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[BlackSheep]

About 4 years back I was watching some random award wining LGBT movie. While watching I felt it was kind of ok, not too good not too bad either, I was kind of fwd it a bit here and there ... and when it was around 80% done, one of the guy said a line and I had to pause, this is the line I said many many years ago .... and I started to cry with tears, I never cry ... I didn't cry over divorce and a ton of other things but there was a pain I never knew in my heart and I cried  ... there was ton of memories I had never visited buried in a grave yard of years  .... afterwards I cried for days, weeks and kid you not for 3-4 months 

I realized movie had a lot of overlap with my childhood story. I remember seeing my that friend first time I had a huge crush on, even when I hadn't spoken to him by then, we were probably 5-6 years old, I met him in our local neighborhood where he temp moved in .. and after few days he was in my school and in the same class, after 2 years or so we were in the same neighborhood and our houses were close by. Once I moved near his place we were inseparable. We would go to school together, come home together, eat at either one of our homes lunch and dinner, do home work together, play sports together, everyday starting age 8 till we turned 14. Now I feel he had a huge crush on me as well. He will imitate everything I do, would stare at me occasionally and always show huge affection towards me. I was kind of nonchalant back then. 

As we were growing up, things started to change fast,  one fine day he got really mad at me for calling some random girl he was pretending to have a huge crush on some normal nick name. He showed macho moves and that fight surprisingly ended things then and there. During that fight he called me names and said never to talk to him. When I reflect back he was immature in many ways during our growing up time as well.

After school we went to different colleges, never bumped into each other except at one event, our families knew each other very well, college started, he went to a different country, I got his # and called him up one night after many years, we spoke for few min but things were not the same. Ultimately I moved to the same country. A long time ago I was in a subway, and I felt the person in the cart must be him, by that time we were in our early 20s. I was staring at him, called his name in a low tone the person remaind quiet, and ultimately a stop came he disembark but did look back. I did Google afterwards and it seemed he did graduate from the school the subway he stepped out at.

I bumped into his sister after few years, she took my #, according to her he had visited her # of times, and he was planning to visit again, but he never bothered to reach out. He is married with kids and so do I.

I am a totally different person now, the time and life experiences have surely changed me. I am not sure why I cried for those few months either remembering pure friendship for the one who was also close to heart, or it is the loneliness I find myself in these days. I was also sad thinking if we would have remained friends life would have been alot different then what is now for sure. All my childhood friends knew how close we were & if I ever meet anyone they would surely ask if I am in touch with him, as everyone was also surprised we never connected after that stupid fight.

I some times dream of him us talking, I also think what would I do if we bump into each other, if he rings my home bell. I remember his hands, his face so well after so many years.His sister has moved out, he lives on a different coast, our lives might never intersect. Many years back, after meeting his sister one of his parents called me out of blue and we spoke for half an hour or so. We still have some lose common connections, can get our #s with little to no effort. I feel I have tried reaching out a few times, added him to FB, when FB just started hoping to remain intouch but ultimately he removed me from his list or doesn't use FB any more... 

Movie rekindled old memories of around 8 years we were together almost each day ... everything happens due to a reason .... somehow there is a hole in my heart, probably there shouldn't be one.
People can be unbelievable cruel

 

 

Edited 3 hours ago by BlackSheep