Offensive Comments

[Coconut]

Has a client ever said anything that offended you? If so, what was it?

[+ FrankR]

“I think I’ll take a picture of your penis and enlarge it.”

[Coconut]

46 minutes ago, FrankR said:

“I think I’ll take a picture of your penis and enlarge it.”

A client actually said that to you?

[John]

ago

“I think I’ll take a picture of your penis and enlarge it.”

Smack Her!!

[+ Jamie21]

It’s impossible to offend me. To be offended you have to take offence and I choose not to accept the offence. It’s their problem not mine. 

Occasionally clients are impolite (things like avoiding eye contact) but that’s probably anxiety or feeling bad about themselves. It doesn’t bother me, in fact it’s a fun challenge to then help them be less anxious and inhibited. 

[Rod Hagen]

On 1/28/2022 at 1:14 AM, Jamie21 said:

Occasionally clients are impolite (things like avoiding eye contact) but that’s probably anxiety or feeling bad about themselves. It doesn’t bother me, in fact it’s a fun challenge to then help them be less anxious and inhibited. 

That's a good thing for escorts to remember:   If a client seems defensive or resistant to intimacy, it could simply be manifestations of anxiety. 

[Rod Hagen]

Well this thread went nowhere.  Sorry Coconut!

[+ JEC]

Client here, on one of my early hires I used the term prostitute and immediately realized my error and apologized profusely.  The escort was unfazed and said they weren't bothered by it.   Like asking a woman if she's pregnant....you never do that more than once!

[+ Jamie21]

13 hours ago, JEC said:

Client here, on one of my early hires I used the term prostitute and immediately realized my error and apologized profusely.  The escort was unfazed and said they weren't bothered by it.   Like asking a woman if she's pregnant....you never do that more than once!

It wouldn’t bother me either. One of my clients replied, when I asked him how he’d like to pay “oh, cash…it’s always cash only for my dealer, my cleaner and my hooker!”. I was glad to be in such exalted company.

I did remind him however that I take credit cards (in fact you just slide the card between the cheeks of my bum…no…I do have a proper card reader but I think a bum card reader would be a wonderful thing wouldn’t it?). He’s a regular client so I guess he feels comfortable to joke like that, I’m glad. Although I prefer the term sex worker because that’s how I describe the job. 

[italianboyph]

I’ve had “clients” straight up message me and tell me to shave everything and to hit the gym harder to get a six pack, that way I’ll get hired more often. I had another guy today messaging me to tell me to shave my beard cause men shouldn’t have those germ traps on their face. 😂😂

Edited February 14, 2022 by italianboyph

[+ DrownedBoy]

As a client, I'm always polite, even when escorts get agitated.

One of these days, though, I wanted to make a list of all the mean things I've thought but would never dare say...

[+ Jamie21]

I’ve had a client who was very conflicted. He said some really quite derogatory things about people doing sex work, and he implied that I was only doing what I do because I had no other work choice and that I secretly hated myself.

Told him I chose to do it, I had a university degree, was well qualified and I was 100% comfortable with myself….except of course I wanted abs and an extra inch on my cock, although that would make it 9 inches and perhaps I was being greedy. He laughed and said oh I was talking about others generally, not you. But of course I knew he had meant me. 

 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

On 11/16/2022 at 2:38 PM, arnemgreeves said:

as a client, i haven't said anything really that bad. i don't really have many prejudices. 

though i once bitched about a boss i had. she wasn't even that bad to be fair, she was competent and fair. but then she was smoking hot, and i dislike smoking hot women since they're often a bad piece of work. so i told the guy i visited this. he looked a bit shocked, and asked me why. i just said due to experience. i saw him a few times after that, and i think i must have made a mark, since he told me "my sister models and she's gorgeous and nice". I replied "OK..." and that's that. he probably thought "harsh cunt" but i didn't care. i only saw him a few times, since i was in his city for a work training event, so whatever. 

But i'm not a racist, sexist, homophobe, transphobe, ableist, or any other major prejudice, so i've never uttered anything about any other group to a provider. I mainly talk about vanilla stuff to escorts, mainly since they're strangers/acquaintances and i have no real right to say deep stuff to them. 

Honestly, I've known a lot of women. Most of my close friends are women. Some of them are gorgeous, some are plain, etc. And if you spoke about this dislike of "smoking hot women" in front of me, I would be utterly turned off by it. Sure, some women (and hell of a lot of men) who know they are beautiful abuse it and look down on others, but I don't think it's the majority. And, assuming based on your limited experience of a subset of women, that all or ever most women considered conventionally "smoking hot" is just dressed-up misogyny. 

[garetheast]

I would never make am offensive comment to a provider, and wouldn’t expect providers to tolerate it. Maybe I’m crazy, but I’ve always thought that respect and courtesy are extremely sexy. 

[pubic_assistance]

On 11/30/2022 at 3:30 AM, arnemgreeves said:

I wonder what his motivations for seeing escorts is. Seems just to see people “ beneath him

Some people have a hard time accepting that beautiful people have advantages over the rest of the population. They are bitter about this reality and find ways to put down attractive peoole so they can pretend to feel better about themselves for a minute.

[pubic_assistance]

"Hot" is always relative.

I witness guys on this forum going crazy over someone who I wouldn't fuck if HE paid ME.

Of course my points were speculation. I wasn't submitting a research paper.  I was taking a stab in the dark. Just saying that good looking people already feel superior to everyone so there's no reason to actively talk down to a sex worker. Meanwhile an ugly person can be intimidated by an escorts good looks and use an outdated social perspective to try and put them in a place below his own social status as "that ugly guy".  Sadly that is not uncommon.

[pubic_assistance]

On 11/27/2022 at 9:15 AM, arnemgreeves said:

Hottie women who are escorts most likely think they're above their clients, but then demand said people "treat them human". I always laugh at that - I sometimes think there is some genetic link between physical attractiveness and haughtiness in females

 

3 minutes ago, arnemgreeves said:

Well, looks had little to do with my initial point, so i'm amused at whatever alternative motive you have

I am responding to your conversation above which is precisely about looks.

No "alternative"

I'm following the conversational thread.

[garetheast]

2 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

Respect should go both ways. An escort saying offensive things is as bad. 

Agreed, and I wouldn’t tolerate that, either. I’ve been lucky enough not to have encountered that. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

11 hours ago, garetheast said:

Agreed, and I wouldn’t tolerate that, either. I’ve been lucky enough not to have encountered that. 

I haven't. I kicked a narcissistic brat out after he started making fun of my Asperger's.

And since I'm tit-for-tat, as he was leaving, I reminded him the chances of him making a living as a male model was 0 %....

[+ Just966]

On 2/13/2022 at 2:33 PM, italianboyph said:

I’ve had “clients” straight up message me and tell me to shave everything and to hit the gym harder to get a six pack, that way I’ll get hired more often. I had another guy today messaging me to tell me to shave my beard cause men shouldn’t have those germ traps on their face. 😂😂

The beard looks very sexy on you! I hope you didn't comply😊

[italianboyph]

14 hours ago, Just966 said:

The beard looks very sexy on you! I hope you didn't comply😊

Thank you. And no I didn't

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Haters gonna hate.

Like Hooboy once said, you know you're doing something right if they throw rocks.

Creating a public persona, posting photos, expressing your views, selling yourself:  These are things that aren't always going to sit well with random strangers on the internet. 

The worst thing you can do to your enemy is to ignore them.

 

[mike carey]

3 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Haters gonna hate.

Like Hooboy once said, you know you're doing something right if they throw rocks.

Creating a public persona, posting photos, expressing your views, selling yourself:  These are things that aren't always going to sit well with random strangers on the internet. 

The worst thing you can do to your enemy is to ignore them.

 

 

[JB_Studio38]

On 3/8/2023 at 1:43 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

Haters gonna hate.

Like Hooboy once said, you know you're doing something right if they throw rocks.

Creating a public persona, posting photos, expressing your views, selling yourself:  These are things that aren't always going to sit well with random strangers on the internet. 

The worst thing you can do to your enemy is to ignore them.

 

That’s how I feel. Which is also why I throw out the Sharon Osborne “educate me” line, tongue in cheek of course.

People criticize someone’s way of doing things, before being educated on why it’s that way to begin with.

 

 

19 hours ago, Maximus69 said:

I think the most annoying thing is when they ask when are you going to get a job and the judgement on their faces some make when I tell them this is the only thing I do… I mean if you want me to stop you can just pay for all my bills but let’s be real you’re not lol so I will continue doing what I do🤪

I wouldn’t even want that. Had a client who was wanting to see me all the time in Kansas City, and I told him: I’m not making what I need to support myself here. The more you want to see me, the more time I’m having to remain in the area.” Time that I can spend traveling and going to cities where I can actually be busy instead of sitting around wondering what’s wrong with me. He was supportive in helping with my bills, but then that started developing into a “I do this and that so I own your schedule” mentality. And when I let him know otherwise, things quickly fell off. 
 

Even though it was upsetting, I was able to focus back on travels and now I’m half way across the country in California, enjoying the beautiful Pacific Ocean air just walking distance away. Not sitting around dependent on 1 person’s visits to make ends. I don’t want to be reliant on 1 client or “sugar daddy”.
 

I know that’s not what you meant, but I’m just further adding that I agree with you lol.

Edited March 11, 2023 by Jarrod_Uncut

[+ APPLE1]

On 1/28/2022 at 3:14 AM, Jamie21 said:

It’s impossible to offend me. To be offended you have to take offence and I choose not to accept the offence. It’s their problem not mine. 

Occasionally clients are impolite (things like avoiding eye contact) but that’s probably anxiety or feeling bad about themselves. It doesn’t bother me, in fact it’s a fun challenge to then help them be less anxious and inhibited. 

👍 I TRY to always remind myself that people are very rarely setting out in life to be purposefully mean and hurtful. They are doing the best they can at that moment in time. They may have had a bad day, they may lack knowledge, experience, or forethought, or they may culturally live in a world where the standards of decorum and directness are very different from the world that I live in.

Years ago, I had a bull break my humerus. Where the bone broke through the skin, I was left with a nasty bumpy, red lesion. I had a provider once ask 'why haven't you had that fixed?' I took a breath and decided that he probably really meant something like 'that would bother me if my arm looked like that' or 'if it bothers you, I have heard that X treatment can really improve scars.'