Jamie21

I don’t count myself as a porn star (well…if I’m trying to flatter my ego when I look in the mirror I do, but that’s not really the point is it!) and I’ve over a hundred porn films, for a studio, for other models and for my own fans platforms. I’d say I’m a porn actor. When does one move from being a performer to a porn star? I think it’s when you’re browsing the net for material to get yourself off and you accidentally come across one of your own videos….

Most of my referrals come from other masseurs or escorts (and I return the favour). If I can’t see a client and he asks if I know anyone else then I always suggest guys I know who I think would be suitable for the client. They do same for me. It’s more frequent than referrals from clients because I think most clients are discreet about hiring.

Most of my pics are body pics, there’s one or two that show my face although not directly. If a client contacts me and asks for a face pic then I’m fine to send one. I prefer to be a little discreet plus the talk of authorities using facial recognition software to identify those doing sex work is a concern. I don’t want to be stopped at the border of a place I’m visiting because some country doesn’t like my job.

I think as a provider it’s important for me to feel that my clients are enjoying themselves. I bring my 100% focus on giving them a great experience but it helps me to do that if I get visible feedback. Aside from me needing my client to be hygienic and respectful (almost all are!) then the only thing that really helps me is that I can see they’re into it. I find it difficult if he’s totally passive. It happens very occasionally…as in he just lays there and whatever you do there’s no response. I manage to get him off but it’s kind of sterile. I asked afterwards “did you enjoy it?” and one of the guys said “yes it was great”. I believed him but just wish he showed it more because that spurs me on. That particular guy was very anxious and inexperienced so that’s why I believed him; he was too scared to ‘let go’ but I think most providers would say that what encourages them in the session is to really feel that their client is having fun. That’s why I do it, I love helping clients be themselves sexually and emotionally.

This is it. Sometimes I get clients asking if they can book and pay for half hour but then extend it to an hour or longer if they want to during the session. So what that means is I have to book out the full hour in my calendar (giving up doing anything else during that time) just in case the client decides he wants longer! Sorry no that doesn’t happen. Minimum time is an hour. My style doesn’t suit anything less than that and really I find an hour is rushed. Best time is 90m or 2 hours.

I had a client who just liked worshipping (if that’s what you’d call it) my dick. I’d just sit there or lay there while he knelt and played with it, sucking and using his hands on me (when he wasn’t edging himself). It could go on for hours if I let it but of course there was a time limit. He didn’t want me to do anything back to him, so I didn’t. I really can’t do that kind of work, it got so boring. I prefer to be more active. I had to decline his requests to hire me in the end. I really couldn’t understand how he could get so much from basically doing the same thing for hours.

I have a client who I see at his hotel when he visits. Lovely guy, always stays at nice hotels. The only challenge for me is he likes to leave the room TV on whilst I massage him. It’s usually on one of those 24hr news channels. I prefer to massage to music (my playlist or his) but he likes the news on. I find myself listening to it which makes it difficult to focus on the massage. One time I was working his cock almost to climax and the football (soccer) scores came on, so I had to ease off a bit so I could hear my team’s score without being distracted by my client’s climax. He didn’t notice… I hope it just seemed like a bit more edging.

Vlad the Impaler?

Now there’s an idea! I am part of the gig economy. Working anytime with zero job security and having my pants pulled down all the time.

Yes! I’d love McKinsey to come in and tell me how to run my business. I’m looking forward to having a smooth talking snake oil salesman…sorry ‘partner’ present me with a 40 slide PowerPoint deck that has been produced by their overworked graduates using slides adapted from their last client (hey they might even leave their name on one of the slides). I’d love to see them take things that I intrinsically know and re-tell them to me as if they’re new concepts for me by using fancy graphics, models and buzz words like ‘pivot’, ‘key stakeholders’, ‘agile’ and ‘channel’ so they can charge me an exorbitant fee. Then if I try to implement their recommendations I’ll have to watch my business fail because as everyone knows consultants consult because they can’t do real work.

Here in Europe (although I’m in the UK and we like to think we’re not in Europe of course…😉) that kind of data policy would mean you need to be compliant with data protection regulations. There’s all sorts of rules about what you can collect, why, how you store it and use it and what safeguards you have over it. In Germany basically it’s impossible to collect any kind of data!

Similar feature on RentMasseur. I get messages on there from the system telling me that a ‘Premium RentMasseur client’ checked out my private gallery and would I like to contact them?’. I never do because I figure if they liked me they’d be in touch. I agree with the ‘build it and they will come’ philosophy. Maybe some clients need that little push to get them over the line but I’m not going to risk annoying people by being too pushy. I seem to get enough business anyway.

I met a regular client of mine recently in the foyer of a hotel. My client had asked me to arrange another masseur to join for our session. I know the other masseur very well (we have made a few films together and regularly come across each other). As I walked into the hotel with my client the other masseur was waiting for us to arrive. He noticed me enter and as he came up to me we embraced and kissed each other on the lips quite passionately …and a little too long for it to be passed off as eccentricity! He then greeted our client and we headed off to the room for the session. Afterwards, once my masseur friend had left (the arrangement was that I would spend the final hour with the client) my client told me that he’d watched the reaction of people in the hotel when we kissed. He said he was quite surprised by the PDA and that some of those hanging about in the lobby seemed to be disapproving. I hadn’t even thought of it because it seemed so natural to kiss my friend. My client said he was glad that he hadn’t received a similar PDA because it would have been embarrassing for him. I really don’t mind what people think so it hadn’t occurred to me that the client might be feeling awkward. Once we were inside the hotel room he was keen to watch me and the other masseur do all sorts of things with each other, but in the public area he felt awkward at just watching us kiss!! All because he was worried about what people were thinking which is a real shame.

I fell for that one one time. He told me he’d do some naked sketches of me for free, all I had to do was turn up and strip off. He sent some examples of his work which looked great. Naively I agreed. I turn up, strip off. He tells me he likes to chat first to get to know me because it makes the drawing better. So we chat. He tells me he needs to touch me to get me in the right positions. Ok…so he ‘adjusts’ me in various positions. Then he starts drawing but it doesn’t seem like he’s doing much except looking and coming over to check things. Then after about an hour of this, he suggests I might need a break from the poses so he makes us both a drink and sits next to me on the couch. I ask to look at what he’s done so far so I get up (to get away from him because he’s far too close) and look at the easel. Honestly it’s like a kid has drawn a stick man. He notices my surprise and says it’s just for proportions and planning and he will fill in the full details afterwards. Then he suggests he should get naked too while we rest and drink. As he strips off he asks if I want any explicit pictures and that I should get hard for those. I called time at that point and told him I had to go. I never saw any pictures….

Weekday daytime is ideal. The wife / partner thinks they’re at work, work thinks they’re at a meeting. WFH doesn’t help me because I’m based in central London. Most London workers commute in from the suburbs.

It’s counter intuitive. Friday night and Saturday people are out socialising, there’s other stuff to do. Plus those kind of clients (the I’m horny now types) aren’t good clients. I think people book early on the week because they want a treat to start the week. Also if you’re hiring on the ‘down low’ then it’s easier to do that on a weekday daytime at start of week.

Certainly don’t spend an hour talking with a client about the session. That’s 100% sign of a time waster. If they ask for pics that’s also a big red flag, especially if you have pics on your advert. If you don’t have a professional set up, by which I mean a website with decent pics, maybe a video, lots of information, a good advert on the relevant sites (Rentmen, RentMasseur) then you’re more likely to attract clients who see you as someone who can be messed around. Have some rules: never discount, no last minute bookings, no extended chat, no sexting, no session less than an hour (it sends the wrong signal to do < 1hour), and remember that even with that approach at least 25% of contacts about sessions never actually result in a booking. People get anxious, change their mind, need ages to decide to go ahead, have other priorities, get busy etc. Some have no intention of ever booking but most I think are just mulling things over. That’s ok with me as long as they do the mulling without taking up too much of my time.

Data is valuable! Plus I’m kind of nerdy about keeping records. But really my activity isn’t so busy that I need to keep detailed records to know what’s happening. It’s mostly by feel, and then when I look at the records my ‘feeling’ is verified. The figures are fairly steady, I saw a drop during the pandemic but it quickly got back to pre pandemic levels. Earlier in the week is busier than later, and earlier in the month busier than the end. Winter is busier than summer. Regular clients make up 70% of the business. 95% are male. 90% are in calls. I do the work part time (it’s better that way for me) and mix in some filming and more conventional work. That all had to be highly flexible because there’s no real pattern as to time of day.

I have spreadsheets. You have to keep some records because you need them for accounting purposes and tax returns. I have kept the records since I started over 6 years ago. I keep the date, duration, location, charge plus any tip, costs I incurred, name of client (the anonymous name they gave me), source where they found me (if they advised me of that) and any relevant info in case they hire again. I can also see the patterns of hire and what advertising works etc.

This is relevant. I was with a client recently who wanted me to fuck him bare as part of the massage (he’d asked when booking, and although it wasn’t something I’d promised, there was an expectation). He said he’d not done much with guys before but was exploring, and couldn’t hold back his feelings any longer. Apparently he’d been building up the courage to book for about 2 years. I told him that I don’t usually include fucking, especially for a first time client and that he should see how things go during the session, which he was fine with. Before we started he was very anxious but as we progressed he relaxed a bit. During the session he said again that he really wanted to try to bottom so I prepared him and then slid in. It must have only been about 10 seconds inside and he said ‘you won’t cum will you?’. I said ‘no, don’t worry’ (I’m able to control when I cum). But I think the thought of being fucked and the risk of cum inside made him think again and he asked me to pull out. I think sometimes clients get ahead of themselves and when reality hits they get anxious. Especially if they’re inexperienced. In the end he was happy with me unloading over his face as I brought him off.

Occasionally my clients want to top me (it’s infrequent, most I see are bottom!) and if that’s the case I appreciate they ask before the session. It’s kind of too late once he’s inside because some guys aren’t very able to control it.

I’ve a friend who is also in the industry, he describes himself as a ‘sex engineer’. It’s descriptive of the work: working with clients body and mind to improve their sex life. However it feels a bit mechanical for me. As a masseur I consider the work to be as much on the client’s mind as it is on their body. A therapeutic masseur is just working the muscles but a sensual or erotic masseur is working the body and working on what’s going on in the client’s head. Therefore sex therapist sounds good. I genuinely think that the work should be valued more by society. Terms like whore and prostitute have been imbued with too much negative baggage for them to be used in a benign way unfortunately.

I don’t think you did anything wrong. I must admit I probably wouldn’t recognise clients outside of context (unless they’re regulars) and if I do see a client I discreetly nod and then ignore them. I’d expect the same back. I did once get seen by a client at a naked beach in Mykonos but I count that as being in context! I was walking along the shoreline with a friend. Once we’d found somewhere to settle I looked at my phone to see a text from the client ‘Jamie, did I just see you at Elia beach?’….I replied and asked him where he was. Turns out he was with his husband on sunbeds about 50 metres away so once I checked it was ok I went over and said hello, and he joked that he only recognised me because I was naked. The husband knew he hired. Small world.

It’s 99% likely to be a scam. I bet there follows a request for bank details to be supplied for payment. Be highly suspicious.

Rent boy gets used here quite widely. I describe myself as sex worker. I think whore or prostitute does have some unfortunate baggage but I don’t mind being called those names. What I have noticed though is that clients don’t like to be referred to as a client! If I’m referring to others then they’re ok with the term but if I’m with a guy and I refer to him as ‘my client’ then he doesn’t like it, so I avoid it now.