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I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

Yeah, we’ve all been there. It’s a scam. 
In that situation I abruptly cut the appointment short and pay a prorated fee for the time used.
The provider is shown the door and then blacklisted in my book. 

I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

That's lovely.  You should consider treating your fellow forum members with the same respect.  I will never forget when you told me that I should weigh in only if the subject is the Philippines or Filipinos but otherwise STFU.  That was the most disrespectful thing anyone on this forum has ever said to me.  Beyond just providers, it would be nice if you showed such grace and dignity to everyone, for example, even people who disagree with you or whose politics you dislike.  But hey, if you choose to extend such grace and dignity only to those who can help you get an orgasm, I guess the rest of us will just have to accept your decision.
For what it's worth, I never haggle with providers either.  But if a provider quotes me $250, I'm not going to tell him that most providers in the area charge $300.  Nor do I care if he's a recent migrant, what taxes he's paying (or not), or what government assistance he's receiving (or not).  I figured the lower rate in Denver was a response to an influx of providers.  If more supply but the same demand means I pay a bit less, great!  Enjoy it while it lasts.

I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

Just picked up RAV4 prime and I love it! No range anxiety and I have the best of both worlds.  I do ev mode for day to day and hybrid for the long road trips.  

I fail to understand why anyone would explain WHY they aren't available. Unless we have matching wedding rings, all I need to say is "I can't meet then."
Giving details is an open invitation to question my life choices and priorities.

I’ve learned that you need to set boundaries doing this work. It’s easy, and tempting to take clients at any time, even changing your plans to accommodate a client.
Unfortunately that’s a recipe for dissatisfaction because you fail to make time for important things. Keeping fit is an important part of the job, just as making time for yourself. It’s not a 9 to 5 job (thankfully) but that doesn’t mean you work anytime 7 days a week.
I carve out time to go to gym, see friends etc and I generally won’t cancel those things to see a client, especially if it’s a short notice booking, which a lot are. 

I am not sure embarrassment is the case for most who object to other people being present.
I rarely talk about my masturbation practices with other people. I'm not embarrassed, and I assume others assume I masturbate. It's one of MANY parts of my life I keep private.
And if I do share it with someone, I certainly don't expect them to bring it up 2 weeks from now at happy hour with other people.

Yes, didn't feel funny at the time, but it does now, especially knowing that he doesn't seem to be around anymore. Probably burned too many bridges behind him, who knows. About the money, I figure it's best to cut my loses and accept that not all of these experiences are going to be as expected. He should have not charged me at all (IMO), but that was part of his lack of professionalism.

YOU GUYS ARE GETTING TROLLED, AGAIN 
this is exactly the same type post as two previous threads - all from members who just joined within days of making their first posts. And the first post is their lengthy dialogue presenting unusual/emergency circumstances & then asking for comments, advice.
 
this one even pre-emptively says “I’m not a troll…..”  yes, he is 
 
the other two are @Empire_Man “Friendship With A Gay-For-Pay Pornstar”
@ANotAMouse “Please Help Me, I’m Scared to Death”
 

Sometimes it’s best to do a 1hr trial run to see if you have decent chemistry to warrant a more nuanced follow-up. IMHO the second time is always better once you both have some data points

It was a surprise to me the first time a provider came as i always thought they’d be relieved to be able to save it for the next client. I didn’t know about Trimix etc at the time. 
I’ve had providers even act resentful if I didn’t allow them the opportunity or help them along the way (again a surprise, since I’ve always assumed providers don’t really get turned on by clients). 
So far so good, surprisingly hot.
The one area I have a problem with all this is when providers have sometimes used the “I need to get off” motif to extend time beyond what has been agreed - which would be fine (assuming I had the time … the assumption is always providers’ time is so valuable and clients abuse this) except it also often comes with a price tag. If a provider needs to come (and some have said they prefer to, allows them a clean break mentally and physically to whatever they have going on after a client leaves) then they should either plan the events accordingly within the agreed time, or so whatever is needed on their “own” time, with or without the client. 

On a typical vacation trip here in the west, it is not unusual for me to drive 350-400 miles in a day, so range anxiety is definitely an issue for me, especially since I'm unlikely to know much about the charging stations where I am headed each day.

I cannot agree more. When it comes to relationships, I have what I call "a resume". Before my husband of 22 years, I had several other relationships. All of them started what people seem to think it's the "right way", that is, meeting in a place/setting that doesn't involve cruising or sex, date and get to know a little bit before decide to have sex. Not rushing things, getting to know a little more about their world, family, friends, etc. All of that I did. Not a one of those relationships went anywhere. In fact, some of them were quite toxic and dysfunctional.
I cannot agree more. With my now husband, I knew what his ass tastes like before learning his name. We fucked the hell of each other in a place that definitely deserves the title of "dirty place" because is was seedy and filthy. We paired up fucking every other guy who came to that filthy place, and took turns in some impromptu gangbang. We exchanged numbers, and I forgot about it, as I was living in NJ, and that encounter was in Philly. About a month later I decided to take another trip there and called him, and we agreed to meet at a cafe. That was our first date, and I had no idea that it was (I was more interested in tallking about what groups sex setting we were going to partake that day). The rest is... not exactly history, actually. We decided to date, but then I lost my job in NJ, then my car, then my apartment, and in the meantime I decided to apply for a job in Philly and got it, so within a month of "dating" I was already living with him, which is supposed to be another big "no no" in the gay dating advise world. We never had a honeymoon period because immediately serious problems started happening on both our individual lives. He lost his job, I lost my mom, he got really sick, then I got really sick, then his new job had different schedule and we never saw each other, we went from dating to family crisis. And there were times that love was not the reason why we stayed together. Need and staying together being the least bad option was what kept us together at times. And here we are, 22 years later and cannot live without each other.
So yes, life is never an either/or thing. Possibilites always exist in unlikely places and settings.