“More Top” What it means?

[Dingdi]

If a provider lists his position as “more top”, it seems to say bottoming is negotiable but you may pay more?

 

I know this question can be asked directly to the provider, like most of topics in this board, still would like to hear you. 
Thanks. 

[mike carey]

2 minutes ago, Dingdi said:

If a provider lists his position as “more top”, it seems to say bottoming is negotiable but you may pay more?

I know this question can be asked directly to the provider, like most of topics in this board, still would like to hear you. 
Thanks. 

I don't think there's any single, or easy answer to this. I'd say, though, that he is leaving the door open to bottoming but I wouldn't assume that 'for more money' is the determinant, and each will have his own criteria. Yes, it could be money, it could also depend on the person he's talking to and how he feels about them, or something as practically based as how big they are. So yes, if you're not into his 'more' activities, ask!

[pubic_assistance]

5 hours ago, mike carey said:

...it could also depend on the person he's talking to and how he feels about them.

I always used to list myself as "mostly top" for online profiles. Which, as is stated above, meant I would occasionally bottom for the right kind of guy.

I've also run into providers who frustrated me because they were listed as "top" when I really viewed them sexually as a desirable bottom. More than once, when i teased the question and commented what a fuckable ass they had, their answer was "for you", I'd bottom...with no discussion of extra fees.

So yeah...some guys definitely restrict their audience with anal...and I'm sure there are those who monetize that honor.

[Whippoorwill]

It could also mean "I don't normally clean out before sessions. If you want me to bottom, you'd better warn me." I would always be clear in setting up the appointment who's top and who's bottom if you want it to go there. 

[jeezifonly]

As a life-long “more bottom” it’s not unlikely that the dick makes the difference about whether he will find it pleasurable…

[Oakman]

I think it means “I’ll fuck you if you pay me. But you can’t fuck me unless you pay me AND you’re also hot enough.” 

[+ Jamie21]

It’s just simpler to top. I’m vers (and mainly do massage rather than escort sessions …but of course sex does happen sometimes in massage). It’s simpler to top: if clients want me to bottom then I need to know beforehand. It’s more preparation needed. I think this is one reason why guys say ‘mainly top’. It’s just so much simpler. 
 

[LookingAround]

Means "more often a top."

[+ ThroatCummer]

I want an escort or a sexual partner that LOVES what they are doing.  Sure we can debate the mechanics of an escort doing it for the money as work. But if I am going to top an escort, I want them to be a bottom in their personal life. Likewise when the roles are reversed. It's kind of like a straight woman prostitute who is giving blowjobs for her next crack pipe hit or getting fucked because she has to do it. That's not fun if the other person isn't engaged and wants to be in that situation. Does that make sense? 

To me, "more top" means they prefer putting Tab A into Slot B more than being the insertee. LOL. I personally would pass if I were looking for a real bottom. 

Edited February 7 by ThroatCummer

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Or, and here's a wild thought, you can just email and ask to get a direct, non-speculative answer.

[+ ApexNomad]

9 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Or, and here's a wild thought, you can just email and ask to get a direct, non-speculative answer.

Email? That is a wild thought.

[Hlparx]

When used on Hunqz, I understand it as top/versatile.  

[Simon Suraci]

On 2/7/2025 at 3:03 PM, ThroatCummer said:

I want them to be a bottom in their personal life.

What your escort does in his personal life:

1) is none of your business; although he may volunteer this info (or lie about it)

2) is unverifiable speculation

3) has no bearing on what he offers to his clients; it may align or not

4) has no bearing on his competence in delivering services; if he’s good he’s good

5) does not entitle you to put him in a box

6) does not make him inferior at providing the opposite role for work; he could be talented at both and maybe even genuinely enjoy both, but for any number of reasons tends to take on more of one role or the other for work

7) does not guarantee he will genuinely enjoy taking on the same role with YOU; a lot of times it’s about individual chemistry and connection, but at the end of the day he is providing a service aligned with client preferences whether your provider is genuinely enjoying it or not. 

8 ) might only be presented as part of playing into a client’s fantasy; i.e. I will only bottom (or top) for YOU, to make you feel special, worthy, valuable, hot, masculine, desirable, or validated in some way 

For all you know, your provider is presenting a persona, to appeal to an audience. Maybe he is more desirable to more people as a (fill in the blank), and so he lists that for marketing reasons. It could be a lie, a total facade for business purposes. Or perhaps a practical decision.

Also, versatile men exist.

Short of hiring a private investigator to follow him around for months and invade his privacy, how on earth would you verify he only tops or only bottoms in his personal life? Is it really that important to you that he live his life in a certain way to satisfy your fantasy lasting only for an hour or two (or overnight, or a week)?

Clients: suspend your disbelief. Better yet, stop caring so much. Ask your provider for what you want. If he can deliver on that, great. That’s all that matters!

As to the original question:

‘More top’ simply means he is more inclined to top with most other sexual partners, most of the time. This question assumes he is having anal sex in most of his encounters, but the dynamic applies to oral sex as well. Not all sex involves penetration either. Topic for another day.

A ‘more top’ guy recognizes that he is a human being with different moods and desires at different times. He also has a human body that is more or less willing/able to cooperate for different roles at different times. A simple binary label allows no room for deviation. I can’t tell you how many men identifying as total tops have switched roles after being with me. It happens. Binary identities are too limiting. We’re all on a spectrum.

A ‘more top’ guy enjoys bottoming under certain circumstances, at certain times, with certain people. Maybe that’s 10% of the time. Maybe that’s 0.001% of the time. Either way, he’s bottoming significantly less than 50% of the time, which in my mind makes him ‘mostly top’, or as some might say top/vers.

He might also bottom for work, upon request. I fall into this camp and I do not charge differently for it. Being mostly top doesn’t make me less qualified to bottom, worse at it, or my clients less satisfied. Nor does it take away from my mostly top identity. Clients love my ass and I get into servicing them in this way. More top just means I am usually the one topping and tend to enjoy that role the most. But at times I enjoy bottoming too, for work and for personal pleasure. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 2/7/2025 at 3:03 PM, ThroatCummer said:

But if I am going to top an escort, I want them to be a bottom in their personal life.

Some of the best bottoms I've been with are usually "tops" in their personal life, as straight or bisexual men married to women.

[BrickBuilder]

On 2/7/2025 at 5:57 PM, LookingAround said:

Means "more often a top."

And sometimes it just means they are marketing to the larger proportion of clients that tend to be bottoms.   There are quite a few providers that advertise as "Top/Vers" and "Top" but when asked will gladly bottom and not for added fees, and they have told me 'its a numbers thing, more guys want a top provider than a bottom one'.  And for some it is an ego / image thing...they want to be perceived as a dom top.  The hyper masculinity of "look at me and how chiseled I am and I beat my chest and will top you" just cracks me up.

A number of really great experiences have been when the advertised "top" kicked back, threw up his legs and let his power bottom out.   And not all of them required poppers to do it. 

It never hurts to ask...

[LookingAround]

1 hour ago, AtlTopGuy said:

And sometimes it just means they are marketing to the larger proportion of clients that tend to be bottoms.   There are quite a few providers that advertise as "Top/Vers" and "Top" but when asked will gladly bottom and not for added fees, and they have told me 'its a numbers thing, more guys want a top provider than a bottom one'.  And for some it is an ego / image thing...they want to be perceived as a dom top.  The hyper masculinity of "look at me and how chiseled I am and I beat my chest and will top you" just cracks me up.

A number of really great experiences have been when the advertised "top" kicked back, threw up his legs and let his power bottom out.   And not all of them required poppers to do it. 

It never hurts to ask...

True enough. 

[MscleLovr]

On 2/7/2025 at 1:35 PM, pubic_assistance said:

I've also run into providers who frustrated me……when I really viewed them sexually as a desirable bottom. More than once, when i teased the question……..answer was "for you", I'd bottom...with no discussion of extra fees.

Very much my experience too. I’m only a top, sometimes lazy and selfish, sometimes dominant, and always attracted to muscleboys.
I found that often in their adverts they’d state “top” or “versatile’ but when I enquired specifically as to whether ‘we'd be a good fit’, they readily agreed to bottom.
They sometimes mentioned needing extra time to get ready before meeting, but I never had someone ask for an extra fee. 

To the OP, I’d say that if you find someone attractive or their advert is appealing, just ask him. He might say No but he could suggest some other way to excite and please you.

 

Edited February 11 by MscleLovr

[MscleLovr]

11 hours ago, AtlTopGuy said:

really great experiences have been when the advertised "top"….threw up his legs and let his power bottom out.  And not….required poppers….

This made me smile.The only time I had to buy poppers was when I was dating a lovely muscleboy. He prided himself on his physique and masculinity and never referred outside the bedroom to his submissive nature. He had a bubble butt. It was the tightest ass and he would always push my cock out at first, so I just had to push it back in. Then we had the best ride, and poppers were a great help. 

[pubic_assistance]

4 hours ago, MscleLovr said:

He had a bubble butt. It was the tightest ass and he would always push my cock out at first, so I just had to push it back in. Then we had the best ride, and poppers were a great help. 

Sentences like this remind me how happy I am to NOT have a huge cock.

It would be a huge turn off to struggle so much to work my way in toward a good fuck. I particularly HATE that smell of "poppers". Having bottomed myself in my youth, I've often pondered why gay men so value an extra big cock, when it's such a struggle to ride a horse when a good size pony would do the trick. 🍆

[Oakman]

5 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

why gay men so value an extra big cock, when it's such a struggle to ride a horse when a good size pony would do the trick. 🍆

Cuz I wanna feel violated and consumed. I like being in a headspace where I’m holding on for dear life and my huge-dick top friend says “c’mon, you can take it.” 🥵

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 2/6/2025 at 11:18 PM, Dingdi said:

If a provider lists his position as “more top”, it seems to say bottoming is negotiable but you may pay more?

"More Top" can also mean "Less Bottom", if that helps

Edited February 11 by Vegas_Millennial

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

18 minutes ago, Oakman said:

Cuz I wanna feel violated and consumed. I like being in a headspace where I’m holding on for dear life and my huge-dick top friend says “c’mon, you can take it.” 🥵

You should use that for your wedding vows 💕 

[Mk27]

On 2/7/2025 at 11:18 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

Or, and here's a wild thought, you can just email and ask to get a direct, non-speculative answer.

Oh. No let’s fake a problem to get all my gays unput.   Much easier 

[big-n-tall]

To me it means that the guy prefers to top but isn't adverse to bottoming. What will get him to bottom... is up to the provider to tell you. You really need to talk to him and not speculate or ask the forum something only he could tell you.

The forum is a great tool, but it can't answer every question or speculation about a particular provider and his choices.

Edited February 11 by big-n-tall

[mike carey]

2 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

"More Top" can also mean "Less Bottom", if that helps

Thanks for this penetrating insight!