DMonDude

Grow up dude. It's exactly what you did, you're the silly one here who can't fathom that people can do more than one thing and who doesn't understand that a provider's Twitter is not a direct correlation to services they offer via RM. Get a grip.

I'm sure we all do, but also. Even fun things, it sucks when they become unaffordable. So it's not unfathomable that people would complain about rising rates. But for the totally valid reasons you said, that doesn't mean providers raising their rates is wrong. Their bills and fun are all going up in price just the same as it is for us. It's all ultimately a larger issue of society as a whole becoming more and more unaffordable for everyone and it hits everyone on both sides of any transaction.

Possibly, who knows. I've personally never met any providers who negotiate rate. They've all been take it or leave it rates mostly. I've hired some where you negotiate what you'll do in the session for what rate, but not the rate it self. Like i've negotiated "ok we could do ABC for 200" and they'll be like "ooo no i usually need more for that, but we could do XYZ for 200 instead". But i've never had a provider say "full service is 400" and then i go "but can ya do it for 300?" and they say yes lol. Though to be fair, I've also never tried cause i just operate under the assumption all rates are take it or leave it unless a discount/deal is offered to me (which has happened before).

Unfortunately, they have more than enough people paying those rates that they don't need to lower them. Otherwise i feel like they would have already.

You are basically saying the sex equivalent of "well if he works at Subway, but makes Sushi at home. I'm confused about what his favorite food is". You see how ridiculous that sounds?

You don't get it. It means what he does on camera for porn is not his actual preferred position for RM. It's not a unified thing where he is obligated to do the same position in both jobs.

A lot of people do both 🤯. And porn stars in particular often do one on camera because it's what is most marketable for them, while doing the other/both off camera because that's their personal life.

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He's definitely enticing. But the whole "i won't unlock pics for you unless you're a real client" (which, seeing the pics is part of how we decide if we want to actually book) attitude and him not responding to people unless they jump through hoops of some sort is pretty off putting. Agreed on that one bad review though. I think RM reviews in general are a mostly useless metric because it's so easy to game them one direction or the other and it's not representative of the actual user-base of the site or even the clientele of the provider since being able to leave a review is pay walled. It makes it so only the biggest fans and the hating-est haters will be the only ones who leave reviews.

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In my brief few months of hiring. I have already come to assume literally everything on their page is just meant to draw in as many clients as possible. It's SEO (Search Engine Optimization) so they appear in as many searches as possible. In my personal experience, 9 out of 10 profiles that list kissing and rimming, do neither when you actually ask them. Other than key attributes like height, age and dick size (which everyone lies about but usually only slightly in my experience), everything else on the profile is total B.S. so the ad looks good and you have to just talk to them to see what they actually offer.

Like the way we all come here to review/recommend/discourage against providers. Do providers who are friends with other providers talk to each other about their good and bad clients and recommend clients to each other?

I've had some confusion around this myself when i first started. I have some providers i work with regularly who i always have to reach out to them first to book because they are popular and busy. But i also have a few other providers i work with regularly who almost always hit me up first. Like @JamesB said though, they're simply just trying to move you from the one time customer category to the regular category. Nothing more, nothing less. You may not need encouragement to see the provider again, but they don't know that till you've come back a certain number of times already. From what i assume too, from the perspective of the provider, if they know they need to see X number of clients a month to cover their living expenses/bills, I'd imagine that they would have you and others on a short list of guys they can reach out to each month to hit their quota. I'm pretty sure that's what one of my guys does. He doesn't let more than a month go by without hitting me up to see if i want to have a session. Definitely feel flattered though, the fact that they are cool to work with you repeatedly means you're doing something right as a client. It means you're chill or have good energy, easy to work with, reliable, consistent, you ask for stuff that's easy for them to do, etc.

He was someone i followed on Tiktok and then months later while browsing on RM i randomly saw him on there and then i hired him. It was just totally random chance.

Very very curious about this guy as well and also find this a bit sus lol. I might eventually take the plunge for us if no one else does soon. But there's a couple other guys ahead of this guy in my RM queue 😆

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No experience with him yet, but he's on my list. He's insanely hot and the vids on his Twitter... 🥵

I successfully met up with him back in March/April/May i think it was. Short and simple review. It was incredible. I cannot say enough good things about this guy. I recall at the time i had similar spotty communication at first with him, but i stuck with it and once we finally locked in details and got it set up. It was an absolutely phenomenal experience. He's super nice and sweet. He's very passionate about his interests and he'll talk your ear off about them if you let him (which for me, that's a turn on), but he is not a clock watcher and he didn't subtract our conversation time from our session time. Session itself was truly next level great. Only reason i haven't seen him again yet is because work has been my own work/scheduling issues. He's also currently in Europe according to his profile.

Tried to hire him last month. Had talked about what i wanted. He agreed. Then when i asked him to verify he was real (via a video call or sending a pic with a specific pose so i know he had just taken the pic and wasn't catfishing with someone else's photos or something) since his profile was not verified at the time (and still isn't) he ghosted shortly before i was supposed to go meet him and i never heard back. Considering the good reviews on RM, i figure he's probably real, but I'm guessing me asking to verify must have spooked him somehow? I don't know, but i was highly disappointed cause he's aggressively hot and prior to me asking him to verify he had agreed to everything i requested 🫠

New-ish user here. Going through and looking up providers I've hired to throw my 2 cents in where applicable lol. Found this guy on Tiktok initially and had been thirsting after him for a couple months. Stumbled upon him on RM while browsing (had no idea he was on RM and was not looking for him). I was so surprised to see him on RM that i literally messaged him on Tiktok from my anon account and asked if the RM page was him and he was like "lol yeah it's me". So i hired him. I personally had a great time with him, but i've seen this thread: https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/158263-some-encounters-that-didn’t-deliver/ Of someone listing guys they didn't have a good time with and he was on that guys list. So i found that interesting. But yeah that Twitter you link provided is him, MJ (Michael Julius as listed on the Twitter/OF link) is his real name. The CarlosHernandezz name on RM is an alias, most guys on RM are not using their real names for obvious reasons. I'd imagine at the time of the thread i linked, the story that guy told was true. I know a lot of providers start and maybe charge too high or think they can be more commanding of the client (with asking the client to provide a photo which to my understanding is generally not how this is supposed to work) and then over time they learn the norms of this work and adjust accordingly. So while i do not doubt what that user experienced with him or any one in the replies above here experienced. I had a good time with him and will see him again. Can confirm he charges $400 for FS. He does not make out but he did give me some kisses, just not open mouth/tongue. He definitely seems to prefer to bottom more than top, but he didn't quote an extra $200 to top when i talked to him about what he preferred. So maybe he doesn't do that anymore. He also did not ask me to provide a photo. We chatted for a good while, he told me the story of how he got into providing, he offered me a glass of water, he helped me chill out (i was a little nervous to meet him since i had been lusting over him on Tiktok for so long, i didn't tell him i recognized him/already knew who he was though and i'm always nervous meeting a new provider for the first time in general), we talked about random nerdy stuff after i noticed the Pokemon plushies in his room, then we did the session. I personally really liked him and will hire again soon. I guess you could say he's expensive based on the earlier replies above, but based on the guys i've hired so far since i started hiring, basically everyone's charging 300-400 for FS. So that's been my baseline, so it didn't register to me as being expensive. But even the provider himself said "i know i charge a lot compared to the other guys". So maybe i just haven't come across the guys who charge less on RentMen in my area lol. Or maybe i've just been paying the social media/porn/OnlyFans/Twitter porn premium and didn't realize it.

I've even gotten to the point where i not only get to enjoy finding that type of guy on RentMen for example, i sometimes find a specific guy i lust after on Tiktok on RentMen (hired him and it was everything i hoped it would be).

For me, it's effectively to get access to guys i don't see in my local or app based hookup pool. I enjoy a nice scroll on Tiktok or Instagram sometimes, and there is always some hot 20something dancing without a shirt on. "Thirst trapping" as they call it now. And some of those guys tend to have a really specific look that i really like but i never ever see those on Grindr or just in my social circles (i'm young enough where i can run into Gen Zers in day to day at a party/gathering or whatever). I only ever see them online, occasionally at a bar/club at the gay part of my city (and i have a very hard time getting myself to approach them in this scenario), but a lot of those guys (gay, bi, straight or otherwise) are all hustling on OnlyFans and now more and more of them are providing. So hiring is how i fulfill my fantasy of plucking those guys off my social media feed to being right in front of me.

Thank you all, i appreciate all these replies. Lot of good advice here 🙏

I think both of you have different definitions of what Objectify means. You're giving it a ton more weight and negativity than they mean it with, and they mean it in a much more easy going way than you do. I think that's the disconnect here. Objectification to some just means there isn't an emotional/romantic connection, which is what is at play when clients work with providers. We go to them for a physical experience and then we both go about our lives after. We pay, they provide a service/specific experience and that's all it is and that's ok. This is not the scenario of victimization or treating them like they are less than a person. And objectifying or interacting with someone purely for their aesthetic or physical ability is not inherently that, especially not when they are consenting to the interaction. And it seems like the notion that it is, is the side of this you're coming from and that's why you and the other person are clashing over this.

Have you guys ever had issues with feeling distracted by knowing the fact that the provider isn't attracted to you or even may actively find you ugly? If so how do you handle that? I'm obviously never going into any provider session under any delusion they think I'm hot, but sometimes i get in my head about maybe I'm really putting them through a tough time if they find me to be actively unattractive/ugly. The feeling doesn't necessarily bother me in terms of my own self confidence, but more so in the way that I'm very much the kind of person who wants to be easy to work with or be a bright spot in the day of someone who does what may be a tough job (i love to be kind to or tip customer service workers cause they deal with a lot). So the thought that that's an aspect of myself i can't change to make the job easier for the provider kinda bothers me sometimes.