Does it matter (if it matters at all) hiring a "nice guy"?

[marylander1940]

I would say it matters to me when it comes to hire him again, for instance I just can't stand attitude and ungratefulness. Obviously looks and interaction come first! 

[+ JamesB]

It plays a significant role in my decision to hire him again.

[jmichaeliii]

3 minutes ago, JamesB said:

It plays a significant role in my decision to hire him again.

100%

[+ sf westcoaster]

Absolutely it matters!

[NipLuvr212]

i totally agree that it matters, BUT --

i had a real situation this past week when i hired the nicest guy in the world (as far as I know), but the erotic experience just didn't happen.

what's worse, he sent me all these nice and complimentary texts, wants to get together, etc., etc. 

what is to be done?

[soloyo215]

2 hours ago, NipLuvr212 said:

i totally agree that it matters, BUT --

i had a real situation this past week when i hired the nicest guy in the world (as far as I know), but the erotic experience just didn't happen.

what's worse, he sent me all these nice and complimentary texts, wants to get together, etc., etc. 

what is to be done?

I agree with all that attitude matters, but I also know that being nice, friendly and even having good chemistry doesn't necessarily mean quality experience. Attitude is only one of several things that matter to me.

Edited August 17, 2024 by soloyo215

[Whippoorwill]

For me, attitude is key to maintaining the fantasy that not only do we have a hot sexual experience but that he actually wants to, for something other than the money. 

[Wolfer]

Super important to me. I want to feel welcome, wanted and appreciated.

[LostUpstate]

I once went for an erotic massage with a provider who had zero personality and it was impossible to have any type of conversation after, and I would never go back. Personality definitely counts. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

Yes. Even if I think a guy is physically attractive, if their ad or attitude sounds pompous or too willful, I just back off.

Besides, good actors are great at roleplaying.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

The ideal cornerstones are 'kind, intelligent and interesting'

What he can roleplay otherwise is what makes him a great escort.

Many escorts aren't cut out to be more than one-hour hires. 

[marylander1940]

I would certainly never enable an escort's drug habit. I'm not saying nice guys don't fall into that kind of lifestyle. 

[Decatur Guy]

I'm not necessarily looking for "nice," but I certainly want someone dependable about appointments, discreet about the arrangements and trustworthy no matter how animalistic the encounter might be. A "gentleman in the streets, a devil in the sheets" kind of situation.

And if "nice" and "friendly" and "outgoing" are part of that package, so much the better. 

Edited August 18, 2024 by Decatur Guy

[pubic_assistance]

I really prefer providers of sexual services to be "nice" in terms of easy to talk to and open minded, intuitive people who can go from nice to naughty when the clothes come off. 

I like extreme sexual fetishes but trust is important in this realm so I need to be with someone who I know is a good person behind the wild playtime.

[dbar123]

There is nothing worse than spending your money on an uninvolved provider. 

[acks0104]

I don't necessarily need nice, but I do need respectful and professional. 

[Redwine56]

On 8/17/2024 at 12:42 PM, NipLuvr212 said:

i totally agree that it matters, BUT --

i had a real situation this past week when i hired the nicest guy in the world (as far as I know), but the erotic experience just didn't happen.

what's worse, he sent me all these nice and complimentary texts, wants to get together, etc., etc. 

what is to be done?

It seems as if he was more into you than you were into him.  Although you left feeling that the encounter was not erotic, he may not have thought there was a problem.  I gather you didn't express that your expectations were not met.  His follow-up comments are seeking another meet-up.  You are the paying customer who will have to decide whether another encounter will be better than this one.  

[Frog]

Basic humanity like kindness, decency, discretion & respect are really important to me alongside physical attributes. 

For me, I like some kind of emotional & relational chemistry to be there to make the physical sparks really fly....

[BrickBuilder]

Personable is great and needed as well as discretion.  I also like someone that is willing to engage via text of call about interests, fetishes, limits, likes, dislikes.  While I am all about "me" in the situation, I have found that providers that will chat be open create a much better experience with a much better chance at having good chemistry.  We both tend to know what to expect on the first encounter and then can decide how future ones will proceed.    I like to be open about what things I like and what I definitely dont like.  Guys that spend a bit of time (more than "just tell me when and we can work out the details when we meet") are usually worth both the time and the cost.

 

[Seymour Butts]

I feel like I've reached a point where personality is more important than looks. I'd much much rather hire someone who ticks off only a few of my boxes physically but is friendly and engaged, than someone who ticks off all my physical boxes but is clearly thinking about me as a job. Physically there has to be at least a little something there that I like, but personality is the bigger sell to me.

The tricky thing is: how to assess their personality beforehand? Sometimes there are big red flags in the chat or in the profile text. Sometimes they link to a social medium where I can see what kinds of things they like to post. But otherwise...?

Edited September 24, 2024 by Seymour Butts
Reworded

[marylander1940]

32 minutes ago, Seymour Butts said:

I feel like I've reached a point where personality is more important than looks. I'd much much rather hire someone who ticks off only a few of my boxes physically but is friendly and engaged, than someone who ticks off all my physical boxes but is clearly thinking about me as a job. Physically there has to be at least a little something there that I like, but personality is the bigger sell to me.

The tricky thing is: how to assess their personality beforehand? Sometimes there are big red flags in the chat or in the profile text. Sometimes they link to a social medium where I can see what kinds of things they like to post. But otherwise...?

Agreed! Besides looks vanish/fade but personality remains! 

[+ Jamie21]

2 hours ago, Seymour Butts said:

I feel like I've reached a point where personality is more important than looks. I'd much much rather hire someone who ticks off only a few of my boxes physically but is friendly and engaged, than someone who ticks off all my physical boxes but is clearly thinking about me as a job. Physically there has to be at least a little something there that I like, but personality is the bigger sell to me.

The tricky thing is: how to assess their personality beforehand? Sometimes there are big red flags in the chat or in the profile text. Sometimes they link to a social medium where I can see what kinds of things they like to post. But otherwise...?

This I agree with. You’ve got to feel comfortable with the person, it’s fundamental to being able to enjoy the session. 

I have a website where I write about my work (no names!) and quite a few clients have said they booked me because they read the website and got an idea about what I’m like. So I think also look to see if he has a website or other media where you can get an idea about what your potential guy is like. Social media can also give you an idea but it tends to be very curated. 
 

 

[jmichaeliii]

I'll book somebody one time if I find them hot.  I'll book them over and over if they are nice and I enjoy their company.