Asking a client for a face pic.

[LookingAround]

20 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I don't understand the caution here. If you send a pic, what's going to happen? If it's a G-rated pic, there are likely several of you on social media that anyone could download or screen grab. A naughty masseur having one doesn't mean anything. Do you think they can prove you sent it? If so, who would care? 

If you're someone who avoids social media altogether, then I can understand it. But there are so many pictures of me on the Internet, I would say, "I guess they downloaded that from my Facebook profile," and move on... 

If I'm going to a provider's home (or hotel), I generally offer to send a face pic so they know who is showing up. 

As usual you are the voice of reason. Agree completely. 

[JMatt]

On 12/3/2023 at 2:49 PM, KensingtonHomo said:

I don't understand the caution here. If you send a pic, what's going to happen? If it's a G-rated pic, there are likely several of you on social media that anyone could download or screen grab. A naughty masseur having one doesn't mean anything. Do you think they can prove you sent it? If so, who would care? 

If you're someone who avoids social media altogether, then I can understand it. But there are so many pictures of me on the Internet, I would say, "I guess they downloaded that from my Facebook profile," and move on... 

If I'm going to a provider's home (or hotel), I generally offer to send a face pic so they know who is showing up. 

Why would a face pic be necessary?  I think they're not so much for identification or security purposes as they are for someone to screen out certain clients by looks or age.  Discretion is important to both masseur and client, so using a face pic to out someone isn't likely.  But if I'm being asked before the appointment is booked, then I wind up waiting to see if I made the cut.  

[Typical]

It’s for screening. I wouldn’t participate in that or help start a trend. 
 

Next. 

[+ glutes]

On 12/4/2023 at 9:01 AM, marylander1940 said:

Some masseurs and specially escorts want to make sure the client is HWP because they may not be able to perform with someone who isn't. I think if that's their approach they are in the wrong business. 

I've been asked for my height and weight, and have had no problems.

[acks0104]

On 12/4/2023 at 5:25 PM, JMatt said:

Why would a face pic be necessary?  I think they're not so much for identification or security purposes as they are for someone to screen out certain clients by looks or age.  Discretion is important to both masseur and client, so using a face pic to out someone isn't likely.  But if I'm being asked before the appointment is booked, then I wind up waiting to see if I made the cut.  

Honestly in that case, the masseur is doing clients a favor by letting them know that they're particular about who they want as clients and people can choose to move on. 

[marylander1940]

17 minutes ago, glutes said:

I've been asked for my height and weight, and have had no problems.

Me neither.

Unfortunately some potential clients described themselves inaccurately. "Average" is not what it used to mean as pointed by @pubic_assistance in some of his posts on the subject. 

[Guest]

On 12/4/2023 at 8:49 AM, NYCscort said:

Yeah, maybe I’m in the minority here, but this is crazy to me.  
 

One of the benefits of hiring is - or should be? - that you’re free of having to offer yourself up for evaluation and approval in order to have a sexually rewarding experience.  Isn’t that part of what you’re paying for?
 

And isn’t our #1 job skill an ability to find the actual sexiness in all men and reflect it back to them?  An escort asking for pics … I’d wonder if he has that skill at all.  

🏆 💯 

[Guest]

On 12/4/2023 at 8:49 AM, NYCscort said:

And isn’t our #1 job skill an ability to find the actual sexiness in all men and reflect it back to them?  An escort asking for pics … I’d wonder if he has that skill at all.  

Excellent excellent point... along with being able to perform with people of all shapes, sizes, looks  and colors with equal enthusiasm... ALSO to gain and maintain people's trust and ensure their privacy.  Asking for someone's photo prior to meeting is a bad business practice and it would turn off a lot of people ( maybe not everybody but most people ) I can see where an actual phone conversation would help ease any apprehension... I don't know about others but I can gather A LOT of information about someone by a simple phone conversation. 

[The Dude]

On 12/3/2023 at 2:49 PM, KensingtonHomo said:

I don't understand the caution here. If you send a pic, what's going to happen? If it's a G-rated pic, there are likely several of you on social media that anyone could download or screen grab. A naughty masseur having one doesn't mean anything. Do you think they can prove you sent it? If so, who would care? 

If you're someone who avoids social media altogether, then I can understand it. But there are so many pictures of me on the Internet, I would say, "I guess they downloaded that from my Facebook profile," and move on... 

If I'm going to a provider's home (or hotel), I generally offer to send a face pic so they know who is showing up. 

What if someone takes that G-rated picture, but adds a caption like "This guy hired me as a gay escort" for your family and friends to see?  Get the drift... ?

Edited December 6, 2023 by The Dude

[Jamie21]

No decent masseur should require a face pic. If he’s asking for one then it’s a sign he’s not going to be any good. Move on to a professional. 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

20 hours ago, The Dude said:

What if someone takes that G-rated picture, but adds a caption like "This guy hired me as a gay escort" for your family and friends to see?  Get the drift... ?

Why would he do that? Why do your friends and family believe him? Why not think he just grabbed your pic of LinkedIn?

[Typical]

9 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Why would he do that? Why do your friends and family believe him? Why not think he just grabbed your pic of LinkedIn?

Why not just avoid the situation and not send a photo?  Why put your photo in a text exchange? It all seems harmless and low risk until it isn’t. 

[d.anders]

Asking for a client photo is bad business, but with today's social media climate, where "everything belongs out in the open," no wonder too many guys (especially younger ones) think this is OK behavior.

There are some guys who want to use the photo to determine personal attraction. Let's not forget, some horny service providers are in the biz simply to satisfy their hornyness, and figure why not make money as well. They don't really care if they turn lots of guys away, as long as one or two hotties send pics. In their mind, the request weeds out the undesirable.

There is a well-reviewed massage guy on this board who asks for a photo. I'm surprised no one has mentioned it. He claims he asks for it because he wants to know whom to expect at his apartment's call box. His intercom has a camera. He says he feels safer buzzing someone in whom he recognizes and expects.

Regarding those who fear the worst, anyone in the service industry who is determined to hurt you isn't going to last very long. All it takes is one leaked hurtful episode, and the guy will need to find another career, another source of income. Some guys are crazy, for sure (never book with a known drug addict), but if you shoot the wallet that feeds you and pays your rent, then guess what, you might as well shoot yourself dead.

[Thelatin]

If I were a provider, I’d be more interested in what the other end of me looked like.  If you’re doing your job - you won’t be seeing much of my face….

[ICTJOCK]

I never ask for it,  I've had clients provide them  (once in a while).   It is nice,  but not required.  

He is seeking my service,  not my approval.

[+ nycman]

I’ve been asked a few times. 

Never had an escort refuse when I said "no".

As @Typical said, it’s not a problem…until it is. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

Someone in this forum suggested this, and I follow it.

They ask for a face pic, I sent them a shot of Grant's $50 portrait and tell then that's all they need.

[Alexphilly]

I don’t care about face pix it wouldn’t sway my decision I don’t discriminate on looks. Sometimes I get face pix on the first text and I for sure know it’s a flake wanting to get off and I’m 98% right. I just don’t like face pix at the beginning of a dialogue it’s bullshitty to me . 

[silken_mist]

On 12/3/2023 at 10:18 AM, JMatt said:

Generally, my response is "no, thank you."  And it's a deal breaker for me if it's a requirement. 

Exactly.... No Ty... I had one Ask me For A full body pic... 

[DWnyc]

Can’t believe people are throwing around accusations of paranoia when we are talking of a hobby that is in the US illegal and in most geographies riddled with stigma.

Most points I have on this have been made. I’ll just add that with AI and image recognition software easily available, a picture can enable anyone to gather all sorts of information on the subject in a matter of minutes or less. It’s highly likely the provider will have that by the end of the session anyway through understandable security measures. But regardless, if some are fine providing pictures let them, and let the providers insist on it let the self selection allow for us all - clients and providers - to stick within our comfort zones. 

 

 

[+ Balthazar]

Most masseurs who requested a pic/stats ghosted me upon receiving it, including no longer responding and not showing up to the appointment. At this point, if a masseur requests a pic, I just thank him for his time and move on. Although I don't send pics, I do describe my appearance to escorts. Ultimately, I wouldn't want to hire someone who found me so unappealing that they couldn't reasonably perform. Perhaps that's my way of framing potential rejection from providers positively. 

[DWnyc]

5 hours ago, Balthazar said:

Ultimately, I wouldn't want to hire someone who found me so unappealing that they couldn't reasonably perform.

You have the right attitude as in it would be a waste of money thrown at someone who doesn’t deserve it,  though it sucks that such providers compete alongside the more professional ones

For the providers who do actually request a pic for legitimate (to them) reasons I really don’t understand why they don’t get the sensitivity. 

And this also affects people on the older side, of different body types, physical abilities etc - totally sucks 

 

 

 

[Gandalf]

On 12/5/2023 at 10:52 PM, acks0104 said:

Honestly in that case, the masseur is doing clients a favor by letting them know that they're particular about who they want as clients and people can choose to move on. 

Then they should just put it out there in advance, on their listing.  If they're an -ist of some sort, own it.  In fairness, I have seen a few providers who do say things about weight or HWP or even age.  But not many.  

Edited December 10, 2023 by Gandalf

[viewing ownly]

In my wealth of experience in hiring, was "required" to send one for the first time. but I did, but reluctantly.  In the face, with a 10 being best, I'm about a 2 minus. My body is much better looking than my face. 

No matter. Today, I was cancelled on - I'm almost positive because it doesn't take much to be more attractive - in the face - than I am, and he had a client more appealing come along. I will never agree to send a face pic with a provider again. 

It's a year of learning lessons, as the first time I sent money in advance to a provider, he flaked. This appointment was over 4 hours away from me, one way. I threatened legal action, and received a reimbursement quickly to not have to do so (not including the gas to and from). 

[newdad]

On 12/3/2023 at 7:28 AM, fs12395 said:

 If a person cancels an appointment because I'm ugly...

They're in the wrong business then. They're basically looking for Tinder matches and wanting to get paid at the same time. They can't have their cake and eat it too. Even Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman never asked for a face pic.