Apparently I'm Very Rude 🤷🏻

[+ Gar1eth]

Here's are screen shots of part of a conversation I had on Growlr. 
 

Moderator edit, screen shots of conversations deleted.

 

 

 

[seattlebottom]

Was that a real person?  The interaction seems mechanical. 

[+ Gar1eth]

1 hour ago, seattlebottom said:

Was that a real person?  The interaction seems mechanical. 

I have no idea. If you're referring to the fact that part of it repeats, I couldn't get all the conversation in one screenshot. So some of the repeat may be due to me trying to screenshot all of this part of  the conversation in two different pictures. 
 

I don't know if I'm wrong or right. But when someone on these apps almost immediately wants to move to WhatsApp, I get suspicious that they're some type of fake. I'm much less suspicious if they offer a regular phone number to text. It's too bad in this case if he is a fake-or even if real has a screwy sense of what's rude, because he's really my type. 

Edited June 19 by Gar1eth

[samhexum]

1 hour ago, Gar1eth said:

he's really my type. 

or so you think...

[+ PhileasFogg]

😳

[56harrisond]

@Gar1eth they also said you're a good person, so focus on that part 

[56harrisond]

The conversation, especially the first message, has such broken English that it's difficult to have confidence in this alleged person.

[pubic_assistance]

You dodged a bullet.

There is definitley something "off" about this person's constant demands to move to a different platform. 

In my experience when a young man wants to switch to a private communication its to discuss pay4play in a space where he cant be identified and found later if your experiences are problematic .  

[Act25]

Was probably a crypto i.e. pig butchering scam. 

7 Months Inside an Online Scam Labor Camp - The New York Times

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A man was abducted by a Chinese gang and forced to work in a scam operation. He gathered financial information, photos and videos and shared the material...

 

[crazyboy123]

If anyone ever tries to get you to download Whatsapp or switch to Whatsapp, it's a scammer. As soon as they bring it up, report and block. 

[Nutella]

The "But I'm driving. Have to go now" definitely comes across as a stereotypical lie and rude, but it was likely a Bot/scam. Someone from Florida wouldn't have that broken English and would've had a more nuanced communication if they wanted to sell sex to you. "The Good Bye. You are very rude" was probably their last desperate attempt to try to reengage you.

Edited June 19 by Nutella

[+ JamesB]

18 minutes ago, Nutella said:

Someone from Florida wouldn't have that broken English

 

You’ve got to be kidding! When was the last time you were actually in Florida, especially Central or South Florida? LOL!!!

[maninsoma]

Just curious: Why is suggesting using WhatsApp indicative of a scammer?

[Nutella]

10 minutes ago, JamesB said:

 

You’ve got to be kidding! When was the last time you were actually in Florida, especially Central or South Florida? LOL!!!

The bot or scammer said "originally" from Florida, and in the Growlr chat, there is the picture of a Caucasian man, so in that context, the broken English doesn't make sense, and it's a clear red flag. 

Edited June 19 by Nutella

[Nutella]

6 minutes ago, maninsoma said:

Just curious: Why is suggesting using WhatsApp indicative of a scammer?

Not necessarily a scammer by default. It could also be a request from someone who is looking to hook up rather sooner than later, someone looking to offer sex for sale, or a scammer. It's the broken English (from someone born in Florida) that makes it very likely a scam.

[CuriousByNature]

"Your very rude".  You cud have told him two lurn too spell propurley.

[crazyboy123]

43 minutes ago, maninsoma said:

Just curious: Why is suggesting using WhatsApp indicative of a scammer?

They are trying to get you to another app where they can send you links that can give you a virus. Most real people will ask to go to Snapchat instead for verification. This isn't even like Scruff where there's a limit to the texts you can see on a free account, so there's no reason to switch to Whatsapp except to scam. 

[+ JamesB]

40 minutes ago, Nutella said:

The bot or scammer said "originally" from Florida, and in the Growlr chat, there is the picture of a Caucasian man, so in that context, the broken English doesn't make sense, and it's a clear red flag. 

 

I’m not arguing that he could be a scammer or that it's a potential red flag, but it’s funny that you suspect the guy might be a “bot or scammer”, yet you take “originally from Florida” at face value, as if it automatically means he was born there. It’s clear that his English is limited, so he might be misusing the word “originally”. Maybe he just meant that he used to live there. Maybe he just feels that telling a random stranger he's not from the U.S. isn't the best idea right now.

In any case, you’d be surprised how many people who were actually born in Florida aren’t fluent in English. Some grow up in households where only another language is spoken, like Spanish, Russian, or French. Others are raised in tight-knit cultural or religious communities where English isn’t the dominant language, even if they’re white and born in the U.S.

[CuriousByNature]

3 minutes ago, crazyboy123 said:

They are trying to get you to another app where they can send you links that can give you a virus.  

Can he open the links safely if he's wearing a condom?

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

8 hours ago, 56harrisond said:

they also said you're a good person, so focus on that part 

 

42 minutes ago, CuriousByNature said:

"Your very rude".  You cud have told him two lurn too spell propurley.

This person has shown in one instance that he understands "you're" when he stated "You're a good person".

Therefore, we must understand what he means when he signed off with "Your very rude" instead of the more traditional "Yours truly" or "Affectively Yours".  He basically ended the conversation with "I am very rudely yours", admitting his own rudeness. 😊 

[+ friendofsheila]

this makes me nervous about trying out stuff like chats and texting.  

[soloyo215]

12 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

"Your very rude".  You cud have told him two lurn too spell propurley.

Now that's the Florida I know.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

13 hours ago, soloyo215 said:

Now that's the Florida I know.

I have to say that Florida has some of the best roads yet worst drivers anywhere.  But the rudest people I've met so far are Italians.  I just spent a few weeks in Italy.  They make New Yorkers look like the welcome wagon.   So far, they are the rudest people I've experienced (but, I haven't traveled Asia yet 😉).

[soloyo215]

6 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I have to say that Florida has some of the best roads yet worst drivers anywhere.  But the rudest people I've met so far are Italians.  I just spent a few weeks in Italy.  They make New Yorkers look like the welcome wagon.   So far, they are the rudest people I've experienced (but, I haven't traveled Asia yet 😉).

Sorry to hear. Rudeness to me is an epidemic. Has to be terrible if they make newyorkers look welcoming. The Asian countries I've been in, people are quite polite (at least in commonly public areas, like train stations and buses).

[Rudynate]

There are scammers everywhere out there - pig butchers, phony bills for stuff you never ordered, texts demanding payment for traffic tickets you never got, people who misrepresent themselves in one way or another.  It's very disillusioning - makes me want to move to a quiet place in the country and go completely off the grid.