Are subsequent sessions different?

[Veryshyone]

Wondering from both perspectives of a client and provider if sessions post the first one are better, the same, or different. I see guys posting about having regulars and tend to think on-going sessions may have something more to offer or is it so good no need to look further?

[Frog]

Speaking as a regular client of one particular provider over the past 8 years or so, all I can say is that (for me, at least) it just gets better & better.  In some ways spoiled for any other meet ups (although I have tried), sadly, they just don't cut it. My guy's a keeper and I'll keep seeing him for as long as I can. Under no illusions about the nature of our relationship, but for those hours that we're together, nothing comes close.  Count myself very fortunate to have stumbled into his bed all those years ago.

[jmichaeliii]

100%they do.  You get to know one another better and each one's likes and you are comfortable being with each other.  You also tend to experiment more and push the envelope of activities.

I think to have the best sessions with a provider you need about 3 times together.

[Nightowl]

The more sessions I have with someone, the greater the trust and intimacy, both emotional and physical, for both of us.  With only one guy have I found myself thinking “I wish he would still let me do X like we used to” but he has also shared more about his personal life that I know he doesn’t share with everyone.  So I guess I’d have to say the sessions are usually better but different.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

6 hours ago, Veryshyone said:

Wondering from both perspectives of a client and provider if sessions post the first one are better, the same, or different

What has been your experiences on the 2nd hiring?  

For example, here: 

Seems like you were happy both times.

 

Edited Monday at 03:14 AM by Vegas_Millennial

[+ JamesB]

In my experience, it can go either way. With some providers, each session improves as you learn each other’s likes and dislikes and become more comfortable together. With others, familiarity can lead to complacency, and they stop putting in the effort to make each encounter better.

[MassageCommunityMember]

My favorite providers just keep getting better - I think they just become more mindful of what my body needs and what it doesn’t. 

[JB_Studio38]

I find subsequent sessions always get better with time. The first time is like exploring new territory, it may be good but both guys are not familiar with each other yet. There’s a difference between feeling out how to pleasure someone the first time, versus already anticipating that you know it’ll be good on the next visits. 

Edited Monday at 07:22 AM by JB_Studio38

[Whippoorwill]

It’s pretty simple…either it keeps getting better, or there aren’t future sessions. 

[JB_Studio38]

10 hours ago, Veryshyone said:

Wondering from both perspectives of a client and provider if sessions post the first one are better, the same, or different. I see guys posting about having regulars and tend to think on-going sessions may have something more to offer or is it so good no need to look further?

Keep in mind too: just because someone has regulars doesn’t mean they aren’t still looking. One doesn’t necessarily need to stick with one guy exclusively, unless that’s sufficient for a guy when booking RMs.

One of my regulars, has like 2 other regulars lol. I’m more of his companion when he’s visiting certain cities away from his home town. But we’ve had some good 🦆ucks over the times we’ve met.

Edited Monday at 07:29 AM by JB_Studio38

[JB_Studio38]

1 hour ago, Whippoorwill said:

It’s pretty simple…either it keeps getting better, or there aren’t future sessions. 

Or it can just be somewhat the same. Some people like familiarity. Doesn’t necessarily mean doing cartwheels 🤸🏾‍♂️ in the bed to keep it interesting.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

For the most part, regulars tend to get better over time. For context, me and my husband hire together so good providers learn better how to navigate our relationship and what we both like. It feels more like a fuck buddy situation if the provider is willing to share more about their lives. So the sex goes smoother, it's easier for me to relax as a bottom, and the pillow talk is more genuine. If there's no connection, then it's unlikely they will become regulars. 

[pubic_assistance]

On 1/11/2026 at 3:45 PM, Veryshyone said:

Wondering from both perspectives of a client and provider if sessions post the first one are better, the same, or different. I see guys posting about having regulars and tend to think on-going sessions may have something more to offer or is it so good no need to look further?

MY own personal way of hiring generally leads to a better and more interesting session each time.

I generally hire for an erotic massage session, (whether the provider is a masseur or an escort). 

On the first meet, I let them do their thing and worry NOT about what I am going to end up getting. It won't be my last massage before I die (at least I hope not ! ) so doesn't matter if it's all bells and whistles at the end. If I DO genuinely like a person's natural repertoire, I will request another session, and possibly request something more than what was included. So booking # 2 is "better" because it's more customized. I always tip well to show my appreciation. At booking session #3 I find that most providers are eager to please a now, potential regular, so will often UP the fun themselves. Sessions #4 and 5 will therefore often ascend into full-on sex ( with appropriate substantial tipping to equal escort fees). After we have moved to fucking and sucking, the dialogue is way open to wants and desires ( from both parties ) so I find that if all this develops in this natural progression, you end up with a very nice friendly fuck regular.  I would have kept all these guys around for decades, but for the fact that I prefer young men and these sorts of fellows aren't nailed down and often move on to other destinations or other opportunities in life.

Edited yesterday at 04:05 AM by pubic_assistance
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[NJF]

From my experience, it really depends on the provider. The one I meet most frequently last year is the most satisfying and each time is a new adventure in intimacy:-). Another my regular guy is the most consistent one and each time you get exactly the same experience. They are regulars because they provide great experience in their distinct ways. 

[Nikba]

The regular comes with expectation, familiarity, comfortable and reliable. After a few sessions with new faces, in most cases the providers open up more options with flexible rules. Certainly, happened with me in the past 10 years, and always looking for new challenges from new provider. 

[uclablueyes]

9 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

MY own personal way of hiring generally leads to a better and more interesting session each time.

I generally hire for an erotic massage session, (whether the provider is a masseur or an escort). 

On the first meet, I let them do their thing and worry NOT about what I am going to end up getting. It won't be my last massage before I die (at least I hope not ! ) so doesn't matter if it's all bells and whistles at the end. If I DO genuinely like a person's natural repertoire, I will request another session, and possibly request something more than what was included. So booking # 2 is "better" because it's more customized. I always tip well to show my appreciation. At booking session #3 I find that most providers are eager to please a now, potential regular, so will often UP the fun themselves. Sessions #4 and 5 will therefore often ascend into full-on sex ( with appropriate substantial tipping to equal escort fees). After we have moved to fucking and sucking, the dialogue is way open to wants and desires ( from both parties ) so I find that if all this develops in this natural progression, you end up with a very nice friendly fuck regular.  I would have kept all these guys around for decades, but for the fact that I prefer young men and these sorts of fellows aren't nailed down and often move on to other destinations or other opportunities in life.

Fully agree. It varies. In my experience, one of my regular providers is a dream. Every time I go to NY he’s a must stop and each time is getting better and better. It started as an erotic massage and now it’s 3-4hr sessions that includes massage and full on sex. One of our last sessions he brought up a kamasutra book and we tried many postures. He’s my go-to when I come to NY and I can’t wait for my next escapade. 

But that was not always the case. A while back I had another regular in NY that started amazing and I was totally infatuated with him but, as time progressed, we were getting into some more tricky situations as each session was more intense than the previous one. I know he was not good for me for so many reasons but I was hooked because the sex was amazing and he had that Abercrombie and fitch look that drove me crazy. But after one scary session (nothing life threatening but just someone he invited for a threesome that turned out to be a trouble maker) I decided to cut it off. He was so good but with time he started getting lost in substance abuse and I knew he was no longer the man I had met before. I still reminisce of the good times (the brain tends to forget some of the bad parts and just focused on the good ones) but I have held from reaching out to him. So ying and yang in my experience. 

Edited 20 hours ago by uclablueyes

[jeezifonly]

Essentially, it's no different from dating in terms of that getting acquainted phase, human to human. First date gets condensed when hiring, the physical language established in 15m - prohibitively expensive to linger over slow seduction building on chemistry, unless that's what's been agreed. So I think a lot of people find a 2nd, 3rd etc incrementally better to allow some savoring of each one to be brought into enjoying the next. 

 

 

[Mark_fl]

I hope they'll be different. My first session with someone was really my first male interaction as an adult. Next time I will know more of what I want, and not be as cautious about asking for it. I expect it to be a much busier and fulfilling experience.

Hopefully next month.

[pubic_assistance]

49 minutes ago, Mark_fl said:

My first session with someone was really my first male interaction as an adult. Next time I will know more of what I want, and not be as cautious about asking for it

Even after thousands of sexual encounters I still prefer to let things flow organically on a first meet. Once we've hung-out (and had each other's dick in our mouth), there is an innate camaraderie that follows. This afterglow moment is when its easier to discuss sexual interests/fantasies and preferences. Setting up the potential for a more customized encounter next time.