Telling the client to dress after the session is over. Rude?

[LaSanta]

I'm a masseur and when doing outcalls, is it rude to tell the client to dress after the massage is done? I've noticed some clients like to walk around nude after the session is over and I just feel very uncomfortable about it. My time doing the sensual massage to them is over and I think that means we should go back to the normal interaction. Being nude is something too intimate and unless I get paid for it, I'm truly not interested in having someone next to me wearing no clothes if my work is already done. The scenario I paint often happens while I wait for my payment, or sometimes when I ask the client to let me use the restroom for a shower. Can anyone give me a trick or advise to make it less obvious? I truly don't want to make my clients feel bad for my requirement, and neither pretend to come off as an asshole. Thanks in advance. 

Edited 10 hours ago by LaSanta

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

16 minutes ago, LaSanta said:

When doing outcalls, is it rude to tell the client to dress after the massage is done? I've noticed some clients like to walk around nude after the session is over and I just feel very uncomfortable about it. My time doing the sensual massage to them is over and I think that means we should go back to the normal interaction. Being nude is something too intimate and unless I get paid for it, I'm truly not interested in having someone next to me wearing no clothes if my work is already done. The scenario I paint often happens while I wait for my payment, or sometimes when I ask the client to let me use the restroom for a shower. Can anyone give me a trick or advise to make it less obvious? I truly don't want to make my clients feel bad for my requirement, and neither pretend to come off as an asshole. Thanks in advance. 

I usually host for a massage.  I'm usually freshly showered and only dress if I need to travel to the hotel lobby to bring the masseur up in the elevator.  At the end of the massage, I usually don't plan on getting dressed and often want to go straight to bed when the masseur leaves.  Therefore, I would never bother putting on underwear or pants when I get up from the massage table or bed.  But, I'm also comfortable at nude beaches, nude resorts, and always go sans swimwear in friends' swimming pools. 

If a masseur who just finished massaging my naked body asked me to put on clothes while in my own house or hotel room, I wouldn't hire him again

[Spikeguy]

It shouldn’t take them more than two minutes to pay.

[S_G]

Once the massage is over you can maybe try saying "would you like me to get you some water while you get dressed?" and if they don't take that hint, you can say "thank you for coming, I don't mean to rush you but I need to prepare for my next client."

[+ purplekow]

If you are his place, deal with it.  The encounter is for his comfort not yours.

If you are at your place, you can say:  I am going to the rest room, so that you let you dress in private.  Urinate and return.  If he is not dressed, or nearly so, you need to be more direct.  

[Pd1_jap]

3 hours ago, LaSanta said:

When doing outcalls, is it rude to tell the client to dress after the massage is done? 

Yes. I could understand if it was an in call. I don't want anyone's ball sweat but mine on my furniture.  However, since this is in a place that they are either renting or own then they have the right to remain in whatever state of dress or undress they feel comfortable in. 

You could ask how the client feels so comfortable naked and relay that your don't feel comfortable with casual nudity but to insist that they clothe themselves is a bridge too far. 

I grew up in a religious household and casual nudity was verboten. Now that I'm older and have had many many clothing optional experiences I understand that nudity does not always equate sex. Being comfortable naked is one of life's great joys. 

Lastly, unless it's taking longer than 5 minutes over time to get paid then you need to charge for the extra time. You're running a business not a charity. You should be able to withstand the discomfort for 5 minutes.

[+ Jamie21]

I’ve never found that a problem. I see clients in their hotel and they’ll frequently stay naked after the session and whilst they pay me. It’s their space, their prerogative to dress how they like. That’s the benefit of an out call, they can truly relax after the massage. If it bothers you then perhaps just get paid quickly and leave asap. 

[acks0104]

5 hours ago, LaSanta said:

When doing outcalls, is it rude to tell the client to dress after the massage is done? I've noticed some clients like to walk around nude after the session is over and I just feel very uncomfortable about it. My time doing the sensual massage to them is over and I think that means we should go back to the normal interaction. Being nude is something too intimate and unless I get paid for it, I'm truly not interested in having someone next to me wearing no clothes if my work is already done. The scenario I paint often happens while I wait for my payment, or sometimes when I ask the client to let me use the restroom for a shower. Can anyone give me a trick or advise to make it less obvious? I truly don't want to make my clients feel bad for my requirement, and neither pretend to come off as an asshole. Thanks in advance. 

I'm sorry but you do sex work and find people being nude in their own space uncomfortable? I don't mean for this to sound rude but that very much sounds like a you issue.

[LaSanta]

2 hours ago, acks0104 said:

I'm sorry but you do sex work and find people being nude in their own space uncomfortable? I don't mean for this to sound rude but that very much sounds like a you issue.

I don't do sex work. Did I ever state I was an escort?

I'm a masseur and don't do anything sexual.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

9 hours ago, LaSanta said:

The scenario I paint often happens while I wait for my payment, or sometimes when I ask the client to let me use the restroom for a shower

You're asking the client to use his shower at his house?  That's rude, unless he offers it first; or, if you invite him to join you in the shower to continue the massage (still fully naked, of course).

 

Edited 8 hours ago by Vegas_Millennial

[LaSanta]

6 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

You're asking the client to use his shower at his house?  That's rude, unless he offers it first; or, if you invite him to join you in the shower to continue the massage (still fully naked, of course).

 

Stop trolling. You are always trying to low-key troll me. You always do it. 

After having my forearms and hands full of oil I often require a shower. 

[jeezifonly]

7 hours ago, LaSanta said:

I don't do sex work. Did I ever state I was an escort?

I'm a masseur and don't do anything sexual.

You’re here, aren't you? 
The solution to this discomfort you experience is A) do incalls. Or B) put your license to its advantage and apply for work at a legit spa at a resort or hotel, where draping is under your control. 

[Hyattsville]

15 hours ago, LaSanta said:

I'm a masseur and when doing outcalls, is it rude to tell the client to dress after the massage is done? I've noticed some clients like to walk around nude after the session is over and I just feel very uncomfortable about it. My time doing the sensual massage to them is over and I think that means we should go back to the normal interaction. Being nude is something too intimate and unless I get paid for it, I'm truly not interested in having someone next to me wearing no clothes if my work is already done. The scenario I paint often happens while I wait for my payment, or sometimes when I ask the client to let me use the restroom for a shower. Can anyone give me a trick or advise to make it less obvious? I truly don't want to make my clients feel bad for my requirement, and neither pretend to come off as an asshole. Thanks in advance. 

Yes. It is rude. To make it less obvious? "Sorry dude, looks like you want to get on with your evening and I need to get moving as well, so if you can just pay up I will get out of your hair." If it is still a problem, make a note of their number and don't go back. 

[S_G]

13 hours ago, S_G said:

Once the massage is over you can maybe try saying "would you like me to get you some water while you get dressed?" and if they don't take that hint, you can say "thank you for coming, I don't mean to rush you but I need to prepare for my next client."

Changing my answer because I re-read the post and see that this is for outcall. Since it's outcall and you're at their place then it wouldn't be appropriate for you to make any requests of how someone wants to be in their own space. I've had several massages at my place and sometimes I get dressed right away, while other times I stay nude as the guy gathers their belongings - it all depends on my mood and my own comfort in the moment. 

If it makes you uncomfortable to see your client nude after the massage, then I'd recommend showering and getting dressed in the guy's bathroom with the door closed (so you don't have to see him), avert your eyes while you gather your belongings, and promptly leave once you're dressed, paid, and ready to go. There's no need for you to linger around with him. 

[+ FrankR]

8 hours ago, LaSanta said:

I don't do sex work. Did I ever state I was an escort?

I'm a masseur and don't do anything sexual.

Yes, actually you did.  You previously complained that you were unable to get reviews as an escort. Maybe you moved on, but  some of us have long memories.

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/146152-why-is-so-hard-to-get-reviews-as-a-new-escort/

[Vulgarii]

I'm mortified when they're oily and they sit on my couch. Lay a towel there or a sheet. 

 

I h8 it when they linger and they want to chat and start a whole new conversation when they're walking out the door, so I just say I really have to go or I have diarrhea and that seems to get them up and moving, and out. 🤭

[DMonDude]

If you're in their house/hotel room, you really don't have a ton of social leverage to ask them to put their clothes on in this scenario. This goes beyond provider/client relations and just goes into regular life. If you're at an acquaintance or a friends house and they are existing in their space in a way you don't like or makes you uncomfortable, it's on you to get out of their space. Not for them to change how they behave in their own space. But if they're in your space, it's their responsibility to adhere to how you want them to behave in your space (like requiring them to take their shoes off when they enter your place for example) or to leave.

If it's an incall and they came to your place, then by all means you can ask them to get dressed when it's over. A casual way to say it that works best to me that i've experienced is the provider would casually remind me "oh yeah remember your clothes are on the chair over there, double check to make sure you have your phone and everything". It naturally implies "you should get dressed/ready to go now" in a very casual and polite way. It lets me know he's ready for me to leave but without him having to specifically say "ok can you go now?" ya know?

If you're at their house/hotel for an outcall, i think the best way to get the situation to wrap up is just say something like "ok well thanks for the good session, i unfortunately have to get going. You have my Zelle/Venmo/CashApp right?" (might need to tweak the last part if they're paying cash) which automatically starts getting things to wrap up usually. That is probably the most non-offensive way to signal to them you need them to wrap up so you can go. Most people should understand and not be bothered.