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Your synopsis suggests you already know your best option is to engage a more compatible provider.

He's there to be your companion during your trip, plain and simple. You have hired him to do so and you're paying all expenses. You are paying for both his time and his presence during your weekend excursion, whether he realizes this or not. BTW, this is usually spelled out in every single Rentmen ad: Payment is for time and companionship ONLY (what may go on between the two of you during that time is agreed upon by two consenting adults). His companionship is being paid for the full weekend - not the time on 'his terms'. Remember: You are not traveling as friends, this is a business arrangement and money is being spent on him. The agreement is not for just having dinner and sex - it's for him to keep you company. (If you were traveling with a friend, and the friend was paying his own expenses, then he would have the option to do whatever he feels like for the weekend, and not follow instructions from you). If you want to lounge by the pool from morning to noon, he should be by your side doing the same thing - not left behind in the hotel room sleeping until noon. You are paying for his time to be with you - not leave you alone. If he wants to go to the gym, fine (I'd want my escort to be in top shape with his clothes off, too!) but agree on the time he leaves and when you expect him back - he's working for YOU. If you want to go to the deck and have lunch at 1 pm, he goes with you (whether he's hungry or not) - he's there to keep you company. You don't allow him to say, 'I'm not hungry. You go have lunch and I'll meet you later." He goes with you and sits at the table with you, whether he eats or not (he can sit and have a lemonade and watch you eat a lobster). IF the provider has any problems with the above, then he should not have taken the job in the frst place since he can't fulfill the requirements of the position - and yes, this is a weekend job, no matter how you slice and dice it. He's getting paid. At the end of the excursion, if he seems like he wasn't enjoying himself YOU DON'T HIRE HIM AGAIN. Move on to someone else who understands the job. I'm telling you this now, so I don't have to tell you this again. ☺️

As with most situations, clear communication is the key. Ideally, both your expectations and his should have been discussed openly and agreed upon before the trip even began. That way, you both would have been on the same page and able to enjoy the experience without frustration. Since that didn’t happen this time, consider it a learning experience to keep in mind for the next provider you hire. Next time, talk through details in advance, what you’re looking for, what they’re offering, and any boundaries or preferences, so everything is clear and enjoyable for both sides.

Same here. It’s not a zero sum game. There is room for all of us to do business with clients for whom we are well suited. I refer clients to other providers, and some refer clients to me. Occasionally, clients refer other clients. Many of us providers support one another and encourage one another, build each other up. Even some valuable mentorship relationships form. I have some of these myself in both directions. I continue to learn from peers and men who’ve worked longer in the business than I, and I take time to share knowledge and experience with men needing more guidance. ^You bet your boots we do. A general code of ethics among us is to not share clients’ personal information, unless it is for safety reasons, or when referring. We save one another the hassle of dealing with chronic time wasters, flakes, and of course the more serious cases of violence, stalking, the dine and dash guys, and other serious issues. Clients deciding to behave in such unacceptable ways forfeit their privacy. Concerned you are on some blacklist? Don’t be an asshole, and you have nothing to worry about. Simple as that.

one of the good guys!......I can attest to his hours of stamina! 😈

PS: I'm at a point in my life where I cannot sleep in, so I would also probably be jealous of a provider who could snooze till noon. LOL

Tired of seeing these two? Never. Tanner Valentino and Hunter Nash are Bozo's two favorite performers at BuffDaddy events. They are not merely co-workers, but they are real life boyfriends. They are both Bozo's "type" physically, including the fact that both are circumcised - even more important at a BuffDaddy naked event 🙂. Bozo has had many lap dances from each of them, and it's always been very pleasant and positive. Bozo always leaves the lap dance area with a big smile on his face. Tanner is the prototypical New York Italian boy - Tall, smooth, muscular, wavy brown hair, green eyes, and a thick Long Island accent. Hunter has the All American boy look - Tall, smooth, blonde hair, blue eyes, and a gymnast's build. They are both active on social media. BTC 🤡

If it were me, I’d keep the two separate. Hire him for the car job, keep it neighborly, and if he wants you to connect the dots about his other work, he’ll make that clear. You don’t have to be the one to bring it up. If you value the friendship and neighborly bond, keep things professional. If you’re willing to risk that dynamic for something more, then be upfront, but accept that it could get complicated.

I’d say your expectations are completely reasonable. If you’re paying for companionship, you’re not being picky in wanting to actually spend time together on the trip. Everyone needs personal time, but disappearing for half the day, especially on a short weekend, sounds more like he’s maximizing his own vacation rather than prioritizing you. Communication is key. You’ve already done a few trips together, so this really should have been addressed the first time around, not several trips in. This is exactly why you need to be clear about expectations up front. No provider should be telling you on a trip you’re paying top dollar for, “I need my personal time.” That kind of comment is a big turn-off. At the end of the day, you’re paying for a fantasy, not their reality. So approach it directly but calmly: tell him mornings matter to you and ask if he can adjust so the time feels balanced. If he pushes back or minimizes it in anyway, that’s your red flag. Honestly, that alone tells you what you need to know, you’re not getting what you’re paying for, and it may be best to move on. You’re a repeat customer and deserve better.

Hey guys….Its worth mentioning that I saw Stephen last month and he told me he is moving in to his own private apartment and can host in Manhattan!!

Most of my clients want to bottom if it comes to that. I’d say 80% are bottom but of course that’s not a statistical measure, just my estimation. It could be affected by me being quite large lol. Rarely am I asked to bottom. I think there’s a difference between advertised status and real status. For professional sex (clients / films) I’m vers/top because that’s what the market wants, 90% of the time I’m top. For recreational sex I’m generally 50:50 vers. I suspect that many of the guys advertising as vers top or top do so because that’s what the market is driving them towards. In their non work lives they’ll have a different designation.

Gentlemen, I've had the pleasure of hiring FrancisCA multiple times at the annual Palm Springs Gathering. Most recently I enjoyed a 2 hour massage and it was remarkable. I recommend this guy. https://rentmasseur.com/FrancisCA/

KenzHands...was a NO SHOW. Kept on texting back to me after my text inquiries words phrases to the effect of I'm coming from Downtown Brooklyn; I'm waiting for the train; Train running local; I have an overseas phone. Not one ounce of apology for running almost two hours late. To be honest, I did think a 50/50 chance existed that he would NOT show up. And I did give him the benefit of the doubt by waiting almost 90 minutes. Says his name is "Abdul", from Jordan, and has a South Florida phone number. Even with no RMass reviews, requested $300 for a sensual. Ballsy! Gentlemen, I suggest we close out wallets and quicken his return to Jordan, or Jordan, South Florida, or Jordan, Montana, whichever f**k*n* Jordan he's from.

I used Rentmen.eu, configured to display thumbnail view, to gather the raw stats displayed below. That view displays profiles in rows of 4 and 15 rows per page. The last page will display however many rows of four plus a row containing the remaining profiles. As you can see, "Top only" comprises 29% of the total profiles, "Versatile" comprises 28%, and "Versatile/Top" comprises 22%. I was a little surprised at how few bottoms there are. Seems odd that there are only 540 escorts on Rentmen who identify as a bottom.

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Surely there must be others on RM you can hire instead. Be his parents' nice gay neighbor, who can be counted on to look out for them while he's in Boston. Neither of you can possibly regret that.

@Ali Gator, I might not be privy to all the juicy details of your situation, but I’ve been there too! Picture this: neighbors with perks! Here’s what I took away from my own rollercoaster ride: (1) He might be a looker, but we weren’t meant to be a provider/client duo, (2) echoing @ApexNomad and @pubic_assistance—don’t mess with your own backyard, and (3) no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn’t undo the “deeds”. My experience was a bit of a whirlwind, but when it hit the fan, it was a full-blown neighborhood drama. I ended up transferring for work, leaving everything behind. But hey, do you have that emergency escape plan of moving? Anyway, this is one spicy dilemma and am looking forward to learning about whatever happens!

It sounds like you and the escort aren't a match as travel companions. Time to move on,

So the lesson here is do not hire him, unless you can get him drunk and hope he makes a move? For me, there is nothing shameful in an straightforward, (perhaps better a gayforward) albeit illegal in most of the US, transactional sexual encounter,. That is the case, even if he lives across the street from you for a few weeks and then goes back to Florida. He is 32 years old after all, not 17 and he is advertising. From the description, he is advertising premium goods.

That’s not what you wrote, though. You didn’t describe politely declining, you called clients “decrepit” and “fugly.” Declining someone is fine. Publicly demeaning them isn’t.

I hired an escort from an agency back in the day. You know the one David something or other. Anyway, escort shows up at my door and it someone I have known in social situations. He was a friend of one of my employees and when he came to the office to go to lunch with his friend, I always noted what a fine body and tight ass he had. Anyway, we did not recognize each other initially but it then occurred to us. So I asked him if this would be awkward for him as it sure as hell felt awkward for me. He said it was up to me. I thought, well the cat is out of bag might as well get the cock out of the bag too. So we had a session and then regularlly for many years after that. So, go for it. Say you would like to hire him if it is not awkward for him. I would go so far as to tell him you have always found him attractive and that he is now looking better than ever. He may say no but if you do not ask you do not get. That is the second time I am using that expression today. If you do not ask, two weeks from now you will be stroking yourself and thinking that you should have asked. I would definitely have him detail your car shirtless in either case.

Details like this should be discussed in advance to assure expectations are in sync. If you can’t agree, don’t move forward. But if it’s a trip of a few days (as in, more than a weekend) I think some personal time - within reason - is reasonable for him to expect.

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The only good reason for his extended gym time is that you would be gazing up at his bulging crotch while he spots your bench press.

He should place a full body frontal clear pic.

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It's a bit hard to say as we don't know what kind of trip it is. Are you at a resort? Are you seeing a new city? If it's the former, I can see sleeping in as that's a relaxing trip. There's probably not a lot on your agenda. If it's the former, he would be holding you back from seeing the sights. I somewhat agree with @sync that this provider may not be a suitable travel partner. It's also possible that there's a lack of communication regarding your expectations. If you are at a resort, do you go for breakfast? Do you expect him to go with you? From the tone of your post, I don't think you're upset about the money so much as being left to your own devices. If you're paying for companionship and not getting it, you probably feel lonely too. If you really enjoy this provider, you can have a conversation with him about your expectations and carve out reasonable time for him to workout, be on his own, etc. Even if you decide to go with another provider, I believe you would have to set expectations. Otherwise, how does a provider know what you're looking to get out of the trip?

I have some sympathy with him. I won’t see a client staying in a PremierInn or a Travelodge 😂

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I like this! It appeals to my record keeping mentality. I do keep notes about what clients like etc… ’tall slim guy, liked prostate massage, shot in my mouth, don’t massage his feet’… that kind of thing…to which I can add ‘doesn’t want to be contacted unsolicited’. To those concerned about data protection - it’s all GDPR compliant.

Latin Romano’s RentMasseur So he’s a masseur, but I met him by way of a regular client who has booked us separately and then asked if he can book us together in Dallas for a threesome. Romano had never done a threesome before and it was so cute how nervous he was, but I put him at ease right away. We all three had a great time together. His 🍑 is something else. The pics don’t do it justice. He’s cuter and sexier in person. Great body, nice skin, with boy next door charm and an infectious innocent laugh. Great kisser. He takes it like a champ too. During one of our long rounds, he came inside the client while I simultaneously came inside of him, hitting his spot while he was hitting the client’s spot. That was hot. Such a sweet guy. While I can’t speak to his massage skills just yet, I can certainly recommend him for deli services, both the top and bottom bunks. He has been learning English quickly over the past couple years and is easy to communicate with. Spanish speakers will have an advantage, but even in English you might only run into an odd phrase or word you have to repeat or rephrase. No sweat. Until you’re between the sheets…panting with pleasure.

the old and new......I would've dropped the man, chair, and the "old country store" phrase, but kept the barrel......

That guy is an asshole.

It seems like there are less guys on there than precovid times. Although maybe that escort number counts expired and still frozen ads. As far as the anything goes percent going way up I would think it's due to more and more guys using prep.

Just met with him. Very cute—cuter than his pictures. Nice fit body. We had a great time. Great attitude and eager to please. I would definitely recommend if you’re thinking about meeting with him.