Can Older Men Still Have Quality Experiences?

[myophile]

On 6/12/2022 at 2:43 PM, shawshini said:

I figured at 43 I was in that population! 

Oh please — YOU’RE A CHILD! 🤣

[Penn7]

This is nice to see, as someone who’s, ahem, over 29.

[+ bashful]

On 6/16/2022 at 9:57 AM, TorontoDrew said:

I am reaching my late 50s and will only see guys 30 and up.  My last two experiences with younger weren't great.  They obviously weren't attracted to me and just wanted to get me off as soon as possible so I'd leave.

Or not put much effort into the experience.

 

[myophile]

I started hiring guys about five years ago to jump-start my sex life after major surgery, and a looooong period of abstinence. Aside from a few bumpy sessions at first — inexperience on my part, the occasional douche-y provider — the journey so far has been incredible: mind-blowing sexual encounters with the sweetest, smartest and most attractive men on the planet, some of whom I am lucky to count as friends, as well as providers. Age and a few lingering infirmities aside, I am, at age 63, having the best sex of my life so far. 

Edited June 18, 2022 by myophile

[+ Charlie]

When I was very young (teens and early 20s), I was usually attracted to older men (up to about 50). I started hiring when I was in my mid-30s, and generally preferred escorts around my own age. By the time I was 60, escorts my own age were pretty hard to find, and I haven't noticed anyone near my age now (and I probably wouldn't want them if they were available--I'm gay, not a gerontophile). If I were still hiring, I would probably be most comfortable with a mature escort or masseur, i.e., someone in the 45-60 range. Young guys are attractive to look at and even talk to, but I wouldn't be interested in having sex with them, and I suspect they would feel the same about me, although I hope they would be nice about it.

[Jamie21]

2 hours ago, Charlie said:

When I was very young (teens and early 20s), I was usually attracted to older men (up to about 50). I started hiring when I was in my mid-30s, and generally preferred escorts around my own age. By the time I was 60, escorts my own age were pretty hard to find, and I haven't noticed anyone near my age now (and I probably wouldn't want them if they were available--I'm gay, not a gerontophile). If I were still hiring, I would probably be most comfortable with a mature escort or masseur, i.e., someone in the 45-60 range. Young guys are attractive to look at and even talk to, but I wouldn't be interested in having sex with them, and I suspect they would feel the same about me, although I hope they would be nice about it.

This is not unusual I find. Older guys (I’m talking 45 +) find an attraction to other guys of similar age. It’s less to do with physical attraction (although that’s still important and relevant) but what comes into play for guys at age 45+ is a kind of companionship. They appreciate holding hands, cuddling, intimate touch etc. all things that can feature in a sensual massage. There isn’t a compulsion or pressure to have sex although there’s usually a happy ending for the client. I think it’s because more mature guys are no longer feeling a need to compete with other guys and they realise that cooperation is mutually beneficial which drives the feelings for intimacy with guys of a similar age. 

[thickornotatall]

I Am very attracted to French Daddy XXL...He is probably late 40s..50s...His videos show him making love..not just sex..SO HOT...a huge fat cock..vascular arms..full head of gray hair..handsome...

[Luv2play]

At 75 I sometimes feel I am in the homestretch in this hobby of hiring providers. At least for the purpose of full service escort experiences. Being doing it for over 35 years and still enjoy a thorough workout, what some of my guys call a "good connection".

If things carry on health wise and my energy levels keep up, I may slowly transition to more of the erotic massage services. I tried it this last weekend but it didn't work so I signalled in mid stream that I wanted to get fucked.😜 Which he was happy to oblige and I left a happy camper.

[+ DrownedBoy]

6 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

Must say i've never known of an escort who actively turned somebody down for being too old. There are a quite a few younger/twink guys who say on their profiles they want older guys. 

 

Only because older men tend to be more generous.

[+ Charlie]

A straight escort who is willing to have sex with men is probably not too concerned with how old the client is, unless he is worried that the client might have physical problems or even expire during the session.

[jtwalker]

I suspect you need to let go of the idea that you are undesirable.  Fat, skinny, old, young, short, tall… there is someone for everyone.

Even on Grindr you’ll come across younger guys that are looking for 50’s and 60’s or very large guys.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  While societal norms make it seem like 25, tan, tall, with abs is the ideal… I don’t care for facial hair which is also in right now.

Don’t fall into the trap of believing that only guys that are x get laid.

In fact, I invite you to play a game with me.  While you are walking around, keep track of how many guys you’re attracted to.  For me, it’s like a 1:10 ratio.  However, most of them are regularly getting laid by someone who is attracted to them.

We need to let go of the notion that you have to be perfect to find any sort of love.  

Edited December 3, 2022 by jtwalker

[sfhairyman415]

As an older client, really enjoyed this discussion. 

[+ purplekow]

As a client who is not getting any younger, I appreciate that there are providers who like to drink fine wine right from the old spigot.  AS to the age differences, the old joke has the older client saying that he is not worried about death during sex, if the provider dies, he dies.  

On 12/3/2022 at 2:55 PM, jtwalker said:

I suspect you need to let go of the idea that you are undesirable.  Fat, skinny, old, young, short, tall… there is someone for everyone.

Even on Grindr you’ll come across younger guys that are looking for 50’s and 60’s or very large guys.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  While societal norms make it seem like 25, tan, tall, with abs is the ideal… I don’t care for facial hair which is also in right now.

Don’t fall into the trap of believing that only guys that are x get laid.

In fact, I invite you to play a game with me.  While you are walking around, keep track of how many guys you’re attracted to.  For me, it’s like a 1:10 ratio.  However, most of them are regularly getting laid by someone who is attracted to them.

We need to let go of the notion that you have to be perfect to find any sort of love.  

I play a variation of this game while walking around in NYC.  For each  man that passs by me,  I try to find something I find attractive about them before the next next man comes along,  While some are easier than others, for most men, it is quite easy to find an alluring quality. It is just a matter of looking for what makes them perfect not imperfect.  

Edited October 24, 2023 by purplekow

[marylander1940]

Hell yeah! 

 

[Simon Suraci]

On 10/24/2023 at 4:39 PM, purplekow said:

I try to find something I find attractive about them before the next next man comes along,  While some are easier than others, for most men, it is quite easy to find an alluring quality. It is just a matter of looking for what makes them perfect not imperfect.

I take the same approach with clients…to find that special something - physical or otherwise - that makes them attractive, interesting, and engaging. That helps me engage well with a wide variety of clients. For most people, it’s not that hard. It just takes a positive and professional approach.

[+ DrownedBoy]

On 12/3/2022 at 1:55 PM, jtwalker said:

Even on Grindr you’ll come across younger guys that are looking for 50’s and 60’s or very large guys.

Yeah and once the chat is long enough, they bring up money.