Discussion: Stop Slander:Rejected Clients Smearing Providers

[MikeBiDude]

PNP Meaning seems pretty clear here:

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=pnp

[TJMS]

• I generally find the comments here very helpful. I have NEVER been with a provider who did not have clients posting here. I always DM the person commenting to get a full color commentary. I have never been steered wrong.

[savantsav]

If I see someone with 'PNP' on their profile I won't book. When I've asked about this they either refer to Meth, or GHB. The whole "I have PNP in case my clients use, but I don't" is... sus.

[Escuela]

10 hours ago, TJMS said:

• I generally find the comments here very helpful. I have NEVER been with a provider who did not have clients posting here. I always DM the person commenting to get a full color commentary. I have never been steered wrong.

It seems clear that most of the negative comments on CoM are either malicious lies, malicious innuendo, malicious body-shaming, or deliberately misleading, and largely posted by people who have never even met the escort.

If you have ever given any weight at all to negative comments on this site, then you have been steered wrong. 🙃

Happy holidays!

[+ PhileasFogg]

29 minutes ago, Escuela said:

It seems clear that most of the negative comments on CoM are either malicious lies, malicious innuendo, malicious body-shaming, or deliberately misleading, and largely posted by people who have never even met the escort.

If you have ever given any weight at all to negative comments on this site, then you have been steered wrong. 🙃

Happy holidays!

Say it often enough and maybe you’ll believe it.   I can’t tell you how often a regular has commented to me about a referral they got from me to someone on this forum who then hired them. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

14 hours ago, SecretProvider said:

Ignore it, then it becomes truth. Defend it, and have asinine comments like this. Dammed if you do, Dammed if you don't.

So many assumptions made about the PNP on a profile- does it mean he likes to drink? Does it mean he doesn't mind if you parTy but he himself does not. Does it mean he likes to light up a joint but nothing harder?  Well, you know what they say about assumptions right? 

Having said that, I'm pretty confident that when I make the assumption that you would also be similarly upset if you had a performance review posted on a notice board at your work place for all your colleagues and clients to see (which is what this site essentially is) that said you were a drug addict. Then when you rebut it you were accused of clutching your pearls with comments like yours above, it would probably further upset you. 

The thing about throwing mud is: it sticks. That is why trolls do it- they are like pigs, or dare I even say it: CLOWNS. 

@JacOB SESSION - You are not wrong for being upset. Anyone would be. Trolls are awful. There can be a 99 people in a room saying great things - but then one person makes a nasty snide comment and it suddenly becomes the loudest. 

I'd encourage you to delete this particular thread so when potential clients search you up here they don't read all this nonsense. However the advice to remove PNP from your profile is also sound. I find clients searching for PNP play have no issue asking you if you indulge whether it is on your profile or not, which gives you the chance to clarify your level of comfort in that area when they do. 

When lies are posted it is easy for people to say 'just ignore it', and it is hard to not react emotionally. We are effectively a small business, and false negative reviews have devastating and disproportionate consequences for us. To clarify - What may seem to some on this board as a silly throw away comment that took zero energy to make can mean we no longer can pay our rent, and stays up in perpetuity which feels particularly unfair when the comment is not true. My advice is to take a breath, and reply with factual statements and not opinions. ( for eg. "i am versatile and provide bottoming and topping for my clients." instead of defending your feelings on power bottoming/bottom shaming.)

After that you make this type of statement- which i think you did a pretty good job of anyway - then leave it be. Like all trolls, monsters or CLOWNS the more you feed them the fatter and uglier they become. And like most pigs, they actually enjoy rolling in shit and getting fat.  Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty and the pig likes it.

Sit above it and be clean. 

It seems as though you’re trying to make a couple of back handed slaps at a long time member of this forum.   Are you are accusing @BOZO T CLOWN of being a troll for pointing out the obvious inconsistency on PnP which is, by your own comment, completely rational?  If so, your passive aggressive comment is the trollish behavior.

There’s a reason you, unlike most providers here, hide behind a moniker of anonymity - and it’s not because you want to say positive things to draw people to shop at your small business.  Right?

[Chancealot]

13 hours ago, FrankR said:

Thank you for your rant. I am sorry to say that your “two cents”  appear to be indicative of a severe case of “tunnel vision”. If you are not open to the idea that you may be misreading someone’s intentions…you will always see things the same way.

Rant ?  Lol find a dictionary 

What part of “for me it’s a disqualifier” don’t you understand 

[+ purplekow]

As an aside, a fellow forum member and I were driving and looking for a place to eat.  We went into a small breakfast and lunch place, which turned out to be a training restaurant for differently abled young people being taught how to properly do service jobs.  They were supervised carefully and it turned out to be a unique and moving experience.  

While we were seated, we decided to look at the reviews on Yelp.  As I recall, there were all 5 star reviews and one 1 star review. 

We discussed how incredulous we were at someone reviewing this restaurant with that kind of critical evaluation.  We searched for the negative review and the essence of the review was that the reviewer had come to the restaurant and it was after hours and closed.  That was it.  The person had not eaten at the restaurant at all.  

Whenever I see a bad review on here, I consider it but I also realize that the reviewer may have an agenda that is not in keeping with mine and that other positive reviewers need to be weighed against the negative outlier, if indeed it is an outlier.  

[TJMS]

I recall how an excellent provider whom I have been with was trashed here by a disgruntled party. I did not recognize the person they were trashing, at all. We have to accept there are just some nasty people for whom trashing others is their stock and trade.

[Peter Eater]

17 hours ago, MikeBiDude said:

PNP Meaning seems pretty clear here:

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=pnp

PNP, being open to debate, is maybe best left off any ad listing services. 

[Asterisk]

On 4/1/2026 at 7:33 PM, Nue2thegame said:

PNP covers a lot of ground. It usually doesn’t include meth... 

I disagree, based both on conversation in the gay community and to crowd-sourced sites that describe what the larger community believes something to be:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Party_and_play

"The drug of choice is typically methamphetamine, commonly referred to as crystal meth, tina, or T."

[+ SirBillybob]

Cloudy with a chance of …

[pubic_assistance]

On 4/2/2026 at 1:36 PM, Cretus said:

It is stunning how many people see the tag PNP and conclude with certainty that the person who tagged it is a meth-head of some sort

 

[Mark_fl]

On 4/2/2026 at 5:49 AM, DLEroticProv12 said:

Honestly, if this site really wants to be above-board, it would require that a provider consents to being posted about before allowing posts about them. 

I'm just going to give the poster the benefit of the doubt and assume this was just a delayed April fool's day joke.

Edited 5 hours ago by Mark_fl

[Escuela]

16 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

Say it often enough and maybe you’ll believe it.   I can’t tell you how often a regular has commented to me about a referral they got from me to someone on this forum who then hired them. 

I read this a few times and I don't know what this sequence of words means. But it doesn't seem to pertain to the comment you were quoting. Can you please rephrase for clarity?

Also, did you really criticize an escort for choosing to "hide behind a moniker of anonymity" - following the example of each and every client / "client" poster on this site? I surely must have misread that too. Please make it make sense.