Mailing a letter to a providers residence

[Guest]

11 minutes ago, Anthony said:

Nobody has provided a resolution. I'm being told to move on and let it go but there's literally no alternative given.  

That's funny how you mention if I stopped looking at their profile I might move on. Well almost exactly a year ago in December of 2022 is when I found the provider and messaged them only once via email and got no response so I did move on but now they are resurfacing again with new pictures coming from clients that meet with this provider which started up my drive again to hire this provider. When they ignored me this time around, I looked deeper into them and wanted to know why which is how I found the address and other info as well. Honestly, if the provider told me themselves they aren't interested, I would move on but I'm left on a cliffhanger. 

He owes you nothing mate! He doesn't need to justify his actions or lack there of. This is my last post and comment on this thread but please for your sanity and his privacy, move on. 

Edited October 29, 2023 by Vin_Marco

[cany10011]

Was it something in your initial email that might have turned him off? I know pays to be persistent; I met one of my best regulars by contacting him multiple times on his Adam profile as I really found him sexy. But, I didn’t hound him nor did I mail something to his home address.

Perhaps give him some time to respond to your email or texts. I’m sure he has a day job and has limited bandwidth to answer everyone (though I think it is rude not to respond). 

[NJF]

This reminds me the case of an obsessed admirer of a dancer who mysteriously found out the home address of the dancer and showed up uninvited several times. The dancer went to court and got a restraining order.

[EastbayMike]

3 hours ago, Anthony said:

I am insane

This is not going to end well.  I feel sorry for the escort in this situation. 

[Lazarus]

Have you considered sending him a singing telegram? 

[ICTJOCK]

I would discourage this kind of contact.    It would be easy to view it an intrusive.   A critic might observe that you are placing your desire to contact him above his need for privacy.   I'm not concurring with that sentiment,  but understand,  it isn't the normal approach to contact a provider and I certainly would encourage the "normal path".    If he doesn't respond,  I'd find someone who will.

[Xavitv]

Can we see a draft first?

 

jk don’t do it 

[SirBillybob]

Try intercepting the provider at the local post office you have in common, where he daily inquires about undelivered fan mail. 

Seriously though, I wonder if you mentioned your geographic proximity in your initial communication, and how convenient that is etc, thus rendering him hesitant.

Edited October 29, 2023 by SirBillybob

[LA90046]

1 hour ago, NJF said:

This reminds me the case of an obsessed admirer of a dancer who mysteriously found out the home address of the dancer and showed up uninvited several times. The dancer went to court and got a restraining order.

THIS.

I'm no lawyer but if the provider went the restraining order route, that letter might also be the evidence necessary for the police to charge you with solicitation.

[SirBillybob]

1 minute ago, LA90046 said:

… evidence necessary for the police to charge you with solicitation.

Good point. 

[big-n-tall]

If the guy isn’t responding to you, then there is reason for the non-response.

If he’s not responding to you and you mail him a letter... do you honestly think it will make think, “oh this guy is awesome.” If you do, you are, sad to say, delusional. Honestly, this letter you’d send him will either piss him off severely or make him fearful of meeting any new people in the future. It might even make him stop seeing his regulars entirely as he withdraws for safety.

So just don’t.

The only solution you are afforded is to watch his porn and pictures online… be satisfied with that. Enjoy him from afar.

There is a similar mention of someone being bothered that a guy (who still sees past known clients) but won’t respond to contact from new people, on another forum. That poster even mentions he being the only option not more than 50 miles away. I have a feeling who your obsession might be. If it is who I think it is, then I know the guy personally and he won’t like receiving unsolicited mails from you. If there was any small possibility he might see you in the future… mailing him will bring that down to absolute zero.

Be satisfied you can watch his porn/pictures online and leave it at that.

Edited October 29, 2023 by big-n-tall

[+ azdr0710]

It's taking all I got to not post clips of Kathy Bates in "Misery".   I'm your number one fan!  

[LA90046]

3 hours ago, Anthony said:

Honestly, if the provider told me themselves they aren't interested, I would move on but I'm left on a cliffhanger. 

Honestly, I do not believe you would move on because no reply is not a "cliffhanger," no reply *IS* a reply. 

Unequivocally. 

And I do not understand why so many men can not understand / accept this.  Both in a situation like this or on apps like Grindr and Scruff.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

3 hours ago, Anthony said:

I was thinking that the provider would see me as outgoing that I found their address and might be impressed by it thus, leading me to a worship session.  

If I was the provider that received such a letter I would think that I had a stalker problem and need to be concerned about my safety.  I likely would contact either police or my attorney and request a restraining order.   

Also, what happens with this guy when he doesn't respond to your letter?  Not knowing the provider, I suspect he is under 40 years old.  If he is like my nephews, the letter will never be opened.  If the letter doesn't have a return address from a known individual or company, it isn't opened.

[+ nycman]

4 hours ago, Anthony said:

Nobody has provided a resolution. I'm being told to move on and let it go but there's literally no alternative given.  

[+ Coolwave35]

4 hours ago, Anthony said:

I was thinking that the provider would see me as outgoing that I found their address and might be impressed by it thus, leading me to a worship session.  

I agree completely. He’s going to be totally turned on by your tenacity and online detective skills. You’ll probably become one of his favorite regulars. 
 

Many of us often see providers we haven’t met yet at the grocery store, gym, or out with their significant others. Those are the best times to approach providers because you can ask all your questions while they aren’t doing anything or busy. 
 

I don’t understand why everyone is unanimously telling you that this is a bad idea. I say go for it. 
 

There’s nothing creepy, weird or stalkery about your inquiry. 
 

😬😬😳😳. And here I thought a rainy NYC Sunday would be boring. 

Edited October 29, 2023 by Coolwave35

[NJF]

25 minutes ago, Coolwave35 said:

I agree completely. He’s going to be totally turned on by your tenacity and online detective skills. You’ll probably become one of his favorite regulars. 
 

Many of us often see providers we haven’t met yet at the grocery store, gym, or out with their significant others. Those are the best times to approach providers because you can ask all your questions while they aren’t doing anything or busy. 
 

I don’t understand why everyone is unanimously telling you that this is a bad idea. I say go for it. 
 

There’s nothing creepy, weird or stalkery about your inquiry. 
 

😬😬😳😳. And here I thought a rainy NYC Sunday would be boring. 

I am so tempted to second you but…

[LookingAround]

10 hours ago, Anthony said:

I am insane for him!

Herein is the problem. Your self-acknowledged insanity will come through in your response. Hence I believe you will come across in a different way than coolwave likely comes across when approaching guys. This may already explain why he hasn’t responded to your multiple approaches already by text, email etc.

Leave him alone before there’s REAL trouble. 

[BuffaloKyle]

I'm waiting for someone to pop out and scream April Fool's, maybe Halloween Fool's actually.

[LookingAround]

1 minute ago, BuffaloKyle said:

I'm waiting for someone to pop out and scream April Fool's, maybe Halloween Fool's actually.

I was thinking that too. Sounds a bit far fetched. 

[nate_sf]

1 hour ago, BuffaloKyle said:

I'm waiting for someone to pop out and scream April Fool's, maybe Halloween Fool's actually.

I too have been wondering if we’re all being played here. But having been on the receiving end of some stalking, I know it happens. 

[Marc in Calif]

1 hour ago, BuffaloKyle said:

I'm waiting for someone to pop out and scream April Fool's, maybe Halloween Fool's actually.

I think we're being gaslighted (gaslit? no!) by someone with way too much time on his hands on a Sunday. 😒

Edited October 29, 2023 by Marc in Calif

[Moke]

Dude- hopefully you haven’t gone the stalker route with your researched home address idea. If you truly think there was a “technical” snafu that is leading to him ignoring you on accident, I have a free idea. Get a new phone number and try ONE more time. Be chill and polite and not pushy. That’s it though. 
An idle thought btw- I wonder if you have a bad rep on MrNumber and maybe this provider saw that and thus decided not to respond to your texts??  That might be your answer too. 

[dbar123]

11 hours ago, Anthony said:

I was thinking that the provider would see me as outgoing that I found their address and might be impressed by it thus, leading me to a worship session.  

This is a delusion. Let it go and move on. There is no reality in which a provider who doesn’t want to deal with you will suddenly be impressed that you tracked him down. 
 

The best thing you can do is just get on with life and get over this before you get yourself hurt any further.

[viewing ownly]

Seeing that you're STILL obsessed about this guy, and don't like the entire universe telling you to put and end to your obsession about him, try this :

Change your contact information, and change your appearance. Most and vitally most important - DO. NOT. BRING. UP. TO. HIM. WHO. YOU. ARE. It's clear as freaking day on his end that he's done with you, and it's not any of your business why he's made that decision for himself. Respect it.

It would however be a much, much better idea to travel away from wherever you are - even if you happen to live on a remote Alaskan island - and see a provider who floats your boat who may look similar to him. A way to start anew. If this is not financially possible, use your hand on yourself. I do.