Unwritten "roommate" rule?

[DWnyc]

On 4/15/2024 at 9:33 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

I take the opposite approach.  I tell all my escorts/masseurs/hookups to "close the door so my upstairs roommate won't be disturbed", even when I have no roommates in the house.  For my safety, I like having them think someone else is in the house.

I can spot that technique a mile off. I also use it frequently 😉

[+ APPLE1]

On 4/15/2024 at 8:33 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

For my safety, I like having them think someone else is in the house.

I guess I should count myself lucky, because I have never had a fear for my safety with a provider, or a trick. I understand that some may say I am simply naive.

I certainly am not diminishing anyone's concerns or actions in regard to safety. But I must say, walking into a situation unencumbered, with only personal gratification on my mind, is a beautiful thing!

Edited April 21 by APPLE1

[rvwnsd]

Yes, OP should have informed the provider that his roommate would be present. A simple "Oh, by the way, my roommate might be home. Don't worry, we are OK with each other having guests." is really all one has to say. No need to be explicit and emphatic. That said, the provider could have handled the situation more gracefully. 

14 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

I'm highly allergic to cats and dogs so I always ask if someone has a pet on the rare occasion I'm not hosting or going to a hotel to meet a provider. If someone ever shows up either as a client or provider to your place and you have a pet it's nice to mention it but it should be on them to ask if they are that allergic like I am. Never let them make it seem like your fault for not mentioning it.

I have two cats and ALWAYS tell providers about them 1) in case they are allergic and 2) in case small furry creatures darting out of the way might freak them out. 2) rarely happens because the minute an interloper comes into my place one goes under the sofa and the other goes into the closet. However, a guy who is becoming a regular did have an encounter with one of the boys that scared the begeebers out of him. He was about to take a shower and I was adjusting the water for him. Unknown to me, one of the cats was in the bathtub and ran out when I opened the curtain. In the cat's haste to leave he wrapped his tail around the guy's leg, which startled the guy. Turns out when the guy was a little kid he was fishing, and a snake wrapped itself around his leg. Ever since, he has been afraid of snakes. His first, admittedly irrational, reaction was to think the cat's tail was a snake. 

After the shower they made amends, and he ended up grabbing the stick toy and started playing with the cat.

[+ DrownedBoy]

16 hours ago, urbanfetish said:

Another time, the masseur informed me ahead of time that his landlord was in the house (he rented a bedroom) and he said he told the landlord that I was just a Grindr hook up, not a client

I and my regulars use that technique too in my condo building, passing them off as Grindr hookups. Gay or straight, they just nod and leave me alone.

Some of them actually are Grindr hookups; luckily, nobody has grilled me on the differences in appearance and age between the hookups and the hires.

[DWnyc]

On 4/20/2024 at 11:20 PM, APPLE1 said:

I guess I should count myself lucky, because I have never had a fear for my safety with a provider, or a trick. I understand that some may say I am simply naive.

I certainly am not diminishing anyone's concerns or actions in regard to safety. But I must say, walking into a situation unencumbered, with only personal gratification on my mind, is a beautiful thing!

More than once I’ve found a surprise guest. More than once I’ve had the offer they stay, for a fee. On two occasions I had reason to leave before the session was over and was nervous for more than a split second about being outnumbered in a situation I wouldn’t want the world to know about. 

[cany10011]

On 4/14/2024 at 11:56 AM, DrownedBoy said:

I had a provider who, right after coming in, suddenly started saying, "Is there anybody else here?" and opening the door to my bedroom, etc., that's off limits to providers.

Entitled little brat - I told him to stop immediately, and after that he's off my list forever.

Asking is one thing; intrusion is another.

I guess something happened in his past that has made him wary. One of my regulars (3 years) still refuses to drink any I offer him. I just take it as a quirk. I never push it again or ask him after the first year... even though it may be freezing cold or blazing hot. I just wanted to be hospitable.