Jamie21

I’m a masseur (and I’ve done some escorting). Your approach is excellent. It’s exactly what a masseur would prefer to hear. It shows you’ve read their bio, you’ve made your decision and you provide all the information the masseur needs to confirm the booking. I like requests such as yours. If I get requests that start “hi” or “how much do you charge?” or worst of all...a dick pic, then I’m almost certain they’ll never book. Those are red flags. They just ask lots of questions or want to engage in sex chat. You quickly get used to who the time wasters are.

Arrival fee!! That’s a new one. I bet she charges extra to suck the other tit ?. You sound like you’re on the same page as me. If you ever visit London and clients want a duo session let me know! I’m not as hot as you but the client will get a great service from two professional guys.

Use good quality escorts. The top guys know everything and will never ever be indiscreet. If I turn up at a client’s place I’m dressed smartly, I’m discreet and could be viewed as your lawyer or accountant.

That story makes me smile, I’ve been in a similar situation once. There’s a few guys I know who I’d never work with again, either because their clients are from Grindr (although I’ve had a few off there before it banned me...but I learned those clients are not ideal for me.) or because they do drugs or are unprofessional (they turn up late or are scruffy. It’s very bad to change your mind about what was agreed in the middle of the meeting. If my client had agreed to limits before the meet but then they asked for extra service during the meeting I’d be annoyed. It makes the rest of the meeting difficult if I say no and it puts me in a position where I feel compelled to agree. Your colleague should have kept to his agreement with the client. I think you handled it as best you could. I’m very careful who I work with now, especially if the client wants me to perform with the other guy or girl because I need to know my partner will do a good job for the client. Anyway my preference is to work one on one with the client but it is interesting to observe how others run things if it’s their client I am assisting with.

I think I know what you mean. I’ve a couple of friends who escort and those meets are great, we fuck (usually filming for justforfans etc) or just for the fun of it, have coffee, chat about the work or anything and it’s great. But when I’ve got together with other guys who work in the business they’re often flaky and random with responses and arrangements similar to what you describe Jarrod. I think that for many guys working as escorts the life is chaotic and unstructured. They don’t approach it as a business which means they don’t make plans or have schedules, everything is ad-hoc. The next client may call and so if they’ve committed themselves to something already then they’d miss the client, so everything ends up being provisional just in case a client books. The business forces this approach because of the way clients book...I’m horny I’ll book a guy to turn up in the next hour...that means escorts have to be ready at short notice a lot of the time. I never take those 2am calls where they ask for me to be available now, but I can see how if you’re in need of the money you’d end up taking bookings like that and live a random type of schedule. Because I’m great friends with a few escorts (and work with them too if clients book us together) then I always hope that a similar friendship can be built with new escorts I meet but I’ve no great expectations. I think you’re right. The job is difficult and it makes you quite transactional in relationships if you’re not careful.

My massage justforfans site is https://justfor.fans/MassageForHim We use go pros, different angles, good lighting and decent editing. They’re all massage themed. I’d love to know what guys think and any ideas for improving the content. Cheers Jamie

I guess you mean pricing according to the ability to pay. I don’t charge like that but my rates are set to avoid those clients who are ‘bottom end’ for lack of a better way of describing it...

Such an escorts only portal exists here in the UK. It is a sort of help resource for escorts & masseurs to share support around things like finding property, health checks, advertising etc. We also share information on known troublemakers (for example the clients who purposely book you for out calls a long way away with no intention of actually meeting and those who refuse to pay or become abusive). It’s not used for the everyday ‘time wasters’ or just difficult clients because that wouldn’t be practical, but the intention is that persistent serious trouble makers are identified and we can block them or report them to the police if they refuse to pay or are physically threatening. I find it quite a useful resource.

“There’s lots of stuff going on that I can’t comprehend” I agree!!! It’s difficult to get beneath some of the messages I get from potential clients. Definitely need to unload some of it to the universe to unpick sometimes.

Seems like more of a gripe against time wasters in general since most of those who just do endless chat also seem to send pics. If a client approaches me with lots of questions that end up like sex chat...such as “tell me what positions you’ll fuck me in etc” then 99% certain they’ll never book. Most of those guys will send me a dick pic, often as the first thing they send. I think it’s their way of flirting with an escort, it gets them off if I respond likewise (which I don’t do as I recognise the pattern), and it gives them some kind of proximity to a world they’re anxious about exploring. I’m careful though not to assume because some clients are self conscious about their body or cock and want the reassurance that they’re fit enough or their cock is big enough to meet a masseur /escort. If that’s the case then fine, send a pic. You’ll get my confirmation that you’re perfect to visit because I don’t make any requirements about what you look like. All I say to then is “Come and have a great time sexy”. We all have hang ups about some feature or other and no one needs a provider reinforcing that...my job is to find the sexiness in them (it’s always there) and help them discover and enjoy it. Time wasters are part of the job, recognise them early and just say “let me know if you want to book” and then disengage if they keep flirting.

That’s a very thorough preparation! As a sensual masseur I agree that clients who’s hygiene is poor is one of the most challenging aspects of the job. I always require that my clients shower before their massage. If you want a good massage where your masseur will go to areas that normal masseurs won’t then be clean and ready. Aside from the hygiene factors you should also have payment ready, be on time and respect the masseurs limits.

Thanks! Try scrolling to the bottom of the homepage... all blog posts are listed there. Or here’s the link https://sensualtouchco.com/?p=433 Cheers Jamie

Yes agree totally! I’m advertised as a masseur because 1) it’s easier to advertise and 2) my clients are more comfortable booking a masseur than an escort. But the service is sex work, I flex what I include in the massage to meet their requirements. So if they want a massage that includes me riding them that’s what they get. Lazy thinkers, prejudiced and small minded people use labels because it saves them having to actually explore and explain themselves and their responses. If they considered it they might understand that the work involves a lot more than ‘just’ having sex. What the client is buying can include discretion, companionship, counselling, logistics (ever considered the planning that goes into arranging a group session in a hotel?), being available almost 24/7, health expertise, deep understanding of human sexuality and attraction. Then consider the work that goes into advertising, promotion, keeping fit and healthy and sane.... I applaud anyone who is even moderately successful in this industry because it definitely takes effort and skill.

Often with these ideas the fantasy is more appealing than the reality. It may be better to keep it in your head as a nice dream and a possibility but not do anything proactive to make it happen. You could say to him next time you’re with him that you are thinking of a solo trip to Maui and see what his reaction is.

I’ve plenty!! There’s a few on my blog on my massage website sensualtouchco.com They’re stories about my adventures doing sensual massage. I’ll be posting some more soon.

Thank you!

That reminds me of a time before I did escorting/massage and I was in Spain doing a bit of travel. I was sunbathing naked on a secluded beach, just me there. It was near Mijas. I noticed a guy come along and pitch his towel nearby, just close enough to indicate interest but far enough away to be separated on the empty beach...if you know what I mean. He stripped off too and for a while we both lay there. He was older than me, I was in my 20’s and I guess he was around 45 or 50. Fit and tanned, and quite hairy. After a while I noticed he had a semi and he kept stroking his cock so I could see it. I was laying on my front so he couldn’t see my cock but it was hard from watching him. I don’t like to be subtle so I just turned over onto my back and showed him a full hard on and started wanking it. It worked, he was now fully hard and it looked big. I’d not been fucked for over a week and I was desperate for it. I beckoned him over and moved to the side of my blanket so he could sit next to me. Luckily he spoke some English as my Spanish for “please fuck me” is poor. Anyway after an initial hello I like your cock etc I got out my lube and smeared it in my bum so he couldn’t be under any misunderstanding about where to put it. First though he wanted a bj so I sucked him for a while then I really couldn’t wait any longer so I turned around and presented my bum doggie style. He put a condom on (I had one ready) and I’d probably got him too close because after only a few pumps he shot. Then I cum too all over my chest lol. He cleaned me up and we both lay there in the sun for a while. Next day I had to register at the local police station (some rule whereby if you’re staying in the area for a period you had to let them know....I think it was so they could charge you a “fee” which I expect the police pocketed....I took a load of pesetas for my “fee”). Yes, you guessed it, behind the counter was my hung fuck mate from the beach. He smiled and let me off the fee....and I met him again at the beach next day for a longer session.

And as a British guy I’d say “jolly good show old chap, I quite agree”.

I wear one if my client wants me to. Some clients like me to wear a jock or backless pants at the start of the massage so it’s no different to wearing a cock ring if they request that. I’ve a couple of clients who like me wearing one. One of the clients bought me the ring he likes me to wear. It’s a thick metal one. I’ve never had a client wear a cock ring at the start, but some older guys like to put one on when they get hard because it helps them to stay hard. A lovely client in his late sixties likes to fuck me at the end of the massage so we always do that once he’s got the cock ring on and he can then stay hard enough to get it in.

As a provider, I go by my client’s request. Except that if I’m bottoming then I require a condom. if you find a provider who insists on bb then avoid him. You’re the client, it should be your decision.

Yes escorts charge more per hour. Plus they do overnights or longer. Doing massages can be quite tiring, mostly on your hands. Important to work out your hands by strengthening grip.

Pay them. Guys hire me for massage which is sensual so it will get intimate. Sometimes they just want sex though and if that’s the case then the massage is curtailed. I still expect payment and I think that’s reasonable.

regardless of whether you’re a masseur or escort if your service includes you fucking the client and ejaculation there’s a limit to how many you can see in a day. Other than that you can see as many clients as you can book. Personally I have a limit so that I’m fresh and able to perform.