BFE and jealousy about other clients

[+ KensingtonHomo]

1 hour ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I did have a regular masseur who became jealous when he found out I hired other masseurs and escorts besides him.

That's bizarre. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

6 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

1 hour ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I did have a regular masseur who became jealous when he found out I hired other masseurs and escorts besides him.

That's bizarre. 

I don't find it surprising.  We're all humans with the same chemicals floating around our brains so jealously can trigger in anyone, even when logic says not to.  After all, that's probably what the original poster was trying to say:   He feels the jealousy chemicals even though it's illogical to be jealous of a man one is hiring.  So, it makes sense that it happens vice versa.

Edited Tuesday at 10:02 PM by Vegas_Millennial

[pubic_assistance]

On 12/9/2025 at 9:08 AM, sync said:

I'm fine with mentions of other men, but when they mention girlfriend/wife, I'm out. 

Interesting. 

99% of MY hookups find it to be a big turn on that I'm married to a woman. I can only recall one fellow being upset that I wasn't 100% gay. 

What is it that drives this repulsion, when so many others have the exact opposite reaction ? 

I've been with more than a few providers who had girlfriends at home. They said the g.f. didn't mind them having sex with men for money but would go ballistic if they had sex with another woman. 

Edited Tuesday at 10:33 PM by pubic_assistance
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[Braziliancutee]

1 hour ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I don't find it surprising.  We're all humans with the same chemicals floating around our brains so jealously can trigger in anyone, even when logic says not to.  After all, that's probably what the original poster was trying to say:   He feels the jealousy chemicals even though it's illogical to be jealous of a man one is hiring.  So, it makes sense that it happens vice versa.

Yeah I agree with that! I have one client who hire  regularly a lot escorts and that’s ok. But then I just realized that he stayed more time talking with me by messages, FaceTime then the other guys. And he was spending more money with the other guys then me. Isn’t a equal thing. I just stopped to let him know about my life. But I never did drama or something like that with him. We need to be professional

[+ sync]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

Interesting. 

99% of MY hookups find it to be a big turn on that I'm married to a woman. I can only recall one fellow being upset that I wasn't 100% gay. 

What is it that drives this repulsion, when so many others have the exact opposite reaction ? 

I've been with more than a few providers who had girlfriends at home. They said the g.f. didn't mind them having sex with men for money but would go ballistic if they had sex with another woman. 

"Repulsion" is bit more intense than my feelings are.

I feel there is probably an ample hetero market for "straight" providers without exploiting the sexual orientation and emotions of homosexuals, as well as shrinking the market for gay/bi providers.

I reiterate, "to each his own," whatever floats your boat.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

29 minutes ago, sync said:

"Repulsion" is bit more intense than my feelings are.

I feel there is probably an ample hetero market for "straight" providers without exploiting the sexual orientation and emotions of homosexuals, as well as shrinking the market for gay/bi providers.

I reiterate, "to each his own," whatever floats your boat.

On the contrary, I feel it's the straight/bisexual guy who is being exploited when I'm having my way with him 😍.  While I may sometimes be jealous when I find out the guy has a husband, I'm not jealous that he has a girl partner.  In fact, I think it's hot that I can do what I want with him and he can enjoy it without jealousy from his wife, because I'm not another woman.

[+ sync]

17 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

On the contrary, I feel it's the straight/bisexual guy who is being exploited when I'm having my way with him 😍.  While I may sometimes be jealous when I find out the guy has a husband, I'm not jealous that he has a girl partner.  In fact, I think it's hot that I can do what I want with him and he can enjoy it without jealousy from his wife, because I'm not another woman.

Whatever floats your boat.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 12/9/2025 at 5:11 AM, Pensant said:

That has no effect on me at all. Their personal life is their business.

I find it refreshing when a man I'm having sex with tells me he's married.  That way, at least I know I don't have to worry about him asking ME to marry him eventually.  It's such a mental exhaustion constantly telling single men that I'm not interested in them.  A married guy is so much easier.

[Braziliancutee]

7 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I find it refreshing when a man I'm having sex with tells me he's married.  That way, at least I know I don't have to worry about him asking ME to marry him eventually.  It's such a mental exhaustion constantly telling single men that I'm not interested in them.  A married guy is so much easier.

I agree . I love married guys. They are so polite. They really treat you special and really enjoy the moment with u. They really make u feel special I prefer so much more then the single guys who meet a lot escorts.

[soloyo215]

On 12/9/2025 at 7:56 AM, Mark_fl said:

But.how do you othet clients feel about hearing a provider discuss other appointments or a boyfriend/girlfriend? Jealous? Turned on?  Protective? Dont want hear about it?

Jist curious.

Annoyed. It's my time, that I'm paying for, so they should be focusing on me. I have never felt emotionally attached to any of my providers, probably because some have attempted to be manipulative that way, and because emotional bonding is not what I am interested in.

The stripper with daddy issues and an award winning ass, who took all my fun money last December in Puerto Vallarta, was that type, wanted to play with my emotions. I see right through that game, and I'm very good at recognizing psychological and emotional manipulation. Additionally, I'm neither alone nor lonely. My reasons to hire have nothing to do with craving company, love or support.

I think people's particular situation in terms of the people that they have around them, love and socializing, all play a major role in being vulnerable to manifesting jealousy, becoming protective, etc. There's nothing wrong with feelings, but there can be many things wrong with how we act on them.

[jmichaeliii]

2 minutes ago, Braziliancutee said:

I agree . I love married guys. They are so polite. They really treat you special and really enjoy the moment with u. They really make u feel special I prefer so much more then the single guys who meet a lot escorts.

I love this.  I am pretty average looking but I have been told by a few hot guys I see regulary that they like seeing me because of how I treat them.  One of them has told me that I make him feel loved.   Maybe thats why I have such great times with guys way out of my league!

[Braziliancutee]

17 minutes ago, jmichaeliii said:

I love this.  I am pretty average looking but I have been told by a few hot guys I see regulary that they like seeing me because of how I treat them.  One of them has told me that I make him feel loved.   Maybe thats why I have such great times with guys way out of my league!

Exactly some guys they are so so nice with us. They really want us comfortable and fine. They gave tip, buy present, wine, chocolat. So cute!! 

[jmichaeliii]

56 minutes ago, Braziliancutee said:

Exactly some guys they are so so nice with us. They really want us comfortable and fine. They gave tip, buy present, wine, chocolat. So cute!! 

I have found some of the most beautiful guys I have met are really into intimate sessions once we are comfortable with each other.  It makes the time together sooo nice when both parties are having a great time.

[marylander1940]

On 12/9/2025 at 8:45 AM, poolboy48220 said:

I'd be wary of an escort who discussed other clients with me. It'd make me wonder if I was being discussed with his other clients. 

Agreed! That's never a good sign, if he talks about others he is certainly talking about us behind our back.

Back to subject: in this day and age over 90% of gay couples are open... Considering we're hiring we all should enjoy the moment and move on afterwards.

 

[+ Charlie]

I never minded listening to a provider talk about his personal life, as long as he did it after I had cum. Until then, I wanted him to be a sex object onto which I could project whatever I wanted. If I got too chummy with a provider, I lost interest in the sexual gratification that I was paying for. If I got to know a provider too well, I usually lost sexual interest in him; if I wanted a lover, I had a husband for that.

[d.anders]

On 12/9/2025 at 8:45 AM, poolboy48220 said:

I'd be wary of an escort who discussed other clients with me. It'd make me wonder if I was being discussed with his other clients. 

Isn't it human nature to tell at least one person? For many gays, the number jumps to 10.

My late husband was a famous hairdresser. He had many celebrity clients but refused to speak about them in public. Even in private, he chose his words with great care (except with me). He used to say, "Once you lose their respect over privacy, the relationship is done."

I remember he had a very famous surgeon client, who also worked on famous people. The surgeon was always careful to never name names, but when the surgeon was not in the room, the surgeon's wife would regale the guests with stories. We always thought this was in very bad taste, and it soured our thoughts on people's ability, even esteemed professionals, to respect client privacy.

[aiseeya]

This hobby is banking on pure fantasy and if you cant recognise it, this is not for you. Given the nature of this hobby, you will meet a lot of providers who excell in emotion manipulation to hustle $$$ out of you. Learnt to recognise and deal with such situation.

If you ever think a provider is 'jelous' bcs you hire other provider, that is not bcs he has feeling for you....its simply bcs lose of potential income. 

If a provider tells you on repeat all the gifts he received from his others clients, thats his way of asking you to buy gifts for him. 

Customers might think they have the upper hand as the payor but thats just not the case. Most if not all customers are not a relationship savvy but them providers are professional in this field. They knw you hire then because you are to some extent attracted to them. So its just a matter of figuring out your bottom line as to how much you are willing to pay for them to create this fantasy of them being interested in you. 

Now i am not saying all providers will try to hussle $$$ out of you. There are some ethical professionals out there who wont do that. But i truly believe anyone who is thinking to get into this hobby should first have the ability to identify a hussler. Only then you can protect your self (or heart).

[jeezifonly]

Fact: both client and provider had/have any number of past, present, and/or future sex partners. 

If the performance of the BFE is specifically what you're hiring, the performer fails at his job when talking about other partners, or spends time checking his phone. If you want the BFE, discuss your parameters for what happens in that context. And never forget the Fact. 

[SecretProvider]

3 hours ago, aiseeya said:

If you ever think a provider is 'jelous' bcs you hire other provider, that is not bcs he has feeling for you....its simply bcs lose of potential income. 

this is 'bang on the money'. 

 

3 hours ago, aiseeya said:

Now i am not saying all providers will try to hussle $$$ out of you. There are some ethical professionals out there who wont do that. But i truly believe anyone who is thinking to get into this hobby should first have the ability to identify a hussler. Only then you can protect your self (or heart).

wise words. 

[pubic_assistance]

On 12/23/2025 at 7:16 PM, sync said:

I feel there is probably an ample hetero market for "straight" providers without exploiting the sexual orientation and emotions of homosexuals, as well as shrinking the market for gay/bi providers.

"Exploiting" ? I find that allegation to be somewhat misguided, if you think THAT is the only motivation those providers have. I've definitely heard of straight providers who lure you in and take your money for next to nothing ...but there are also plenty of straight-identifying men out there who genuinely enjoy the physical company of gay and bisexual men. 

[+ sync]

6 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

"Exploiting" ? I find that allegation to be somewhat misguided, if you think THAT is the only motivation those providers have. I've definitely heard of straight providers who lure you in and take your money for next to nothing ...but there are also plenty of straight-identifying men out there who genuinely enjoy the physical company of gay and bisexual men. 

I would say "straight-identifying" compromises your argument.

[Braziliancutee]

6 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

"Exploiting" ? I find that allegation to be somewhat misguided, if you think THAT is the only motivation those providers have. I've definitely heard of straight providers who lure you in and take your money for next to nothing ...but there are also plenty of straight-identifying men out there who genuinely enjoy the physical company of gay and bisexual men. 

Actually has a lot straight guys coming from Brazil to do escort in US. A few of they they are married already.

[pubic_assistance]

1 minute ago, sync said:

I would say "straight-identifying" compromises your argument.

Can you explain ? I dont understand this comment. 

[+ sync]

1 minute ago, pubic_assistance said:

Can you explain ? I dont understand this comment. 

I'm not surprised.  Our "failure to communicate" is not new.  Enjoy your day.

[pubic_assistance]

1 hour ago, sync said:

I'm not surprised.  Our "failure to communicate" is not new.  Enjoy your day.

So....does that mean you can't explain yourself or you just won't? Your last response was cryptic. You surely cant expect everyone here to read into your subtext.