Seeing the same provider…years later. What’s your record?

[InterestingGuy]

I recently met up with a provider I first saw ever about 6 years ago.

For everyone here in these forums:

I’m curious…

1) What is the longest amount of time you’ve had between two meetings with the same provider? 

2) Was your latter experience with the provider better, the same or worse - and why?

[+ ApexNomad]

11 minutes ago, InterestingGuy said:

I recently met up with a provider I first saw ever about 6 years ago.

For everyone here in these forums:

I’m curious…

1) What is the longest amount of time you’ve had between two meetings with the same provider? 

2) Was your latter experience with the provider better, the same or worse - and why?

I’d have to dust off my archives 😂 but I think it was around 3-4 years. I’d say it was better. We were both older, with deeper, richer life experiences, which added a new dimension to the connection. Plus, the anticipation of rediscovering our bodies made it even more exciting. And there was a lot of joy of seeing a familiar face.

How about you? What was your experience like?

[InterestingGuy]

34 minutes ago, ApexNomad said:

I’d have to dust off my archives 😂 but I think it was around 3-4 years. I’d say it was better. We were both older, with deeper, richer life experiences, which added a new dimension to the connection. Plus, the anticipation of rediscovering our bodies made it even more exciting. And there was a lot of joy of seeing a familiar face.

How about you? What was your experience like?

My latest experience was great. He is now 32 and has added a lot of muscle. Amusing side note: He was complaining about how the twenty-something gay guys consider him “old” now that he’s in his thirties. Sadly, I hurt both of my eyes from rolling them so hard 

[big-n-tall]

A few guys I met about 14-15 years ago, I still see now.

...this is around the time I first started hiring.

I would say the time between the hirings of those guys ranges from a few months to a number of years. The most I think being about 4 years from the last time I hired a particular provider.

Edited January 14 by big-n-tall

[amused1]

I got together with a guy in 1998. He moved away for a few years and I lost track of him. He moved back to my area just after Covid hit to be closer to family and we got together in 2021. 
His body was still amazing and his bedroom skills were better than I remembered. We had a lot of fun. 

[TorontoDrew]

I was with a guy about 20 or so years ago.  He still advertises with the same pictures.  I haven't hired him again.

[soloyo215]

Interesting questions. I had to put some thought on this.

7 hours ago, InterestingGuy said:

1) What is the longest amount of time you’ve had between two meetings with the same provider?

Decades.

7 hours ago, InterestingGuy said:

2) Was your latter experience with the provider better, the same or worse - and why?

I'd say better in the sense that I didn't have to pay the second time. The interaction was as enjoyable as it was the first time (or at least as I remember it). He was a street hustler that I one brought home. At the time I didn't know that he charged, but the experience was good, I felt that he enjoyed the sex as much as I did. Decades later I saw him and we recognized each other. He told me that he "improved his life" and he was happy to just enjoy his body with people that he wanted (or something like that. I was more interested in having sex with him). He looked different but still very attractive. So we had great sex again. Never saw him again after.

 

 

[jmichaeliii]

I am newer at this, but I still see the guy I hired the first time almost 3 years ago.  I feel lucky that I selected a good guy considering I came at this with no saavy when it came to selection.  We see each other at least once, if not twice a month.

I honestly never tire of him.  Sweet guy, very sexy and kind of wild and gentle at the same time in bed.  There is a friendly bond between us where we talk about family, life events, etc.  When it is all said and done, I feel very comfortable when we are together.

[+ poolboy48220]

There was a guy I saw on & off from the early 90's until nearly 2009.  His ad (print ad in the back of the bar rags or the 'alternative newspaper', usually) would disappear then reappear, with different names sometime but some of the same phrasing. The last I heard from him, he contacted me right after I was laid off in the 2009 recession and I was in no position, financially, to hire; once I was employed again I tried to contact him but looks like he's permanently retired. 

[+ Pensant]

I have seen guys numerous times over a long stretch, but the gaps are usually less than a year. Two of my favorites only see me and a few others. That said, I’ll be in Vancouver later this week and will be having lunch with a former regular with whom I spent countless weekends from 2015 to 2017. We follow each other on Strava.

[CuriousByNature]

59 minutes ago, soloyo215 said:

Interesting questions. I had to put some thought on this.

Decades.

[amused1]

5 hours ago, amused1 said:

I got together with a guy in 1998. He moved away for a few years and I lost track of him. He moved back to my area just after Covid hit to be closer to family and we got together in 2021. 
His body was still amazing and his bedroom skills were better than I remembered. We had a lot of fun. 

I’ve been thinking about this and remembered another gap reconnect. Saw him in the late 90s and reconnected in the late 20-teens. Something he said in the first meet up stuck with me and when we reconnected I mentioned it to him. He gave me a long look and named the hotel where we met. I was shocked that he recalled a meeting that long ago. He joked that if we’d continued getting together back then we’d probably be married by now. Sadly, he’s already married at this point. 

[buckguy]

This isn’t very useful without mentioning names, at least for people you still see.

[BrickBuilder]

Because I had a career that had me traveling all over the country, sometimes commuting and other times just random short term assignments, I could not always do regular meetings.   I have always kept a pretty good "little black book" of the guys and cities.  If I found myself back in a particular city, I would look them up first on the web and then at times just an innocuous text asking if they were still in the business.    To make a long story short, it could be 2, 3, 4, 5, or even 6 years between meetings.   I won't be conceited and say they all remembered me vividly, but many of them had some recollection.   The best thing about it was the "No BS" to meeting.  They did not wonder if I was real or would ghost them.  We new basics.   So the second time was usually as good as the first.

Only a couple proved to be less than expected.   These few experiences have just reinforced that I still need to do some basic ground work around rates, stats, interests, etc.  But its a lot less complicated and can expand on the activities that you engage in.

 

[MikeBiDude]

3 hours ago, buckguy said:

This isn’t very useful without mentioning names, at least for people you still see.

I’m not sure names are necessary, to answer the question the OP presented to us?

[dcguy20]

I've been seeing a guy in NYC for a massage since 2008. Longest time between massages a few years (much less travel to NYC).  I last saw him 2 years ago. 

[mike carey]

1 hour ago, MikeBiDude said:

I’m not sure names are necessary, to answer the question the OP presented to us?

Agree, this thread is about the wonder, amazement, or perhaps disappointments of meeting someone after some years. It's not, and wasn't intended as a list of men who can relight a flame that had faded (or with whom you can). It's a flight of fancy, not a how to (or who to) guide.

[Walt]

On 1/14/2025 at 1:26 PM, buckguy said:

This isn’t very useful without mentioning names, at least for people you still see.

Sometimes it is "useful" to think about and discuss ideas and themes and memories without naming names.

[pubic_assistance]

I met up with a provider who I had hired originally about 8 years ago. He was a cute kid / very sweet and fun but admittedly a bit skinny for my tastes. I did however enjoy my time with him.

Found him again on Rent.men while I was working in Florida recently looking MUCH better now that he's put on a lot of muscle weight. Very very fit defined body and still with the original hot bubble butt that I enjoyed fucking so much the first time.

Still a sweet guy but the business does seem to have taken some of his youthful ambition out of him.

[Dr.KNYC]

I had occasion this past year to go back to two of the providers I’d really enjoyed in years past.  In one case, it was after maybe 3 or 4 years, with the other a much longer gap, maybe 8 or 9 years?  In both cases, the energy and seeming openness of the providers had shifted quite a bit.  They both remained fairly warm and had also remained quite attractive.  But though both had been much more interactive in the past - one of them even used to kiss me a lot and really made love with me - they were notably more subdued and proforma in their approaches to extras they seemed open to.  I felt bad, disappointed and even somehow ashamed.  I should say I’m now 61 y.o., and that’s a different life phase physically in lots of ways.  However, I think I’ve aged pretty well, am in decent shape, and feel I present myself overall better than I did when younger.  But with them (as opposed to with some newly met providers), it seemed like I had aged out.  On the other hand, each of these providers to whom I was a Prodigal Client had had a major health diagnosis in the intervening years and perhaps had been a bit shell shocked by that.  So maybe their approaches to all of their clients had changed?  I wanted to bring up in both cases that things were not feeling as they had, but I shied away from doing so.  

[+ DrownedBoy]

I can only think of twice where I hired someone I had hired long ago, and both times, the second visit sucked.

Probably because, in both cases, the escort was technically "retired" and there was nothing negative I could report about them.

[+ purplekow]

The very first escort I hired and then saw regularly moved away.  He was mostly a muscle worship guy.  I stayed in touch with him though he lived in FLorida and I lived up north.  Eventually he  came north and stayed with me for a bit but just as friends.  He returned to Florida and once again came north to visit.  This time, I hired him though I anticipated that the session would not be great.  My tastes and desires had expanded and his limitation were known to be even more limited.  The session was fine but nowhere near the heatedness of our initial meetings more than 15 years earlier.  

[+ Summerson]

I know this isn't the precise scenario you were asking about, but maybe it's close enough to share. When I was first living in NYC in the early '90's, I was hired to teach a workshop in Big Sur every summer. The second year I made the trip, my transportation from LAX to Big Sur broke down and I was stuck overnight at an LAX airport hotel. Bored out of my mind, I called an LA agency whose number I'd brought with me. They strongly recommended one of their guys, but I just wasn't convinced their first choice would be a good fit, so they wound up sending someone else. The meeting was fine, but I honestly can't even remember anything about the second guy. Fast forward to about eight or nine years ago when I moved to Los Angeles and attended my first April Palm Springs weekend where I was introduced to someone who turned out to be the agency's first recommendation for me that night. Haven't stopped kicking myself since and he's now on my list of top five men ever. I try not to make too many wrong decisions in life, but not meeting him years ago is definitely on the list. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

I still see a gentleman every month or two who I met on a date via Adam4Adam in 2012, and then starting seeing him for services in 2015.

[+ ApexNomad]

4 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

I still see a gentleman every month or two who I met on a date via Adam4Adam in 2012, and then starting seeing him for services in 2015.

That’s interesting—I’ve never considered seeing someone I used to date for services. Mind sharing how that dynamic works for you or came about?