Provider in Houston robbed me- what to do next

[+ glycine]

Hey there. So last night I had overnights with 2 guys, unrelated (didn’t know each other) we went to another place and at like 4am one of them disappeared. I found out later he took my keys, drove to my Airbnb and stole my wallet and 2 laptops
 

I have messaged and called and no answer yet. What should I do now ?  Help !

[BuffaloKyle]

You're gonna have to call the police. You're gonna have to explain how you met him and while yes hiring him for sex is illegal I truly think they won't care too much about that. Good luck, keep us updated.

[maninsoma]

As Kyle wrote, if you want to pursue it you have to contact police and give as much information as possible to explain how this person was in a position to take your keys, enter your rental, and steal your property.

Whether it's worth it is up to you to decide.  If it were me I'd probably chalk it up as a somewhat expensive life lesson since I don't have much faith that the police would put much effort into finding the guy and establishing proof that he stole stuff from you. 

[KeepItReal]

I am sorry this happened to you. You are going to have to report the theft to the police. It is necessary if you want to file a claim with your insurance company. You don't have to go into your "hiring" details, but will have to provide details that can help the police track him down. Like phone number and pictures. Do call your bank/credit card companies and notify them so they can check your accounts for unauthorized transactions and replace your cards.  If your computers are set up to "remote wipe" like mine are, initiate the wipe.  When you get new computers, change your login details for your accounts, in case the old credentials are saved in your browser on stolen computers. If he has your keys, you may need to change locks too since your wallet/ID probably has your address on it.  And post a link of the thief here so we know to avoid him.  Alternatively if he's been discussed here in a separate thread, leave a comment in the thread, something like "I met him. I do not recommend."  When I see that, I know something is up.  Good luck buddy!

[robberbaron4u]

Sadly, that which you have suffered is part and parcel of  the "business". The thief will rely upon being " immunized" against punishment by your hesitance to act upon the crime by reporting it to the police or your insurance company. If you do report it, and, you are not forthcoming in the "details" then you, too, commit a criminal act. Post their photographs to social media with appropriate commentary to the end of warning off potential victims of these boys. Then, bite the bullet.. 

[robberbaron4u]

5 hours ago, glycine said:

Hey there. So last night I had overnights with 2 guys, unrelated (didn’t know each other) we went to another place and at like 4am one of them disappeared. I found out later he took my keys, drove to my Airbnb and stole my wallet and 2 laptops
 

I have messaged and called and no answer yet. What should I do now ?  Help !

Although I realize it is not an option for everyone, a scenario such as this is why I insist upon a seated lunch interview before a first-time "hire". 

[coriolis888]

7 hours ago, robberbaron4u said:

Although I realize it is not an option for everyone, a scenario such as this is why I insist upon a seated lunch interview before a first-time "hire". 

Theft by providers happens more than most would realize or admit. 

Having lunch with a provider offers some form of comfort for the client but it does not offer any guarantee of safety. 

Embarrassment (family and friends) is usually the reason the theft goes unreported.  

Sad but true.  

 

[+ purplekow]

I would report it to the police.  Give them the information they need.  Would tell them we met on line and went out and at the club he disappeared and you figured out he stole your care, (grand theft auto) your lap top ands from your rented home(buglary).  I would give them alias, the phone number you called to reach him and tell them you were aware that he was a sex worker.  I would not offer nor would I ever admit to having paid him for any activity.  This will allow you to put in insurance claims.  And as this would likely be an easy arrest, the po9lice might follow up.  

I once went with an escort who was staying at my home as a base of operations for a week, to a local police department to report a bounced check.  The officer there came back to the bouncer's home and though he was not there, his elderly mother was.  She was horrified and made good on the check right on the spot.  One thing you can be sure about, if you do not report it, it will be a total loss and that he will do it again. Reporting it is the only way to recoup anything.  

[Asterisk]

14 hours ago, KeepItReal said:

Post a link of the thief here so we know to avoid him.  Alternatively if he's been discussed here in a separate thread, leave a comment in the thread, something like "I met him. I do not recommend."

Agree, please post link to the provider. The Deli is to discuss providers, including to warn hobbyists about bad news bears.

[+ The Big Guy]

I would report it.  If you still have a link to the provider the police will have more info than usual and may be able to find him.  

[Alfstoria]

5 hours ago, purplekow said:

I would report it to the police.  Give them the information they need.  Would tell them we met on line and went out and at the club he disappeared and you figured out he stole your care, (grand theft auto) your lap top ands from your rented home(buglary).  I would give them alias, the phone number you called to reach him and tell them you were aware that he was a sex worker.  I would not offer nor would I ever admit to having paid him for any activity.  This will allow you to put in insurance claims.  And as this would likely be an easy arrest, the po9lice might follow up.  

I once went with an escort who was staying at my home as a base of operations for a week, to a local police department to report a bounced check.  The officer there came back to the bouncer's home and though he was not there, his elderly mother was.  She was horrified and made good on the check right on the spot.  One thing you can be sure about, if you do not report it, it will be a total loss and that he will do it again. Reporting it is the only way to recoup anything.  

 

18 hours ago, glycine said:

Hey there. So last night I had overnights with 2 guys, unrelated (didn’t know each other) we went to another place and at like 4am one of them disappeared. I found out later he took my keys, drove to my Airbnb and stole my wallet and 2 laptops
 

I have messaged and called and no answer yet. What should I do now ?  Help !

Agree to the never admit the money exchange, and give too many details about the encounter. Don’t use the trigger words, like overnight is always a telling, remember less is more  

if he has the ⚽️ to take keys, wallet and  2 laptops. Is your word against a thief.

Good luck 

Edited August 19, 2023 by Alfstoria

[SouthOfTheBorder]

assuming you have pics & other ways for exact identification of the culprit - you have leverage.  Now, how you use it is another question.

I think with exact ID and description of theft, the police would act if they can locate him.

Seems it would be easier for provider to return the goods before it escalates with a warrant for arrest or similar.  
perhaps Im totally naive in the world of thieves 

Edited August 19, 2023 by SouthOfTheBorder

[NJF]

15 minutes ago, SouthOfTheBorder said:

assuming you have pics & other ways for exact identification of the culprit - you have leverage.  Now, how you use it is another question.

I think with exact ID and description of theft, the police would act if they can locate him.

Seems it would be easier for provider to return the goods before it escalates with a warrant for arrest or similar.  
perhaps Im totally naive in the world of thieves 

You probably are. One more arrest is nothing if someone has an extensive criminal records. 

Now the value of the lost property may determine how much priority the police will give to the case. 

[dbar123]

Sorry this happened to you.

It’s a good reminder to hide stuff when new providers come to call. A hotel safe always cones in handy

[SometimesBi]

If your overnight was an incall (or other location from yours), how'd he know where your B&B was? 

[robberbaron4u]

"OK"... with regard to reporting the matter to the police, keep in mind that, at the very least, you have aided and abetted a " crime", prostitution, and how the matter is handled will dependent upon whether or not you draw a police officer or detective who is "sympatico" to your plight.If you determine to report the theft, have an attorney-in-law in tow.

[jgoo]

12 minutes ago, robberbaron4u said:

"OK"... with regard to reporting the matter to the police, keep in mind that, at the very least, you have aided and abetted a " crime", prostitution, and how the matter is handled will dependent upon whether or not you draw a police officer or detective who is "sympatico" to your plight.If you determine to report the theft, have an attorney-in-law in tow.

I believe this is the first time someone mentioned having an attorney involved.  I think that is the best thing to do right now and find out all aspects of where you are at risk for reporting and what advice he may have for you to deal with this matter in a way that is in your best interest.  Good luck and also sorry you are having to go through this.

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

8 minutes ago, jgoo said:

I believe this is the first time someone mentioned having an attorney involved.  I think that is the best thing to do right now and find out all aspects of where you are at risk for reporting and what advice he may have for you to deal with this matter in a way that is in your best interest.  Good luck and also sorry you are having to go through this.

 

Good advice. In the meanwhile, you should somehow share the provider's link so we know what to do.

[Arthur Dent]

I'm not a lawyer, but think twice before calling the police if this was in Texas. If the police think someone paid for sex, that's now a felony on the first charge in Texas. New law that I believe is less than a year old.

[Guest]

3 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

Good advice. In the meanwhile, you should somehow share the provider's link so we know what to do.

💯 to prevent it from happening again. I'd also post a review on RM if he has a profile/ad on RM warning others.... 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited August 19, 2023 by V_Marco

[coriolis888]

19 minutes ago, Arthur Dent said:

I'm not a lawyer, but think twice before calling the police if this was in Texas. If the police think someone paid for sex, that's now a felony on the first charge in Texas. New law that I believe is less than a year old.

If you were charged with any type of prostitution charge in Texas before 2021, you most likely would be facing a misdemeanor charge at best.

However, that has now all been changed. This harsh new legislation, put into Texas law in 2021, now makes it a state jail felony offense that usually will carry jail time. If you, or any person, solicits another for paid sexual conduct, you will now face a state jail felony instead of a class B misdemeanor!

Texas became the first state in the union to make solicitation of prostitution a felony offense.  Traditionally, Texas police focused on the sellers of prostitution, but now these new laws and penalties are designed to target you as a buyer of sexual favors equally.

Historically, the buying of sex was never legal in Texas. Under both the old and new laws, it is the act of knowingly offering or agreeing to pay a fee to another person to engage in sexual conduct.

Sexual conduct in Texas is legally defined as “deviate sexual intercourse, sexual contact, and sexual intercourse.”

 

[coriolis888]

Getting the police involved and having them learn where and how you met (rentmen or similar), do not expect much sympathy from the police.   The nonsensical defense of "paying for time only" will not fly except with a moron.  The ads on rentmen are quite specific, especially ads with photos to contradict the paying for time allegation.   

It is unfortuneate that this happened to you but the situation could have been worse if violence had been involved. 

Were it I, I would drop the matter and consider myself lucky that the situation did not involved violence or worse.  

Edited August 20, 2023 by coriolis888

[marylander1940]

15 hours ago, coriolis888 said:

Theft by providers happens more than most would realize or admit. 

Having lunch with a provider offers some form of comfort for the client but it does not offer any guarantee of safety. 

Embarrassment (family and friends) is usually the reason the theft goes unreported.  

Sad but true.  

 

I strongly disagree!

If common sense is exercised before hiring and during the encounter theft doesn't happen! 

This ain't the first time some bring up this "fear" of worst possible scenario likely to occur! Is as if some would rather not be hiring just to avoid danger or outsmart potential criminals by staying home. 

Edited August 19, 2023 by marylander1940

[marylander1940]

4 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

Good advice. In the meanwhile, you should somehow share the provider's link so we know what to do.

Exactly! At least as a starting point... 

[+ nycman]

I’d take the hit. Chalk it up to a lesson learned. And move on.

At best the police will go through the motions, but not really do much.

At worst, they’ll have lots of questions for you…..

If the thought of doing nothing is burning a hole in your head,
by all means talk to an attorney before you do anything. 
I was in a similar, but different,  situation once when I was young. 
My father said, "Go talk to an attorney. Get it out of your system. Then move on."
For the record, the attorney’s advice was "you’ve got a smart father, move on’.

Edited August 20, 2023 by nycman