Am I too old?

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1 hour ago, KensingtonHomo said:

you draw the line

1 hour ago, KensingtonHomo said:

 

No. The administration of the page draws the line. I am merely asking someone to respect it.

 

[+ Kevin Eagle]

I have clients in their 80s. I've even had someone who was in his (0s and he was till active

[marylander1940]

2 hours ago, Vin Marco said:

Barely a zygote in Palm Springs Charlie! 😂 🙌🏽 🫂 

Joking aside, I've been visiting/seeing folks in PS since I started and I lived there for 6-7 years and throughout that time I've seen and continue to see physiques on men who are well beyond 60 who look INCREDIBLE and SPECTACULAR. It's a constant reminder that age is just a number!  Those folks I speak of both inspire and motivate me, always have and still do! 
I see a RETIRED physician and microbiologist in the desert who didn't start lifting weights until his late 60's ( probably 68-69 no joke ) who's now in his mid to late 70's who leaves me speechless each time I see him.  I would consider him MUSCULAR and fit! I've seen the difference in his well being, the confidence , the drastic changes in his physique and that makes me VERY happy 😊 

I guess one more proof that you are what you eat and your lifestyle! It's never too late in life to do the right thing

[Vin Marco]

10 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

I guess one more proof that you are what you eat and your lifestyle! It's never too late in life to do the right thing

I've seen it too many times to think otherwise.  

[Redwine56]

On 12/9/2024 at 6:55 PM, marylander1940 said:

A lot of guys retire way before 65... I know folks who did it in their late 40's. 

I don't think you should overreact. 

We should all be so lucky to afford an early retirement!  You make an excellent point.  

[FaustOust]

On 12/10/2024 at 4:58 PM, purplekow said:

On 12/9/2024 at 6:31 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

I'm imagining your house looking like someone should be sitting shiva with all the mirrors covered.

Only mirrors are in the bathroom and I just use the eyes diverted down technique to avoid my image.  I did catch myself today on Zoom and diagnosed myself with Rosacea which puts me the select company of Bozo and Rudolp and of course Karl Malden.  

Don’t feel bad, @purplekow, rumour has it that @BenjaminNicholas is likely just surrounded by a lot more mirrors than most of us.

Edited December 12, 2024 by FaustOust

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

On 12/10/2024 at 3:58 PM, purplekow said:

Karl Malden.  

One of my favorite character actors. 

You're in good company  

[Km411]

On 12/10/2024 at 3:37 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

This subject brings to mind the familiar saying "You're only as old as you feel"

And as my dermatologist often reminds me: “It’s better than the alternative.”

[KrisParr]

Several years ago, I was seeing my “go to” masseur about every 3 weeks at his apartment. One time, I had arrived way too early and sent him a text to advise when to ring the bell.  He said to wait 10 minutes as his current client had just left. At that moment I saw this very handsome older gentleman leave the building and approached a car parked next to me. He smiled as I was walking past him. I wondered if … Sure enough, the gent was indeed “the” client. Turns out he was 84 and had been a regular for years. So I asked (hell, you would have, too) about his performance. My masseur laughed, and simply said, “oh, honey, you have no idea - he’s a walking poster boy for ED meds, and they work great.” I would have guessed him to be in his 60s at the most. 

[sydneyboy]

On 12/9/2024 at 5:35 PM, sydneyboy said:

In the rentboy saunas particularly Thermas in Barcelona the providers don’t see age as any problem. I’m well and truly over 60 and the providers in their early 20’s appear to have no issue with  a gent of my vintage.

Perhaps I should add that as a general observation other gents of my vintage don’t have any problems either.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 12/11/2024 at 6:08 AM, Simon Suraci said:

That said, I’ve learned not to ask “Are you retired?” and instead ask “What do you do?” It gives clients the opportunity to share that they are retired (or working) and gives me an opportunity to ask a follow up question like “How, then, do you like to spend your time?”

This 💯 

I met a man on a cruise who was retired in his late 40s.  When asked "What do you do?" he answered "I'm a man of leisure."

When I retire in my mid-40s, I'll have the phrase "I'm a stay at home single", or something else witty that causes the questioner to think. 

When asking a women if she's pregnant, instead say "Do you have any children?".  They most likely offer that they have one on the way, if that's the case.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

As others have said up thread, having a HWP (Huge White Penis) or BBC (Big Black Cock) helps meet new hookups, it shouldn't be a relevant factor in hiring an escort.

Edited December 13, 2024 by Vegas_Millennial

[rvwnsd]

25 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

This 💯 

I met a man on a cruise who was retired in his late 40s.  When asked "What do you do?" he answered "I'm a man of leisure."

When I retire in my mid-40s, I'll have the phrase "I'm a stay at home single", or something else witty that causes the questioner to think. 

When asking a women if she's pregnant, instead say "Do you have any children?".  They most likely offer that they have one on the way, if that's the case.

Sage advice. A colleague once asked another colleague when the baby was due. There was no baby to be due. 

AWKWARD!

[dbar123]

60 is not too old. I’m a decade beyond that and still have great experiences.

Serving suggestion: The elephant in the room is that most escorts on RM are pretty mediocre and it’s not you. You probably need to get better at picking better escorts. Reach out to members directly in your area for specific recommendations. I find that people here are incredibly helpful in sharing info

[+ Pensant]

On 12/9/2024 at 6:19 PM, Luv2play said:

I don’t intend to take this thread off topic and certainly not intended to be political but did y’all see pictures of RFKJr the other day shirt less and on a trapeze like contraption with another much younger man doing acrobatics? 
 

Just an astounding physique for a 60 something yo man. The guy does some serious gym routines. 

He’s 71.

[Redwine56]

On 12/12/2024 at 8:55 PM, rvwnsd said:

Sage advice. A colleague once asked another colleague when the baby was due. There was no baby to be due. 

AWKWARD!

Some women are just fat with a big gut!  Yes, I gather that would be very awkward.  

[+ KensingtonHomo]

7 hours ago, dbar123 said:

Serving suggestion: The elephant in the room is that most escorts on RM are pretty mediocre and it’s not you. You probably need to get better at picking better escorts. Reach out to members directly in your area for specific recommendations. I find that people here are incredibly helpful in sharing info

I'm not sure I'd say most escorts are "mediocre" but there's a large degree in variability. In my experience, the best escorts are those who have chosen it as their profession. Maybe they started off due to circumstance but at some point, they began to really enjoy their work. The care about their clients - not in a romantic way - but in the sense of wanting the experience to be top tier. They seem to really love sex or giving massage, so you never get the sense that they're phoning it in. My one caveat is that with very few exceptions, these guys will be in their 30s or older. I have met one or two guys in their 20s who had that vibe. 

 

[DGHou]

On 12/9/2024 at 5:53 PM, dcguy20 said:

I saw a provider earlier in the year, and as I was getting ready to leave he said, "so, are you retired?" (I had just turned 60).  I left feeling completely deflated, and don't respond to his texts when he let's me know he's in town. I didn't hire anyone for several months after that. 

I find your deflated feelings interesting.  There are a lot of people who are of "retirement age" who continue to work because they enjoy it or have no other choice financially.  There are also others younger than retirement age who have been able to retire early.  I am 65 and own a small family business with my 89 year old cousin. I grew up watching my dad and his brothers build the business. It is the oldest one in the nation in our industry, being around since 1891. We are very small now and don't make the money we used to but I enjoy it and have an emotional connection to it.  When someone younger, whether a provider or simply someone I have met, asks if I am retired I tell them no, even though I am old enough and can afford to, but that I enjoy what I do.  Besides who doesn't like the extra income when they're older?

[Vin Marco]

5 hours ago, DGHou said:

I find your deflated feelings interesting.  There are a lot of people who are of "retirement age" who continue to work because they enjoy it or have no other choice financially.  There are also others younger than retirement age who have been able to retire early.  I am 65 and own a small family business with my 89 year old cousin. I grew up watching my dad and his brothers build the business. It is the oldest one in the nation in our industry, being around since 1891. We are very small now and don't make the money we used to but I enjoy it and have an emotional connection to it.  When someone younger, whether a provider or simply someone I have met, asks if I am retired I tell them no, even though I am old enough and can afford to, but that I enjoy what I do.  Besides who doesn't like the extra income when they're older?

I LOVE what you just wrote! Thank you for sharing this wonderful story...  I can relate in that I know someone, a dear friend  I have in West Hollywood  " Turgidtoro" who I've been seeing since just about the day I started in the biz... my friend Zeb introduced me to him... he was born in 1949, he's an architect and a designer ( an extremely successful one ) and he is as busy with his work as the day I met him. He's no doubt of "retirement age" but like you, he has an emotional connection to his work,  enjoys ( loves ) what he does  and also the income that he brings in. I still see him regularly,  he's so funny, smart, witty,  pleasant and a real joy to be around.  

Edited December 23, 2024 by Vin Marco

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On 12/9/2024 at 6:53 PM, dcguy20 said:

he said, "so, are you retired?" (I had just turned 60).  I left feeling completely deflated

I have several friends who retired at 60. All of them in labor Unions.of one kind or the other. I think you may have a misconception about how retirement age works in the US. It varies from one career to another.

[DGHou]

6 hours ago, Vin Marco said:

I LOVE what you just wrote! Thank you for sharing this wonderful story...  I can relate in that I know someone, a dear friend  I have in West Hollywood  " Turgidtoro" who I've been seeing since just about the day I started in the biz... my friend Zeb introduced me to him... he was born in 1949, he's an architect and a designer ( an extremely successful one ) and he is as busy with his work as the day I met him. He's no doubt of "retirement age" but like you, he has an emotional connection to his work,  enjoys ( loves ) what he does  and also the income that he brings in. I still see him regularly,  he's so funny, smart, witty,  pleasant and a real joy to be around.  

Your friend and I have some common personality traits.  I have been told, and I must say I agree, that I am funny, smart, witty, pleasant and a joy to be around.  Maybe those are also some of the reasons some of the younger providers (as well as some of my younger platonic friends) enjoy people like your friend and me.  We aren't stodgy.  In fact a provider, 41 years my junior who I met almost 7 months ago, and I hit it off so well that we have been dating for the past 3 months.  He is not in the business at the present time.  I suspect he may meet up with a few Grindr guys on occasion.  And I am OK with that.  He is in his 20's after all and I'm sure wants sex more often than I.  But I also know that, at least for now, I am his #1.  I asked him why he likes this old man. He tells me I'm not old, that I have a good heart, that I am fun to be with and that I have a great sense of humor and a cute ass. I told him he is an older soul in a young man's body. He lovingly told me I am the opposite.  We had a good laugh at that and amazing sex right after.  I figure we are both enjoying time together and we don't overthink it.

[nomad]

Age is just a number.  Attitude isn't.  Live life the way you want to.  My best friend passed at 83 from terminal cancer.  I moved in with him and helped for the last 10 months of his life.  He had more than the means to have professional help around the clock but choose not.  He preferred having a friendly face to say good morning and good night to each day and night.  I'm 55.  He was meeting with one of his regular hires up until the two weeks of his life.  Chemo and other cancer fighting drugs be damn.  Popped a Viagra if he felt he needed a boost.  I always knew when he was having company because he would call and ask what time I would be home from work.  He would tell me how much he enjoyed the massage and play time over dinner.  We ate, drank and laugh at his exploits.  I held his hand as he took his last breath.  It was sad losing him but I knew he had lived the life he wanted and on his terms.  A couple of nights before as we sat talking because he couldn't sleep, he had told me to not feel sorry for him.  I never have in all my 30+ years of being his friend.  His life celebration had over 300 people attend.  Billionaires, politicians, famous artists and normal people like me.  Multiple people gave eulogies because he had so many circles of friends.  I wrote several versions for my eulogy to him, some personal bits and laughs.  I ended up not using those to not offend anyone.  He went out with a bang!  Hoping to be so lucky when my time comes.  

[+ purplekow]

On 12/9/2024 at 6:31 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

I'm imagining your house looking like someone should be sitting shiva with all the mirrors covered.

There are plenty of mirrors.  I have friends who need to check themselves out and I would not deprive them of the opportunity to validate themselves by looking in the mirror.  I on the other hand, validate myself by not looking in the mirror.  lol

[+ purplekow]

On 12/23/2024 at 10:12 AM, Vin Marco said:

I LOVE what you just wrote! Thank you for sharing this wonderful story...  I can relate in that I know someone, a dear friend  I have in West Hollywood  " Turgidtoro" who I've been seeing since just about the day I started in the biz... my friend Zeb introduced me to him... he was born in 1949, he's an architect and a designer ( an extremely successful one ) and he is as busy with his work as the day I met him. He's no doubt of "retirement age" but like you, he has an emotional connection to his work,  enjoys ( loves ) what he does  and also the income that he brings in. I still see him regularly,  he's so funny, smart, witty,  pleasant and a real joy to be around.  

You got some of my details wrong, probably to protect my privacy, but I could tell you were writing about me.  The real joy to be around part clinched it.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 12/9/2024 at 3:53 PM, dcguy20 said:

I saw a provider earlier in the year, and as I was getting ready to leave he said, "so, are you retired?" (I had just turned 60).  I left feeling completely deflated, and don't respond to his texts when he let's me know he's in town.

American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) membership begins at age 50.

Retirement used to be something to be proud of.  One should worry less about looking their age and worry more about why they aren't retired and enjoying their Golden Years.