Say something? If the btm isn't completely squeaky clean?

[nomad]

Maybe the douche was done early in the day or didn't clean everything out.  Do you interrupt the action and ask them to clean again (and yourself) before resuming?  Does this kill the mood?  Or you power through and don't pull out until completion?  

[56harrisond]

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[+ KensingtonHomo]

As a bottom, if there’s even a bit of a mess, I’d have to stop and clean up again 

[mtaabq]

No matter how hard you try, sometimes shit happens. Once with a provider there was a little mess when he pulled out (but before he came). My recollection is that he was wearing a condom. He very gently suggested that I go “refresh” and then come back. I was mortified but he says to me, “If we’re gonna play in the ditch we’re gonna get dirty sometimes.” (Understand this dude had a LONG dick.) He “refreshed” as well and 10 minutes later we were banging again with no further issues. There was another occasion with a little mess and dude totally freaked out. My feeling is if it happens, don’t be a dick about it - get cleaned up and get back to it. Others have said - if you can’t handle a some occasional mess you shouldn’t be engaging in anal sex. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

It’s only happened once.  It was predictably at the end of a weekend filled with epicurean delights.    He’d cleaned diligently but alas.   I mentioned it, suggested I’d wash off, then he refreshed, and things resumed.   Rinse. Lather. Repeat.

 

[hungry4darkmeat]

I’m the bottom but I’ve had a few messy situations and the best I have heard is “bitch go get cleaned up and don’t make me wait for long”. I now take extra care to ensure my spotless ness so it’s not an issue for me anymore 

[+ PhileasFogg]

3 hours ago, hungry4darkmeat said:

I’m the bottom but I’ve had a few messy situations and the best I have heard is “bitch go get cleaned up and don’t make me wait for long”. I now take extra care to ensure my spotless ness so it’s not an issue for me anymore 

Wow!   I could never see myself saying it that way unless with a sub bottom.   But since you’ve said it’s happened multiple times, I’m curious - how would you have preferred it be said?

[Rudynate]

On 6/19/2026 at 6:42 PM, mtaabq said:

No matter how hard you try, sometimes shit happens. Once with a provider there was a little mess when he pulled out (but before he came). My recollection is that he was wearing a condom. He very gently suggested that I go “refresh” and then come back. I was mortified but he says to me, “If we’re gonna play in the ditch we’re gonna get dirty sometimes.” (Understand this dude had a LONG dick.) He “refreshed” as well and 10 minutes later we were banging again with no further issues. There was another occasion with a little mess and dude totally freaked out. My feeling is if it happens, don’t be a dick about it - get cleaned up and get back to it. Others have said - if you can’t handle a some occasional mess you shouldn’t be engaging in anal sex. 

Attitudes have changed a lot on this since my younger days.  Everybody now is fanatic about being squeaky clean - there are all kinds of videos on youtube about cleaning out,  the right diet for a bottom, products for cleaning out, etc.  It used to be seen as  part of the territory - that it was unavoidable to an extent - you just freshen up and everybody gets over it.

[hungry4darkmeat]

19 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

Wow!   I could never see myself saying it that way unless with a sub bottom.   But since you’ve said it’s happened multiple times, I’m curious - how would you have preferred it be said?

Don’t misunderstand me it was actually hot. I’ve certainly heard of much more polite ways… like “um… I think you need to go check and make sure you’re good”

[nomad]

On 6/22/2026 at 12:35 AM, hungry4darkmeat said:

the best I have heard is “bitch go 

Maybe it's just me. Never cared for the term used even in a friendly or playful way.  To each their own. 

[hungry4darkmeat]

15 hours ago, nomad said:

Maybe it's just me. Never cared for the term used even in a friendly or playful way.  To each their own. 

That’s my preferred pronoun when I’m taking dick so please don’t take offense 

[GTA-Daddy]

Has happened once in a while, I just suggest they clean up again while i do the same and resume.

If its minimal I just continue 

[LaffingBear]

Not the activity likely intended by this post, but two of my most regretable experiences.  One was a date.  Spent the night.  Oddly, while ok the night before, perhaps something chemical in his body, awoke to to the worst B.O. ever.  And didn't know what to do.  He must have thought I just became uninterested next morning.  Never saw him again.

Other was a hire in Vegas.  He arrived at my hotel.  Things started. He was hot.  I was having fun.  But leaned in towards his groin, and wow, he smelled like shit.  For real shit, like "I dont wipe thoroughly."  Ugh.   I was done.

In retrospect, both instances, I dont know why I didn't recommend we move our fun to the shower.  I love playing in the shower.  And that would be my advice too...go play in the shower, enen a little touching in there if indicated.

[Vulgarii]

I had a client recently that smelled like sweaty ass paste. It wasn't really his fault, but I guess it was a long work day for him and I just didn't think of offering him a shower. It was such a huge turn off, but also, there wasn't any expectation to do anything either. He kept trying to initiate something and I didn't have the heart to tell him. Also, I hadn't seen him in 5 years and I hate it when old clients show up like that and assume sparks would fly or something.

 

The worst is when they have bits of toilet paper or even whole sheets of it stuck between their cheeks.

9/10 hotel clients will have that or smell like they just did #2.

It's extremely gross and rude because they had more than enough time to just jump in the shower by the time I tell them I am nearby and I have to walk my ass through the parking lot to their rooms, and we chat and I know they've been there for a while, not like they were in a meeting or serious phone call the whole time.

 

[Nue2thegame]

I think that we’re talking about two different scenarios here. Sometimes shit happens despite the best preparation and intentions. Some partners take it in stride and don’t let it ruin the moment. Others are completely undone. The other situation is where someone shows up who has not made an adequate attempt to clean himself.  I would find this inexcusable, regardless of what activities were planned. 

[Becket]

I remember a "fragrant" bottom once at a meet up where there would only be spanking and light ass play. I was pristine of course, having scrubbed and trimmed to perfection, LOL. The provider came into the hotel room and went straight to the bathroom to do a number two. OK, fine. When you gotta go.....

BUTT.......the essence that floated through the hotel room and into the bed was not very pleasant. I didn't say anything because of the embarrassment issue which has been wonderfully explained by others in this thread. Looking back I definitely should have politely said something. (A good response sometimes is, "Hey lets take a quick shower together.")

I'm learning that it's not just the provider who gets better and more proficient at his job the more experience he has. We clients can evolve as well: from nervous nellys; or impolite and impatient A...holes....to passionate and fun loving guys that providers really do enjoy being with.