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I’d rather be harmed while doing something good rather than watching and doing nothing at all.    I'm not trying to "virtue signal," but I've had a number of opportunities in life to make this choice and to act on it

I not only think in full sentences before I write anything down, I also edit them at least once in my head before they reach the page. I believe that is at least partly the result of having studied several different languages over the years, and wanting to make sure that what I say is understandable for the intended reader.

I do that with emails and texts and so on. Years ago I read something: Don't write so you can be understood. Write so you can't be misunderstood. I really took that to heart.

Exactly! If I can text you requesting an appointment for Sat afternoon, and really the only details we need to iron out are the specific time, I consider:
1) you a quality provider that remembers me and my needs; and
2) myself a "regular" who has seen you enough, that you remember me.

@bcbg1205  @bimuscle my experience has been similar to both of yours. Hiring close to 20 years now, and I've never felt uncomfortable, or been truly scammed. The worst I can say is that I have been stood up, or I may have gotten less than what we agreed on. Hell, I was even foolish enough to pay up front a few times when I started out. Even the potential providers I have been interested in, and then researched on here, I have read reviews that indicated things like "wouldn't repeat" but no one I've been interested in hiring has ever been reviewed as a scammer or engaging in sketchy behavior.
The forum certainly made me realize how lucky I have been when I've heard the experiences of other clients.  
And I don't know why @bcbg1205 appears multiple times - I can't get it to go away.
 
 
@bcbg1205
 

He's been reviewed here before. A search didn't seem to pull it up though. The review below also has a link to his rentmen ad:
 

Long term: Hire a dog trainer.

I'm gonna call bullshit on this one.  I know it's popular in the other Forum for frequent flyer SexTourists to pile shame/shit on Americans "overly" generous in the Brazilian saunas. 
Thought experiment time!   Let's say a Sauna worker, Bruno, sees a mix of 10 total local and foreign clients in a week.
As a quick, helpful, aside, I worked as a well-reviewed escort, granted it was in the states, for decades and would have remaining digits counting the number of men who overpaid. Most men, most people, don't overpay for goods or services.   But, just for funsies, let's pretend 1 of 10 per week "overpay" Bruno because from the Uber Black between GIG and the Hotel Fasano the Client/Tourist noticed a favela and felt sad.
Even a simpleton would not, could not, hold out in his transactions for something near the amount that the generous ONE paid.  If he tried, he wouldn't last long. He can try, he will see an American and ask for more, and maybe refuse you if you won't give it.  But he won't, he can't, be doing that for long, because the reality nobody can deny is that most men, most escort-clients, and certainly most sex tourists, are not "overly" generous.  After all, that's why they are in Brazil, cheap rates for hot guys.  And the locals simply won't pay that high amount, so the delusional worker can ask for whatever he likes, he won't get it from them either.
And when you push back like this, the cheapies on the MER, or whatever that forum is called these days clutch their pearls and say, "you don't know.  you don't go to Brazil/Thailand (whichever low-earning country they frequent) as often as I do, I know these boys..." blah blah.  I don't need to.   The advantage of models and simulations is that you don't have to get your hands dirty.  So, yep, bullshit.   
Good on you ThroatCummer!  You are one in a million.  Or, one in 10, hypothetically :-)

None. I was simply defining the term abandon as it was used here.

Yes, and I appreciate the explanation and thought process.

My favorite store (for several reasons, including that it's usually the cheapest) is next to the medical complex where all my doctors are so doctor appt days are usually shopping days but it's 25 minutes from me so I only go there on non-appointment days if the circular is particularly fruitful.  Otherwise I have a three-store grouping ten minutes from me that I monitor the circulars of for quick trips for sale items.
Other than soda I have been able to keep prices fairly steady because I shop often enough to almost never have to buy anything not on sale.

Hope you're right.  Keep those rose-colored glasses handy.

For my own personal growth, learning/understanding/internalizing that....."No."....is a complete sentence.

No one prepared me for how difficult it is to direct a urinary stream as you get older. In the house I just sold, I had a urinal and that made for an easy and clean urination.  I miss that urinal about as much as I miss the bowl these days.  

Having to decide whether to buy a gas engine or an electric engine car.

I had cordial chat experience with him once we were able to connect. We couldn't connect via chat while I was actually in town.
Based on my experience, and his advice, I would advise contacting him in advance of trying to book. He is not a "right now" provider, or even one to check his messages everyday.

Have you had self-proclaimed lesbian clients who become straight after spending time with you?  If so, it is doubly fabulous indeed!  😜

I've said it before and I'll say it again:
Set your rates high enough that tips aren't a thing.

I’m tired of tipping all together for everything. Just tell me how much and let me decide if I want to pay 

You need to adjust your settings so they don't get an alert you are visiting their profile. Go to my settings, then under account settings, click privacy. Then make sure the "Do not track me" option is enabled.

I’m not struggling to understand anything. I understand people can claim to be whatever they want. But if you’re having sex with men regularly you aren’t straight. You can say you are all you want. But I’m not gonna get back into this thread. I’ve said what I’ve said everyone can feel free to agree or disagree 👍🏻 

God I LOVE that story! It illustrates a simple easy blueprint:
I've gone this far, I may as well just go all in. It is JUST SEX, after all. 

It is true that in a place like NYC there are lots of other options for cruising nowadays, like gay bars, but some of us grew up when the social options were very different, so we still remember when public toilets were the only place where we could handle our cocks in public, much less make sexual overtures to another male. Old habits die hard. Then there are also the closeted gays who don't want to be seen in openly gay surroundings, and want to be able to plausibly claim, "I just came here because I needed to use the bathroom."
I went to college in a small city in farm country. One evening in the college library, I went to use the men's room, and when I sat down in a stall, the foot in the next stall started a tapping routine that I immediately recognized from my experience in Manhattan public men's rooms. When I returned the message, we both left and met outside in the hall. The guy turned out to be a former student who now lived in town, and I went home with him. After we had concluded our business at his place, I asked him why he was cruising in the college library. He said that all the actively gay men in the town knew that the library men's room was the standard place in town to pick up tricks, and if the guy in the adjoining stall didn't respond to the tapping foot, he probably didn't know what it meant and wasn't available. It was easy enough to just leave and start looking for something on the library book shelves, as if that were the only reason he was there.
Unfortunately, one evening the tapping foot turned out to belong to one of my professors. When he emerged from the stall and I saw who it was, I was dumbfounded, because he was the last person I would have wanted to have sex with, but I couldn't very well refuse after having signaled with my foot that I was available. Luckily, the semester was almost over, and I took no more courses with him.

If you're so damn fragile that you need tranquility to take a shit, get yourself a cheap hotel room nearby, or schedule a visit with a gastroentrologist.
If 600,000 people go through Penn Station each day, I can't imagine the public bathroom at Penn Station is a tranquil, relaxing, spa like experience. When a commuter needs to use a public bathroom, he is likely headed to a dirty, crowded space, with lots of people coming and going. A commuter should be entitled to decide who he exposes his naughty bits to inside a stall and not be exposed to federal authorities sneaking a peak through cracks and crevices. 
Let's hope these arrests result in voyeurism lawsuits and the government pays out and gets the message.

I’m only gay when I’m horney.