Caveats in hiring. Please contribute!

[JMatt]

I know they've been stated here but I have two non-negotiables.  1.  No deposit under any circumstances no matter how much.  2. No paying up front before service is provided.  I have turned and walked out the door when asked to pay first, and will keep doing so.  

[Chien Andalou]

On 1/28/2024 at 6:18 AM, ICTJOCK said:

Define a "secondary market"?

I’m sure he meant second-tier markets (other than Rentmen or Rentmasseur), like Hunqz or Adam4Adam, not that he’s getting the escorts on resale. 😜

[Chien Andalou]

I have one to add: Answer the fucking question! I have three things I want to know up front: what do you charge, can you host, where are you located.
 

How many times have I seen a 6 who thinks they deserve the same compensation as a 9? Let’s get that out of the way and save everybody’s time. (It’s not so much that I am cheap as I wouldn’t pay that much for YOU.)

Whether they can host is self evident. And the location is so I know what it will take to meet them. Are they on a convenient transit line, or am I looking at an hour in the car and parking problems? Too often they gloss right over it and ask when I want to meet. That depends on your answer. If it’s like pulling teeth to get that information, it’s a non starter for me. How do you guys even get them to discuss what you want to do together?

[NipLuvr212]

2 minutes ago, Chien Andalou said:

I have one to add: Answer the fucking question! I have three things I want to know up front: what do you charge, can you host, where are you located.
 

How many times have I seen a 6 who thinks they deserve the same compensation as a 9? Let’s get that out of the way and save everybody’s time. (It’s not so much that I am cheap as I wouldn’t pay that much for YOU.)

Whether they can host is self evident. And the location is so I know what it will take to meet them. Are they on a convenient transit line, or am I looking at an hour in the car and parking problems? Too often they gloss right over it and ask when I want to meet. That depends on your answer. If it’s like pulling teeth to get that information, it’s a non starter for me. How do you guys even get them to discuss what you want to do together?

100%

Lately I've been asking the exact same three questions, and the response I get is, literally,

"220/hr"

I immediately move on.

[Mark_fl]

52 minutes ago, Chien Andalou said:

I have one to add: Answer the fucking question! I have three things I want to know up front: what do you charge, can you host, where are you located.
 

How many times have I seen a 6 who thinks they deserve the same compensation as a 9? Let’s get that out of the way and save everybody’s time. (It’s not so much that I am cheap as I wouldn’t pay that much for YOU.)

Whether they can host is self evident. And the location is so I know what it will take to meet them. Are they on a convenient transit line, or am I looking at an hour in the car and parking problems? Too often they gloss right over it and ask when I want to meet. That depends on your answer. If it’s like pulling teeth to get that information, it’s a non starter for me. How do you guys even get them to discuss what you want to do together?

Yep. Maybe it's a language issue, but if you can't take the time to read and answer direct questions, I know immediately that it will not be a relaxing experience with good communication. 

[Wings246]

5 hours ago, Chien Andalou said:

I have three things I want to know up front: what do you charge, can you host, where are you located.

OMFG.  I cannot agree more, so much so that I wouldn't mind if they can set up the answers to these CRUCIAL questions as an autoreply.  In fact, a handful of the providers I've met did exactly that during my first-time inquiries (i.e. all these info were given to me without me asking).  I'm not kidding when I say that it greatly improved my desire and decision to hire.

[PragueMen]

You’re in control. You have the ability to leave and even request a refund whenever you want. Including if they are scamming, not who they say they are, being creepy, not the services agreed upon etc… Nobody is gonna stand up for you except you.

Edited September 12 by PragueMen

[mtaabq]

On 3/29/2024 at 1:43 PM, DrownedBoy said:

Soliciting for a tip before the session. I kid you not.

“Just so you know, my fee is plus tip.”
 

If I hear those words, or any variation thereof, I will immediately cancel or walk out. 

[JMatt]

I guess I'll also add, dont ask for a face Pic " for security reasons. "  And dont be upset if you haven't responded to a text in over two hours and I booked someone else.  

[+ KensingtonHomo]

On 9/12/2026 at 11:40 AM, Chien Andalou said:

How many times have I seen a 6 who thinks they deserve the same compensation as a 9? L

Would you rather see a 6 who’s responsive, reasonably priced and convenient or a 9 who’s expensive and hard to get to? 😜

[Chien Andalou]

9 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Would you rather see a 6 who’s responsive, reasonably priced and convenient or a 9 who’s expensive and hard to get to? 😜

I like them both. What I don’t like is a 6 who doesn’t charge accordingly. 

[coriolis888]

On 9/12/2026 at 3:02 PM, PragueMen said:

You’re in control. You have the ability to leave and even request a refund whenever you want. Including if they are scamming, not who they say they are, being creepy, not the services agreed upon etc… Nobody is gonna stand up for you except you.

Ask for a refund?  Is this before or after the escort decides to punch you out for asking for a refund?

[PragueMen]

15 hours ago, coriolis888 said:

Ask for a refund?  Is this before or after the escort decides to punch you out for asking for a refund?

If you arrive and the provider is not who they say they are. Or if you give the money over and then decide you want to leave because rhe provider says something that makes you feel dangerous etc.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

17 hours ago, coriolis888 said:

Ask for a refund?  Is this before or after the escort decides to punch you out for asking for a refund?

Which escorts are punching people out? I’m not saying it’s never happened but this feels like a hypothetical stemming from anti sex worker views than a realistic concern. 

[Truance]

Love this thread. I agree with so many responses!

Here's my checklist and process:

🔸 One photo on the profile is a pass.

🔸 No nudes on the profile and it's a pass. It's okay if they are in the private gallery, but you better grant access or it's a pass.

🔸 No face pics and it's a pass. This encounter begins by seeing the full scope of the goods! 🤩

🔸 A little personality on the profile goes a long way! That could be a smile, not having the same version of the same pose over and over, or some good writing.

🔸 Respond to me in the messenger first. A) It helps get not so great reviews approved. B) I don't want to text you until we get past some basics!

🔸 Read what I wrote and respond to my inquiry like you have some comprehension skills.

🔸 I won't pay in advance. 

🔸 I won't pay for transportation. Factor in all your business expenses into your rates. 

🔸 The rate we agree upon is the rate. These providers are not tipped employees. 

🔸 A la cart and add-on fees are not for me.

🔸 I bring a playlist that marks the time. It, and the clock, starts when the provider is ready. Not after having me wait for them to be ready when I arrive on time. 🤨

🔸 Modify the time once within reason, okay. Twice, no thank you.

🔸 No reviews anywhere? I'm not paying premium rates. 

🔸 If a provider is charging premium rates and hosting in a lackluster hotel, I'm leaving. 

🔸 If the providers space is not clean, get out! 

I've only walked out of a session once. I definitely feel that I've overpaid before and try to be mindful of that.

I agree with so many others about vetting. I've also had great experiences with guys that have no reviews. And mediocre ones with guys who have great reviews. I've never felt unsafe. Trust your instincts!