Best opening text to get a response?

[Winky]

When traveling and in a new city for a couple days, I usually look around at RM ads to see who's around.

If I like someone, I go off-line and send a text to their number, something like "Hey, I'm in your city and would like to meet." 9 times out of 10, no response.

If I have time, and find them really attractive, I'll maybe text again, saying something about me (GL, very fit, top, etc.).

That never gets a response from those who didn't reply the first time (again, 9 out of 10.)

Do you have a better method? Is it me, or just the way the market is these days?

[+ goosh69]

I always say minimum 2 hours at the standard rate. That gets a response 9/10 times. They want to know time is not being wasted. 

[+ azdr0710]

a specific day and time in the first text may help, though, of course, it may lock you out if he isn't available at the time you pick.....maybe mention flexible meet time??....

a very quick accurate description of yourself may help......and incall/outcall preference (if he is flexible that way)......goosh's suggestion could grease the wheels.....

if "Hey, I'm in your city and would like to meet."  is ALL you're saying in the first text, you may need to be more specific and detailed, instead......though, of course, be to-the-point......you know these GenZers hate wordy texts!!

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

You shouldn't need to put on your best hoop-skirt to get a man's attention, especially when there's money on that table.

A simple text is enough.  

Do you really enjoy the chase?

[MaxMuscle9x6]

Try something with more specifics and relevant to his profile.  

 

"Hi, Great profile on RM.  My name is XXX and I am in town for xxxx days.  I am 5'10, 180lbs, muscular etc etc.  I am into XXx, XXX, XXX.  I have 2 hours to hangout today/tonight and I am free anytime from 5PM -2AM.  If this sounds appealing to you, text me back and we can make plans.  Look forward to hearing back."

When I do this, 9/10 times I get a response

[+ Coolwave35]

My sure fires initial inquiry that nearly always garner a response is some version of this. 
 

“Hello. I found your ad online and would like to meet you. I’m visiting from New York until Thursday and hosting at the ______ hotel at _______ street. I’m available after 7pm any night this week and would like at least an hour, possibly two hour session to be finished no later than 1am.  I am prepared to pay with cash, Venmo, PayPal, Apple Pay or cash app. Let me know your hourly rate and which day if any you’re available and I’ll share a bit more of what I’m looking for so you can decide if we’re a match. Thanks for your time.”
 

it at LEAST lands me a companion whenever I want one, even if not always my first choice.  

[Alex93108]

3 hours ago, Benjamin_Nicholas said:

You shouldn't need to put on your best hoop-skirt to get a man's attention, especially when there's money on that table.

A simple text is enough.  

Do you really enjoy the chase?

@Benjamin_Nicholas The reason why I hire is because I don’t enjoy the chase. If  i did I would just work Grindr and Scruff .   

I want to have the best kind of hot sex at a time window of my choosing , with someone who is a 10/10 in both physical appearance and technique . 

Providers should figure out the rest 

I think providers should keep it simple - there is enough drama on this forum already and in the gay world in general - i don’t need it when i’m hiring a professional 

[Lazarus]

“Sup” always works for me! 

[robberbaron4u]

Have AMEX Centurion Card in hand. Come to Daddy. . .

[Kevin Slater]

1 hour ago, Lazarus said:

“Sup” always works for me! 

Yup, that or a random hole pic.

Kevin Slater

[stop]

my biggest fear being that forward in the first text is my fear i transposed a number 

[Alex93108]

On 10/25/2021 at 10:17 PM, robberbaron4u said:

Have AMEX Centurion Card in hand. Come to Daddy. . .

I have a thing for the trojan warrior on the front of American Express cards...but that brings us to fetishes 

I never leave home without it . For travel and entertainment😋😈

Edited October 28, 2021 by jetlow

[TylerGrovesNYC]

9 hours ago, Winky said:

When traveling and in a new city for a couple days, I usually look around at RM ads to see who's around.

If I like someone, I go off-line and send a text to their number, something like "Hey, I'm in your city and would like to meet." 9 times out of 10, no response.

If I have time, and find them really attractive, I'll maybe text again, saying something about me (GL, very fit, top, etc.).

That never gets a response from those who didn't reply the first time (again, 9 out of 10.)

Do you have a better method? Is it me, or just the way the market is these days?

As a provider, the answer to this is simple: The messages that garner My immediate response are the messages that I know in My experience are from those who are serious + good & fun clients. 10 times out of 10 -- these are the message from the best clients. 

Hey, Tyler - really nice profile on RM. I'm visiting NYC until Wednesday, I'd love to book a session if you have any availability? Fit, laid back, 35yo, bottom sub here, 5'10" 175lbs, easygoing. Also, wondering what is your donation? Looking for a FFisting/Flogging/Verbal Dom session, love it + if in leather. Thanks, let me know, John.

^ those are the clients that usually end up becoming regulars, book multi-hr & big ticket sessions (even on the first meet), and are often all set & ready to put down a deposit to pre-book at the time of their inquiry when texting

These are the messages from clients that are usually the worst of the lot, or even worse - timewasters

"U avail?"

"Hi", "hey", "hot pics", "nice cock"

"found U on RM can U host looking for right now or in 10 minutes"

Finally, these are the texts from total worthless trolls/pranksters/fakes; these are the ones that 99% aren't even worth answering other than for entertainment before I block & blacklist them on all platforms that escorts frequent to do their screening:

"Send pic"

"pic?"

"send cock"

"where r u?"

"send vid"

"can u vid chat"

"hey can I see ur vids on fansonly? can u send here? went to the site but it says I have to pay"

and so on & so forth, ad nauseum 

[Guest davebk]

I typically do a opening line why I like their profile,  tell a little about myself (stats, likes), and tell them which day/days I'd be looking.  It's not more than a sentence or two to get it in.  Once we find a day that will work, I'll then usually confirm that the provider is open or enjoys particular things I'm looking for, and then lock it in.  After the first exchange, I'll gauge their level of sexual talk and meet it, if that makes sense.

[Alex93108]

If i can hijack this thread slightly - most of my hiring sprees occurs when I'm on the road ( international ). I typically contact providers 1-2 weeks before to check in with them on availability. 

Most will let me know their availability but will  ask me to text them the day before to check in, which I do. But because of my travel, and tight schedules - planning is required.

I've been taking a very direct approach, but in my experience is most providers really don't want to hear from me 1-2 weeks before, but days before. That may impact speed of response. 

To the poster that mentioned deposits : There's a very lively thread about deposits which I will describe as "fierce" 

Edited October 26, 2021 by jetlow

[+ poolboy48220]

8 hours ago, jeepo1 said:

my biggest fear being that forward in the first text is my fear i transposed a number 

Totally agree.  My first text is usually very UN-incriminating.

[Philly50]

12 hours ago, jeepo1 said:

my biggest fear being that forward in the first text is my fear i transposed a number 

Which is why I always create a new contact in my address book, then copy and paste the number into it.

Edited October 26, 2021 by Philly50

[+ Keith30309]

“Hi John, I saw your profile and would be interested in a 2-hr meeting if you are available. I am staying at a hotel in midtown and would love to meet on January 3, 4 or 5 anytime after 6:00 pm.  There is a lot of info about me in my profile including stats and what I’m looking for. Please let me know if you think we are a good match and what day/time works best for you.  Also please let me know the rate for 2-hrs of your time. * Thanks - I look forward to meeting

 

* Many disagree but I just don’t buy that a 2-hr should be double 1 hr.  Many respond with a 2x figure and I accept or decline politely… never haggling. If I am on the fence about a new guy and hear $600 then I thank him for his time with kind regards.  A couple of weeks ago a new guy followed up from this, asking why and I patiently shared my thoughts and he suggested $500. It was an afternoon incall, if that made a difference, and we had a great time. He was fun, 100% engaged, eager to please and I so left $100 tip.  Win-Win. 

[ArmyHands]

Best Text I gotten from a new client " HOW LONG IS YOUR 1 HOUR MASSAGE"  ????

[rn901]

Every provider is different but I find it helps to give as much specifics and information as possible in the first text. It doesn't have to be a longwinded elaborate proposition either. Just the basics: what it is that you're looking for, what you like about them or their ad, the date and time you're wanting to meet, inquiry to their rates, hotel or area you're staying if you wish to host, possible restaurants if you would like them to join for dinner, ect. Providers deal with time wasters on a daily basis. There are also "clients" who are trying to get as much "free time" as they can over phone/text who end up never meeting. "Sup" or "hi" with nothing else said may not get a response either, especially if it follows with none of the outlined specifics ever reaching the conversation after multiple messages back and forth. I always very much appreciate a client who is very straightforward and to the point when and where they are wanting to meet. Most of the examples in this thread are good prompts. Relevant specifics coupled with basic manners go a long way with providers who are serious about meeting and their work. Also be patient if the provider does not respond right away. They're people with lives and schedules just like anyone else. A "?" or "???" or "?!!!" message if they don't respond immediately is kind of a red flag to a provider. If you wish to get to know the provider's life story then that can be done in person. If you wish the provider to know your life story, that also can be done in person as well. However, it does not need to be drawn out over text message or phone call prior to meeting. The arrangement should be able to be planned in just a couple of texts back and forth. If you keep it relatively simple, to the point, detailed, polite, and offer genuine interest in meeting then I don't see how you can go wrong with a legitimate provider. 

Edited October 27, 2021 by rn901

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

On 10/25/2021 at 6:00 PM, jetlow said:

@Benjamin_Nicholas The reason why I hire is because I don’t enjoy the chase. If  i did I would just work Grindr and Scruff .   

I want to have the best kind of hot sex at a time window of my choosing , with someone who is a 10/10 in both physical appearance and technique . 

Providers should figure out the rest 

I think providers should keep it simple - there is enough drama on this forum already and in the gay world in general - i don’t need it when i’m hiring a professional 

The question was more of a rhetorical one, aimed at the entire thread.

I believe the onus remains on the escort to quickly and professionally seal the deal.  Perhaps I'm just old-fashioned.

Keeping things simple is a fantastic business model.  I agree with you wholeheartedly.

[markeramzn]

One thing not discussed so far, is if you should send a message after the session?  Throwback to the words of Brad Benton "It's always a business doing pleasure with you!"  😁

[Trick]

My first text to a number not in my contacts list is “Hey (name), are you in (city)?” or “are you visiting (city) soon?”

If I get a reply to this, I get to the point of liking what I read on the ad and wanting to meet, and asking for rates. Intos are discussed by the third text.

[lonely_john]

On 10/25/2021 at 3:48 PM, azdr0710 said:

a specific day and time in the first text may help, though, of course, it may lock you out if he isn't available at the time you pick.....maybe mention flexible meet time?

When new guys come in town I always ask for how long will they stay and what is their availability. Sending a message on both text and RM chat with my description and what I'm looking for is extremely useful for both because it allows to determine if we are a match.

[lonely_john]

On 10/25/2021 at 3:54 PM, Benjamin_Nicholas said:

You shouldn't need to put on your best hoop-skirt to get a man's attention, especially when there's money on that table.

A simple text is enough.  

Do you really enjoy the chase?

I think it would apply in the case that is a hot well-known provider with good reviews. I've already lost chances for not acting quickly. And even if acting quickly, Romeo sometimes gets "sick", i.e.: someone else offered more money for more hours on the same day or the night before our meeting and he got dry and wasted.

Edited October 28, 2021 by lonely_john