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....until the guy goes "goo glub goo glub....you're choking me!!!"

well...agree rimming and other activities and cumming at the start of a massage can be hot...once again I limit who I spend time doing this with and I take PreP and Doxy...and once again I am an adult and know the risks...with all that said in my middle 60's and have never been infected with anything through rimming...and kissing as part of rimming and it's worth it for the pleasure, no? otherwise stay at home and wrap yourself in bubble wrap and hope you live to 90...but without sexual pleasure..why?

If you don't feel clean enough down there to kiss a guy after he's rimmed you, why let him rim you at all? 🤔

I remember a "fragrant" bottom once at a meet up where there would only be spanking and light ass play. I was pristine of course, having scrubbed and trimmed to perfection, LOL. The provider came into the hotel room and went straight to the bathroom to do a number two. OK, fine. When you gotta go.....
BUTT.......the essence that floated through the hotel room and into the bed was not very pleasant. I didn't say anything because of the embarrassment issue which has been wonderfully explained by others in this thread. Looking back I definitely should have politely said something. (A good response sometimes is, "Hey lets take a quick shower together.")
I'm learning that it's not just the provider who gets better and more proficient at his job the more experience he has. We clients can evolve as well: from nervous nellys; or impolite and impatient A...holes....to passionate and fun loving guys that providers really do enjoy being with. 

Attitudes have changed a lot on this since my younger days.  Everybody now is fanatic about being squeaky clean - there are all kinds of videos on youtube about cleaning out,  the right diet for a bottom, products for cleaning out, etc.  It used to be seen as  part of the territory - that it was unavoidable to an extent - you just freshen up and everybody gets over it.

Like my father, I started balding when I was still in my 30s; I opted at one point for a toupee, but found it a nuisance, especially when someone tried to run his fingers through it. However, as I aged, I found that keeping my whole head shaved fairly close actually made me look younger and improved my sex life. 

Baldness is hot on the right guy.  The problem is that not everyone has the right head shape and facial features to carry it off, and the lack of hair can turn an average looking guy into an unattractive guy.  Worse, however, is someone who tries to hide the fact that he has a large bald spot by doing a comb over or having long hair on other areas of his head.  Bald or extremely short hair always looks better than someone trying to hide his bald spot.

I never mind the general "icks" that come with any vaccination. In some ways I welcome them. It's a conformation that my immune system is working to fighting a foreign invasion, and learning learning how to fight the invader stronger and faster the next time it appears. 

Then you probably haven't caught it to-date.  I haven't either.  Nor have the other two people I share a house with.  It's rare to say the least.  Certainly not expecting it to be able to dodge it forever.  🙏

I estimate that a little over 50% of the providers I have met with came. It often gives me some questions. 
Is it sense of obligation to a client, or desire? Sometimes one? Sometimes the other? 
Sex should be fun. I don't want anyone involved to be miserable, so I am always willing to continue when any party expresses "almost there" or "could you do X." 
But, when we have the conversation about how our session will go, is it rude, or direct, to just lay out there that "I can be an active participant if you want to cum, and if you don't want to, that's fine too." 
Would providers feel less pressure and more relaxed having that knowledge from the start? 

I estimate that a little over 50% of the providers I have met with came. It often gives me some questions. 
Is it sense of obligation to a client, or desire? Sometimes one? Sometimes the other? 
Sex should be fun. I don't want anyone involved to be miserable, so I am always willing to continue when any party expresses "almost there" or "could you do X." 
But, when we have the conversation about how our session will go, is it rude, or direct, to just lay out there that "I can be an active participant if you want to cum, and if you don't want to, that's fine too." 
Would providers feel less pressure and more relaxed having that knowledge from the start? 

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Met with him probably a year and a half ago. I will start with a summary:
Was it bad - no.
Would I repeat - no.
He is big and uncut. Seemed a little shorter than 5'8. Pics a little out dated. He wasn't in as great of shape, but not bad. Friendly Personable. Clean. Not a good kisser. Not rock hard.
Certainly, everyone's experience may be different, but I don't think we had a connection. I feel like he put forth a lot of effort, and tried to give me what most expect from him. We had talked about my expectations prior to meeting, and once I got him back on that path, the session improved, but not 5 star.

If someone expressed to me, “I don’t think of you as a client anymore,” I don't think I would have believed them if it wasn't followed by "so I can't take your money anymore."
I also try to remind myself that any relationship involves give and take. I shouldn't be the one always giving, or taking. If every activity we do socially is dependent on my means, it's not a good start for a relationship. It's not always easy to do when you are "established." However, for the value I place on a good relationship, eating baloney sandwiches from a paper bag after a walk through the park seems a small sacrifice if that's all the other one can afford on the dates they pay for.

I have never fallen for a provider. After reading stories here, I will be the first to say that I am lucky.
One thing that I wonder about your provider experiences is, how long are you engaging with them? Overnights, weekend, or vacations with a provider aren't MY thing for a number of reasons. I have to believe though, that longer hires create a greater risk of falling for a provider.
If you are hiring for longer periods, maybe hiring for shorter periods will allow you to still enjoy the hobby a bit, and not become quite so emotionally involved.

Reminds me of a work trip to a small town (Springfield Ohio maybe?) shortly after I came out. I checked the phone book for "Gay" listings and the only number listed turned out to be some 'pray away the gay' hotline. I had better luck on later trips to other cities

My brother and I are very close in age to one another. 
He's allegedly had zero sexual partners. 
I proudly admit I've had a few thousand.  I'm doing my part to boost the family average since his number is so low (We all make sacrifices to help our family 😉)

Not to sound heartless, but we can't live in the past. It's obvious how he feels about you since that fight, including now. If he wanted to, he could look you up and chat. He doesn't and probably never will. I'm not sure it's him being cruel. Everyone handles closure differently.

Move on.

I was wondering if your friend knew or at least sensed in some way that you were in love with him and so used your “insult” about a girl he liked as an excuse to cut off ties.  Maybe he felt uncomfortable because he was straight or because he didn’t feel the same way about you or even because he did feel the same way about you but couldn’t deal with same-sex attraction at that age.
If you were indeed best friends and hung out together all the time, your “insult” just sounds like such a non-reason for ending such a close friendship (come on, nobody’s that sensitive) that I have to think something else had to be going on.

After ordination, maybe you serve as his altar boy on occasion. This could put the odds in your favor; Lord knows there's precedent!

A few years back my microwave died, and I upgraded to the 4 in 1. Microwave, air fryer, convection oven, and broiler all in one box on the counter. I love it! Counter footprint is small, and there is no bringing out small appliances or shifting them around. 

Corbin is one of the masseur i always go to. Average massage but very generous in extras. I always get to see him if he travels in Chicago. I subscribe to his OF. I dont know. I am just into older guys with big tool. I always asked him to do me which he doesnt have problem. He made me feel like so much more. 

I have just one real oven, but my toaster oven is on the larger side and has a lot of settings. I've become a real fan of the "Keep Warm" setting for just gently warming something up without worrying I'll leave it in too long.

I love sous vide cooking. I can make dinner for 60 in my small Manhattan kitchen using sous vide, one oven and sometimes a multi cooker.