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I was having a laugh, i didn't perceive anyone to be fighting 🤷‍♂️. Nothing here is serious, we're talking about dicks after all.

You cared enough to name drop your height as if that somehow confirms your mouth size and thus this guys dick size.

Have you actually measured it though

I Googled it, for fun. The average human's oral cavity from lips to throat is about 4-5 inches. So unless you have a really huge oral cavity, he's not as big as you thought he was.

Agreed. I really struggled in my early hiring days (and every once in a while still do) with having like that disassociating out of body moment during or after a meeting with a provider where i think about the fact that they likely are not attracted to me and possibly even may have been actively struggling to perform with me and just were really good at the job. I can't see it on their face but i know it's likely there in their mind. You have to have a certain mental strength/security with yourself to not let that aspect get to you. I'm mostly fine about it now though, i focus on being a client that is easy for the provider to work with (which after browsing this place for a while you will see how much providers appreciate multiple non-appearance based things about us clients). Think of it like trying to be attractive to a business as a customer or collaborative working partner, you're not trying to be attractive to a potential mate. In the business/customer sense, you absolutely can be incredibly attractive to providers. If you perform for them in that sense, they will perform for you and everybody wins.

I think you misunderstood what they're saying. They're talking about when Client A asks Client B what the experience with a Provider was like and Client B goes and tells the Provider Client A asked about them. And then the Provider for some reason is mad that Client A asked for intel and sends a negative message to Client A for it. Which is bad and definitely something i would be upended about. Asking around isn't the problem. It's the running to go tell the provider someone asked, and then the provider being mad someone asked around that's the problem.

One provider i hired spent a bunch of extra time with me after the actual session. We hung out, talked, got boba tea (his suggestion and he paid for mine) and then got lunch (also his suggestion, but i paid for his), then i dropped him off at a non-escort related obligation he had to go to. It was like the whole afternoon/into the evening, after the time i initially hired him for explicitly came to an end. Was time he definitely could have went home and probably got another client in if desired or just relaxed, but maybe it was just more convenient for him to hang out till he had to do his other obligation, i don't know. There was no direct discussion about it from my end. It kinda just happened. And this was my first time hiring this guy, he was not a regular. He also wasn't new to the biz, so i don't think it was a newbie mistake type thing either. Great experience, but i was pretty puzzled by it at the time in a "why would someone do something that nice for me?" way 😆. So i think kind of like @purplekow said, there is definitely something to be said for "off the clock"/non-work time with providers. Sometimes there definitely are blurred lines. Kind of like @mike carey said, it's a professional/work relationship until it suddenly (probably situationally) isn't. Like he also said. Maybe it's just something left to be pleasantly surprised by if a provider offers that, but the client shouldn't expect it. But also maybe doesn't hurt to ask if worded/presented correctly and you've got some rapport with the provider, at minimum. Ultimately though, i still go into anything with providers expecting to pay their normal rates. If a provider specifically agrees/offers to hang out "off the clock" like the provider i mentioned did, then i think it makes sense that that's when things could operate differently in terms of what the client is and isn't paying for. But then that's not client/provider time at that point, it's their own leisure time. If it's escort time, regardless of if you're in the bed or at a fancy dinner. We clients should still be paying their normal rate in addition to things like food/drink/event ticket/transportation/etc.

I've had this issue twice before. The first time it happened, i basically did what Jamie21 said, still went through with it and we just maintained the position till the end. There was some slight mess, but the provider didn't show any obvious signs of being bothered. He cleaned up after we came and didn't make any big deal about it. But i was still pretty embarrassed, and as the over thinker that i am, i presume that provider was grossed out/annoyed and just had a great poker face. Even though logically i also know most tops know and are accustomed to the risk of a little bit of mess, as it is indeed just part of the territory of anal play sometimes. This provider and his partner actually never logged back into their RentMasseur accounts after the following day and eventually the account was deleted too, which didn't make me feel better (but almost certainly wasn't in regards to me) 😆. Second time my bottom prep didn't work out, i was too nervous/embarrassed from the prior time to do what Jamie21 said. So I contacted the provider and just told him i was having stomach issues (which i was) and that i needed to cancel. I sent him a cancellation fee (out of my own sense of courtesy i always send a cancellation fee if i have to cancel on a provider last minute) and then i eventually rescheduled with him for another time.

It helps if you post the link to the guys ad. https://rent.men/Roxas_caelum

This sums it up for me. They've got to actively be touching my dick, hole, or rubbing their whole body on mine for me to start getting aroused usually. Otherwise, i feel like the pressure needed for a thorough massage draws blood and my mental attention to the area/muscle being addressed and away from my dick. So i don't get hard usually until it gets more overtly sexual.

If it's important to the safety of your college sports career/etc or if you're gay/bi and not out. One thing you might want to do to protect your identity, in addition to what @nate_sf said about showing less face, is also only use photos in your ad that are also publicly available. Like from your Instagram or other social media. That way, if someone reverse image searches your Provider ad, only images from your Instagram come up. Which gives you plausible deniability to say "oh that's just someone catfishing as me using my Insta photos" if it ever became an issue or if someone who shouldn't see it found your Provider ad and confronted you asking if it's you for example. You also can put on your profile that you can FaceTime/video call verify you are you. Because if a potential client sees your ad with no face pics, or reverse image searches your photos and sees it's all from some Instagram account, they also might think you're catfishing/scamming. So being willing to verify it's you is good. Other advice coming from a client perspective: If you happen to have a big social media following or an OnlyFans with a lot of subscribers. Don't let that go to your head and let it give you an attitude/ego, clients do not care about your Insta/OF follower count. Some guys your age who have social media clout get into providing thinking that they don't have to put in much effort to being a Provider and think that them being social media famous is everything. Clients pick up on this and it usually results in you giving them a bad experience. Just being hot and recognizable from social media and letting them touch your abs is not enough and is not the only thing you need to bring to your client. You still have to truly perform for them and give them a nice full experience with you like other Providers who aren't social media famous do. Similarly, a lot of guys your age have a "hustle grindset mindset" vibe that isn't always very attractive in the context of a client/provider meeting. Obviously Providers are doing this to make money, it's work. But don't let your clients feel that vibe from you. Don't let your client feel like they're just a check box on your financial goals spreadsheet or like you don't give a damn about them. They want to have a nice interaction with you and feel like you're into them and having a good time with them or at the very least like they have your full attention. Like @Mark_fl said, you should hopefully really enjoy doing this, or at least learn to be good at faking it (especially if you're doing this as a straight guy) so the client doesn't see the "mechanics" of what you're doing in order to work with them. A lot of college age guys start this and make these mistakes and then get bad reviews and have to spend time repairing their provider reputation. So if you can get this stuff right from the start, that'll put you ahead of competing providers the same age as you. So pay attention to the client, don't be on your phone a bunch during a meeting trying to set up your next meeting, don't be looking at what time it is every 5 minutes waiting for the meeting to be over because the client will notice. Don't over book yourself, give yourself time to get ready and get to each meeting. If you have a meeting setup and you're running late or need to reschedule/cancel, let the client know as soon as possible. If you set up multiple meetings in one day, don't schedule them too close to each other because the first meeting maybe could make you late to the second meeting. And especially with you being in college. You have classes, practice/training for your sport, games/matches for your sport, and your own personal/social life to plan around. So i would say just don't spread yourself too thin. Communication and time management are huge when doing this.

Just want to clarify, no one here is actively against it. Some of us just use RM/CoM in a way where post titles having city or not doesn't matter. We're just saying "you don't need the city in the post title if you do XYZ". We're not saying city names shouldn't be in the post title ever at all. Now that i know other members here have the preference to not want to do the XYZ, i don't really know what solution there is for them. Maybe it should just be an actual forum rule, rather than suggestion, that Deli posts require city in the post name 🤷‍♂️. Long as it's just a suggestion, many will simply not do it.

Then why suggest it as a good thing to do when the site already has that function at all?

So i think this is coming down to different ways people use this forum. It seems you use this forum as your main method of browsing providers. If that's what you're doing then i see how you are coming to this conclusion because you aren't seeing the providers profile first. You are seeing the CoM Deli most recents page, you're using the CoM Deli page kind of like the Online Now and in your city search (which is not it's function, but whatever, that's how people seem to be using it). So I can see a bit more why you are wanting what you want because you're using this as your main place to browse in addition to see reviews. However, it's at odds with how another portion of us are using this forum, which is we come here after browsing on RM or other site and then we search a specific provider of interests handle here, because to us, why would we want to sift through a bunch of posts for providers we aren't interested in when we can use the much more robust profile search function on RM or other site first? So we come here already knowing what city they are in at that present moment because that's how we're seeing them come up on RM in the first place. Searching the handle here brings up any new and old posts that often say cities that Provider is likely no longer located in. So that's why we largely see it as useless or redundant info to include in the post title. We are seeing the providers location from the start because we are starting from their listing and not here first. It's not rocket science, but it is a matter of different use cases and perspectives. To both of us, our way is "easier" cause it's what we're used to doing.

Adding month/year isn't needed, all posts are already time stamped.

I've definitely seen lower prices for the newer guys (i agree, largely due to economic reasons like Nue2TheGame said), but for the more experienced guys i've seen their prices hold or a few of them I've seen list price increases for new clients. Plenty of higher priced escorts see multiple guys in one day too. That's not exclusive to charging less.

Listing city is meaningless for the huge chunk of providers who are sometimes/always traveling. Even ones who don't travel super often sometimes move. It's outdated info within a matter of days or weeks for traveling providers and sometimes even out of date after X time for fairly static providers if they move or visit somewhere for vacation and take clients where they are visiting. I don't think there's really any real logical solution for this. The only possible solution is if the developers of the forum added a feature that somehow real time tracks the listed location of a provider in RM and auto updates posts with their name to change location. And i think that'd be very infeasible. I don't know. This has never really crossed my mind as being an issue personally. Most providers I've hired in the past are traveling providers, and when i came here to look providers up i already had a name to search from browsing RM first. I'm generally not browsing the Deli and looking for my city in the titles because i already had it in my head from the start that many providers move around a lot. So i could be the odd one out in that way and this wouldn't ping as an annoyance for me.

I get that you wished they replied to you sooner but you are GROSSLY overreacting to the fact he didn't. It's not as big of a deal as you are making it out to be. You sound like the stereotype of the crazy woman who gets mad when someone she's dating doesn't reply in 5 minutes. Obviously this isn't the same time frames, but you are coming at a situation that doesn't actually matter with the energy of a situation that is highly important or like he wronged you personally. It's just an RM DM, it is objectively not this serious. Most of us here do not feel the same way as you are feeling, you are having a HUGE over reaction over what is basically nothing. And yes the dude was thirsty, he asked if you were around that night. He wanted you now, and you freaked out and came here to bitch to us instead of making your money or just trying to schedule a different night with him. Jesus christ, just do that from now on and save yourself the frustration and crazy ranting.

The principle didn't fly over me, I'm just not a psycho who cares this much about reply times or the optics of saying yes to a job. You sound crazy in all of your replies here.

Literally no one would ever give a shit about how you being available to work would look. That's what a prospective client would hope for! They're the one thirsty for you! This is such an absurd and vain thing to be concerned about. Holy crap you need to chill man.

Not sure i agree on the latter half. Depends on your definition of using AI agents anonymously. Every centralized one i know of requires you to sign up with an email and make an account. And any of the ones that are actually anonymous or private require you to do a proper manual setup on your computer. You have to know MCP and APIs and this and that. Most people do not know how to do this and don't want to know, that's the whole reason why people want AI in the first place is to not have to be bothered with technical stuff because the AI does it for you. As far as privacy stuff goes, i wouldn't put those two things on the same level. Mobile carriers use ephemeral storage for messages. They only keep the content of texts for up to a couple months at most, but they maintain metadata like who you text and when but not the content of the messages. When law enforcement subpeona's them they are mainly handing over metadata unless it's within that couple weeks to months time frame. Now that Apple's iMessage is encrypted, and Android's RCS is encrypted, and messages between the two also are now encrypted. There's no message content leaking without a hacker or law enforcement getting direct access to your device. It's inherently harder to get into someones texts with how many different layers there are between the content and a bad actor. It's why usually when mobile carriers do have a data breach, it's almost always only your info you used to setup your account with them and not the content of your texts or recorded phone calls because they generally just don't have them anymore. There's multiple accounts to bypass, SIM card activations, physical access needed usually, etc, etc. Meanwhile, ChatGPT is not encrypting anything you input into it and anything they have could leak tomorrow either due to some intern hitting the wrong button or by them being targeted by North Korean hackers or whatever else. Let alone law enforcement/subpoena where they're compelled to hand over preserved chat log content and not just metadata. It's already happened actually https://arstechnica.com/tech-policy/2025/11/oddest-chatgpt-leaks-yet-cringey-chat-logs-found-in-google-analytics-tool/ A misconfigured Share feature led to private chat logs of users to be leaked and scraped by Google Search and be publicly accessible. So yeah it's just, not the same level at all. Especially when all these AI companies are still in "move fast, break things, make money at all costs so we don't cause another Dot Com Crash, apologize and settle out of court later if needed" mode and more or less are completely unregulated still. The notion that the ship has sailed already isn't true and that sentiment is how they make us be ok with them encroaching on us more, but there are multiple ships in the dock and some of them haven't gone anywhere yet till we let them.

I've mainly used any of the 3 main payment apps in the U.S. (CashApp, Venmo, or Zelle). Have also used cash before or when requested but same as Pensant said, i use BoA and their ATMs dispense $100 bills (and i was never a big enough spender to need more than a few of those $100s either), so that's never really been an issue either luckily. Yeah i'll never fully understand why Venmo took off when that was it's only differentiating feature. CashApp should have the popularity/wide spread use that Venmo does in my opinion. CashApp is so straight forward and no non-sense. Going off of this. I do wonder sometimes what clients/providers would do as financial surveillance increases. We're already barreling toward a cashless society while at the same time seeing the further digitization of money with how crypto and stable-coins are attempting to be implemented into the financial system. There are privacy focused crypto coins out there that are largely untraceable. Signal app, and i'm sure other encrypted messaging apps, has a privacy coin for example you can send back and forth to other users. But that obviously has a technical hurdle/learning curve to it. Maybe we go back to bartering 😆

Agreed. I actually find height makes many positions difficult, or at the very least, need to be done differently to still work/reach what you need to depending on what heights are involved. All can be worked around, but in my opinion it's definitely not all the same once horizontal as the saying goes.

It's not really that black and white anymore. Unless the guy is an actual certified massage therapist, there's just a ton of gray area and crossover between masseurs who also "go further" and only charge masseur rate and escorts who do massage as foreplay for escort rate. There are guys who do full massage with escort fun at the end for masseur prices, vice versa, and everything in between. But yes, communicate with the provider and make sure you're on the same page with them about what you're doing and the rate. My recommendation for OP is MikeChris/Piko though: https://rentmasseur.com/MikeChris

To add on to these comments. I definitely think there's a certain amount of mutually assured destruction behind why they don't truly crack down on this hobby/profession the way they could if they really wanted to in the U.S. In addition to the resource management, practicality, and crime priority level aspect of it. A not insignificant amount of cops, politicians, and high profile/high power people also are clients. Some of whom are fairly known in an "open secret" kind of way in some circles. If they really tried to come down on this with indiscriminate full force, they wouldn't be able to protect the massive amount of themselves/each other who also engage in this and they'd be at high risk of exposing themselves and people having their secrets get out. And i think that is part of why they tend to mostly go after this in such a targeted manner mainly when it serves other purposes like the reasons Soloyo215 listed. I think the powers that be would love to have the law be the same as how it is in the U.K., but because of how the U.S. has been culturally for so long it'll effectively be impossible to ever pass any true State or National level legalization for a long time.