Expectations after cum

[massage-addict]

Hello.  What’s the expectation of spending time after climax but before the agreed upon time? 

[+ nycman]

I’d say it varies widely. 

Sometimes I can’t wait for them to leave, and sometimes I just want to spoon all night.

Sometimes it’s just my mood, and sometimes it’s the provider.

[+ Alabastrine]

Kisses, snuggles. cuddles for me since I like the BFE. But as anything, best to communicate your desires to the provider beforehand so they can accommodate or let you know what they are/aren't willing to do. 

[AJDalton]

I read the room.  I have one client that gets on the phone and calls his wife after.  That’s my que to leave.  Most wanna cuddle a little bit though afterward.  Or see me cum.  I get that a lot actually guys wanting to watch me cum after they do.  I have heard of some clients getting upset if the worker ends the time right after the client cums, so unless I get a que to leave I stay for the whole time booked regardless of when he cums.  

[+ Jamie21]

I agree with @AJDalton, it’s a read the room situation. A few clients are so horrified that they’re with a sex worker after they’ve cum that they want to be up and out of here immediately. It’s like the guilt and shame immediately kicks in as soon as the first splash of cum hits their belly😂. 

I like to give them plenty of time to come down from the moment. I usually do head massage (or surprisingly foot massage is fantastic after a climax) so they can get into a totally relaxed state. If the climax has been early in the session and if he’s able to have a second coming then it’s been known for me to start playing ‘down there’ again and get him going for a speedy second load. It’s interesting to take someone from zero to 100 in a short time. Most however just like the slow return to normal and some cuddles. Lovely. 
 

[Poppie]

3 hours ago, AJDalton said:

I read the room.  I have one client that gets on the phone and calls his wife after.  That’s my que to leave.  Most wanna cuddle a little bit though afterward.  Or see me cum.  I get that a lot actually guys wanting to watch me cum after they do.  I have heard of some clients getting upset if the worker ends the time right after the client cums, so unless I get a que to leave I stay for the whole time booked regardless of when he cums.  

Why do you have to live SO far away !!

[AJDalton]

1 hour ago, Poppie said:

Why do you have to live SO far away !!

Where are you located ?  I can’t tell how far away we are as it doesn’t say on your profile. Here in CA though if someone lives 20 miles away some consider that “far away”. 😆 

[Nightowl]

As others have said, it varies.  If the provider remains attentive, it can be nice to lay together for a while (if there’s time).  If the provider immediately picks up and starts scrolling through his phone, it’s time to go your separate ways.  I have one provider who really gives a great erotic experience but is somewhat awkward when it comes to conversation afterward.  I usually just get dressed and leave while he scrolls through his phone.

[mike carey]

20 minutes ago, AJDalton said:

Where are you located ?  I can’t tell how far away we are as it doesn’t say on your profile. Here in CA though if someone lives 20 miles away some consider that “far away”. 😆 

I had thought driving anywhere in the LA basin was no big deal, people were just welded to their cars?

[Simon Suraci]

2 hours ago, AJDalton said:

Here in CA though if someone lives 20 miles away some consider that “far away”. 😆 

It’s so true. In Dallas, 20 or even 30 miles away is nothing. In San Diego, 20 miles may as well be Phoenix or Vegas.

I agree. It’s a read the room situation. Some clients like aftercare, which I am glad to provide. Conversation, cuddling, contact, and sometimes round two.

A handful of my clients can keep going one orgasm after another many times over, and so we keep going til the time is up, or I have physically exhausted him, whichever occurs first. 

[Frog]

Other than the orgasms themselves, I like nothing more than to lie back, wrapped in the arms of the young stud who's just spent themselves on (or in) me, cum drying wherever it may, just chatting, laughing and enjoying the raw, naked intimacy of it all.  Very often it's all I need to get hard again and I'm lucky enough to have enough energy (and jizz) for him to slowly jerk me off again as he kisses me deeply and I blow a second load. 

Cum (for me) - both mine & his - is definitely the main attraction but, seeing what happens afterwards when we're both covered in our respective loads is always a massive turn on and a bit of a exciting unknown.

If a provider either doesn't cum at all or shoots & leaves....we're unlikely to be a good match. 

[MassageCommunityMember]

From the client side, I always tell myself I have to get out of the provider's studio as soon as the session is done.  I paid for x amount of time and they're running a business and I need to go.  I don't think I've ever had a provider rush me out.  I just get too into my own head about respecting them.  

[Nightowl]

45 minutes ago, MassageCommunityMember said:

From the client side, I always tell myself I have to get out of the provider's studio as soon as the session is done.  I paid for x amount of time and they're running a business and I need to go.  I don't think I've ever had a provider rush me out.  I just get too into my own head about respecting them.  

Nothing wrong with respecting the provider and his business.  For me it’s a double-edged sword.  I can be too respectful when it comes to asking for what I want, particularly in a massage situation when I don’t know if the guy considers himself to be primarily a masseur or also a sex worker.  I opt for caution and respect, sometimes to my own detriment.  Respecting his time and his privacy are always givens though.

[Frog]

Also, in terms of expectations....I kind of expect the provider, esp. for an in-call, to provide something to clean up with!

Assuming they're not going to lick me clean (not something I would expect, but am more than happy when they're willing to do so), the quality chaps come prepared with suitable materials for a clean up. 

Some of the time, guys look kind of surprised that there's all this jizz all of sudden and they're only offering a sheet of loo paper to clean up with.  Not great!

Of course, wearing a hot guy's cum for the rest of the day as it dries on my skin - especially if he's cum on my face, and especially if I'm heading back into work or something - that's a winning expectation. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

20 hours ago, massage-addict said:

Hello.  What’s the expectation of spending time after climax but before the agreed upon time? 

After the first escort climaxes, I expect the second escort to add his load into my hole as well. 🎉 Any extra time is spent taking loads from bystanders (if the escort session occurred within view of others) while the escorts make me feel safe and attend to me like they would a mare being bred by stallions. 🐎 

Edited yesterday at 09:42 PM by Vegas_Millennial
Edited to make me sound less like a slut, and more like a majestic animal

[Aaron 90]

Depends on the agreed expectations, but a few moments to relax together wouldn't hurt in my opinion.

[AJDalton]

10 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

It’s so true. In Dallas, 20 or even 30 miles away is nothing. In San Diego, 20 miles may as well be Phoenix or Vegas.

I agree. It’s a read the room situation. Some clients like aftercare, which I am glad to provide. Conversation, cuddling, contact, and sometimes round two.

A handful of my clients can keep going one orgasm after another many times over, and so we keep going til the time is up, or I have physically exhausted him, whichever occurs first. 

As a provider I’m use to driving far.  That being said if a buddy wants to hang and is 30 miles away!?  I’m like ya I can’t I’m off to the gym.  😆 The guy that commented I was far though is in Florida and I’m in Cali.  So very far.  I’m like you can fly me !? 

[jackcali]

14 hours ago, Nightowl said:

Nothing wrong with respecting the provider and his business.  For me it’s a double-edged sword.  I can be too respectful when it comes to asking for what I want, particularly in a massage situation when I don’t know if the guy considers himself to be primarily a masseur or also a sex worker.  I opt for caution and respect, sometimes to my own detriment.  Respecting his time and his privacy are always givens though.

I have the same problem distinguishing between masseurs and sex workers, particularly when the masseur makes a point of emphasizing his therapeutic skills.  Just recently, I booked a therapeutic massage with a provider discussed here (where it was said that extras weren't on offer) and was very surprised when he started giving me a handjob.  He read my surprise as offense and asked if I didn't want one.  I clarified that I'd love one but didn't expect one and didn't ask for one out of respect.  That started a long convo about how some of his clients always want one, some of his clients never do, and some ask for it from time to time, and he's just decided to go with the flow.  

Just wait until next time when I bring up other things we might do . . .

Edited 10 hours ago by jackcali
clarity

[Nightowl]

1 hour ago, jackcali said:

Just wait until next time when I bring up other things we might do . . .

Shoot for the moon!

[big-n-tall]

I have no real expectations, except that the provider stays the entire time agreed upon (if I or both of us climax before times up). I've only had a few guys up and go after I climax. Most stay and at least talk, some cuddle, some want to go again (because they know I can climax multiple times if properly motivated. LOL).

There has been a small number that after our session was over they want to still talk/cuddle/fool around. Those are usually regulars though. Although occasionally, a new guy will want to do one or all of the 3. One of my newer regulars, the first time we meet (after I came twice), he wanted to stay and go again. Sadly, I couldn't because I had made dinner plans with friends I hadn't seen in awhile. We had already ended our agreed upon time and yet he wanted to stay longer at no additional cost. He has become one of my favorites.

When the times up, I let the provider give indication of should I stay or I go... or if he came to me, should he stay or go.