Luv2play Posted May 27, 2022 Share Posted May 27, 2022 My view as a bottom is that escorts and tops in general, whether escorts or clients, should always supply their own condoms and while it is nice if they have their own lube, the client should always have his own as well since he is going to be on the receiving end and lube is always appreciated by him for comfort and a painless experience, barring exceptional size which no lube may alleviate much. Wolfer 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ BenjaminNicholas Posted May 28, 2022 Share Posted May 28, 2022 Bottom line, you want to guarantee beyond a shadow of a doubt condoms being used? Bring them yourself. We're not all seasoned pros. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice... Learn a lesson and bring your own fucking condoms. + nycman, + FrankR, thomas and 1 other 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted May 28, 2022 Share Posted May 28, 2022 32 minutes ago, MikeThomas said: Probably a bit of topic… Just flew British Airways Club Europe. What a joke. Coach seating (3 and 3) with the middle seat blocked. No extra leg room. Awful. They did manage food and drinks between LHR and AMS. I flew BA business a few years ago. 2 - 3 - 2. To give the middle seat passenger his food, they had to reach over me after I had to lower the privacy screen. I avoid BA as much as possible. Beware of the fine print… AA xxx operated by British Airways. I’ll keep this on topic. I got condoms supplied by BA in my complimentary night bag on a Business class flight to from LHR to JFK….or was that just the cute cabin crew guy hitting on me? 😉 + Vegas_Millennial, thomas, + jrhoutex and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ BenjaminNicholas Posted May 28, 2022 Share Posted May 28, 2022 6 hours ago, Jamie21 said: I’ll keep this on topic. I got condoms supplied by BA in my complimentary night bag on a Business class flight to from LHR to JFK….or was that just the cute cabin crew guy hitting on me? 😉 Oh, you didn't know that BA now stands for 'Banging Ass?' + FrankR, Hlparx, Luv2play and 6 others 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike carey Posted May 29, 2022 Share Posted May 29, 2022 15 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said: Oh, you didn't know that BA now stands for 'Banging Ass?' That's as may be, is it enough reason to fly with them? + FrankR and + BenjaminNicholas 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wolfer Posted May 29, 2022 Author Share Posted May 29, 2022 On 5/27/2022 at 2:45 PM, Kevin Slater said: By all means, keep placing the responsibility for your health upon others, despite this having not worked thrice in the past. Kevin Slater You're confusing posters. The three times did not happen to me. What happened to me was that they had condoms but no lube. Since then I always try to bring my own lube and condoms. To me it's akin to a masseur saying he didn't bring massage oil and asking the client if he has some. I still think it's not unreasonable to expect a professional who is being paid a premium fee to have the tools on hand to deliver the services he's hired for. On 5/27/2022 at 10:43 PM, jtwalker said: Should he bring his own condoms? Yes! I think this applies to both clients and escorts. Basically if you're gonna be topping, bring your own condoms if you want to make sure they are a good fit. On 5/27/2022 at 10:43 PM, jtwalker said: Lube, on the other hand, is something escorts really ought to have on hand (quite literally in some cases, LOL). I once planned a session with an escort a few hours in advance. In those hours, the escort had found the time to go out for lunch and shop for a new fan for his bedroom, but not to buy lube. Which he told me when the session was well underway. 🤷♂️ jtwalker 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wolfer Posted May 29, 2022 Author Share Posted May 29, 2022 On 5/28/2022 at 8:13 AM, BenjaminNicholas said: Fool me twice... Learn a lesson and bring your own fucking condoms. Sure and I try. Except that sometimes stress, excitement and anxiety get the better of me and I still forget even if I had them lying by the door to grab when I go out because I'm not a paid professional who does this for a living. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ BenjaminNicholas Posted May 29, 2022 Share Posted May 29, 2022 (edited) 10 hours ago, Wolfer said: Sure and I try. Except that sometimes stress, excitement and anxiety get the better of me and I still forget even if I had them lying by the door to grab when I go out because I'm not a paid professional who does this for a living. I get it. And I said what I said before with lighthearted comic relief. However, personal responsibility for your health has zero to do with specifically being a sex worker or not. Edited May 29, 2022 by BenjaminNicholas Wolfer, marylander1940 and thomas 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LookingAround Posted May 31, 2022 Share Posted May 31, 2022 I feel like there’s “real life” then there’s this message board. It’s 2022. In real life 99% of gay guys are on prep and bb. They don’t use condoms. At least Grindr hookups. On this message board, one gets the impression the ‘norm’ is condom use. That simply isn’t the case among the majority of gay men 20-45. They are on prep and bb. + BenjaminNicholas, Wolfer, + Vegas_Millennial and 1 other 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted May 31, 2022 Share Posted May 31, 2022 On 5/29/2022 at 4:44 PM, BenjaminNicholas said: I get it. And I said what I said before with lighthearted comic relief. However, personal responsibility for your health has zero to do with specifically being a sex worker or not. Agreed! Make it happen and bring the lubricant you prefer! + WilliamM 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted May 31, 2022 Share Posted May 31, 2022 5 hours ago, LookingAround said: I feel like there’s “real life” then there’s this message board. It’s 2022. In real life 99% of gay guys are on prep and bb. They don’t use condoms. At least Grindr hookups. On this message board, one gets the impression the ‘norm’ is condom use. That simply isn’t the case among the majority of gay men 20-45. They are on prep and bb. Good point! Unfortunately when it comes to BB there's still some slut shaming going on in the community but not precisely in this thread yet. Some folks have aknowledged they want escorts to BB with them but not with others... LookingAround and + Vegas_Millennial 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maninsoma Posted June 1, 2022 Share Posted June 1, 2022 12 hours ago, LookingAround said: I feel like there’s “real life” then there’s this message board. It’s 2022. In real life 99% of gay guys are on prep and bb. They don’t use condoms. At least Grindr hookups. On this message board, one gets the impression the ‘norm’ is condom use. That simply isn’t the case among the majority of gay men 20-45. They are on prep and bb. Do you have a source for that data other than your hunch or belief based on men you have had sex with? I am asking because I couldn't find anything recent with respect to prep use among sexually active gay men, and the most recent data I could find (which is about five years old) indicated around half of white men who have sex with men were on prep but far, far fewer men of color were. I'd frankly be surprised if it's anywhere near 99% since no health initiative reaches that level of success. We couldn't even reach that level of compliance with occasional mask wearing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LookingAround Posted June 1, 2022 Share Posted June 1, 2022 I’ll amend it to “99% of the gay guys with whom I come into contact are on prep and bb.” Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted June 7, 2022 Share Posted June 7, 2022 On 5/25/2022 at 3:48 AM, Wolfer said: I've been noticing more and more that escorts will bareback on their online videos (often self-produced) and with their personal hookups but only use condoms with clients. I find this puzzling. Not judging, just curious. For the filming I could understand that since they're all supposed to be professionals, they are getting regular health checks. But hookups don't necessarily. An escort I know has an ad that says "safe only" and a BB video on it... a client contacted him and later on cancelled saying " I didn't know you BB... I just don't hire guys who do. Consider the appointment cancelled". For a few months I was skeptical about PrEP but later on after talking to friends and my Doctor I decided to jump in. TorontoDrew 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GregWillingAble Posted September 9, 2022 Share Posted September 9, 2022 Condoms are the initial assumption with all my bookings, but I am open to bareback requests from clients - but only following a sincere and honest conversation about our sexual health practises first. I am routinely checked very often at my clinic with a full screening and am on PrEP, which is as much about protecting myself as it is them. However, I will still charge a considerable premium for bareback (whether I am top or bottom). That premium definitely forces them to take the principle of bareback seriously and consider their own behaviour rather than judge mine. In my 6 years of sex work, this approach has worked very well and there has never been an issue. Without sounding preachy... "Safe sex" is as much about clear conversation as it is condoms. A premium charge for bareback is just a logical insurance policy for everyone. + Vegas_Millennial 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted September 9, 2022 Share Posted September 9, 2022 4 hours ago, GregWillingAble said: Condoms are the initial assumption with all my bookings, but I am open to bareback requests from clients - but only following a sincere and honest conversation about our sexual health practises first. I am routinely checked very often at my clinic with a full screening and am on PrEP, which is as much about protecting myself as it is them. However, I will still charge a considerable premium for bareback (whether I am top or bottom). That premium definitely forces them to take the principle of bareback seriously and consider their own behaviour rather than judge mine. In my 6 years of sex work, this approach has worked very well and there has never been an issue. Without sounding preachy... "Safe sex" is as much about clear conversation as it is condoms. A premium charge for bareback is just a logical insurance policy for everyone. I agree clear conversation is important. So is regular testing. I’m on prep and I prefer not to use condoms (to top or to bottom) but I think it’s just a personal choice. If a client wants to use a condom that’s fine too. GregWillingAble and + Vegas_Millennial 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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