HoleTrainer

Don’t forget that plenty of guys out there are into bigger guys too, including some escorts.
One of my best friends is also an escort.  We go drinking together on our off time.  He loves bears and will usually be checking out one of the guys with the biggest belly in the room and telling me how hot he is.  (Sometimes I agree, sometimes not, as I’m more face-oriented.) He’d probably be more likely to hook up with a bigger guy for free than anyone else.  Just because that’s his preference.
So my point is, guys who are bigger, don’t assume that all escorts are just being nice and putting up with you non-judgementally.  Plenty of us actually think you’re hot and that your body is a great body.  Being in this line of work tends to really open up our minds and teach us that all kinds of people can be very sexy.  Not everyone but a lot of us.

Don’t forget that plenty of guys out there are into bigger guys too, including some escorts.
One of my best friends is also an escort.  We go drinking together on our off time.  He loves bears and will usually be checking out one of the guys with the biggest belly in the room and telling me how hot he is.  (Sometimes I agree, sometimes not, as I’m more face-oriented.) He’d probably be more likely to hook up with a bigger guy for free than anyone else.  Just because that’s his preference.
So my point is, guys who are bigger, don’t assume that all escorts are just being nice and putting up with you non-judgementally.  Plenty of us actually think you’re hot and that your body is a great body.  Being in this line of work tends to really open up our minds and teach us that all kinds of people can be very sexy.  Not everyone but a lot of us.

Don’t forget that plenty of guys out there are into bigger guys too, including some escorts.
One of my best friends is also an escort.  We go drinking together on our off time.  He loves bears and will usually be checking out one of the guys with the biggest belly in the room and telling me how hot he is.  (Sometimes I agree, sometimes not, as I’m more face-oriented.) He’d probably be more likely to hook up with a bigger guy for free than anyone else.  Just because that’s his preference.
So my point is, guys who are bigger, don’t assume that all escorts are just being nice and putting up with you non-judgementally.  Plenty of us actually think you’re hot and that your body is a great body.  Being in this line of work tends to really open up our minds and teach us that all kinds of people can be very sexy.  Not everyone but a lot of us.

Don’t forget that plenty of guys out there are into bigger guys too, including some escorts.
One of my best friends is also an escort.  We go drinking together on our off time.  He loves bears and will usually be checking out one of the guys with the biggest belly in the room and telling me how hot he is.  (Sometimes I agree, sometimes not, as I’m more face-oriented.) He’d probably be more likely to hook up with a bigger guy for free than anyone else.  Just because that’s his preference.
So my point is, guys who are bigger, don’t assume that all escorts are just being nice and putting up with you non-judgementally.  Plenty of us actually think you’re hot and that your body is a great body.  Being in this line of work tends to really open up our minds and teach us that all kinds of people can be very sexy.  Not everyone but a lot of us.

Don’t forget that plenty of guys out there are into bigger guys too, including some escorts.
One of my best friends is also an escort.  We go drinking together on our off time.  He loves bears and will usually be checking out one of the guys with the biggest belly in the room and telling me how hot he is.  (Sometimes I agree, sometimes not, as I’m more face-oriented.) He’d probably be more likely to hook up with a bigger guy for free than anyone else.  Just because that’s his preference.
So my point is, guys who are bigger, don’t assume that all escorts are just being nice and putting up with you non-judgementally.  Plenty of us actually think you’re hot and that your body is a great body.  Being in this line of work tends to really open up our minds and teach us that all kinds of people can be very sexy.  Not everyone but a lot of us.

Definitely both.  Personality is important, AND a client who genuinely wants to please me will generally understand that I am here, at least in significant part, for the money, and demonstrate generosity accordingly.  Not everyone can afford to tip hundreds, but all my favorite clients definitely tip something and some of them buy me gifts as well.  Personally, my parents were extremely stingy with me to the point of neglect, so my buttons get deeply pressed in a very good way by generosity.  But of course personality also matters.  Most guys who choose to voluntarily give me cash or gifts have great personalities tho.  Generosity is a very sexy quality.

Definitely both.  Personality is important, AND a client who genuinely wants to please me will generally understand that I am here, at least in significant part, for the money, and demonstrate generosity accordingly.  Not everyone can afford to tip hundreds, but all my favorite clients definitely tip something and some of them buy me gifts as well.  Personally, my parents were extremely stingy with me to the point of neglect, so my buttons get deeply pressed in a very good way by generosity.  But of course personality also matters.  Most guys who choose to voluntarily give me cash or gifts have great personalities tho.  Generosity is a very sexy quality.

I think tipping when your session goes 40 minutes overtime is COMMON sense to anyone who respects the value of our time and the service we are offering.  And anyone who doesn’t feel that they should tip after taking up more than 1.5X the amount of time they actually booked and paid for is not really a good match for me as a long term client.  I am not interested in potentially souring the beginning of every appointment with a speech about time on the off-chance that someone may go overtime and may not have the common sense to compensate me - especially because it’s not really about the money for me but about common sense and mutual respect.  I would much rather succeed at opening up his hole, realize he’s not the kind of client who’s thoughtful enough to tip for overtime, and then make decisions accordingly about our relationship moving forward, than risk failing to create a sufficiently relaxing environment because I started our session with a reminder about the clock.  There are better ways to deal with clients who overstay on a case by case basis IMO.  For example, if someone went significantly overtime on our previous appointment, I’ll encourage them to book a longer appointment if they inquire again to re-book.  I definitely wouldn’t say that I feel “resentful” if a client doesn’t tip when we go significantly overtime, but it does make me feel like he’s inconsiderate of my time and energy and probably not a good match to become a regular of mine- but I’ll usually give the client a chance to correct his mistake by suggesting a longer session if he tries to re-book a 2nd time.  If a client makes a pattern out of overstaying without compensating/tipping after I’ve suggested a longer booking and he’s insisted on the shorter one, then I’ll generally stop allowing him to book and let him know that’s the reason, as he’s already been made aware of the issue at that point and chosen not to adjust his behavior or compensation moving forward.  But I honestly don’t have this problem often as I find that most of the guys who overstay on their one hour booking without tipping are one-offs anyway.
My favorite clients book more time than they need, tip me on top of that, and often don’t use up their entire session time before they tap out and send me on my way.  They’re not my favorite clients BECAUSE of these things, but this just happens to be what happens and I really appreciate it!!

I'm surprised by this. Spanking is such a common fetish that you'd think it would be reasonably easy to find someone who would accommodate!

I never tour a city for multiple weeks so maybe that's why I don't experience this "drying up" effect as much. Hotels are expensive so I am generally trying to maximize the bang for my buck, which usually means staying 5 days or less. Sometimes 10 days max in a place like NYC where I have a lot of history/friends and regulars who will book me twice in one visit. I agree that there's a limited number of clients who will book you in any given place in one month. So I personally try to get most of those clients to book me during a 2-5 day visit period. Then I make a mailing or text list for everyone who wanted to see me but couldn't work it out schedule-wise. Schedule follow-up visit for 6-8 weeks from now to see most of the guys I saw the 1st visit a 2nd time and add on a few more of the guys who couldn't make it work on my first visit. Keep adding to my contact list and schedule another visit for 6-8 weeks after that. Rinse and repeat. Usually leads to more business over time for me, not less.

I never tour a city for multiple weeks so maybe that's why I don't experience this "drying up" effect as much. Hotels are expensive so I am generally trying to maximize the bang for my buck, which usually means staying 5 days or less. Sometimes 10 days max in a place like NYC where I have a lot of history/friends and regulars who will book me twice in one visit. I agree that there's a limited number of clients who will book you in any given place in one month. So I personally try to get most of those clients to book me during a 2-5 day visit period. Then I make a mailing or text list for everyone who wanted to see me but couldn't work it out schedule-wise. Schedule follow-up visit for 6-8 weeks from now to see most of the guys I saw the 1st visit a 2nd time and add on a few more of the guys who couldn't make it work on my first visit. Keep adding to my contact list and schedule another visit for 6-8 weeks after that. Rinse and repeat. Usually leads to more business over time for me, not less.

I'm not a bottom so I can't reply to your original question personally, but maybe call or text me to set something up. I have a decade of experience working with people in your situation and I can show you a ton of hands-on tips and tricks for how to make penetration feel smoother/better and chase more intense orgasms from anal penetration. RM ad link in my signature!

I’m really happy to see and kiss clients.  Seems like everyone who has inquired with me has been vaccinated, which gives me some peace of mind.
I agree that there is a ton of nonsense out there that most of us escorts are dealing with right now.  Way more time wasters and fake bookings than usual.  My patience is short for any inquiries that sound vague or wishy-washy these days as a result.
The thing that’s working out great for me right now is having a small circle of clients that book me regularly.  I’m very happy to meet new regular clients, whether they’re booking me once a week, once a month, or once a quarter.  I’m very excited to see them and appreciate the steady business from a lower number of individuals.

In the US at least, Paypal can pull money out of your linked bank account to cover any refunds they decide to issue against your account, even if you do not have an active balance in your Paypal account. To be extra safe, some people have a separate bank account that is only used to receive funds from Paypal, which they then transfer elsewhere, so in case Paypal ever decided to pull funds from their linked bank account, there would be nothing there to pull. You might ultimately still end up owing the bank money under those circumstances, but for people who can't afford to risk losing a chunk of their rent money out of their checking account, for example, this can be an extra additional layer of protection that helps them feel ok with this risk. Not sure if it's the same in the UK but just FYI.
 
And yeah I agree, their customer service in general is really hit or miss, and can often be quite terrible.

I’m really happy to see and kiss clients.  Seems like everyone who has inquired with me has been vaccinated, which gives me some peace of mind.
I agree that there is a ton of nonsense out there that most of us escorts are dealing with right now.  Way more time wasters and fake bookings than usual.  My patience is short for any inquiries that sound vague or wishy-washy these days as a result.
The thing that’s working out great for me right now is having a small circle of clients that book me regularly.  I’m very happy to meet new regular clients, whether they’re booking me once a week, once a month, or once a quarter.  I’m very excited to see them and appreciate the steady business from a lower number of individuals.

The general sentiments expressed here about discretion are all really good.  I’d always err on the side of pretending not to know a client if we ran into each other in public unless he indicated otherwise was ok.
That said, I’m ok with being approached by existing or potential clients in any type of gay environment.  I’m fully “out” to everyone about what I do for a living.  So gay bars, bathhouses, gay resorts, sex clubs, gay sex shops, etc etc, are all places I would be happy to meet an existing or potential client and wouldn’t feel awkward at all about any ensuing conversation.  I do think I would feel taken aback if I was approached by a client in a non-gay-specific public space like a random restaurant, a public sidewalk, etc, tho.

One of my clients asked me for a spanking just the other day and I gave him a good long one, first with a slow warmup and later with hard slaps that made him yelp! I loved grabbing his head by the back of his hair and holding him down by the small of his back while I did it. His ass had a beautiful warm cherry glow by the end. I don't explicitly advertise spanking and haven't done much over the last decade, but I was into it as an 18-20 year old, so I still remember how to give a good one.

The general sentiments expressed here about discretion are all really good.  I’d always err on the side of pretending not to know a client if we ran into each other in public unless he indicated otherwise was ok.
That said, I’m ok with being approached by existing or potential clients in any type of gay environment.  I’m fully “out” to everyone about what I do for a living.  So gay bars, bathhouses, gay resorts, sex clubs, gay sex shops, etc etc, are all places I would be happy to meet an existing or potential client and wouldn’t feel awkward at all about any ensuing conversation.  I do think I would feel taken aback if I was approached by a client in a non-gay-specific public space like a random restaurant, a public sidewalk, etc, tho.

As a chronic window shopper, I’m glad most escorts don’t reach out. Also, my process 
for whittling down my prospective hiring list when I travel involves lots of OCD like opening 
and closing of ads pages for potential hires. It’s odd but for me it’s part of the fun.
I’d feel awkward if my ridiculous activity drew an escort’s attention, and I’d be self conscious
about looking at his ad in the future. 
Just thought escorts might want to hear the view from the other side as well. 
 

I prefer hairy holes... love them.  I understand why someone might want to shave tho, so I don’t judge.

Please DO avoid me if you think that you’re entitled to engage with an escort who does not want to engage with you!  The entire point of posting things like this is to make sure that clients like you do in fact stay away from me.  Plenty of fish in the sea, and plenty of clients out there who recognize that being allowed to hire and engage with us is a privilege and not a right.  

I don’t *expect* tips and I do have a rate that’s high enough for me to not need them now.  But I’m in the business of exceeding expectations, blowing people’s minds, and sometimes even changing their lives.  And with over a decade of experience under my belt, the professionalism I offer throughout booking/hosting/etc is also generally way above “average”.  Almost every single one of my regulars tips me generously every time.  In that way it’s become a bit abnormal when I don’t receive a tip.  I also DO live in an area where tipping is a normal part of the culture DESPITE service workers receiving a real hourly wage on their paycheck.  But it’s also a very expensive area to live in (Bay Area).  Tipping just feels like a fact of life.  I tip my baristas, Uber drivers, delivery people, masseuse, hotel workers, and bartenders handsomely.  Generosity just feels like such good energy to me.  I’m lucky that my clients tip me well so that I always feel able to pay it forward to service workers I interact with daily with decent tips.  So despite my opening statement to this long paragraph, the truth is that I kinda do expect tips.  Just because it’s the norm with most of my clients and with most of the services I engage as well.  But I would not think negatively of a client who didn’t tip.
The only time I feel annoyed about the lack of tip is if a client has gone significantly over on his allotted time, I’ve been gracious enough not to kick him out in a way that would have been awkward and possibly soured his memory of the experience, but he hasn’t bothered to add anything to the rate for the time he booked.  Example: client books an hour, he’s not quite satisfied at the hour mark so I let things go over by 10 minutes of playtime, then he takes a shower and lounges around chatting with me for 15 minutes instead of getting dressed and leaving.  By the time he leaves we are 1 hour and 40 minutes past the session start time.  But he only paid for an hour.  In this circumstance I will often be annoyed by the lack of tip and it will affect how I view the client.  I can understand not being able to afford to pay 1.5X my hourly rate when the client was only planning to spend an hour with me.  But even a $10 or $20 tip says “thanks for going above and beyond”.  It’s not even really about the money in these cases.  Just the acknowledgement that I went above and beyond what was paid for and returning the favor by going above and beyond what was charged.  By any amount.

When someone NCNS on an Incall appointment, or has me do an outcall to a fake appointment (like I take an Uber to the location and once I say I’ve arrived the “client” stops responding), I don’t bother to engage the “client” any further.  They are automatically disqualified from future bookings, tho.  Why don’t I bother?  Because a lot of people who flake and mess around with escorts with fake bookings are in it purely for the attention and drama.  I won’t give them the satisfaction.  Once it’s clear to me that they aren’t showing up, I’m never messaging them again.  Cold hard silence.  This is for new clients of course.  My regulars are so good to me that I would be super concerned if one of them NCNS or stopped responding once I reached their location.
I have told guys that I’m not willing to meet them very directly during the INQUIRY phase, based on not feeling that they are speaking to me in a respectful manner, or simply feeling like they require way too much hand-holding and emotional labor before they are willing to actually book an appointment.  As well as guys who seem flaky and unable to commit.  Unfortunately, many guys don’t like to take NO for an answer, and I’ve found that telling people I’m unwilling to consider their request because of X often just leads to them contacting me again and again from different phone numbers or handles, either to argue with me about why I won’t see them or to make fake bookings as revenge for me not accepting their real booking.  If I realize that’s what’s going on, I switch to the very boring, non-confrontational excuse of being fully booked and not having any room in my schedule to accommodate.  Even (especially) when they KNOW this is not true, it leaves them much less room to argue, and is often more effective at getting them to leave me alone.
I did once have a client who messed around with my fee.  Flew across the country to see him.  Service was delivered.  He didn’t pay in full.  Said he would pay me the rest at a later date.  And then didn’t.  Claimed he didn’t have *time* to send me the money, but meanwhile had booked a close friend of mine (another escort) for a session during the “time” he supposedly didn’t have to send me the money he owed me.  (MAKE IT MAKE SENSE?!) And then I had to really chase after him and semi threaten him to get him to pay up what he owed.  This guy kept trying to book me after that, feeling that he had made good on what he owed.  For YEARS I said absolutely not.  I left the country for a couple years.  I came back around for a tour.  He begged again for a second chance so I told him he would have to PRE-PAY the entire appointment in full, a month in advance, for me to agree.  Well he DID!  So I guess sometimes being clear about why you won’t see someone again and what they need to do to fix it can be helpful.

For this client, Rate posted is a starting point. I figure paying that rate gets me respect, kindness and physical access  - consensual, and within boundaries set ahead of meeting. It’s like the basic car wash..
Now…
Making me feel that he’s enjoying our activities, that gets him a bump. Reading our exchange accurately and instinctively, guiding the play to something new for one of us?Premium Wash with additional rinse! Another bump. Exceptional hosting ability (cleanliness of self and environment, punctuality, having a private and conducive space with appropriate ambience, bottled water available, etc) Yup, another bump. Hot wax!
I reward efforts of preparation, connection, and imagination. Hand polish and buff. Bump.
And if he knows how detail my rims, well…
 

 
 

Definitely both.  Personality is important, AND a client who genuinely wants to please me will generally understand that I am here, at least in significant part, for the money, and demonstrate generosity accordingly.  Not everyone can afford to tip hundreds, but all my favorite clients definitely tip something and some of them buy me gifts as well.  Personally, my parents were extremely stingy with me to the point of neglect, so my buttons get deeply pressed in a very good way by generosity.  But of course personality also matters.  Most guys who choose to voluntarily give me cash or gifts have great personalities tho.  Generosity is a very sexy quality.