Jamie21

Oh dear this one comes up with regularity! If he mentions erotic or sensual massage then you can be comfortable asking him what he’s prepared to include in that. It’s best to be clear about what you want. Masseur’s advertising erotic or sensual will be open to most questions but if you want full sex then I think many would decline that because they’re not generally charging escort type rates. I prefer clients to ask me about what they’re looking for because the term ‘sensual’ is very open to different interpretations.

And the answers: 1: don’t do it 2: don’t do it 3: don’t do it 4: do it (please 🙂).

I agree with @nycman and @dbar123. Half his fee sounds like a significant sum and must be extremely annoying to lose. I’m sorry to hear it. But I think you should definitely not chase your loss by going through with meeting him.

He’s a professional (or is supposed to be). He shouldn’t need to know why, nor should he be chasing you for business. It’s not like he’s being faithful to you is it…so why should it work that you only hire him? I don’t think it right that you should treat it like a relationship break up: “Hey!…I met a younger, hotter guy. I’m just trying him out but if he isn’t up to the mark then I might come back to you…but only if you get your act together on X Y and Z. Have a great day”. Hmmmm …no, that doesn’t sound good however you phrase it. Just tell him you’re not hiring right now. If he’s wise he’ll understand why. If he doesn’t understand why then you can be sure that any explanation by you wouldn’t have landed well, and would have surely jeopardised the chances of any future sessions being pleasant.

Next time you visit London…

There are very few indeed who do not compare unfavourably to Tolstoy.

It is fabulous. It ought to be though because it cost £25 billion to build. Pity about the wifi though, on the older parts of the tube it’s kind of nice to put your phone away and just watch people or read a book. Of course one would never interact or talk with a stranger on the tube, NEVER!…. even if someone is completely naked sitting next to you one just carries on as if nothing is happening. Reminds me of a time on the Piccadilly line late one evening. Carriage was half full, a couple got on at Leicester Square. They were quite well lubricated (drunk) and proceeded to kiss vigorously as they stood in the centre by doors. As the doors closed and the train pulled away she went down on her partner…clearly sucking him off. My fellow passengers exchanged a few glances, but no one said anything. Some people didn’t even notice what was happening. We were going eastbound and just before the train reached the next station the girl had very proficiently brought him to a climax, tucked his cock back in his trousers, wiped her face on his t shirt and stood up as they both exited the train at Covent Garden. As the train door closed behind the amorous couple an old guy next to me said “oh I don’t know why they didn’t walk that, it’s much quicker to walk from Leicester Square to Covent Garden”. London at its finest.

Baby oil is disgusting to use in a massage. It’s the wrong type of oil. I warm up the bottle of oil and generally apply it with my hands but sometimes drip it from the bottle too, if say one of my hands is occupied elsewhere, for example my hand is around his cock and it’s getting close. You can’t stop to apply oil at this point so best thing is to use the other hand to squirt some oil from the bottle and keep the other hand working his cock to climax!

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Hey thanks!! I really appreciate that 🙂. Cheers!

I agree with all that. Onlyfans and Justforfans are very careful about what gets posted. When I film with other registered models it’s ok because they have already provided their ID to the platform, as have I. If I film with an amateur volunteer then they have to provide their approval on the site and provide ID to confirm they are over 18. The credit card companies would not allow the sites to accept payments if these checks were not in place. Also agree about the production quality. Good films need proper lighting, lots of cameras and performers who know where the cameras are!

Ugh, if he’s charging extra for kissing I can imagine how passionate those kisses would be. Why do guys even offer kissing if they can’t do it as an integral part of the session for no extra fee? It’s like serving soup without a bowl.

I’d guess Christmas day might be busy. There’s lots of people who are alone at Christmas and they might fancy some relaxation time. I’ve never seen a client on Christmas Day, and I think if I did I’d charge a big premium, because I’m with my family that day…..Oh…. wait….hmmm….actually I might do it free on Christmas Day 😂. I’ve noticed that immediately after the Christmas period there is usually a spike in demand as people who have had enough of their family over the festive season desperately look for some ‘me time’. Always happy to see clients who need to escape for a bit, especially if they’ve built up a big load!

Yes I’m based in London @rhh33. If you ever visit the UK it will be great to see you 🙂. Oh and I’ve said previously I will do out calls to the US….. subject to first class flights (BA or Virgin), a 5 star hotel and limo from the airport. Maybe @Redwine56 can fix it up for me! 😂😂😂

That’s a really sorry story. I think you probably chose the wrong provider. A better guy would have slowed things down and made you feel more special during the sex. Also if you book an hour it kind of implies you want a session where you get down to it faster, which is what he seems to have provided? I’d not assume that because he didn’t get hard while you fucked him that he wasn’t into you. If I bottom for a client I always get hard but I know that lots of guys can’t stay hard when they get fucked. I think next time if you want a better experience that’s less rushed then take time to find a guy that is more professional (look for experience, recommendations, has he a website?, is he busy?). Also if you can afford it book a longer session.

I get asked that occasionally by clients. I have a justforfans and a few clients ask about it if they’ve seen my justforfans. It’s totally unacceptable and unethical (and illegal) to film someone and post it without their consent and I’d never do it but I do understand the concern. Sites like justforfans and Onlyfans require the ID and consent form’s completed for anyone appearing in a video (although I think some people circumvent this). When I shoot content for my justforfans it’s with models who have provided ID and consent forms. Also it’s really obvious that a film is being shot because there’s lighting, cameras and cables everywhere. Plus a cameraman sometimes! The film looks good I hope… but the actual production of it isn’t very conducive to a relaxing sensual massage 🙂.

I ask at the beginning “are you happy for me to go anywhere? Head, feet and everything in between?”. The answer is usually “yes”. I’m aware some people specifically don’t like feet massage, or head massage so it’s good to check those. Occasionally clients say nothing internal but mostly they just say “it’s all fine”. So then I’ve the ok to go anywhere, including balls, hole, perineum etc. You can read cues from how they react if you go somewhere they don’t like. It might be obvious as in touch their hole and their ass cheeks squeeze together implies they don’t want a finger inside! It might be you try something and the reaction is dynamite. I saw a client recently and during the foot massage I kissed his toe…he responded positively so I sucked it…and he went wild (in a nice way!). Great! Now I know what gets him going. I think if you pick a good masseur they’ll ask you the right questions and they’ll read your reactions to give you what you want. You shouldn’t need to give him a ‘shopping list’ because that removes any element of surprise. He should just know where you definitely don’t want to be touched because that’s important to respect. I’m guessing you just chose the wrong masseur, he doesn’t sound very professional.

If you need to say you’re educated, you’re not educated. Now, if you’ll excuse me…I’m just going to check all my advertising for references to education.

I don’t think it rude. As you say not everyone celebrates all these holidays. If I was asked about my availability on a holiday day I’d just say whether or not I was available, no offence taken. I would say that most sex workers have a high threshold for offence taking so you’re safe asking this question. I’ve had lots of potentially more offensive questions than the one you’re asking, and I really don’t mind. I don’t assume to speak for everyone but I’d guess most are similar to me.

Everyone is different. I saw 2 clients recently on same day. First one wanted a more robust experience; firm massage, liked being smacked on his ass, balls slapped, rough throat fuck, virtually my whole fist up his hole, second guy wanted it sensual, soft massage, kissing, cuddling, toe sucking etc. The interesting thing was neither of them explicitly asked for this beforehand. After years of doing it you get to work out who likes what, plus you try a few things and see what reaction you get and build from there. BF experience is similar, people are reluctant to explicitly ask for what they want, so you just need a few clues and then the rest you can improvise and work it out. People like an element of surprise….but not too much surprise.

And that is why I love my job. Thank you.

I think the reasons people hire sex workers are as varied as the types of people who hire. It could be loneliness, it could be a desire for excitement, or the thrill of doing something illicit, or to get experience or to give up control (especially prevalent in people who have a lot of responsibilities in their lives) or just that someone has lots of commitments and hasn’t the time to cultivate a relationship, so they get some ‘me time’ with a sex worker. The important thing is not to judge someone for their motives because unfortunately society places all sorts of negative connotations to using sex workers which are just not valid or fair. I think sex work, whether it’s BF experience, a massage or a full on sex session is an essential outlet that can help people manage their lives. We all need a little fantasy and escapism sometimes.

All sorts of different things might be included in BF experience. I once went shopping with a guy, that was his definition of BF experience, he just wanted to buy some clothes and have me advise him on what looked good (Although I don’t profess to be a fashion expert!). In the end he bought me more stuff than he did for himself. Afterwards we went back to his hotel and used the pool and gym. Then back to his room where he ordered room service. We ate and chilled out together for a while, I gave him a massage on the bed (happy end style lol) and that was it. He really enjoyed the whole day, it was much more than a sexual experience.

Nope, just an ‘in time’ person. I stay in the moment more than I think about the next thing.

The more explicit the chat / pics shared the less likely they are to commit. I have regular contacts from guys looking to schedule a session with me. Every 6m or so they get horny enough to initiate a discussion about all the things they want to happen in the session. I often wonder what prompts it?; the phase of the moon?, the weather?, some unconscious trigger such as they saw a 🍆at the supermarket? Anyway whatever it is they message me with their shopping list of activities and request for my availability, with ‘definitely interested in booking mate’ comments….(yes the definitively heterosexual language is used….’mate’, ‘I’m str8 but…’ and the classic ‘straight acting’) and usually a bad pic of their ass. Of course nothing is ever booked and I hear nothing for 6m or more until the next time their desire has overcome their inhibition. Then they contact me as if we’ve never spoken before and the game is played out again.