd be injured or die. No one thinks about that or is actively afraid of it or lets it stop them from driving to and from work everyday because the risk is so normalized and non-sensationalized and not covered by the news unless it's a horrific 20 car pileup on the highway. There were a little over 36,000 car accidents every day, across the U.S. in 2021. A little over 13 million for that year. That same year, there were "just" a couple dozen commercial plane crashes out of a little over 6 million total operated commercial flights globally. But because of the media, planes are the one everyone's nervous about. This obviously is not a 1:1 comparison to Grindr crimes vs successful hookups, but the fear one feels in both is because of Availability Bias. So... Yeah, take reasonable precautions and be safe of course. Learn how to identify red flags like they mention in the video, but you should still live your life too.

There's always an asshole who ruins it for everyone else, but by and large the actually legitimate ends of the porn industry are very stringent about the models/actors being tested regularly. This video doesn't disprove anything @Jamie21 said.

Only thing i'll say about doing it with crypto is that even doing it with crypto isn't totally anonymous unless you get somewhat advanced with it. Most regular people who buy crypto do so through a popular and well regulated exchange like Coinbase in the U.S., but to use Coinbase you have to KYC (Know Your Consumer), which means submit your ID/prove you are who you say you are. Which is normal for basically any financial/bank organization anywhere. But it means that the crypto you buy there is tied to your identity which is tied to the crypto wallet on your Coinbase account, and sending crypto from your Coinbase wallet to say RMs crypto wallet is public on the Blockchain. A regular person wouldn't be able to make the tie though unless they had access to your bank statements like a spouse or trusted family member possibly might. But it does mean, if it ever happened, and law enforcement/government was investigating you, they can compel that information from both RM and Coinbase and your bank. But generally, something else has already gone wrong for you if that is happening. So unless you go through more advanced steps like going to crypto exchanges that aren't regulated and are anonymous (and usually they don't allow U.S./Western customers on, but a VPN usually can get around that) and buying crypto coins that are specifically designed to be anonymous like Monero (there are other ones too but i don't know them), crypto isn't much to hide behind either. Unless you're dealing exclusively in cash, it's near impossible to not have some kind of trail that points back to you.

That sounds like a really convenient 3sum to me. I woulda went through with that one if they were down 🤣

Yeah, PrEP + DoxyPEP really has made things different. There's definitely still the chance of getting something but it's not drastically more than it is than with a condom now. And anyone on PrEP + DoxyPEP is also getting tested more frequently (every 3 months required to maintain access to PrEP + DoxyPEP) than people who are just using condoms but have to test at will on their own. Also have to factor in the other STIs and how condoms Vs PrEP + DoxyPEP protection rates there too. The overall protective coverage I'd say is somewhat close/comparable. Close enough at least that many feel ok to go ahead and take that load 😆

I've definitely seen many a provider on the apps. I always either just hire. Or i shoot my shot and if i miss, i will never hire them (or if i ever go back on this, it will be after some abstract amount of time has gone by where i know they wouldn't remember me from the app photo). I'm sure they probably wouldn't care but i'd be too embarrassed that they might remember swiping left/leaving me on read/blocking me on whatever app when i show up to the session 🤣

It's a hookup app like Grindr. But it technically is a website with no app (but it's meant to be accessed on your phone). And because of this they don't have to adhere to the same rules an app does. So you can have nudes in your profile photo for example. It's culture is a little different than Grindr too. Sniffies is more specific to cruising, anon hookups, finding group sex/cum dumps and stuff like that. So @harlow must have seen the guy on Sniffies nearby and shot his shot and missed lol.

In my experience it means they are down to play safe or bb and the decision is up to you. With providers i've hired it usually means safe by default, bb if you pay extra or after a few sessions and you become a regular. The guys who specifically put Anything Goes, in my experience means they only bb, and the guys who put safe do so exclusively as well. Can't say that's how everyone means it, but that's been my experience.

With you on this. Part of the reason i hire, other than wanting to get off myself of course, is i specifically want to see a guy i otherwise would not be able to attract cum and know "i made him do that" 😅😆

Again, you literally are saying "he does one thing here, but a different thing here, my brain hurt and i no understand!". Clearly the thing he says he does on RM is the thing he does if you hire him through RM.... It's really not that difficult.

Grow up dude. It's exactly what you did, you're the silly one here who can't fathom that people can do more than one thing and who doesn't understand that a provider's Twitter is not a direct correlation to services they offer via RM. Get a grip.

I'm sure we all do, but also. Even fun things, it sucks when they become unaffordable. So it's not unfathomable that people would complain about rising rates. But for the totally valid reasons you said, that doesn't mean providers raising their rates is wrong. Their bills and fun are all going up in price just the same as it is for us. It's all ultimately a larger issue of society as a whole becoming more and more unaffordable for everyone and it hits everyone on both sides of any transaction.

Possibly, who knows. I've personally never met any providers who negotiate rate. They've all been take it or leave it rates mostly. I've hired some where you negotiate what you'll do in the session for what rate, but not the rate it self. Like i've negotiated "ok we could do ABC for 200" and they'll be like "ooo no i usually need more for that, but we could do XYZ for 200 instead". But i've never had a provider say "full service is 400" and then i go "but can ya do it for 300?" and they say yes lol. Though to be fair, I've also never tried cause i just operate under the assumption all rates are take it or leave it unless a discount/deal is offered to me (which has happened before).

Unfortunately, they have more than enough people paying those rates that they don't need to lower them. Otherwise i feel like they would have already.

You are basically saying the sex equivalent of "well if he works at Subway, but makes Sushi at home. I'm confused about what his favorite food is". You see how ridiculous that sounds?

You don't get it. It means what he does on camera for porn is not his actual preferred position for RM. It's not a unified thing where he is obligated to do the same position in both jobs.

A lot of people do both 🤯. And porn stars in particular often do one on camera because it's what is most marketable for them, while doing the other/both off camera because that's their personal life.

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He's definitely enticing. But the whole "i won't unlock pics for you unless you're a real client" (which, seeing the pics is part of how we decide if we want to actually book) attitude and him not responding to people unless they jump through hoops of some sort is pretty off putting. Agreed on that one bad review though. I think RM reviews in general are a mostly useless metric because it's so easy to game them one direction or the other and it's not representative of the actual user-base of the site or even the clientele of the provider since being able to leave a review is pay walled. It makes it so only the biggest fans and the hating-est haters will be the only ones who leave reviews.

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In my brief few months of hiring. I have already come to assume literally everything on their page is just meant to draw in as many clients as possible. It's SEO (Search Engine Optimization) so they appear in as many searches as possible. In my personal experience, 9 out of 10 profiles that list kissing and rimming, do neither when you actually ask them. Other than key attributes like height, age and dick size (which everyone lies about but usually only slightly in my experience), everything else on the profile is total B.S. so the ad looks good and you have to just talk to them to see what they actually offer.

Like the way we all come here to review/recommend/discourage against providers. Do providers who are friends with other providers talk to each other about their good and bad clients and recommend clients to each other?