KensingtonHomo

I'm going to PM you.

The sense of risk providers and clients have regarding texting varies greatly. Personally, I'm not worried about it. No one has access to my texts but me (and my husband, I guess), and I doubt L.E. is interested in me. That said, there are apps you can use, like Burner, that give you a separate untraceable number that you can use for your hobby.

Ummm, were you okay with that?

Same. This just happened last week. I booked an hour and we spent closer to 2 hours. I offered to pay more, and he said, "No, I'm really enjoying just hanging out with you." Now, he's a good friend of another provider we see regularly, which may have led to more of a connection. But I do find this becomes more common when you visit a provider regularly. Yes, it's still a business relationship but I'm also friendly with my doctor, accountant, etc. I just try to be cognizant of not taking advantage.

I agree with all this. You're overthinking this, probably because you have a good time with this provider and are afraid to make it awkward. I've become friendly with some providers I see - we chat on Instagram (not like sexting, just discussing shared interests), and if you have a connection with someone, you're not going to offend them by asking for something they probably get all the time. I saw a provider this past week and, unprompted, he asked if I'd like to record some of our time together. He did it on my phone and didn't charge extra. Now he has a super successful OnlyFans. I'd have let him use it if I was more confident and had less of a public job.

I saw Joel last week and he was incredible. He is fun, empathic and incredibly skilled in bed. Joel does film and travel a lot. I lucked out that I was in LA while he was taking some downtime. And his fee is incredibly reasonable given how successful he is in porn. I would see him again in a second.

Not effeminate! Oh the humanity!

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I guess we know different straight guys because I've known many who will ogle big boobs without regard to who they're attached to. I find that many gay guys are obsessed with bodies (muscular, athletic, twinks) over facial beauty of cock size. Similar to you, I'm about the total package. I don't even get dick pics because a disembodied penis does nothing for me. I also don't get the excitement over someone with a 10" or larger dicker. It's challenging to give a guy that hung head. It's also far larger than needed for anal sex. Most rectums are about 6" deep, so anything longer than that is hitting the anal canal, and possibly the sigmoid colon.

He looks great. Does he share a face pic? What was his rate?

How do you know this? Are people on here sending you their nudes so you can critique their aging and weight? I'm younger than you and look a decade younger than my age (most people guess I'm 35-40), and I'm also in good shape, as is my husband. We're also happy to share photos. Are we getting better rates? Maybe. I'd be curious to hear from providers if they offer a price and then deduct based on age and then deduct more based on fitness level and attractiveness. So it's like 1 hour = $400. Deduct $50 for under 60; Deduct $50 because the client's hot = $300. Is that how providers are treating some people?

I'm curious where people saw him and his rate. Because he looks and sounds great.

I can't do the lack of body hair and pubes.

That's odd. I'm assuming you didn't meet. I agree with @Moke.

It's unclear to me if you're attracted to men sexually or if you want close guy friends. Honestly, if you haven't spoken to a therapist about this, and you can manage it, that would be a good route to go. It feels like you have a lot to unpack likely due to your upbringing, which maybe a sex surrogate could help you address, but it feels deeper than that to me. are you attracted to women at all?

I agree with others here who think you're not ready for this. It strikes me as unusual that you are a man in your 40s - presumably sexually active to some degree - and you've never received oral sex. It makes me think perhaps you grew up in a super religious way or something else that's made you so scared of STIs. I have been sexually active 99 percent of the time with men and I got my first STI this year. I didn't love it but I take doxy for 7 days and I'm fine. I also contacted partners I had and they're all good. HPV is something to worry about. Many of us have it, but getting vaccinated is smart if you don't. My recommendation is that you go for an erotic massage first. Pick a few guys, and look them upere. Some will provide oral, and that's a lower s-akes (and usually cheaper) way to have a same-sex experience.

The most we've paid for a single session was about $1,600 for 2 hours with two providers. It was a shared anniversary present and worth it. But it was a splurge for us. I generally find the conversation about whether time with a provider is "worth it" to be off-putting. None of us know what's in each other's bank accounts. And what is easy money to one might feel hard-earned to another. Similarly, providers' motivations and fees vary widely, not just based on what they can charge due to their attractiveness but also whether s3x work is their full-time job or a side hustle. For the former, having a rate that brings them consistent clients and repeats may be more critical than for the latter whose income is supplemental.

As with many things related to this hobby, it depends on the provider (and, I suspect, the client). I've had some great experiences with providers I've seen once or multiple times, who seemed to enjoy their work and I never got the impression they saw me as an ATM. And I've had a few experiences where it was obvious that they were just there for the money. The latter group won't be hired again. With the people who don't make me feel like an ATM, there's definitely more trust.

Yeah... I don't know if this other guy is his boyfriend or what. But he's like 22, 6'8" and not particularly good looking or fit. So it's not really a plus.

I've said elsewhere that I'm very sensitive to smell, so I'd rather they take 5 minutes to freshen up so the rest of the time is enjoyable. If you live in a hot place or its summer, someone can leave feeling all fresh and put together and show up sweaty and a mess.

I can't say if anyone is scamming. But as someone who's 90% a bottom, some days it's not in the cards. Perhaps saying they're "too tight" is a way of not having to say their stomach is upset or they have hemorrhoids. Either way, they should inform you that they're not up for it and offer to reschedule or reduce the rate. That said, I've been disappointed more than one by a top who couldn't stay hard. Do people think that should also result in a reduced fee?

I'm surprised the legal issue didn't come up sooner. If an escort sets prices for specific acts, arguing that the money is compensation for their time becomes difficult. I am pretty explicit about what I want. If someone doesn't offer that, I move on. The guy who recently stiffed me on my deposit, and I canceled because he said he doesn't kiss. If I'm hiring an escort who lists themselves as a top and offers various services, I expect them to be included in the overall price. Of course, if someone shows up smelling or dirty, a provider has every right to refuse service.

I want to reach out to CollegeBoy for this weekend. His profile doesn't list a phone number. For those who met him, did you message him through Rentmen?

In my experience, if it's a quick shower it doesn't matter.

I mostly agree with you. In fact, if we're having an escort over, the Virgo in me insists on cleaning like we're having a dinner party. I'm sober and my husband only drinks socially, so that rarely comes up. Regarding our first impression of the provider, I think manners go a long way toward having that be positive. And hygiene should not be an issue. It's the summer in NYC, so offering a shower is always good if I show up sweaty or the provider does. I am personally susceptible to smell and do not like anything more than a hint of musk. So I avoid providers who talk about armpits or being "ripe" in their profiles. I don't have any issue with those who enjoy it, but I literally could not have sex with someone who smells. Same for excessive cologne.