Mailing a letter to a providers residence

[Anthony]

There's a provider I'm interested in that doesn't respond to any emails or text messages or phone calls. I have the providers address and the only other way of communication is snail mail. Is it invasive to mail a letter to a provider? Should I mail the letter via USPS or drop it off at their mailbox myself? I'm highly considering it since I'm really interested in the guy and can't get in touch with him any of way. 

[Guest]

I'm gonna guess without knowing the history or context that's it's probably not a good idea to mail something to him... no response is a response and a very loud one at times. 

[natmas02]

This is absolutely insane lol no, don't send letters to people asking to hire them for escorting. Leave strangers alone if they are not communicating with you. 

[Anthony]

1 hour ago, Vin_Marco said:

I'm gonna guess without knowing the history or context that's it's probably not a good idea to mail something to him... no response is a response and a very loud one at times. 

1 hour ago, natmas02 said:

This is absolutely insane lol no, don't send letters to people asking to hire them for escorting. Leave strangers alone if they are not communicating with you. 

I am insane for him! The provider is meeting with other folks though. How would I know if there's a technical issue going on where he can't receive my emails and text messages? I wasn't going to ask him in the letter to hire him but just introduce myself and leave my contact info for further follow up 

[Yukon21]

Bad idea.  Let it go.  There are many other providers out there. There are no technical issues.  Youve tried text and email.  No response is actually his response.   Move on. 

[mike carey]

3 minutes ago, Anthony said:

I am insane for him! The provider is meeting with other folks though. How would I know if there's a technical issue going on where he can't receive my emails and text messages? I wasn't going to ask him in the letter to hire him but just introduce myself and leave my contact info for further follow up 

The chances that there are technical issues preventing him from receiving all three methods of communication from you are next to zero, so I would take the lack of a response as deliberate. Also, unless he gave you his street address 'finding' it and using it to contact him is tantamount to stalking, don't do it. Take the hint.

[+ Balthazar]

I highly recommend that you do not send this provider a letter. I have had many providers over the years not respond to messages for reasons unknown to me. It sucks, but it's something we have to learn to deal with. I would also recommend being careful with how many times you contact a provider. I would imagine that receiving multiple emails, texts, and calls from the same person within a relatively short period of time could be off-putting. You might be a great guy, but this provider doesn't know you. 

[Guest]

The ayes have it...  in my opinion to go against all the advice given would border an obsessive and stalking behavior. 

Edited October 29, 2023 by Vin_Marco

[RamPoundAss]

1 hour ago, Anthony said:

I am insane for him! The provider is meeting with other folks though. How would I know if there's a technical issue going on where he can't receive my emails and text messages? I wasn't going to ask him in the letter to hire him but just introduce myself and leave my contact info for further follow up 

There is a technical reason. It’s called he’s blocked yo ass. 

[blck37]

4 hours ago, Anthony said:

There's a provider I'm interested in that doesn't respond to any emails or text messages or phone calls. I have the providers address and the only other way of communication is snail mail. Is it invasive to mail a letter to a provider? Should I mail the letter via USPS or drop it off at their mailbox myself? I'm highly considering it since I'm really interested in the guy and can't get in touch with him any of way. 

Super curious how in the world you come to have knowledge of a stranger's (yes that provider is a stranger to you (and vice versa you to him) in this instance) resident or mailing address? Surely this info is not something one normally advertise on RM, OF or any other social media. Just based on this alone, your obsession is borderline illegal its called 'stalking'.....not a good look buddy.

I can understand the need to try to connect to a provider multiple times in case of whatever reasons but surely there is limit to that, norm would suggest 2 or 3 times via published means of communication. If no response, its just not meant to be, move on. I had just got ignored few hours ago by a provider in midst of setting up a session, i guess he got better offer....sent him 2 follow up/reminder texts, still got no response whilst his RM and his WA status show he is online....for me, that was clear response and signal that he is not interested with my business. Life go on, there are literally plethora other providers out there, one hotter than the other.

[pubic_assistance]

1 hour ago, Anthony said:

I am insane for him!

You are definitely insane if you're not reading his silence at this point and continuing to contact him. Let it go.

 

[+ nycman]

[Anthony]

1 hour ago, Yukon21 said:

Bad idea.  Let it go.  There are many other providers out there. There are no technical issues.  Youve tried text and email.  No response is actually his response.   Move on. 

He is actually the only provider in my area which is why I want to communicate with him so badly especially since I know he isn't hundreds of miles away. 

10 minutes ago, blck37 said:

Super curious how in the world you come to have knowledge of a stranger's (yes that provider is a stranger to you (and vice versa you to him) in this instance) resident or mailing address? Surely this info is not something one normally advertise on RM, OF or any other social media. Just based on this alone, your obsession is borderline illegal its called 'stalking'.....not a good look buddy.

I can understand the need to try to connect to a provider multiple times in case of whatever reasons but surely there is limit to that, norm would suggest 2 or 3 times via published means of communication. If no response, its just not meant to be, move on. I had just got ignored few hours ago by a provider in midst of setting up a session, i guess he got better offer....sent him 2 follow up/reminder texts, still got no response whilst his RM and his WA status show he is online....for me, that was clear response and signal that he is not interested with my business. Life go on, there are literally plethora other providers out there, one hotter than the other.

Just so know address is not private information and is accessible online. Heck even celebrities and pop stars addresses are online. I'm not trying to blow the providers ID but they were once a pornstar. There's literally no other providers in the area and I've been looking for a really long time so when I found the address and noticed they are conveniently  located not to far from me, I got really excited until they didn't respond to any of my messages/calls. 

41 minutes ago, Vin_Marco said:

The ayes have it...  in my opinion to go against all the advice given would boarder an obsessive and stalking behavior. 

Gosh, that's true. I am very obsessed with him! What can I do? 

[Guest]

2 minutes ago, Anthony said:

He is actually the only provider in my area which is why I want to communicate with him so badly especially since I know he isn't hundreds of miles away. 

Just so know address is not private information and is accessible online. Heck even celebrities and pop stars addresses are online. I'm not trying to blow the providers ID but they were once a pornstar. There's literally no other providers in the area and I've been looking for a really long time so when I found the address and noticed they are conveniently  located not to far from me, I got really excited until they didn't respond to any of my messages/calls. 

Gosh, that's true. I am very obsessed with him! What can I do? 

Unfortunately , that's outside my scope of practice.

[blck37]

2 minutes ago, Anthony said:

He is actually the only provider in my area which is why I want to communicate with him so badly especially since I know he isn't hundreds of miles away. 

Just so know address is not private information and is accessible online. Heck even celebrities and pop stars addresses are online. I'm not trying to blow the providers ID but they were once a pornstar. There's literally no other providers in the area and I've been looking for a really long time so when I found the address and noticed they are conveniently  located not to far from me, I got really excited until they didn't respond to any of my messages/calls. 

Gosh, that's true. I am very obsessed with him! What can I do? 

Oh yes thats why celeb or pop stars hire private securities.....my friend let me be very blunt you need therapy. This isnt some teen rom com movie/ novel. Wouldnt be funny if you end up with restraining order.

[Jim_n_NYC]

1 minute ago, Anthony said:

He is actually the only provider in my area which is why I want to communicate with him so badly especially since I know he isn't hundreds of miles away. 

Just so know address is not private information and is accessible online. Heck even celebrities and pop stars addresses are online. I'm not trying to blow the providers ID but they were once a pornstar. There's literally no other providers in the area and I've been looking for a really long time so when I found the address and noticed they are conveniently  located not to far from me, I got really excited until they didn't respond to any of my messages/calls. 

Gosh, that's true. I am very obsessed with him! What can I do? 

At a certain point contacting someone who doesn't want to be contacted becomes stalking.  Doesn't matter if their info is public.

Sounds like you need to be an adult and move on.

[Anthony]

Just now, blck37 said:

Oh yes thats why celeb or pop stars hire private securities.....my friend let me be very blunt you need therapy. This isnt some teen rom com movie/ novel. Wouldnt be funny if you end up with restraining order.

I need a provider and I am a bit addicted to the pornos he was in but I don't think this is the place to tell someone they need therapy when we are all trying to hire a provider for a deed that could be illegal itself depending on the laws in your area. 

[blck37]

Just now, Anthony said:

I need a provider and I am a bit addicted to the pornos he was in but I don't think this is the place to tell someone they need therapy when we are all trying to hire a provider for a deed that could be illegal itself depending on the laws in your area. 

I am not and will not critise your 'hiring' practice (as I am doing it myself) but i will call out your 'stalking' tendency. Its not the same, and if you cannot see it. I give up. No matter what other say, you will obv find reasons to justify your action.

[+ Balthazar]

6 minutes ago, Anthony said:

He is actually the only provider in my area which is why I want to communicate with him so badly especially since I know he isn't hundreds of miles away. 

Just so know address is not private information and is accessible online. Heck even celebrities and pop stars addresses are online. I'm not trying to blow the providers ID but they were once a pornstar. There's literally no other providers in the area and I've been looking for a really long time so when I found the address and noticed they are conveniently  located not to far from me, I got really excited until they didn't respond to any of my messages/calls. 

Gosh, that's true. I am very obsessed with him! What can I do? 

It's okay to be hurt and disappointment that this provider hasn't responded to you. It's okay to have thoughts about continuing to contact him. You can, however, control your behavior. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in meeting our wants and needs that we don't consider other people's perspectives. I'm glad you came here instead of sending the letter. If you stop contacting him and looking at his profile, these difficult thoughts and feelings will likely decrease over time. Unfortunately, due to the lack of providers in your area, you might have to travel to hire. I recognize that you're drawn to this guy, but remember, it's a fantasy. Allow yourself to move on.

[pubic_assistance]

11 minutes ago, Anthony said:

I am very obsessed with him! What can I do? 

We all have people who we desire and some who we have a chance to meet.  But this kind of obsession is unhealthy when that object of desire makes it clear they are not interested and you can't let go of the fact your opportunity has passed. Mourn the loss and move on with your life before the disappointment consumes more of your time than it's worth. 

[Anthony]

Just now, blck37 said:

I am not and will not critise your 'hiring' practice (as I am doing it myself) but i will call out your 'stalking' tendency. Its not the same, and if you cannot see it. I give up. No matter what other say, you will obv find reasons to justify your action.

Nobody has provided a resolution. I'm being told to move on and let it go but there's literally no alternative given.  

1 minute ago, Balthazar said:

It's okay to be hurt and disappointment that this provider hasn't responded to you. It's okay to have thoughts about continuing to contact him. You can, however, control your behavior. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in meeting our wants and needs that we don't consider other people's perspectives. I'm glad you came here instead of sending the letter. If you stop contacting him and looking at his profile, these difficult thoughts and feelings will likely decrease over time. Unfortunately, due to the lack of providers in your area, you might have to travel to hire. I recognize that you're drawn to this guy, but remember, it's a fantasy. Allow yourself to move on.

That's funny how you mention if I stopped looking at their profile I might move on. Well almost exactly a year ago in December of 2022 is when I found the provider and messaged them only once via email and got no response so I did move on but now they are resurfacing again with new pictures coming from clients that meet with this provider which started up my drive again to hire this provider. When they ignored me this time around, I looked deeper into them and wanted to know why which is how I found the address and other info as well. Honestly, if the provider told me themselves they aren't interested, I would move on but I'm left on a cliffhanger. 

[Anthony]

I was thinking that the provider would see me as outgoing that I found their address and might be impressed by it thus, leading me to a worship session.  

[soloyo215]

5 hours ago, Anthony said:

There's a provider I'm interested in that doesn't respond to any emails or text messages or phone calls. I have the providers address and the only other way of communication is snail mail. Is it invasive to mail a letter to a provider? Should I mail the letter via USPS or drop it off at their mailbox myself? I'm highly considering it since I'm really interested in the guy and can't get in touch with him any of way. 

Just my thoughts: that can be misconstrued as some (maybe mild, but still) form of stalking. I'd take something like that as you not getting the message of being ignored. I perfectly understand the concept of "highly considering it", but there should be a line between that and pursuing him after not showing any sign of interest. My rationale is that when anyone, not just a provider, does not answer my first two inquiries, the person is already aware and there's no need for me to insist. If I don't hear from that person, I just move on. There's no need for me to continue pursuing that person. I have been "followed up" in that manner, and that has caused me annoyance and anger, which has resulted in me replying in a less-than-respectful manner, ending in an usavory interaction. That is what I have done, and I know of others who have responed to that type of pursue in the same manner. That means that it's possible that not only you will not get what you want, but worse, you will be treated like garbage.

In other words, give the provider some time, if you don't hear from him, get the hint and move on. There are plenty of other providers in this world, and I'm sure that what he provides cannot be so unique that you only have to have him.

Edited October 29, 2023 by soloyo215

[+ BobPS]

1. DON’T DO IT!

2. SEE A COUNSELOR ASAP TO HELP YOU DEAL WITH YOUR OBSESSION!

[blck37]

2 minutes ago, Anthony said:

Nobody has provided a resolution. I'm being told to move on and let it go but there's literally no alternative given.  

That's funny how you mention if I stopped looking at their profile I might move on. Well almost exactly a year ago in December of 2022 is when I found the provider and messaged them only once via email and got no response so I did move on but now they are resurfacing again with new pictures coming from clients that meet with this provider which started up my drive again to hire this provider. When they ignored me this time around, I looked deeper into them and wanted to know why which is how I found the address and other info as well. Honestly, if the provider told me themselves they aren't interested, I would move on but I'm left on a cliffhanger. 

Let me say my piece one last time. Level me here, make me understand.

To my understanding, you and them are stranger to each other. Have no prior relationship. You have tried to establish multiple communications but ignored by them. Being ignored, you then dig out their home address with aim to mail them. Others voice their opinion that mailing private residence is one step too far, its a no go. Keep emailing, calling or texting them, after being plainly ignored, are also a no go. 

So what sort of resolution or alternative you looking for that fit your desire?

Being stranger, they have no obligations whatsoever towards you. They dont owe you closure or anything at all. You owe it to yourself to find peace with the circumstances you are in.