Age shaving? How much is too much and what's acceptable?

[marylander1940]

1 hour ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

Blocked by Peter Latz? Sorry, but that made Bozo chuckle.
Peter Latz has been lying about his age and height for decades. His RM ad still currently lists him at 38 years old (he's either 50 or 51). And he still claims to be 5'8". He's around 5'6".
He should be happy that people like you still want to view his ad.

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Bump!

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Thank you!

[Wings246]

Hypothetical questions:

Not that he's available, but if this famous Singaporean man, who is now 60, were to advertise himself as 30 (or maybe even 25), would you consider hiring him?  Would you feel scammed or cheated when he reveals his real age to you after opening the door?

[nomad]

Are you always honest and upfront about your age and other stats with dates (hired or otherwise)?  Providers seem to be eternally 29.  Is it 49 for clients to avoid the dreaded over the hill 50?  😂

[MikeBiDude]

9 minutes ago, nomad said:

Are you always honest and upfront about your age and other stats with dates (hired or otherwise)?  Providers seem to be eternally 29.  Is it 49 for clients to avoid the dreaded over the hill 50?  😂

I’m always 100% honest with age/stats with my providers, and also meets via social apps.

[maninsoma]

6 hours ago, Wings246 said:

Hypothetical questions:

Not that he's available, but if this famous Singaporean man, who is now 60, were to advertise himself as 30 (or maybe even 25), would you consider hiring him?  Would you feel scammed or cheated when he reveals his real age to you after opening the door?

Are you saying that all of those photos are recent, not edited/retouched, and that he's 60 years old?  If so, I've never seen anyone that well preserved at 60.

Edit: I just did reverse image search him and looked at the first page of Instagram photos (I cannot look at more because I no longer have an Instagram account).  On some photos his face looks older than in others, but I'd still peg him in the 40-50 age range, not 60.  To answer your question, yes, I'd feel scammed if I was expecting a man in his 20s and he opened the door because, while he looks very appealing, he does not look like a man in his 20s.  Would I go through with the appointment?  Yes, because he still looks great.  But someone who specifically wants a man under 30 shouldn't be put in an awkward position of having to confront a liar.  Which brings it back to the main point of this tread: Why not just be at least more or less honest about one's age and have people saying how great you look for your age rather than trying to kid everyone that you're 30 when you haven't seen that age for over two decades?

Edited Monday at 01:11 AM by maninsoma

[+ PhileasFogg]

I still don’t care about the stated age.  I buy the picture and the persona and not a number 

Edited Monday at 02:23 AM by PhileasFogg

[Wings246]

2 hours ago, nomad said:

Are you always honest and upfront about your age and other stats with dates (hired or otherwise)?

Yes, I'm totally honest and upfront about my info (age, stats, descriptions, etc).

[Wings246]

2 hours ago, maninsoma said:

Which brings it back to the main point of this tread: Why not just be at least more or less honest about one's age and have people saying how great you look for your age rather than trying to kid everyone that you're 30 when you haven't seen that age for over two decades?

I completely agree with you.  I am not an advocate for false advertising or misbranding either.  At the same time, I can care less about the reported age.  I suspect some providers choose a much younger age only because certain clients screen potential hires by the RM age filter function.  In my personal experiences (perhaps I'm just purely lucky), everyone I've met looks way better than their pictures and younger than their real ages.  I don't even remember how many time I've told them that "you don't look your age."  I keep telling them they need to hire a professional to somehow fix their profile pics to broaden their audiences.

[+ glutes]

I find it rather funny that clients find it acceptable to be lied to, for $350-$400/hour.

Age shaving is the first part of a providers deceit.

[nomad]

22 hours ago, Wings246 said:

I am not an advocate for false advertising or misbranding either.  At the same time, I can care less about the reported age. 

There has been a long prevalent bias in the gay community that 30 marks the end of youthful beauty and freedom.  If you don't believe this, do a search on RM and see how many ads have 29 as the listed age.  You're no longer young and care-free.  Not yet an OLD farts like those over 50, but no longer the spring chicken either.  Providers age shave because clients actively select in part on their age.  Anyone claiming they have never done this is living in a glass house.  We may shop with our eyes first, but I'm sure a good share glance at the age as one of the first things they review.  We're all human.  Denial doesn't make the reality of this go away.  

[mike carey]

3 minutes ago, nomad said:

If you don't believe this, do a search on RM and see how many ads have 29 as the listed age.  ...  Providers age shave because clients actively select in part on their age. 

This made me think a little more about 'age shaving' with 'select ... by age' being a key phrase. In a world where RM is where people search, age carries a more specific weight than it otherwise might. It provides a filter that will exclude people from a search. Posting 29 as an escort's age puts their ad in front of people. Many, perhaps most, will look at what they then see and that can say more than the number on the screen does.

It occurs to me that many '29 year olds' are not trying to deceive potential hirers, they are only trying to deceive the machine that would use the number to winnow them out. They know that their presence, either with their face or other attributes on the screen, or in person will do the work of attracting clients.

[Wings246]

3 hours ago, nomad said:

If you don't believe this, do a search on RM and see how many ads have 29 as the listed age.  You're no longer young and care-free.  Not yet an OLD farts like those over 50, but no longer the spring chicken either.  Providers age shave because clients actively select in part on their age.

I do believe you.  That's my observation as well.  The number of people on RM who lists their age as 29 is almost comical.  I also believe that seeking youthfulness is the ultimate goal of a significant majority of the clients.  However, I'm speaking for myself and myself  only: I am a statistical outlier.  I am not interested in that age group at all.  Instead, I set my filter to 35+.  And depending on my mood, I sometimes only zero in on those who are 40+.  So in a weird plot twist, you'll be filtered out by me if you are 40 but age-shave to 29.  Then again, I am fully cognizant that I belong to the super minority and I am probably NOT these providers' target audience anyway.

[Wings246]

On 5/31/2026 at 8:46 PM, glutes said:

I find it rather funny that clients find it acceptable to be lied to, for $350-$400/hour.

Age shaving is the first part of a providers deceit.

There is a fine line between lying/deceit and illusion/fantasy in this activity.  I may not be too lucid when considering this, but I feel that the providers are compensated to deliver a believable lie to me.  They are paid to pretend they enjoy my company.  I subjugate myself to a gullible state of mind to play out a fantasy scenario where someone who is attractive and desirable somehow finds me attractive and desirable.  In other words, I voluntarily engage in a game of deceit the very first moment I log on to RM.  For this reason, I am not too bothered by this age shaving phenomenon.

[Wolfer]

In the acting world, audition announcements often mention "playable age" as a requirement. Meaning, what age can the actor pass for, regardless of their actual chronological age.

Decades ago I used to work on the weekends in a grocery store. A colleague there was a 23 year old girl who didn't look a day over 16.

So for me the answer to the thread's question is that the provider can rightfully put the age on his profile that he can (realistically!!) pass for, not his actual age. We are paying for a fantasy, after all.

Edited Tuesday at 10:14 AM by Wolfer

[+ Pensant]

Most of the providers I meet are honest about their ages; however I’ve know a few “23 year-olds” who are 30. That said, I have a “private-stock” provider who turned 37 in January who could pass for 27 with his twinkish looks and lean muscle.

[jackcali]

On 5/31/2026 at 10:22 PM, PhileasFogg said:

I still don’t care about the stated age.  I buy the picture and the persona and not a number 

I think this is true within reason.  Pictures are two-dimensional and escorts are not.  I think you can tell much more about a man's age from his body than from his face.  A man can't avoid the changes to his metabolic and endocrine system that come from age.  Decreases in testosterone and DHEA production, decreases in lean muscle mass relative to size, increased visceral fat even in lean men, are all happening as an evolutionary matter.  Men can resist these changes and diminish their effect but can't eliminate them.  To focus on one element particular to this hobby, does any of you think your dick worked the same at 40 as at 20?  Not saying better or worse, but certainly different.  

And that's just the physical aspect.  I've never had a conversation with a 40yo that was anything like a conversation with a 20yo, and vice versa.   

While I don't care about a few years discrepancy (everyone lies about their age), I would be upset to hire an escort I thought was 20 who turned out to be 40, just as I would be upset hiring a 20 year old who I thought was 40.  In each case, I'm hiring a persona.  I don't want a deceptive depiction of that persona by a significant lie about the escort's age.   

Edited Tuesday at 01:16 PM by jackcali

[+ PhileasFogg]

1 hour ago, jackcali said:

does any of you think your dick worked the same at 40 as at 20

I understand your point - perhaps it is less relevant perhaps to me as a top.  For me, maturity, sobriety, and intellect are of primary importance.   I’d rather have a 30 something suggesting he’s younger but possessing those characteristics.

Case in point - there’s one provider who’s been roasted for age shaving here.    Last year we traveled together multiple times.    He looks CONSIDERABLY younger than he is. He always got carded when we were out.    But he also lacked maturity and intellect.  Not a good time for me regardless of his age persona.  

Edited Tuesday at 02:33 PM by PhileasFogg