Have you ever done a freebie for a hot client

[Milo Janus]

Just curious if an escort as ever come across this when you see your client is as hot as you or more so that you pass on the fee and just go at it for fun.  

[Jamie21]

No. 

[+ nycman]

Work is work.

Somedays at work are easy. Somedays at work are hard.

It’s still work. 

[+ DynamicUno]

Imagine if someone suggested that providers  charge extra for ugly clients.... The whinging would go on for pages and pages.

 

[Alex.Blessings]

I have given free treatments several times under special circumstances such as their birthdays or moments when they really needed it, such as losing a loved one, irrespective of external appearances, so not only to “hot” ones, but also to those who are not generally considered “hot” on the outside even though they are extremely beautiful on the inside, and also to those who are very good looking on the inside and outside. One thing they have in common is that they are all beautiful on the inside. I have also met those who are very good looking on the outside but not so much on the inside, and such will not get free treatments, not even for special occasions. 
 

In all such cases, the reward to me was greater than money. I believe that it’s wise to give freely from time to time. The reward is joy instead of money and it’s worth it. 

I wish you all a happy holiday season and a very happy 2023! 
 

 

[maninsoma]

13 hours ago, Alex.Blessings said:

I have given free treatments several times under special circumstances such as their birthdays or moments when they really needed it, such as losing a loved one, irrespective of external appearances, so not only to “hot” ones, but also to those who are not generally considered “hot” on the outside even though they are extremely beautiful on the inside, and also to those who are very good looking on the inside and outside. One thing they have in common is that they are all beautiful on the inside. I have also met those who are very good looking on the outside but not so much on the inside, and such will not get free treatments, not even for special occasions. 
 

In all such cases, the reward to me was greater than money. I believe that it’s wise to give freely from time to time. The reward is joy instead of money and it’s worth it. 

I wish you all a happy holiday season and a very happy 2023! 
 

 

You sound like a real sweetheart.  Your post would definitely put you at the top of my list of "must hires" if I lived in the same area as you.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

No. 

But a smart escort still spends money to make money. 

Whether it be dinners, theater tickets, gifts, etc.  Showing someone consideration comes in many forms and in such a personal business, there are times when a simple thanks is not enough. 

[Storm4U]

No. 

Edited December 25, 2022 by Storm4U

[italianboyph]

No 

[+ ThroatCummer]

I've had a handful of escorts reach out to me on Rent.men, after me having viewed their profile -- and be all over me to get together. This isn't just the "Hi I noticed you viewed my profile. If you have any questions or would like to get together, let me know" type messages everyone gets, I am talking about the constant messages day or week after week, to the point of becoming a little annoying at times. Some of them are looking for business, yea, but others based on what they say or is in their profiles, I know I am their "type" in general, so they're looking for fun in many cases.

One I told where I would be that evening (at which bar out in their city) and they showed up and we wound up going home together no money involved since they chased after me. 

However, this is typically a turnoff. I enjoy the 'chase' aspect of a meetup just as much as the actual acts themselves, and don't really like someone being all over me. 

As a client, I would never engage someone unless I was ready to fully pay their offered and advertised rate for the time I need. No such thing as a free lunch on either side. There's *awalys* strings, lol. 

Edited December 26, 2022 by ThroatCummer

[superben]

As a client, I received discounts multiple times from escorts as well as erotic masseurs. I never meet with a provider unless they share recent face and body pics and I share my pics with them. The primary reason why I do this is to avoid any surprises, from both a provider's and a client's point of view. This is what usually happens: I send a text asking if the provider is available, if they are, I will ask what their hourly fees are. Then I will ask exactly what services are included in those fees and if we are on the same page, I will ask for recent face and body pics. If the provider sends their pics, I will reply with mine out of respect. 

At this point, the tone of the negotiation completely changes more often than not. I can tell that most providers become a lot warmer and less distant in their messages, to the point that some of them offer to meet for a lower price than they had originally said before seeing my pics. If the original price was $200, they would often be willing to meet for $140 or $150.

So the idea that providers are not willing to give a freebie or at least a discount to a hot guy is pure BS in my personal experience. And I'm not even hot, I'm just an athletic 45-year-old guy, 5'11, 176 lbs. I like to work out and keep in shape, but I don't have a six pack and never will. I can't even begin to imagine what kind of discounts and freebies I would get if I were a hot 35-year-old closet case - perhaps married with kids - who would find it much easier to contact and pay for escorts than getting caught looking for guys on a dating app or at a gay bar. Quite frankly, we all know that those clients do exist, probably many of them! No offense to anybody, but whoever thinks that for an escort there is no difference between sex with a hot 35-year-old and sex with an ugly 65-year-old is either delusional or completely out of touch with reality. We are all human and so are sex workers.

Another reason why I am saying this is that I know for a fact that a friend of mine, who is 17 years older and 50 pounds heavier than me, paid a higher fee when he hired some of the same escorts that I had previously met with. He sometimes paid $50 or $100 more.

 

[superben]

22 minutes ago, arnemgreeves said:

If an escort has profile where they state the price, i guess it's hard to undercut that or charge more. But then it's naive to say it doesn't happen. 

Thank you for keeping it real! Like you said, everything was too politically correct in this thread. 

In my personal experience, it happens quite often. There's an erotic masseur that I see on a regular basis in my hometown, I pay $140 for a 1-hour session. My older/heavier friend sees him on a regular basis too and he pays $200 for a 1-hour session.

A Brazilian escort was in our town for a week last summer, my friend met him for $300. I met him two days later for $200. Same service and very similar time-slot too. 

I could mention a few more examples with discrepancies in the prices that I am being charged compared to the prices that my friend is being charged, especially when it comes to escorts and masseurs that we both see on a regular basis. My friend doesn't mind though, as a matter of fact we often joke about it. 

 

Edited December 30, 2022 by superben

[Jamie21]

All the comments on here about getting reduced prices because you’re hot seem to be from guys who aren’t sex workers. That’s interesting, and I infer from it that they don’t really understand the nature of the work. I’d have made those same assumptions before I started doing it. 

I charge the same rate regardless of what he (or she) looks like. In fact, I don’t want to know what my client looks like until they walk through the door. It simply doesn’t matter. All the other sex workers I know are the same. 

It’s not being PC either. It’s simply having a rule never to discount. I get young guys contacting me asking for student discounts, or free sessions because they think I’d be attracted to them. The answer is ‘sorry no discounts’. Why? Because this is work. I’m not doing it for recreation, I’m not doing it for fun (even though I enjoy it) but I’m also not doing it for free. Free implies I don’t value my work, so why would I do that? 

 

 

 

 

[misterhumphries]

1 hour ago, Jamie21 said:

I charge the same rate regardless of what he (or she) looks like. In fact, I don’t want to know what my client looks like until they walk through the door. It simply doesn’t matter. All the other sex workers I know are the same. 

It’s not being PC either. It’s simply having a rule never to discount. I get young guys contacting me asking for student discounts, or free sessions because they think I’d be attracted to them. The answer is ‘sorry no discounts’. Why? Because this is work. I’m not doing it for recreation, I’m not doing it for fun (even though I enjoy it) but I’m also not doing it for free. Free implies I don’t value my work, so why would I do that? 

 

 

 

 

Hear hear! The equation for escorting is the escort is PAID for his time.  If you can't afford it, keep it moving. There's not a requirement that a client be "hot" or anything else. If an escort has those parameters, it would reduce his income considerably. I'd find this question about a discount to be insulting and time wasting, if I were an escort. If you want to have free sex because you're "hot" it's perfectly possible -- just don't expect an escort to stiff himself (no pun intended) on his set fee.
 

[superben]

2 hours ago, misterhumphries said:

Hear hear! The equation for escorting is the escort is PAID for his time.  If you can't afford it, keep it moving. There's not a requirement that a client be "hot" or anything else. If an escort has those parameters, it would reduce his income considerably. I'd find this question about a discount to be insulting and time wasting, if I were an escort. If you want to have free sex because you're "hot" it's perfectly possible -- just don't expect an escort to stiff himself (no pun intended) on his set fee.
 

I would take this post seriously if escorts actually provided their clients with a receipt or an invoice for monetary transactions at the end of each session and paid taxes on their income like everyone else does. 99% of escorts don't even disclose their real names LOL. So what kind of freakin' income are we talking about here?! To me the "income" that you are referring to is nothing but extra cash that an escort can make through a private, confidential and verbal agreement with another consenting adult, and it is an agreement that often requires a certain flexibility because it is not regulated by anything, it is exclusively based on some sort of honor system. If an escort feels insulted by a client's request for a discount or a different rate, then they should apply for a regular job at a Spa, a hotel or a massage center, where they don't have to worry about negotiating prices and all they have to do is massage their clients for $30 an hour plus taxes without even having to take off their shorts. How does that sound for a reality check? You can't expect to make between $200 and $300 an hour in cash with a job exclusively based on the honor system, not pay a single penny in taxes and think that you're not going to deal with situations during which you have to negotiate with your clients.

Many escorts that I had the pleasure to meet have always been very honest and actually humble enough to realize that. The ones that act as if their shit doesn't stink have always been a big no for me. Especially the ones that ramble about how professional they are or how valuable their time is, in my personal experience they have always proven to be the most unprofessional and awful providers.

Edited December 31, 2022 by superben

[Jamie21]

4 hours ago, superben said:

I would take this post seriously if escorts actually provided their clients with a receipt or an invoice for monetary transactions at the end of each session and paid taxes on their income like everyone else does. 99% of escorts don't even disclose their real names LOL. So what kind of freakin' income are we talking about here?! To me the "income" that you are referring to is nothing but extra cash that an escort can make through a private, confidential and verbal agreement with another consenting adult, and it is an agreement that often requires a certain flexibility because it is not regulated by anything, it is exclusively based on some sort of honor system. If an escort feels insulted by a client's request for a discount or a different rate, then they should apply for a regular job at a Spa, a hotel or a massage center, where they don't have to worry about negotiating prices and all they have to do is massage their clients for $30 an hour plus taxes without even having to take off their shorts. How does that sound for a reality check? You can't expect to make between $200 and $300 an hour in cash with a job exclusively based on the honor system, not pay a single penny in taxes and think that you're not going to deal with situations during which you have to negotiate with your clients.

Many escorts that I had the pleasure to meet have always been very honest and actually humble enough to realize that. The ones that act as if their shit doesn't stink have always been a big no for me. Especially the ones that ramble about how professional they are or how valuable their time is, in my personal experience they have always proven to be the most unprofessional and awful providers.

I’ve come across clients who like to get a discount. I think it’s because they enjoy the feeling of getting something that others don’t, a kind of ego boost. They can tell themselves it was because they’re hot or are cleverer than the sex worker. But it’s also my prerogative to decline a discount. After all, I assume the client doesn’t choose to do his work for less than his rate does he? “Hi boss, I’ll work today for 20% less because you’re a hot employer”. No, that doesn’t happen does it. 

Also, the assumption that because someone doesn’t discount they don’t pay taxes on their income is a false equivalence. In fact I’d say it’s more likely they are punctilious about such things if they are treating the job professionally. Receipts are offered (clients pay by card, it’s easy, I just press a button on my card reader and it sends a receipt). Most don’t want one surprisingly enough lol. 
 

[Hlparx]

7 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I’ve come across clients who like to get a discount. I think it’s because they enjoy the feeling of getting something that others don’t, a kind of ego boost. They can tell themselves it was because they’re hot or are cleverer than the sex worker. 

I think this is correct.  I’ll also add that “discounts for hot” are a myth that certain sex workers encourage as a sales tactic.  I’ve seen ads in the past where the worker suggests that there’ll be a discount for hot, a certain body type, or hung, but given that the worker doesn’t have a listed rate, a client has no way of telling whether he’s getting a discount!

Also, given the number of guys on Rentmen I who also have Grindr or Scruff profiles for recreational use, I doubt that there’s much motivation to discount for a “hot client” when there’s ready access to whatever they consider “hot” at their fingertips.

[Jamie21]

1 hour ago, arnemgreeves said:

I'm not doubting you at all. You would know better for self-evident reasons. I'm merely saying that offering freebies to hot clients must happen sometime, even if it's infrequent. 

Everything happens sometimes! 
 

[56harrisond]

16 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

It’s simply having a rule never to discount. I get young guys contacting me asking for student discounts, or free sessions because they think I’d be attracted to them. The answer is ‘sorry no discounts’. Why? Because this is work. I’m not doing it for recreation, I’m not doing it for fun (even though I enjoy it) but I’m also not doing it for free. Free implies I don’t value my work, so why would I do that? 

When was the last time you asked for and received a discount at your barber, mechanic, or dentist? Umm never. Sex work isn't any different. There shouldn't be a presumption a discount will be offered. If a discount is offered then I guess it's a client's lucky day.

[superben]

29 minutes ago, 56harrisond said:

When was the last time you asked for and received a discount at your barber, mechanic, or dentist? Umm never. Sex work isn't any different. There shouldn't be a presumption a discount will be offered. If a discount is offered then I guess it's a client's lucky day.

Sex work isn't any different?! What kind of pipe are you smoking from? Sex work is illegal in most countries, just sayin'

[56harrisond]

12 minutes ago, superben said:

Sex work isn't any different?! What kind of pipe are you smoking from? Sex work is illegal in most countries, just sayin'

In the context of this conversation about freebies, the legality of the work isn't relevant. 

[Jamie21]

24 minutes ago, superben said:

Sex work isn't any different?! What kind of pipe are you smoking from? Sex work is illegal in most countries, just sayin'

Not here it isn’t. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

4 hours ago, 56harrisond said:

When was the last time you asked for and received a discount at your barber, mechanic, or dentist? Umm never. Sex work isn't any different. There shouldn't be a presumption a discount will be offered. If a discount is offered then I guess it's a client's lucky day.

I dont know about you, but if I pay my plumber, etc., in cash, I always get a discount. 

[+ WestGuy]

My operating principle is that the provider is entitled to ask what he wants and the client is entitled to accept that or not. I see two guys regularly and our relationships are of 6+ years duration. One established his price and I always pay that and never haggle or ask for a discount. He is scrupulously honest, one time telling me that I inadvertently overpaid him by $20 so to deduct that from the next time. Another time I dropped some bills on the floor and he texted me afterwards telling me he found the money and would return it when I saw  him next. The other guy has refused payment in the past and told me he doesn’t really care if or how much I pay him. I always try to treat him very fairly though out of my respect for him and the connection we have established. I don’t know what either of these guys charges others and I don’t really focus on that. 

[GTMike]

2 minutes ago, WestGuy said:

My operating principle is that the provider is entitled to ask what he wants and the client is entitled to accept that or not. I see two guys regularly and our relationships are of 6+ years duration. One established his price and I always pay that and never haggle or ask for a discount. He is scrupulously honest, one time telling me that I inadvertently overpaid him by $20 so to deduct that from the next time. Another time I dropped some bills on the floor and he texted me afterwards telling me he found the money and would return it when I saw  him next. The other guy has refused payment in the past and told me he doesn’t really care if or how much I pay him. I always try to treat him very fairly though out of my respect for him and the connection we have established. I don’t know what either of these guys charges others and I don’t really focus on that. 

Applauding that you and your provider's have situations that seem to be authentic and mutually beneficial and agreeable. Healthy relationships.