I haven't seen anyone mention this, but I live 3 hours from the nearest city with any providers (I'm in West Virginia, and you are right to moan). There are times I have messaged an escort a few days to a week in advance, stating what I am interested in, why I'm asking early (I need to take time off work, book a hotel room, arrange a pet sitter, etc.), and for them to recommend a hotel or location that would be convenient for them to meet me.
It is rare for me to get any decent answer, and what I do generally get is "contact me after you arrive, and a couple hours before you want to meet."
Just like they want assurances that someone isn't sending them on a wild goose chase, I am looking for assurances that I have someone committed in advance before I make arrangements, pay the hotel, and drive the distance. And if I ask for someone to recommend a hotel that is close to them, and then they want money from transportation, then I feel something is wrong. If there wasn't a close option, then I wouldn't balk at paying them a little extra for transportation.
Hiring is a treat for me. As a single person making under $35,000 a year, the $1,000 I'll invest just for that hour meeting is a big deal for me personally. I don't argue with someone's rate or try to get a discount, they know their market and their worth. It would just be nice if they would sometimes understand other people's situations and respond accordingly, just as they want others to understand why they are asking their rate and for uber/other expenses.