Jamie21

I’m in UK. It’s free at the point of use on NHS for me.

It’s definitely a thing. I’ve started a duplicate on Bluesky of both of my X profiles and am picking up followers who also follow me on X. I intend to keep posting on X and run Bluesky in parallel. It’s more work of course but I have someone do most of that for me on one of my X profiles. He’ll do same for the Bluesky. I started them at this time to avoid someone else getting the name I use on X. My posts on Bluesky are as explicit as those on X. There is a filter on Bluesky that you need to switch to allow you to see porn but once you do that it’s fine. It may of course all fizzle out but I just don’t think X is very stable given who owns it now. I’ve no problem with the misinformation and propaganda on there: I’m able to see through that and I don’t engage in any debate on there because the quality of discourse is very low. My main issue with it is that I think it could collapse quickly if the owner loses interest.

Ha ha yes this happens. I just ask them when they’d like. They need to commit to it. I find the vague ones tend to be flaky. Worse is the client who at last minute wants a specific time. A recent example: Client: hi are you free this afternoon? Me: yes I can do 3:30 to 6. Does that work? Client: nothing earlier? me: around 1pm? Client: I can’t do that early… Me: 🫠 I mean why didn’t he just ask for 2pm or so???

Couple of questions: Was that study funded by the maker of Apretude? Have you any affiliation with them?

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I remember to take it every day! If I miss a day I take two. They told me that is how to restart after a break.

I find American clients are much more likely to tip. I think it’s just the American tipping culture. My British clients very rarely tip. If clients do tip of course I’m really grateful. Should they book again I’ll go out of my way to see them.

It’s nothing to do with what the client is prepared to pay for. The masseur is in charge of what he includes in the service and what the price is and when in the interaction that is discussed. The client chooses to accept that when they book. My view is you (as in the provider) make that decision when you set your rate and describe your services. If you’re offering massage and sex describe it as that and charge for it (legalities noted). It’s not appropriate to introduce an additional service for an additional fee during the session, in my opinion. It detracts from the ambiance and breaks the spell to remind the client of the transactional nature of things at the least appropriate time.

Add the very important element: ‘when taken as prescribed’. It often isn’t taken as prescribed.

And that would kill the energy in the session. It’s why I never offer up sells. If a client wants to lick my ass during the session they can, for me it’s part of the massage (if they want it) and included in the price. To suddenly throw in a fee for that mid session is bad service. I think the fee agreed at the start should be inclusive of everything you’re prepared to include. Clients sometimes ask for full sex and if I’m not prepared to do it then I just gently decline. A few times they initiate the offer of more payment but it’s still a no. That’s not because of any issues about selling sex, I do sex work: my ass and cock are for sale 😂, but because I’ve set the boundaries in my head before the start. If you have a loose approach to what you’ll do in a session at any time, whether or not money is involved, then things can get out of hand. Discipline is important (I do that kind of massage session too 😉).

I bet the officers thought “ah, $80 that’s reasonable” and they got their happy ending but then when the price quoted went up to $180 they thought “wow that’s steep, let’s prosecute”.

I tip them on the app. It gives me a good rating and I think that helps when I’m looking to hire. I don’t wait long for someone to accept the booking.

It’s true yes! 😱

I always feel slightly self conscious when counting the cash as I walk down the hotel corridor having finished the client and left his room. It’s as if hotel security is watching on video surveillance and I’ll be stopped as I leave via the lobby. Totally irrational of course because the hotel doesn’t care but nevertheless it’s a thing for me so I count it in the lift (elevator). I prefer being paid in cash, somehow it feels better to have the notes in my pocket than the money appearing in my account 2 days later (less the banks’ fee 😬)…

I went to a good school 😉.

Yep I’ve heard of that. In 1588 God sent the storm, obviously because He’s English. In 1589 we lost the away leg because of poor leadership. Score draw 1:1.

It’s safe over the channel. The Royal Navy kept them out of the way.

Americans, you’ve got a short period to reverse the declaration of independence and revert to having the King as your head of state. Just a thought…

I know how many I’ve given (to the nearest 50).

It creates such extreme reactions, both for Brexit and against it. What’s clear though is that the British don’t see the EU in the same way that much of the rest of Europe sees it. It has long been the case that Britain doesn’t see itself as European. In the past Europe was the source of trouble. We played off the big European powers against each other to prevent any of them from getting too powerful and competing with us globally, especially the French.

Oh God don’t mention Brexit…😱

I accept cash or card. Some clients prefer to pay in cash because of the anonymity. That’s fine with me, I’ve accepted any currency: €, £, $. I used to accept PayPal but that organisation became difficult so I avoid it now. It’s about what’s convenient for my client. If the meet involves significant up front costs from me and the client is new then I’ll seek some pre payment or assurance or I’ll decline the business.

But the UK isn’t!!!

And is doing well as a force for good. And it’s not imperialistic 😉 Any country can apply to join. All countries in it are equal. The head of the Commonwealth is His Majesty King Charles III.

Interesting topic. I’m not sure I’d share as much detail as @Simon Suracion what my clients who come for massage and company (that’s what I’d call BFE) want because some of it’s very personal and I’d feel awkward sharing it here (even though no names are mentioned of course). Generally what they want, alongside massage, is intimacy, some connection and space to be themselves without feeling judged. It can be having lunch, chat over a coffee, cuddling, going to a sauna together. Rarely is it full sex…maybe that’s a genuine BF experience! I think look first for someone you can connect with rather than being specific for a masseur vs an escort. Either could be ok but the most important thing is for him to be able to connect with you and part of that test would be whether he’s open to the proposition and how he reacts to your request.