Jamie21

Clients contact me with questions, which I answer. I just assume that if they don’t book they didn’t like my answer. It’s no problem, I’m not forcing them to like me or what I do!

There’s no need to say why you’re not booking. Just say ‘thanks I’ll come back to you if I want to book’. Many enquiries just end inexplicably which surprises me…it’s “hi are you free today?, I reply “hi yes I am available between x and x” and then ….nothing! Or even “hi”…to which the only reply possible is “hi” and then it all goes quiet. Very strange.

If you’re talking to someone in the UK (or elsewhere in Europe) there’s no need to be concerned about the legalities of paying for sex. It’s legal here so be clear about what you want. I much prefer clients to get to the point quickly. If clients are coy it’s difficult…. Example: guys ask “how erotic is it?”. I might say “very erotic” but that doesn’t really help us!. He wants to ask something like “will you kiss?” or “will you fuck me? or “can I suck you?” (To which I might answer “I don’t know…can you?”) but he doesn’t because it’s embarrassing or he doesn’t want to offend me. Hey, if you do book a session we’ll be naked together at some point and I’ll see your cum shot face! …so why be embarrassed to ask me a question? And as for causing offence…well I’ve had all sorts of questions so nothing is likely to offend me. I’m in the wrong job if I get offended by someone asking me about sex. So aside from being careful about the legal situation in your jurisdiction I suggest most providers will want you to be very clear about what you want and get to the point quickly. If it’s a masseur who is advertising ‘sensual or erotic’ massage you can be fairly confident that he’s ok to be asked about sexual activity. If he advertises as therapeutic massage only then I wouldn’t ask.

In my experience, as a masseur, clients want a great massage AND the extras. The rate I charge is too much for a massage that doesn’t include any kind of release. Once you’re doing that then there’s not a big difference between that and escorting, it’s simply degrees of different activity. I think if clients want only a massage then RentMasseur is not the place to be looking. But of course you need to be wary of the guys on there who haven’t got a clue about how to do a massage!

Erotic massage begins with E, whereas a Sensual massage begins with S. That’s the main difference…

Ask out straight. I always prefer clients to be straight to the point (asked politely of course) with questions. It’s a relief when someone knows what they want, can ask for it and be respectful about it.

It’s a secret Masseur technique. After years of experience you also learn how to remove your shorts whilst keeping both hands on the client’s body…or at least you think they are hands 😉

These things become blurred. I have worked as both escort and masseur and it’s very difficult to say definitively what is or isn’t included in each type of session. I advertise on RentMasseur and other massage themed sites and certainly all my sessions involve massage (preferably done on a table etc) so I describe myself as a masseur. It’s my intention is to give a really great sensual massage (definitely not a rub and tug) but clients do ask about the inclusion of sex in the massage (either as top or bottom) and it does happen. I know escorts who will set boundaries in their escort session, and I have done the same. Every person working as a sex worker will have things that they are comfortable to include and things they aren’t. The important thing is for clients to ask, and providers to answer clearly so that everyone has the right expectations.

Grindr was 99% time wasters, I don’t use it anymore. I think I had it for about two years until they banned me from it! Which although it was annoying at the time I’m now glad of it because I waste my time in other ways (hello Instagram and Twitter) these days… I got endless requests for pics of my cock, questions about how big it is and whether I could accom. After a while on there you get to see a pattern of behaviour. And if course if you’re in the same location you see the same headless torsos on your ‘grid’. The times it was useful was if you were in a new town. Then you’d get hit on as ‘fresh meat’ by everyone looking for novelty. I had some good hookups when travelling. Many of the Grindr ‘conversations’ ended up with questions about hiring me for massage and that’s where it became a problem because of course Grindr prohibits solicitation. I didn’t initiate those questions but as soon as you respond with a link to your professional website or RentMasseur profile then the risk is someone complains. So I got banned. Which, was a blessing because any clients I did get from Grindr weren’t very reliable.

The Lizzy line (Elizabeth line) is fantastic. Very quick. It can deliver a client from Heathrow to my massage studio near Tottenham Court Road station in under 40 minutes….just saying 😉…

Ah the perils of a shared language with different words! Vest is 🎽… something I’d wear at the gym. I saw a client from the US recently where another clothing misunderstanding happened. He arrived and we are talking before the massage begins…I asked him if he’d like to shower before the massage? He says “yes”, so if that’s the case I usually ask the client to strip down to his underwear and then show him to the bathroom. There’s a good reason why I don’t want them to undress in the bathroom but we won’t bother with that here…I’m just wearing my shorts at this point. On this occasion I said “ok John if you just want to strip down to your pants I’ll show you through to the bathroom”. John takes off his shirt and then just stands there. I assume he’s nervous or something so I ask him if he has any injuries etc while I busy myself preparing the table and oil, trying to be as calming and routine as possible so that he feels comfortable to strip to his underwear….but John simply stands there shirtless, waiting for me to take him to the bathroom. I then say to him again “ok if you did want to use the bathroom please just leave your pants on and I’ll show you the shower”…..but he continues to stand there looking confused at me, making no attempt to remove his trousers. And I stand there looking confused at him….is he too shy to just be in pants with me?…should I get naked to help make him comfortable? Does he want me to undress him (actually that’s something I do…great way to start!)… Then I realise…he is in ‘pants’ because in US English ‘pants’ are trousers 👖 whereas here in UK they’re underwear 🩲…. 🙄…Turns out he wasn’t shy about stripping down atall, just confused by my language. Should have gone all cockney on him and said “alright mate let’s get a butchers at ya pins then we can get you in the khazi”….

Most clients like me to start in shorts and a vest or T shirt. Part way through I remove the top. Then usually they like to feel me through the shorts or jock. Then by about half way through I’m naked. If you want body to body then it’s best to be completely naked, although I usually leave my socks on because that’s a thing…

Not in as many words. But their behaviour has definitely implied it.

“You’re just a sex worker so it doesn’t matter if I flake on you, waste your time and treat your service like it’s something trivial” BUT “if I turn up then you’d better be totally professional and give me a great service or I’ll give you a bad review”. Guys, you get the providers you deserve. Treat them like shit?…then don’t be surprised if they behave in ways that are transactional at best. Treat people with respect for their time and efforts and you’ll get providers that are in it to do a great job. 95% of my clients are the latter, they’re great, but a few are the former although they generally don’t get through to a booking. They’re easy to identify from the first contact and I simply don’t deal with them.

Personally I’m fine with details of extras being included in the review but in some instances it could be difficult for the masseur (as in where selling sexual services is against the law or where the masseur is working in a spa setting). What generally happens is clients ask me what kind of services are included in the massage and I think that works quite well. As for the use of a table, some clients are really ok with receiving the massage on a bed. I offer to bring a table to an outcall but sometimes if the client is staying in a hotel where the room is small or they simply want to be really discreet then they prefer that I don’t bring a table. So I think it should be possible for the client to say they chose a bed or floor massage. It can still be a great sensual massage experience even if a table wasn’t used.

Yes, usually I recommend a 1 hour session first time. Best to do that first time just in case you don’t like me (I hope that’s not the case!).

My rate reduces slightly for a longer session. The two hour rate is slightly less than double the 1 hour rate. Why? I prefer to do a longer session than an hour, the preparation time etc is same for an hour as it is for two. It’s more efficient for me to see one two hour client than to see two one hour clients. So I price it accordingly to encourage them to trade up to 90m or 2 hours.

That’s a slippery slope. Once you come down because it’s that or nothing it normalises it, for you and the client. Next time he books the client expects same rate. So I never discount.

I don’t see that dynamic. Many of my clients book weeks in advance. They always seem to turn up. I think there’s other stronger signals that someone isn’t going to turn up.

I think people are muddling up price and value. If my perception of value of something is higher than the sellers then I’m likely to pay the asking price. If it’s less than the sellers then I’ll ask for a discount. Everyone has a different perception of value. I pay tax on my income! His Majesty’s Revenue & Customs is very happy to call sex work real work.

Massage therapy! It works not only on the body but also the head and the heart. Truly holistic 🙂

Definitely. I consider that for many clients it’s not the sexual activity that really matters it’s just having someone’s body close to you, some human touch, interaction and a chat and a smile. It’s actually a human necessity, like water, oxygen and food.

It is quite a lot, obviously he enjoys it. 5 of those sessions were with just me and 2 of them were with me and another masseur (a different guy each time) so there was a bit of variety. I also vary my routine so that it doesn’t get too familiar yet still keeps the essence of why he comes back for more (that’s a delicate balancing act). You have to keep things interesting and fresh, even if someone is booking weekly.

OMG…I have one of those. Can’t be the same guy because you and I are on different continents…but maybe my client is his brother or something. He texts every day. At first it was endearing, then it was mildly irritating, then I had to say to him…‘please no more texts!’…we can talk at your session’…but he still sent occasional texts.. I think he’s lonely.

It varies. Some of my regular clients return annually (they live abroad usually). A recent regular has had 7 sessions in the past 3 months. Most of my regulars come between 4 and 6 months. I think it’s important to keep things fresh, especially with sensual massage.