Offensive Comments

[Coconut]

Has a client ever said anything that offended you? If so, what was it?

[+ FrankR]

“I think I’ll take a picture of your penis and enlarge it.”

[Coconut]

46 minutes ago, FrankR said:

“I think I’ll take a picture of your penis and enlarge it.”

A client actually said that to you?

[John]

ago

“I think I’ll take a picture of your penis and enlarge it.”

Smack Her!!

[Jamie21]

It’s impossible to offend me. To be offended you have to take offence and I choose not to accept the offence. It’s their problem not mine. 

Occasionally clients are impolite (things like avoiding eye contact) but that’s probably anxiety or feeling bad about themselves. It doesn’t bother me, in fact it’s a fun challenge to then help them be less anxious and inhibited. 

[Rod Hagen]

On 1/28/2022 at 1:14 AM, Jamie21 said:

Occasionally clients are impolite (things like avoiding eye contact) but that’s probably anxiety or feeling bad about themselves. It doesn’t bother me, in fact it’s a fun challenge to then help them be less anxious and inhibited. 

That's a good thing for escorts to remember:   If a client seems defensive or resistant to intimacy, it could simply be manifestations of anxiety. 

[Rod Hagen]

Well this thread went nowhere.  Sorry Coconut!

[+ JEC]

Client here, on one of my early hires I used the term prostitute and immediately realized my error and apologized profusely.  The escort was unfazed and said they weren't bothered by it.   Like asking a woman if she's pregnant....you never do that more than once!

[Jamie21]

13 hours ago, JEC said:

Client here, on one of my early hires I used the term prostitute and immediately realized my error and apologized profusely.  The escort was unfazed and said they weren't bothered by it.   Like asking a woman if she's pregnant....you never do that more than once!

It wouldn’t bother me either. One of my clients replied, when I asked him how he’d like to pay “oh, cash…it’s always cash only for my dealer, my cleaner and my hooker!”. I was glad to be in such exalted company.

I did remind him however that I take credit cards (in fact you just slide the card between the cheeks of my bum…no…I do have a proper card reader but I think a bum card reader would be a wonderful thing wouldn’t it?). He’s a regular client so I guess he feels comfortable to joke like that, I’m glad. Although I prefer the term sex worker because that’s how I describe the job. 

[italianboyph]

I’ve had “clients” straight up message me and tell me to shave everything and to hit the gym harder to get a six pack, that way I’ll get hired more often. I had another guy today messaging me to tell me to shave my beard cause men shouldn’t have those germ traps on their face. 😂😂

Edited February 14, 2022 by italianboyph

[+ DrownedBoy]

As a client, I'm always polite, even when escorts get agitated.

One of these days, though, I wanted to make a list of all the mean things I've thought but would never dare say...

[PetetKsfo]

I have had clients bring up topics  (particularly political) with a different perspective than mine.    They even assumed (correctly) that I would have an oppositing position.     I tried to find some common ground and assured them that I  respected their opinions, then quickly moving the conversation to something else.

[Jamie21]

I’ve had a client who was very conflicted. He said some really quite derogatory things about people doing sex work, and he implied that I was only doing what I do because I had no other work choice and that I secretly hated myself.

Told him I chose to do it, I had a university degree, was well qualified and I was 100% comfortable with myself….except of course I wanted abs and an extra inch on my cock, although that would make it 9 inches and perhaps I was being greedy. He laughed and said oh I was talking about others generally, not you. But of course I knew he had meant me. 

 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

On 11/16/2022 at 2:38 PM, arnemgreeves said:

as a client, i haven't said anything really that bad. i don't really have many prejudices. 

though i once bitched about a boss i had. she wasn't even that bad to be fair, she was competent and fair. but then she was smoking hot, and i dislike smoking hot women since they're often a bad piece of work. so i told the guy i visited this. he looked a bit shocked, and asked me why. i just said due to experience. i saw him a few times after that, and i think i must have made a mark, since he told me "my sister models and she's gorgeous and nice". I replied "OK..." and that's that. he probably thought "harsh cunt" but i didn't care. i only saw him a few times, since i was in his city for a work training event, so whatever. 

But i'm not a racist, sexist, homophobe, transphobe, ableist, or any other major prejudice, so i've never uttered anything about any other group to a provider. I mainly talk about vanilla stuff to escorts, mainly since they're strangers/acquaintances and i have no real right to say deep stuff to them. 

Honestly, I've known a lot of women. Most of my close friends are women. Some of them are gorgeous, some are plain, etc. And if you spoke about this dislike of "smoking hot women" in front of me, I would be utterly turned off by it. Sure, some women (and hell of a lot of men) who know they are beautiful abuse it and look down on others, but I don't think it's the majority. And, assuming based on your limited experience of a subset of women, that all or ever most women considered conventionally "smoking hot" is just dressed-up misogyny. 

[garetheast]

I would never make am offensive comment to a provider, and wouldn’t expect providers to tolerate it. Maybe I’m crazy, but I’ve always thought that respect and courtesy are extremely sexy. 

[pubic_assistance]

On 11/30/2022 at 3:30 AM, arnemgreeves said:

I wonder what his motivations for seeing escorts is. Seems just to see people “ beneath him

Some people have a hard time accepting that beautiful people have advantages over the rest of the population. They are bitter about this reality and find ways to put down attractive peoole so they can pretend to feel better about themselves for a minute.

[pubic_assistance]

"Hot" is always relative.

I witness guys on this forum going crazy over someone who I wouldn't fuck if HE paid ME.

Of course my points were speculation. I wasn't submitting a research paper.  I was taking a stab in the dark. Just saying that good looking people already feel superior to everyone so there's no reason to actively talk down to a sex worker. Meanwhile an ugly person can be intimidated by an escorts good looks and use an outdated social perspective to try and put them in a place below his own social status as "that ugly guy".  Sadly that is not uncommon.

[pubic_assistance]

On 11/27/2022 at 9:15 AM, arnemgreeves said:

Hottie women who are escorts most likely think they're above their clients, but then demand said people "treat them human". I always laugh at that - I sometimes think there is some genetic link between physical attractiveness and haughtiness in females

 

3 minutes ago, arnemgreeves said:

Well, looks had little to do with my initial point, so i'm amused at whatever alternative motive you have

I am responding to your conversation above which is precisely about looks.

No "alternative"

I'm following the conversational thread.

[garetheast]

2 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

Respect should go both ways. An escort saying offensive things is as bad. 

Agreed, and I wouldn’t tolerate that, either. I’ve been lucky enough not to have encountered that. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

11 hours ago, garetheast said:

Agreed, and I wouldn’t tolerate that, either. I’ve been lucky enough not to have encountered that. 

I haven't. I kicked a narcissistic brat out after he started making fun of my Asperger's.

And since I'm tit-for-tat, as he was leaving, I reminded him the chances of him making a living as a male model was 0 %....

[+ Just966]

On 2/13/2022 at 2:33 PM, italianboyph said:

I’ve had “clients” straight up message me and tell me to shave everything and to hit the gym harder to get a six pack, that way I’ll get hired more often. I had another guy today messaging me to tell me to shave my beard cause men shouldn’t have those germ traps on their face. 😂😂

The beard looks very sexy on you! I hope you didn't comply😊

[italianboyph]

14 hours ago, Just966 said:

The beard looks very sexy on you! I hope you didn't comply😊

Thank you. And no I didn't

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Haters gonna hate.

Like Hooboy once said, you know you're doing something right if they throw rocks.

Creating a public persona, posting photos, expressing your views, selling yourself:  These are things that aren't always going to sit well with random strangers on the internet. 

The worst thing you can do to your enemy is to ignore them.

 

[mike carey]

3 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Haters gonna hate.

Like Hooboy once said, you know you're doing something right if they throw rocks.

Creating a public persona, posting photos, expressing your views, selling yourself:  These are things that aren't always going to sit well with random strangers on the internet. 

The worst thing you can do to your enemy is to ignore them.

 

 

[Simon Suraci]

I’m fortunate most clients are respectful in person. I attract the people I like to work on, for the most part. It’s rare that someone offers a rude comment.

The few bad ones ask things like, “so what’s your ‘real’ job?” To their surprise, I say, I’m an architect. Until recently I worked both jobs for the equivalent of full time each. That throws clients for a loop. I try not to get offended when people think I can’t do anything else. I choose this work even though I’m high in demand in the architecture field.

I asked one client if he had any areas that needed work and he pointed to his dick. I tried to ignore that and started the massage as normal at his upper body. He proceeded to complain in an other language and then took my hands in his and forced them down there. I prepared to physically fight him if necessary and asked him to leave. I’m not afraid to defend myself by any means necessary, and I have no patience for that kind of behavior.

One client communicates in grunts only. Even in text messages. Totally incomprehensible. He doesn’t shower and arrives really unclean. He refuses, even when I politely ‘invite’ him to shower before his massage. I have to pause sometimes and use wipes on his body to minimize the filth. Sometimes he comes over right after getting a spray tan. I intentionally put worn out sheets in case he is about to ruin another set. He won’t look me in the eyes, and he’s on his phone scrolling every moment before and then again after being on the table. Doesn’t say hello or goodbye, never says thank you. Never tips. Asks for discounts and freebies in whatever broken sentences he can jumble, even though English is is first language.

We put up with a lot. It’s part of the biz.