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I really want to tip appropriately but I realized I have no clue what a decent tip looks like.

 

Let's just say it was a standard one hour rate of 300. As a provider, what amount of tip would make you feel like your client enjoyed himself?

 

Thank you in advance, I just want to have a clear idea of what a solid tip looks in the escorting world.

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I really want to tip appropriately but I realized I have no clue what a decent tip looks like.

 

Let's just say it was a standard one hour rate of 300. As a provider, what amount of tip would make you feel like your client enjoyed himself?

 

Thank you in advance, I just want to have a clear idea of what a solid tip looks in the escorting world.

Answers to this question may vary.

My point of view and opinion : any amount above the session rate is appreciated.

Even better than tips are longer sessions in the future, regularly booked appointments, offers to meals or events, etc.

 

If an amount is to be referenced, I would say 20-60$

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Any amount is welcome and there’s no expectation. But even more welcome is booking again, recommendations and gifts.

 

A client once sent me a couple of pairs of expensive sexy pants (underwear for Americans here) because he knew I liked them. That was fantastic. Another client invited me to his club which was interesting.

 

In the UK tipping is much less prevalent than the US and is usually around 10%.

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Any amount is welcome and there’s no expectation. But even more welcome is booking again, recommendations and gifts.

 

A client once sent me a couple of pairs of expensive sexy pants (underwear for Americans here) because he knew I liked them. That was fantastic. Another client invited me to his club which was interesting.

 

In the UK tipping is much less prevalent than the US and is usually around 10%.

Is this true in restaurants also? I'm going to London in the summer. In NY, 20% is typically the norm and even that at times is low.

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I think i have been overtipping by a large amount..

Well $60 on $300 is 20%, I think it comes down to personal tipping habits, some 10% is their norm, others it's 50%. Even outside of industry norms (dining, nail salons, etc) some stick to their own habits. You do you regardless, I'll happily accept a larger tip from anyone ?

 

Blank checks too!...well I digress now we are into findom territory

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Americans are extremely anxious and neurotic re tipping. I think it’s rooted in the greater middle-class obsession about doing the right thing as well as status anxiety. I may write an essay about it.

And to us middle-class Americans....your essay would sound terribly drool and cheap.

 

But hey, write til your heart’s content...you cheap middle class bastard!

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Americans are extremely anxious and neurotic re tipping. I think it’s rooted in the greater middle-class obsession about doing the right thing as well as status anxiety. I may write an essay about it.

 

Interesting perspective…I’d love to read the essay! Personally I think most Americans could care less about whether or not they tipped properly, which is why I asked, and I love the responses.

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Is this true in restaurants also? I'm going to London in the summer. In NY, 20% is typically the norm and even that at times is low.

Yes, a lot of restaurants automatically include a service charge as part of the bill, which is usually 10% so you don’t need to add a tip as well unless you’re being extra generous.

 

If you’re in London in summer and you happen to visit a certain masseur...ahem...then the tip can be considerably more than 10% though. Just saying :)

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To me, tipping is not a norm, mainly because this is an unregulated business.

There is no standard of quality guaranteed so what you get as service can vary wildly.

Most providers are already charging per hour what lawyers and other highly-paid professionals do.

I'm also considering that they have factored in their rate everything to receive fair compensation.

But I've tipped in few cases when I've received full satisfaction and top-notch service Usually from $20 to $50.

Just 1 time I tipped $80 or $100 but he gave me extra time without asking his service alone was out of the norm *sigh*

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Yes, a lot of restaurants automatically include a service charge as part of the bill, which is usually 10% so you don’t need to add a tip as well unless you’re being extra generous.

 

If you’re in London in summer and you happen to visit a certain masseur...ahem...then the tip can be considerably more than 10% though. Just saying :)

 

Thanks for the reply.

 

Good sarcasm is always a winner with me. Who knows what the future will bring?

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Americans are extremely anxious and neurotic re tipping. I think it’s rooted in the greater middle-class obsession about doing the right thing as well as status anxiety. I may write an essay about it.

This is an interesting perspective. All I'll say is I disagree about status anxiety. I have my own reasons why I tip when I do, but I absolutely hate doing it in most circumstances. And the amounts "recommended" are egregious imo.

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I use escorts a lot, mainly in London, and I think that the normal view is that the agreed fee includes the tip. In any event, I never have trouble rebooking an escort, even though no tip. I agree that if you have exceptional service then a tip may be good. I often host, and always pay fares, Uber etc, and provide food and decent wine.

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Pre-covid, I tipped all service providers (not only masseurs and escorts, but also waiters, delivery persons, Uber drivers, etc.) 20% as a standard, more if the service was exceptional. In covid, the only services I have users are shopping and delivery, and I upped my minimum to 50% because of their working in the pandemic. When I finally get back to a masseur (soon, I hope!) I plan to up my minimum to at least 30%.

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Back when going to events was a thing, I had one regular in particular who would much rather we go see a play and have a longer session than having any kind of tip. We'd often spend an evening together with a dinner, a show and some fun. He gave me a better deal on the hourly rate for this longer session and I would pick up all the tickets, meals, etc. I never tipped him over his quoted rate, though the cost of the tickets and/or meals could be $100 or more.

 

Sometimes in a regular session, I will tip an extra $20 but typically not much more than that.

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I thought about writing several paragraphs but I thought I'd be creative and list my honest reflections on how different tip amounts make me feel (for reference my base rate is anywhere from 300-700/hr, and maybe about 50% of my clients tip regularly)

 

10-20 = a sweet gesture / it's the thought that counts!

40-60 = aww shucks, thank you *blush*

70-150 = beaming with pride for hours at a job well done & deeply appreciated

200-300+ = head over heels, deeply appreciative, reminded how much I love my job, mental note to look for ways to go above and beyond for this client in the future

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I usually tip something above the requested rate, but after seeing a regular guy for a couple of years I gave him a book on a subject that was very special to him and he told me that it was a very meaningful gift and he really liked it. The cost of the book was not even close to his hourly rate but somehow it was more meaningful than an extra $20.

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