A little messed up after seeing a provider...

[LuckyLechon]

A little clickbaity and I know it has been discussed prior but it is my first time ever having met a provider where I felt "swept away" in a sense after meeting them.

I have had meetings where I had a really good time etc and I am able to acknowledge that and move on - taking it for what it was. However, recently I felt a really nice connection and just feel a little bit lost afterward. 

Truthfully I am surprised I can still feel this way after meeting a guy (hired or not), first time butterflies and all that, so it also kind of excites me too. 

I am sure others have felt this way but how do you ya'll move on? It almost makes me no longer want to hire for fear or being this caught up again. Almost.

[+ poolboy48220]

I had the 'swept away' feeling just recently with a visitor to Michigan. I'm not feeling lost, I'm just hoping he returns soon. 

[LuckyLechon]

1 hour ago, poolboy48220 said:

I had the 'swept away' feeling just recently with a visitor to Michigan. I'm not feeling lost, I'm just hoping he returns soon. 

Something that’s contributing to the lost feeling is the idea that I will look for that in future bookings. And it likely won’t be like that.

[JungleForest]

2 hours ago, LuckyLechon said:

A little clickbaity and I know it has been discussed prior but it is my first time ever having met a provider where I felt "swept away" in a sense after meeting them.

I have had meetings where I had a really good time etc and I am able to acknowledge that and move on - taking it for what it was. However, recently I felt a really nice connection and just feel a little bit lost afterward. 

Truthfully I am surprised I can still feel this way after meeting a guy (hired or not), first time butterflies and all that, so it also kind of excites me too. 

I am sure others have felt this way but how do you ya'll move on? It almost makes me no longer want to hire for fear or being this caught up again. Almost.

I’ve had a similar experience in the past. Chalk it up to a great experience, it was fun, it felt good - it probably was a genuine connection. But it doesn’t have to be more than that. Don’t keep thinking in a loop, do something to break it up. 

[JayCeeKy]

How do you "move on" from an infatuation? Not easily. From my experience, unless you use STRONG and EMPHATIC self-talk that this is JUST an infatuation and that you are a A CLIENT (not a lover), you will be held hostage to your feelings, not your common sense.  But...reason and logic rarely win these internal dialogues. We've all been there - and only time and the thinning of our wallets convince us that maybe this "love connection" is not mutual. Enjoy your "butterfly-inducing" friend, but just realize that, in the end, it's a business transaction - and when the money ends, so will the return messages. 

[BuffaloKyle]

Click on some ads and find someone new to be infatuated with 🥰

[BonVivant]

You can have a connection with your provider. You are human after all. But don’t mistake it for what it is not. 

[D21howie]

2 hours ago, LuckyLechon said:

A little clickbaity and I know it has been discussed prior but it is my first time ever having met a provider where I felt "swept away" in a sense after meeting them.

I have had meetings where I had a really good time etc and I am able to acknowledge that and move on - taking it for what it was. However, recently I felt a really nice connection and just feel a little bit lost afterward. 

Truthfully I am surprised I can still feel this way after meeting a guy (hired or not), first time butterflies and all that, so it also kind of excites me too. 

I am sure others have felt this way but how do you ya'll move on? It almost makes me no longer want to hire for fear or being this caught up again. Almost.

Good morning.  There are a few that have swept me off my feet and it is great.  I still see these guys today and we are great friends.  I love them dearly 

[LuckyLechon]

17 minutes ago, BuffaloKyle said:

Click on some ads and find someone new to be infatuated with 🥰

Frankly, this. 

[robberbaron4u]

However bitter the taste, swallow a dose of reality. You paid for a fantasy, your fantasy and not that of the escort. Escorting is a business enterprise, not a charity; a escort is a provider, not a social worker. The only escorts with whom I have enjoyed long friendships of some mutual affection are those who were not a hire with me. 

[pubic_assistance]

55 minutes ago, robberbaron4u said:

You paid for a fantasy, your fantasy and not that of the escort.

When you're lonely, its really dangerous to meet up with a real pro. Makes you over indulge in the fantasy. Same like when you go to the supermarket hungry. 

[myophile]

I’ve got a bit of this going on long-term with a guy I’ve been seeing regularly for about 8 years now. We’re still solidly in the client-provider zone, and I (at least) am not concerned that either of us will lose sight of that. But … it’s awfully nice and boy-friendy sometimes. We work out together a lot, and we text each other funny shit on a daily basis. He knows a fair amount about my private life, and me about his. And the sex continues to be PHENOMENAL. So we’re close in a way that sometimes seems a bit unusual. But although we’ve never discussed it, for both of us, that carefully-maintained level of intimacy is an important component of our particular long-term “relationship”. It helps that we both have our own (pretty solid) circles of family and friends 

Edited 18 hours ago by myophile

[LuckyLechon]

1 hour ago, robberbaron4u said:

However bitter the taste, swallow a dose of reality. You paid for a fantasy, your fantasy and not that of the escort. 

I never really lost sight of the fact that I was paying for a service. I was paying to have a good time, like I’ve done several times in the past. I don’t think I ever alluded to it being a charity.

Maybe it doesn’t come across well enough in my original post but I was surprised that I got a fantasy I never discussed or expected. That’s why it is a bit of a shock. It was nice and it was a deeper connection than I intended. 

[pubic_assistance]

3 minutes ago, LuckyLechon said:

it was a deeper connection than I intended. 

He's a paid performer. Clearly a good one. 

[LuckyLechon]

23 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

He's a paid performer. Clearly a good one. 

Right, I guess I’ve not been with a provider who’s done that before - at least to that extent. 

[mccarren_cruiser]

I'm dying to know who this guy is because i want a taste hehehe

stop gatekeeping dude, who's this prince charming?

 

[robberbaron4u]

1 hour ago, LuckyLechon said:

I never really lost sight of the fact that I was paying for a service. I was paying to have a good time, like I’ve done several times in the past. I don’t think I ever alluded to it being a charity.

Maybe it doesn’t come across well enough in my original post but I was surprised that I got a fantasy I never discussed or expected. That’s why it is a bit of a shock. It was nice and it was a deeper connection than I intended. 

Lagniappe.

[robberbaron4u]

The Red String

[LuckyLechon]

1 hour ago, robberbaron4u said:

Lagniappe

 

50 minutes ago, robberbaron4u said:

The Red String

I get what you mean. Sometimes things feel a little more human than expected.

[robberbaron4u]

4 minutes ago, LuckyLechon said:

 

I get what you mean. Sometimes things feel a little more human than expected.

And there you have it. . .

[+ PhileasFogg]

You’ve got to find another horse and get on.  The elixir to infatuation is multiple regular providers.  If all your focus is on one, it will turn into more than infatuation. 

[pubic_assistance]

12 hours ago, LuckyLechon said:

Right, I guess I’ve not been with a provider who’s done that before - at least to that extent. 

You're not the first to fall for a brilliant performance. 

Sometimes Hollywood actors get spit on for having effectively played the role of a villain..and people get mixed up in their head thinking its really the character. 

[samhexum]

21 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

Click on some ads and find someone new to be infatuated with 🥰

Or just fixate on a cute quarterback.

[Rod Hagen]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

You're not the first to fall for a brilliant performance. 

Sometimes Hollywood actors get spit on for having effectively played the role of a villain..and people get mixed up in their head thinking its really the character. 

As a 2-decade niceGuy escort, I can tell you your thinking is wrong.  We are paid, and it's not an act.  Both are true. 

 

It's genuine fun and passion that just happens to be paid.  (Ok, those providers who say "I love you" without being asked to, that's laying it on thick) What is getting in the way of it being a long term thing is not that we were/are acting, it's that we aren't an option because of our work and most of the time neither are you because "fill in the blank".

Don't "move on" by telling yourself it was an act.  What a horrible thing to do to yourself, and horrible way to think of him.  Rather, remind yourself that it was good, it is good, and it can not be for many very real reasons.  All those things are true and unchangeable.

Edited 2 hours ago by Rod Hagen

[Aamir]

3 minutes ago, Rod Hagen said:

As a 2-decade niceGuy escort, I can tell you your thinking is wrong.  We are paid, and it's not an act.  Both are true. 

 

It's genuine fun and passion that just happens to be paid.  (Ok, those providers who say "I love you" without being asked to, that's laying it on thick) What is getting in the way of it being a long term thing is not that we were/are acting, it's that we aren't an option because of our work and most of the time neither are you because "fill in the blank".

Don't "move on" by telling yourself it was an act.  What a horrible thing to do to yourself, and horrible way to think of him.  Rather, remind yourself that it was good, it is good, and it can not be for many very real reasons.  All those things are true and unchangeable.

Thank you for saying that to all of us.  I don't think the world would be a worse place if we all thought we were more loved that we initially realized and more lovable than we initially believed. You are sweet to remind us of our own beauty.