Jamie21

Definitely ask if it’s something you specifically want. Just because someone lists lots of things doesn’t mean they’re into everything. Sometimes it’s surprising what escorts aren’t into. Example: I was filming a porn scene with a well known escort (for our respective fans sites). We’d discussed beforehand broadly what would happen (or more to the point…what wouldn’t happen) so that was all good. Near the end of the filming I shot on his chest and he freaked out. We stopped and cleaned it up. Then we started filming again to finish him off. I was totally surprised by his dislike of cum on him, which seemed unusual for an escort. So I’d say he might be really into some specialist things but don’t assume that means he’s into everything.

Yeah I guess in some places guys have to be a bit discreet in their ads, for legal reasons. Must be really annoying.

He must have been in high demand! When demand exceeds supply, you put the price up.

No excuse for being rude, but not engaging fully with some enquiries is a way of weeding out the time wasters, window shoppers and those who expect a ‘deal’.

Most of the basic questions that get asked are already answered in the advert or website. It gets quite tiring to answer the same questions by text. I get “hi what’s your rate?”….”when are you available?”. I get a lot of messages like that. So sometimes the answer “please see my website” might seem curt, but it’s really just to avoid lengthy exchanges by text. Also, if the first question is “what’s your rate” the likelihood is it’s too expensive for him. You learn to avoid wasting too much time on that kind of thing.

My Justforfans features me…obviously 😂 (and I’m definitely not 19 any more!). I film with all ages from 20 year olds to mature daddies of many years vintage. https://justfor.fans/MassageForHim

I’ve done couples massage. Either as a 4 hands where I guide one of the couple in giving a massage to their partner, or where I give the massage alone while the partner watches. Then they swap over. Being watched receiving a massage by your partner can be really exciting. I’m based in London though!

Hmmm… I liked one of my postmen, who would sometimes deliver more than letters. He always wore shorts, even when it was freezing…best calves I’ve ever seen. His cum tasted sweet, he was intact and was top. The Royal Mail was exemplary in those days.

Me too. You’ll find me in the kitchen at large parties chatting to one or two people. Unless of course it’s a sex party, then I’m happy to be in the middle of the action and with an audience! I still don’t understand why that is but I’m happy to keep exploring it to understand it better 😂

I agree with you except for the extrovert bit. I’m not extrovert (far from it!!) and most of my sex worker friends I wouldn’t call extrovert. I know that’s not a scientific sample but anecdotally it seems to me to be valid in my experience. But I do think all are interested in people and in particular how they connect sexually.

Yes, it’s not easy. Which is why many beginners start out thinking ‘Great! Easy money, I’ll have sex and get paid’…..and then they realise it’s not like that atall, so they go off and do something else.

Yes agree, although I’d kind of hope someone doing sex work does realise that the brain is the biggest sex organ. When I see female clients you’re not getting much response if you don’t think about what’s going on in her head and manage that through the session. With guys it’s simpler but still important to think about his emotional state if you want to provide a great service. I love the reference to emotional connection as a ‘menu item’! …. Client : “I’d like my cock sucked and to cum in your mouth and I’d like an emotional connection please” Provider “yes ok, there’s an extra charge for the cum in mouth option. Would you like ‘emotional connection plus’ or is the standard level of connection ok? Client “what’s the plus version?” Provider “I add extra sincerity, it’s an extra £50 for the plus option.” Client “ok I’ll take the standard level of emotional connection thanks”….

A good provider wouldn’t let it be apparent though. The ones who are adept at this work will be able to find a bond very quickly. It’s a very tough job if you can’t do that!

I had a sugaring. Sack and crack. My hair on my sack wasn’t quite long enough, so apparently the sugar couldn’t grip it properly…the sugar guy persevered with it and the pain was awful. I’m not averse to some CBT (as one might see on one or two of my porn films lol) but this was something else, and not sexy either. I had to ask him to stop. Never went back. Now I get waxed.

I disagree with that. If you want it you should ask it. Of course you don’t know whether he will be able to or wants to …that’s why you ask! If he can’t or won’t then he’ll say so. If you really want that then it’s fine to ask him. I like my clients to ask if it’s something they really want. If I’m doubtful about whether I can do it then I’ll just say ‘let’s see’, but I’d rather know he wants it. This part I agree with. Don’t choreograph the session too much. I like to read where it’s going and I think I can tell what my clients like now by just watching how they react to certain things. I think you need to know where it definitely won’t go if you have red lines but outside of that part of the fun is the exploration into the unknown.

Definitely agree. You need to truly enjoy the work and enjoy the people you meet through doing it. If you don’t enjoy it then it’s easily apparent to your client. At its essence the work requires kindness and humanity, it should never be purely transactional (although of course there’s a transactional element to it). When I stop enjoying doing this kind of work I’ll stop.

Unless of course you’re in an enlightened country.

It’s the large 4 inch cock kind of thing..

This reminds me of a client of mine and his dog. My experience may offer you a solution… I’ve a regular massage client who I visit on outcalls. He has a couple of very large Labradors; an older bitch and a young dog. The client adores them. When I visit with my massage table and bag the old girl lifts her head from her snooze and kind of nods hello. The young dog bounces all over me in excitement. His name is Parker (the dog, not the client…in fact I have changed his name for anonymity, I wouldn’t want to embarrass the dog). The client has a large 3 storey house and we use a top floor spare bedroom for the massage. Somehow I make it up the stairs to the bedroom with my table while Parker runs excitedly up and down alongside me. The first time I saw the client at his place he kept Parker outside the bedroom while I did the massage. I try to set a relaxing tone with music and soft lighting etc but for the whole massage Parker is crying outside, scratching at the door and padding around. Every so often the client shouts “Parker…be good!” which doesn’t seem to help. This client likes to begin the massage on the table and then half way through (he books 90m but I don’t keep strict time on outcalls so it’s usually a couple of hours) we move to the double bed for er…more relaxing massage shall we say. My first out call to him must have been good because things become regular. After a few visits the routine is set. Parker greets me excitedly and slowly gets used to me (and me to him actually), the crying outside the door reduces (but never really goes away) and my client gets a massage / bed session. I think we’re all happy. However on one session my client leaves the bedroom door open…and Parker is with us for the massage….My client senses my anxiety and says “don’t worry Jamie he’s used to you now, he’ll be good”. I say “ok” but I’m thinking ‘I’d rather he was outside…he hasn’t seen what happens’. So I start as usual and Parker is sat in the corner of the room watching me….with those eyes. At this point I’ve got shorts on and my client is covered in a towel. I’ve massaged clients before when their dog is in the room but usually that dog is a small lap dog thing and it just curls up in its basket and sleeps. This is different, Parker seems to be guarding his owner. Will he attack me when I’ve got his owners dick in my mouth? Will he attack my dick when my shorts are off? What happens when we move to the bed? It’s difficult for me to get into the massage…but slowly Parker settles and so do I. I can see him laying down, his head between his paws, eyes occasionally catching mine. It’s like I’ve become one of the pack. Both of us serving his master. I’m naked now and so is the client. He’s been touching my cock (the client…not Parker) so I have a semi. Parker is watching us but seems relaxed. Maybe the massage ambience is calming him. Is it my imagination or do I sense a look of brotherly respect in his glance toward me as he sees my cock ‘respect bro’ (did I mention Parker is hung?). I send him back a look that I hope says ‘great balls’ (did I mention he’s laying on his side, displaying a massive pair of bollocks?). We bond like gym ‘bros’ in the locker room. The massage progresses slowly (my client likes a great massage and long build up). Parker stirs himself from his bollock display position and languidly moves to immediately under my table. Does this mean I’m accepted? Now I’m stepping over him as I move around the table. I’m now bent over the table working my client’s glutes with my elbow…my glutes are exposed. Parker re-arranges himself and I briefly imagine he’s going to sniff between my parted ass cheeks. Strangely this is not disconcerting to me. I whisper into my client’s ear “shall we move to the bed?”. He’s definitely ready for that because he climbs off the table and onto the bed, which he’s put clean towels on already. I grab my oil bottle, the lube bottle, chuck them on the bed and join my client who has assumed the position…so I bury my face in his ass and rim him. As I’m down there I sense something else join us on the bed. Coming up for air I see that Parker has joined us. It’s a large bed but he is so arranged that he’s taken half of it. He seems comfortable with me rimming his master (maybe he’s thinking ‘ah so humans sniff each other’s asses too, what hypocrites for laughing at us when we do it’) so I carry on. The bed session is kind of awkward though. Not because I don’t like an audience…on the contrary I love an audience but they’re usually human. Parker is just in the way, I keep almost kicking him or laying on him as me and my client move around the bed. Fortunately he doesn’t interfere, even during more vigorous activity when it could look like to him that I’m attacking his owner. At the climax, and briefly, and in a weird way I have a sense of disappointment because I’ve never had an audience be so indifferent. Couldn’t he show some sign of approval? Perhaps come over and use that tongue to clean up the cum that’s on my leg? Fortunately that feeling quickly passes (gross!) and I’m quite glad when Parker gets off the bed and leaves the bedroom…like some client who wants to dash for the shower as soon as he’s shot his load. I cuddle with the client for a bit and then shower off in the en suite as he makes us tea downstairs. “I think it works better if Parker is in the room Jamie, I hope you didn’t mind, he’s much calmer and I can relax better” says my client as he hands me a slice of lemon drizzle. “Yes I think so” I reply glancing at Parker who seems to be ignoring me. My advice to you @Stormy ….include your dog in the sex (only as an observer of course)!

Did it in the shower with him, using cream. I think the blade was too sharp, and I wasn’t slow enough.

Sexual attraction is only superficially physical. Of course everyone has a physical type that they find attractive and many people don’t explore beyond that, so they don’t discover that in reality sexual attraction is a mental thing. Those who do sex work and are able to do sexual activity with anyone realise that it’s a state of mind. They can get into that state of mind for their partner.

OMG I did that for someone one time (not as a paid gig) and nicked him on the shaft and balls. It was like a scene from a hospital documentary. He wasn’t happy. It’s very different doing someone else to doing your own because you can’t feel when there might be risk of a cut.

The world comes to me 😘

I was on holiday in Mykonos with a friend one time, and we ended up hooking up with another couple. One of the other couple had had laser hair removal on his body (torso and elsewhere) because he’d been a drag performer and so wanted to be hair free. He told us a horror story about the laser procedure going wrong and leaving him with ugly marks all over his torso for ages. He had to sue the practitioner and have loads of treatment to fix the damage. This was some years prior to us meeting him and his partner and so it wasn’t especially noticeable on his body, but if you looked closely (which we had done ha ha) then you could see the scarring. I think that story put me off having any kind of laser hair removal. I just wax and shave.

I’ve found that guys tend not to want to cum at orgies, unless they’re ready to go home and then they’ll cum. So everyone is having sex (some just watch, which I find strange but I’m glad of the audience) but no one is cuming….they’ll stop or ease off a bit if they get close. Some want to save it for someone they had their eye on, some seem to lose all interest as soon as they cum so to prolong the fun they hold off cuming until they’re ready. I was at a party recently and after it had been going a while I was chatting in the kitchen. A guy who had just arrived came in (to leave the bottle he’d brought) and I see that I know him. He saw me, looked at my soft cock and said “hey Jamie! have you already cum?” I had to laugh because all he was interested in was taking my load, not even a ‘hi how are you?’. I told him I knew he was coming late and had saved a big load for him…where would he like me to leave it? Obviously that was a lie…one of the guys I was talking to had already received a load. My late coming friend got some too because he promised me I’d get his. We had a deal.