Asking a client for a face pic.

[SirBillybob]

40 minutes ago, newdad said:

They're in the wrong business then. They're basically looking for Tinder matches and wanting to get paid at the same time. They can't have their cake and eat it too. Even Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman never asked for a face pic.

Absofuckinglutely!

[+ Pensant]

On 12/5/2023 at 10:59 PM, Vin_Marco said:

I don't know about others but I can gather A LOT of information about someone by a simple phone conversation. 

Bingo! I always ask for a phone conversation before meeting a new provider and we both agree that it was a wise thing to do. Better than a pic. Even early 20’s guys will agree to it.

[newdad]

On 12/17/2023 at 12:11 PM, arnemgreeves said:

It's an escort's right really to ask for a pic. Though of course more people coming means more money overall. And tbh, even if a client isn't dirty, smelly or rude, it might be a stretch to fuck them if they aren't ordinarily the type a person goes for. Most escorts are above average in looks, and generally hot people chose to date hot people (it's not absolute but it's very common and most do this). 

Yes, they do have a right to ask for a pic because there are no laws saying it is illegal. Same thing when someone asks for your salary; they can ask it because it's not an illegal question.

"generally hot people chose to date hot people" -- Yes, and as you pointed out: it's when they want to date. Escorting is hiring a sex provider, and is not about dating. It's a business transaction after all.

Nonetheless, Either party can withdraw from the business if they don't feel engaging with each other.

 

[StarQualityLuke]

Well... My take is, a security and safety... But I know some others just want "hot clients".. Asking for a pic to judge someone, no that is not fair, however for safety it's viable. 

 

 

[Gandalf]

If they're screening on looks, they should have the balls to just say so and describe in their ad who is good enough for them to fuck.  

[DWnyc]

On 12/17/2023 at 3:11 PM, arnemgreeves said:

It's an escort's right really to ask for a pic. Though of course more people coming means more money overall. And tbh, even if a client isn't dirty, smelly or rude, it might be a stretch to fuck them if they aren't ordinarily the type a person goes for. Most escorts are above average in looks, and generally hot people chose to date hot people (it's not absolute but it's very common and most do this). 

How can a provider tell if a client is “dirty, smelly or rude” from a picture?

 

[DWnyc]

20 minutes ago, Gandalf said:

If they're screening on looks, they should have the balls to just say so and describe in their ad who is good enough for them to fuck.  

They know that will make them look like an asshole to those who would make the cut for them on their criteria, but who are also good people. 

Have met several providers who say something like “open to all races / ages / body types etc” on their profile but have said to me (and I’m sure put in practice) that there’s no way they would engage with XYZ demographic … no different from people virtue signaling in online dating profiles saying similar things but in practice having clear boundaries based on such criteria. Which is fine hypocrisy aside  .. but … if you’re a provider, don’t expect the professional respect you say you crave if that’s the way you visibly operate based on documented behavior.

[Guest]

13 minutes ago, DWnyc said:

if you’re a provider, don’t expect the professional respect you say you crave if that’s the way you visibly operate based on documented behavior.

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[DWnyc]

On 12/18/2023 at 10:10 PM, StarQualityLuke said:

Well... My take is, a security and safety... But I know some others just want "hot clients".. Asking for a pic to judge someone, no that is not fair, however for safety it's viable. 

 

 

Are we saying we can tell if we will be safe with someone looking at their photo, or are we saying we need evidence in case of a future situation - or leverage for something more sinister? 

[StarQualityLuke]

10 hours ago, DWnyc said:

Are we saying we can tell if we will be safe with someone looking at their photo, or are we saying we need evidence in case of a future situation - or leverage for something more sinister? 

You are correct, you can't tell if they're gonna be safe or not seriously, some very good-looking people are dangerous, some very unattractive people can be dangerous. It's just a safety precaution seeing who's coming to your home. If you have a security detail in tow, then they know who is at your home. 

I certainly don't judge clients on their looks----- ever! That would not be fair, even though clients judge us on our looks, but that's ok, you're the one that's hiring.  But I do know I've talked to some other Masseurs and they say they only want buff and ripped gorgeous men on their table to me, I'm like good luck with that.  Everyone is entitled to a massage 😁 

 I don't know about other masseurs, what their idea behind  asking for a face picture is..... I have just heard so many terrible things about other therapists that don't do the job, etc.   

Edited December 21, 2023 by StarQualityLuke