Jamie21

It’s very situational. Recreational sex I’m usually more bottom these days. Work sex I’m usually more top. Group sex (work or recreational) I’m versatile. Sometimes I want to be the cum dump, sometimes I just like cuddling and suck etc without any anal penetration. It’s very complicated!

Oh yes I agree. They should be clear about what’s included in the price. I don’t think doing ‘in massage’ upsells creates the right atmosphere. I always agree everything that’s to be included in the massage with my clients beforehand and never do upsells during the massage unless they want to extend the time. Primarily I’m doing a massage service, it’s got to be a great massage. But also include all the things you’d expect from a sensual massage (that can vary though between masseurs) so including tonsil massage, h/e, nudity, touching me etc. If it’s clear they want more of an escort type session then that’s a different discussion and a different rate.

Has happened to me a few times and is awkward. Not because I’m embarrassed; most of my friends know what I do and I’m quite open about it in my social groups, so on the few occasions clients have recognised me I’ve not been anxious about what they might say. The awkwardness comes from me not recognising them as a client in a different setting. Obviously I know my regulars but the occasional client or once off I wouldn’t remember their face if approached at a pub or on the street. A few occasions guys have smiled or acknowledged me and I’ve really not known who the hell they are. I kind of recognise the face but struggle to say where from? Is it that guy at the gym? Or some former work associate? Or is it the massage client who likes his prostate worked over? Awkward… I just smile back and pretend I know them while desperately hoping they’ll give me a clue if conversation starts: Him “hi! how are you?” Me “oh hi, good thanks how’s you?” Him “good session last time” Me (thinking ah yes it’s prostate guy) “yes I’m glad you enjoyed it” Him “er…yes I needed it” Me (it’s definitely prostate guy) “absolutely, I was impressed how you shot your load so far when I gave your prostate a press!” Him (looking suddenly confused) “what?” Me (oh fuck, it’s the guy from the gym) “er I said I was impressed by the load on the bar as you lay prostrate on the bench press” Him (looking at me like I’m a weirdo) “yeah mate, see you around” Me (dying inside) “yeah, see you” Can’t visit that gym anymore…

And of course…keep your eyes open when kissing and gaze deeply into his eyes. Truly the eyes are the window to the soul.

It’s a red flag. It usually precedes a request for a discount. No decent provider cares what you look like. Just be clean and healthy.

What they mean is they don’t want to engage in ‘polite’ chat. Some clients think it’s nice to start a conversation off and kind of slowly build to the request. Don’t bother, all I want to know is when you want to come and the duration, plus your name. Those clients are serious and will get a reply. The polite chats that start with: ”Hi” ”How are you?” ….are a waste of time and are ignored. Also those who ask questions that can be answered by looking at the guys profile are annoying and pointless, such as: ”Do you do out calls to xxx?” …..and we have the ‘sex chat’ questions which get deleted immediately: ”How big is your cock?” …and the window shoppers also get deleted: ”What’s your best rate?” Those kind of conversation are 99% certain to be a time waster. No one will engage much with that kind of thing. Put your request right up front in the first message. “Hi, I’m into xxxxxx and want to book a session with you that will include that. Is it something you do?”. If they don’t answer it’s probably a “no” but if it’s in their repertoire then you’ll get a reply. Take it from there.

They come on student visas. Pre Brexit lots had Portuguese passports so could come to UK without any visa.

Definitely this. Don’t be judgmental. It’s actually a privilege to have people share their most intimate and private desires with you.

Thank you @RadioRob for the suggestions on signature. Mine is now updated 🙂

Just ask. They’ve heard it all before. Honestly they’ll prefer to know exactly what you’re into. It saves all the guess work during the session. And use your own words, describe it in the best way you can, especially the details. It’s the details that are important. I have a massage client who likes me sucking his toes, but it has to be done when he’s on his back so he can see, and I need to make eye contact. Toe sucking in any other way doesn’t do it for him. I only hit on this by chance because he was too embarrassed to ask me since he thought it was a silly thing to be turned on by. It’s definitely not silly, it’s just normal and everyone has these kind of things that get them going. So tell your guy and they’ll be delighted that you felt confident and comfortable enough to ask. If they aren’t comfortable doing it (unlikely) then you can find someone else.

I think people don’t notice the signature messages. Lost count of the number of times I get messages from guys asking for my website when it’s just there on the bottom of my posts 🙂

Yes! And add “student discount”, “definitely interested” and senders of dick pics.

Most have masseuses. They’re there to extract money from tourists. Beware.

Send me £200 and I’ll tell you 😂😂😂😂

If they’d previously agreed to meet at that time and then at the very last minute they announce they’re late, as if the lateness only just that second happened (like are they outside the client’s hotel room door and suddenly they’ve got to douche or do their hair or whatever?) then that’s just unprofessional.

It’s called GoodEscort. I’m on it. It uses same software as this site too!

I agree. I’m very careful about my sexual health. I test regularly and am aware of all risks and signs. It’s guys who don’t work as a sex worker who I find to be more ignorant about these things, and therefore more risky. Some of them play around but never get tested which is just being irresponsible.

Or come to me for sensual massage training. I’ve seen over more than 700 clients of all genders, sexual orientations, ages and body shapes. It does take time before you feel like you really know what you’re doing and then a client comes along who challenges all your assumptions and you learn more! If never ends.

It’s like going for a walk without a map. You might end up somewhere lovely, you might end up lost and waste a lot of time. Just be aware that when you embark on the journey that it could go anywhere so have low expectations, high curiosity and an open mind.

It’s a common mistake. Jamie He, Him, Masseur, Wielder of Cock.

I had a client book and then change his mind because of concerns over the pox. I’m vaccinated but he was still too anxious to go ahead, so he cancelled. If he was going to be too anxious that’s fair enough, he wouldn’t enjoy it fully, but it’s a shame he feels like that. My view is that there’s always a good reason not to do something. Sometimes though we put things off until a better time but the better time never comes. My instinct is to say yes first and then think rationally about why not. Be careful, but not to the extent that you don’t experience life because of the perceived risks. The right time is always now because tomorrow might never come…..Except of course if you’re booking a massage because I encourage people to book ahead to ensure availability!

If you like him just take him at his word and enjoy the time. He probably does expect you to pay for meals and other entertainment but if you’re ok with that then go ahead. Do what you’re comfortable with, it seems he enjoys your company so go with it.

Hi @jetlow I just checked your rating. You’re a 9. Well done.

If you’re in the dark, ask! No decent masseur would object to that question. Yep, pandemics suck… but on the other hand I suck too and that’s much more enjoyable.

When I retire from sex work there’s a book to be written. Names and locations will be changed to protect the innocent…sorry, the not so innocent 🙂