Jamie21

I was referring to the economic concept of perfect competition. Perfect visibility of prices and perfect knowledge about product enables the market to work without distortion. The distortion caused by illegality and the difficulty of being able to advertise openly and for buyers to compare value means that the price might be over or under the true market rate depending on the level of knowledge that buyers and sellers have.

The only challenge to that is that in most free markets all the players have good information on price and product. Because in the US the product is largely illegal that does mean the market can’t operate as efficiently as it might otherwise do. For example rates aren’t freely visible, nor is the product. This gives some opportunity for the price to be manipulated.

Demand and supply. Nothing to do with what you think you’re worth or need. The market decides the rate. You and your clients decide whether or not you’re participating in that market. Nothing else is relevant.

This is not a red flag for me. It’s surprising how many clients have a thing for feet! I’m size 11 (UK size) 😉. All the others I concur. Especially the unsolicited dick pics and the nonchalant responses which imply lack of commitment to keeping the booking. But the biggest red flag is a message that just says “hey”.

Posting an alluring nude pic to get attention…., you’re thirsty ( as in horny) and you see a mirage of an oasis offering to quench your thirst. That’s a thirst trap!

I don’t have many routines. Every day is different and I prefer it that way. The only consistent first thing in the morning is to have a cup of Yorkshire tea and see the news. The rest of the day could pan out in myriad of different ways, which is good because I like options and variety.

I think it’s a very difficult distinction to pull off, over a sustained period of time. I had a regular client who I’m now friends with (holidays together, meals out etc, recreational sex) and I found it difficult when he was booking me as a client after our friendship had developed. It happened gradually; over time we became friends whilst he still hired me. After a short while of this I had to tell him I wouldn’t charge him any longer because I found it awkward. He accepted that. I think he found it awkward too. Now the relationship is simpler. No money changes hands. I think it could be possible to have a kind of dual relationship: Paid companion on one hand and friend on the other, but it’s not one I’m able to sustain.

I never see clients at home. I like to keep it separate. I use a studio I rent for seeing clients, or visit them in an outcall. Where I live isn’t somewhere clients would easily visit. My work studio is extremely convenient for clients because it’s in central London. I’ve never felt unsafe, probably because I’d decline a client if I got a sense that they were threatening. I’m also very aware of my surroundings and able to defend myself (martial arts). That gives me a degree of confidence, and a better ability to assess risk. I think it also helps that I’m working in an environment where the work is not unlawful. If sex work was unlawful here then I think there would be more risk for the sex worker. If I’m in trouble I’ve recourse to the police. That is less of an option if you’re working at something that’s prohibited.

I guess it could be that since you enjoy watching them then they are playing up to that even more? I definitely get more turned on by the fact that my client enjoys watching me with the other guy and it spurs me on. It’s got nothing to do with whether the guy watching is hot or not. I don’t think you can mandate that the provider kisses you with the same level of intimacy / intensity as he kisses the other provider. That’s just unrealistic and will make for an awkward situation. You should focus on your responses rather than trying to see whether you are getting the same degree of intimacy. If you’re into it then as long as you hire good professionals then they’ll be as into you as they are each other.

I see some regular clients and do feel affection for them. When you share intimacy regularly with someone it does create a kind of bond. I’m able to compartmentalise it though; it’s a transaction despite me trying to make it not seem like that (at least up to the point where I ask them how they’d like to pay!). I think some clients might like it to progress further and that’s the most difficult part of the work. I had a client tell me he loved me after a session. It wasn’t a comment made ‘in the moment’ at climax but was afterwards as he was dressing. That made it even more difficult to respond to. I didn’t expect it and didn’t know what to say. I just gave him a cuddle and said nothing, which actually said it all… and he realised it. He was a regular (one of those every 3 months clients) but I’ve not seen him since. I wish I had handled it better but it really surprised me.

This situation would have thrown me. Doing an out call there’s enough unknown variables without adding the prospect of two clients when I’m expecting one. I’ve had surprises occasionally (like the client’s wife and kids being upstairs during the session!) but I think I’d draw the line at ‘oh here’s my partner and he’s joining’ regardless of what the partner looked like or whether I had a good prior relationship with the client. In fact if I had the kind of relationship with the client that you describe I’d be disappointed that he had sprung it on me like he did. You seem to have taken it with equanimity!

I get hired sometimes for that. In the sense that it involves being with the client with no expectation that sex will happen. It usually is simply spending time with them. We’ll probably be naked, we’ll do some massage, we’ll eat, chat, just cuddle. It’s important to them that there’s no explicit agenda. So much of people’s time these days is scheduled and structured I think the opportunity to just chill with someone who is like minded is welcome. Of course most of the time because the session is unstructured and relaxed then some kind of sex does happen. Whether that’s full sex or just intimacy but because it’s not the purpose of the session it makes it all the more fulfilling.

I think you dodged a bullet. Prices should be clear, but if there’s a mistake and you asked for clarification and got a response like that then that tells me he’s probably not the kind of guy you’d want to see.

I’m not American! 😉… I can empathise to an extent with @Jarrod_Uncut. I get time waster clients, guys who regularly ask about availability, rates, what’s included etc yet never get around to booking. Others ask about availability and I go back with dates etc and then hear nothing…so weird. People can be strange, especially when it comes to dealing with sex workers. I think they believe different rules apply. I also think it’s futile to try and change other people. In any situation that causes you grief the answer always lies in how you think about it and how you respond. If you think other people will change you’re going to be constantly disappointed.

There isn’t a checklist. If there was, it wouldn’t work, it’s not possible to work like that. Each nervous client is nervous in a different way and for different reasons. You could ask them but that tends to bring attention to the anxiety. I handle each situation differently but I guess common themes are being reassuring (holding hands, cuddles) and taking things slowly. I think to myself: Here is a person who has chosen me to be with during an intensely intimate and personal time when he will be vulnerable, anxious and excited. That’s something to be treated with the utmost care and sensitivity and I’m going to make him thankful for choosing me. Get in that frame of mind and your actions to reduce his anxiety are natural.

I use Dayuse rooms for filming porn… others do too because I’ve recognised a few rooms when watching their films 😂

I think it’s very unusual. Most guys I know handle all their client interactions. It’s just not practical to have someone ‘in the middle’. All my interactions with clients are done by me but where I do employ a manager is for social media. I have someone handle my filming schedule, edit the films, post my content on fans sites and deal with all the admin associated with that. He also schedules some collaborations. However I do all the communications with those who follow me. There’s just too much work associated with doing filming for social media to handle it all alone.

Rule no.1….Never discount.

When you see a good sex worker they are always controlling you mentally. Despite what some guys say about the size of their cock the brain is the biggest sex organ. The more you understand what’s going on in a client’s mind the better your service. Your requirements are similar to anyone else’s requirements, they just differ in context, and you are being more explicit about articulating them. Now, get back to the ironing. I want creases down the sleeve of my shirt. I’ll tell you when I’m satisfied with it…

A client insisting that the guy cums is like the team manager insisting that the striker in a football (soccer game) scores every game. Sure, he’s there to score goals but you can’t force him to. In fact I find that the more insistent the client is that I cum the more difficult it becomes. Especially when they say they want you to cum inside there’s something about the pressure to perform which makes it more difficult to perform. My advice to clients is, by all means ask, but the best way to get what you want is to avoid being prescriptive and demanding. Most providers will very quickly work out what you like and will deliver it.

Sounds like a red flag to me. Also it’s not necessarily the size of the guy that can be a problem when bottoming, it’s more about his skill as a top. I’ve bottomed for some very big guys and it’s been fine, and some smaller guys (ok average size) and they’ve been difficult to take because of their technique. How one could guarantee to bottom for him is difficult to imagine. I’d decline to accept his booking.

I don’t count myself as a porn star (well…if I’m trying to flatter my ego when I look in the mirror I do, but that’s not really the point is it!) and I’ve over a hundred porn films, for a studio, for other models and for my own fans platforms. I’d say I’m a porn actor. When does one move from being a performer to a porn star? I think it’s when you’re browsing the net for material to get yourself off and you accidentally come across one of your own videos….

Most of my referrals come from other masseurs or escorts (and I return the favour). If I can’t see a client and he asks if I know anyone else then I always suggest guys I know who I think would be suitable for the client. They do same for me. It’s more frequent than referrals from clients because I think most clients are discreet about hiring.

Most of my pics are body pics, there’s one or two that show my face although not directly. If a client contacts me and asks for a face pic then I’m fine to send one. I prefer to be a little discreet plus the talk of authorities using facial recognition software to identify those doing sex work is a concern. I don’t want to be stopped at the border of a place I’m visiting because some country doesn’t like my job.

I think as a provider it’s important for me to feel that my clients are enjoying themselves. I bring my 100% focus on giving them a great experience but it helps me to do that if I get visible feedback. Aside from me needing my client to be hygienic and respectful (almost all are!) then the only thing that really helps me is that I can see they’re into it. I find it difficult if he’s totally passive. It happens very occasionally…as in he just lays there and whatever you do there’s no response. I manage to get him off but it’s kind of sterile. I asked afterwards “did you enjoy it?” and one of the guys said “yes it was great”. I believed him but just wish he showed it more because that spurs me on. That particular guy was very anxious and inexperienced so that’s why I believed him; he was too scared to ‘let go’ but I think most providers would say that what encourages them in the session is to really feel that their client is having fun. That’s why I do it, I love helping clients be themselves sexually and emotionally.