Newbie Question

[LAWestKC]

Hey there - Hiring for the first time this weekend, and I have a question. I really like to service a guy, so I want to make out with an escort, suck his nipples, suck his cock, lick his balls, and have him cum on my face. I assume all that is pretty standard for an escort. But I am also into feet, and it looks like the guy I want to hire has really nice ones.

Is it okay to ask an escort if I can worship his feet and suck his toes?

What about asking him to give me a footjob (masturbating me with his feet, or letting me fuck his feet and cum on them.)

This is a former porn star I have been horny over for a decade, so as much as I would Ilove to do the feet stuff, but I don't want to scare him off. I'd happily do everything else without feet.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

Foot fetishes are pretty common. A lot of providers even put their feet in their profiles. The best thing you can do is be explicit with that you want (foot job, etc) and make sure he’s comfortable with it. From your description of him, I’m pretty confident he’ll be down. 

[+ RyanDean]

You also should be forthright about your interest in having him cum, if that is important to you. 

[+ azdr0710]

some newbie advice.....

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/142802-etiquette-for-initial-communication/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/130365-caveats-in-hiring-please-contribute/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/83821-advice-for-a-newbie-please/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/103088-newbie-question/

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/13389-recommendations-for-newbie/

be to-the-point, brief, professional in communication......no gushy daily texts!......smile, have fun, talk slowly, ask him what he likes, no money talk, look him in the eye, firm handshake....... no deposit!!

[BuffaloKyle]

Go ahead and ask! Lots of guys have a foot fetish. You'll find tons of providers post pictures of their feet in their ads for that reason. But definitely ask way before the session takes place. For two reasons. One, if the provider is not into it you don't want the session to turn awkward waiting until it's happening to ask. Also if he is into it you'll want to give him a chance then to have his feet all cleaned and toenails trimmed to perfection for you to worship.

[rvwnsd]

Don't be afraid to ask! It can be easy to think a professional will just "know" what to do, but the truth is they aren't mind-readers. My approach goes like this: "Hi [name of escort] my name is [my name]. I love what you said in your ad/am a big fan of your work (as appropriate) and would like to pursue whether we are compatible. I like to do [list the things I want to do - this is a good place to include your love of feet] and it is really important that we [tell him what is really important to you]. Do you think you could get into this/do you think we are a good match/etc."

If a guy doesn't want to answer or is evasive he is raising a red flag. Give him a second chance and if he is still evasive, consider whether it is time to move on. 

[LAWestKC]

Thanks everyone for the advice! And thanks especially to @rvwnsd for the sample message. Super helpful. I'll let you know how it goes. So grateful I found this board.

[italianboyph]

It's perfectly normal and never be afraid to ask. I've been hired by clients who have foot fetishes and have ask for similar/and same thing. It's fun😘 

[rvwnsd]

14 hours ago, LAWestKC said:

Thanks everyone for the advice! And thanks especially to @rvwnsd for the sample message. Super helpful. I'll let you know how it goes. So grateful I found this board.

Happy to help!

[+ DrownedBoy]

Yup, you should ask about each one. Especially the kissing, which escorts don't always provide.

[Oakman]

18 hours ago, LAWestKC said:

I don't want to scare him off. 

Nothing ventured = nothing gained. You’ll never get to enact your fantasy with your fantasy guy if you don’t ask. Nothing you described is going to scare anyone. Go for it! If you’re going to pay, you might as well shoot for the moon. 

[nate_sf]

Along with @italianboyph I'll confirm from the provider side that asking for foot play is not unusual at all. Yes it's fun! I really enjoy it and am happy whenever a guy proposes it.

[rvwnsd]

4 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

Yup, you should ask about each one. Especially the kissing, which escorts don't always provide.

True that!

 

[LAWestKC]

Thanks for all the advice, guys!  I messaged him on RM last night, using the guidance from @rvwnsdand I got a reply back (I assume it was auto-reply) asking me to text or call, so I texted him with the same message, but did not get a text back. I landed in Chicago a few hours ago, so I figured I would give it another shot, so texted him again. No reply again unfortunately.

Even if it was not a good fit, I was surprised that he did not reply. Is that common? He gets great reviews from all his customers for his niceness and his professionalism, -- as hell as his hotness and great service.

[+ ApexNomad]

15 minutes ago, LAWestKC said:

Thanks for all the advice, guys!  I messaged him on RM last night, using the guidance from @rvwnsdand I got a reply back (I assume it was auto-reply) asking me to text or call, so I texted him with the same message, but did not get a text back. I landed in Chicago a few hours ago, so I figured I would give it another shot, so texted him again. No reply again unfortunately.

Even if it was not a good fit, I was surprised that he did not reply. Is that common? He gets great reviews from all his customers for his niceness and his professionalism, -- as hell as his hotness and great service.

If you’re in Chicago and not getting any traction from that guy, try this one:

https://rent.men/AlxWard

He’s also into feet. 

Good luck!

 

[rvwnsd]

1 hour ago, LAWestKC said:

Thanks for all the advice, guys!  I messaged him on RM last night, using the guidance from @rvwnsdand I got a reply back (I assume it was auto-reply) asking me to text or call, so I texted him with the same message, but did not get a text back. I landed in Chicago a few hours ago, so I figured I would give it another shot, so texted him again. No reply again unfortunately.

Even if it was not a good fit, I was surprised that he did not reply. Is that common? He gets great reviews from all his customers for his niceness and his professionalism, -- as hell as his hotness and great service.

There are several reasons why an escort doesn't reply to a text. He could be busy, he could be with another client, he could be ill - and more. Many guys aren't available at a moment's notice, either. 

[LAWestKC]

Quick update: We're getting together Sat night! I'll let you know how it goes. I am really horned up and excited for this.

He prefers in-calls. Anything advice or anything I should know?

[+ ApexNomad]

10 minutes ago, LAWestKC said:

Quick update: We're getting together Sat night! I'll let you know how it goes. I am really horned up and excited for this.

He prefers in-calls. Anything advice or anything I should know?

Let’s see.

Holes don’t come with instruction manuals—but they do appreciate foreplay.

Never trust a man with zero pillows. That’s a trap.

If he puts on Enya… run. That’s how cults start.

Stretch like you’re prepping for the floor routine at Nationals.

If he offers water after, marry him.

If he offers juice, phone a friend.

You got this. Arch your back and lie with confidence. 💅

[+ KensingtonHomo]

10 hours ago, LAWestKC said:

Quick update: We're getting together Sat night! I'll let you know how it goes. I am really horned up and excited for this.

He prefers in-calls. Anything advice or anything I should know?

I would confirm with him again on Saturday and reiterate what you're looking to do. That way you'll know you're on the same page. 

With an in-call, you'll be in his space, so that may make you a bit more nervous. Be calm. Politely ask for any reasonable thing you need: water, the bathroom, etc., before you get started. If you have a super specific lube or something, bring it with you. 

And HAVE FUN! 

[LAWestKC]

Thanks. I didn’t feel comfortable going to his place, as some of the locals I knew said it wasn’t a great neighborhood after dark, so I canceled, with plenty of notice, more than 36 hours. He was cool with it and I even offered to send him a $50 Cancellation fee.  I wound up scheduling an appointment with another guy to come to my hotel. We texted back-and-forth, discussed what I wanted, and confirmed a few hours ahead of time. 15 minutes after our scheduled meeting time, he did not show so I texted him asking for an update on when he is arriving. He said “oh, sorry I can’t make it after all.” That was really annoying, especially since he had such great reviews. (And I was really horned up and excited.)
 

I messaged or texted three or four other guys to try to set something up, but none of them replied. Is that kind of non-response typical? Is it an indication that they’re not interested in providing specific service I requested?

I’m definitely gonna try to set something up again, when I’m back home.

[SometimesBi]

Instead of canceling, might you have asked if that provider could have traveled to you? 

[LAWestKC]

1 hour ago, SometimesBi said:

Instead of canceling, might you have asked if that provider could have traveled to you? 

Oh, I did, and he couldn’t.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

3 hours ago, LAWestKC said:

I didn’t feel comfortable going to his place, as some of the locals I knew said it wasn’t a great neighborhood after dark, so I canceled, with plenty of notice, more than 36 hours. He was cool with it and I even offered to send him a $50 Cancellation fee.

Like NYC, Chicago probably has lots of people who think X place "isn't a great neighborhood after dark." They're usually expressing local prejudices, not reality. Assuming you have money for a taxi (and it wouldn't be exorbitant), I kinda think you should have met him. 

[+ JamesB]

On 7/14/2025 at 9:02 AM, LAWestKC said:

I messaged or texted three or four other guys to try to set something up, but none of them replied. Is that kind of non-response typical? Is it an indication that they’re not interested in providing specific service I requested?

 

Check your number in the Mr. Number app. It’s possible the first provider flagged it as a time waster or flake after the cancellation.