AntonGraza

Chances are that the provider does not care what your life away from him entails as far as your orientation, or at the least, he does not care about knowing as much as you care about telling.  So when you are ready, tell him what you want him to know.  He has heard it all and it likely does not rub him the wrong the way.  
As far as being out, I was happy in a monogamous heterosexual relationship and as a result, I did not start seeing men until I was almost 50,  It seems that at that age no one really cares with whom you have sex and it may be that some do not believe that sex happens for people over 50. Being widowed, did occasionally raise the question as to whether I would date again or marry again.  I did ty dating again and did not care for it with either sex.   In any case, my situation now is Don't Ask, Don't Tell.  They don't ask and I feel no responsibility to discuss my sex likes with them.  I also do not ask them about their sex life.  To me, it is rude to ask  and it is really none of my business if my friends or relatives are having sex, how often, with whom, in what position.  On the rare occasion that sex comes up in conversation with my friends, it is usually relating funny experiences and long past stories, which have been told numerous times in the past. 
In my office, I do have a gay pride flag that was given out by the hospital years ago and which sits wordlessly on top of a cabinet. If people notice, they do not ask.   A few months ago, while taking photos for a graduation of medical residents, there was a different group taking photos for Gay Pride month and they asked for Gay and Gay Allied persons to join their photo.  I did so.  Again without comment from me or to me.  
So really, at this point, my sex life to others is more. Don't Care and Please Keep it to Yourself.  

My views on that has changed as I have grown older and wiser. Originally, I resented them, and I didn't like them at all. I used to view them as wanting the joys of sex between men, but hiding from the responsibilities that come with being gay. I saw them as opportunists. In the community where I grew up, the closet cases I knew were the type that attacked gay men as way of shifting the focus out of themselves. That was part of what made me resentful.
That type of closeted guy still exists today, and I still reject and resent them, but I've also learned about the ones I never heard of before. Many men find themselves in situations where they cannot be out, and they do not attack gay men in a lame attempt at keeping their cover. Many value having a family, children, their faith and other things that go against their sexuality, more than being open about who they are. It's a decision that they have made, but they don't judge others who don't make the same decision.
So today I know that there are different reasons why some men hide their true sexual orientation, and I have to put my money where my mouth is. That is, I claim that I am open minded and non-judgemental, so I dont' judge them or their situation, I only set boundaries with the ones who seem to need to attack gay men or trans people to reinforce their closeted status.

An NSA tracking and monitoring chip?

Carrying a dime or two for the payphone (and remembering phone numbers).
 
Dialing "0" to speak to a live person - Operator for information.
 
Being able to "floating" a check for two or three days before payday. (Banks were closed on Wednesdays- no ATM's)
 
The only size of batteries were the big square 6V, C and D sizes - dry cell, no alkaline.
 
Transistor radios (AM and FM).
 
To plan an airline trip, there was a thick paper book, like a phone book, that was printed twice a year. It contained all of the airlines, flight numbers, arr/dept times and cities. You looked up here you wanted to go, wrote down all the flight numbers, then called the travel people to book the tickets.
 
A dedicated island of full service pumps at the gas stations.
 
Motor oil was packaged in round cardboard cans with metal lids. You needed a steel oil spout to pierce - open the top of the can to pour in out.

You can search this site using the numbers at the end of the URL.
Of those listed, I highly recommend 1881 (Billy).  PM if you want more details.

about to turn 83! 

Hi Pi-  Do not pay these guys.  There was a guy running that scam in the Chicago area several weeks ago.  A buddy of mine sent money to him via American Express and they have kept call at all hours, using different phone numbers, and asking for more money.  He had to change his phone number and has been very concerned- but “they”have not contacted anyone- his family like they claimed.  
Another guy told them to go ahead and he would go to the cops.  The blackmailers blocked him on Sniffies and their phone number traced back to a Microsoft account.  
Its going to be nerve wracking but, block them and go radio silent on Sniffies for awhile. 
Check out a Burner Phone app like Tutanota or something similar.  
If an inquiry is made on why you need a Burner App, you can use a burner number to provide to your clients when you travel or so they can contact you but not on your personal number (nice firewall) and also provide to  salespeople.  
Do not beat yourself up, it happen and remember, these guys are professionals and this is their business.  

 

Hi Pi-  Do not pay these guys.  There was a guy running that scam in the Chicago area several weeks ago.  A buddy of mine sent money to him via American Express and they have kept call at all hours, using different phone numbers, and asking for more money.  He had to change his phone number and has been very concerned- but “they”have not contacted anyone- his family like they claimed.  
Another guy told them to go ahead and he would go to the cops.  The blackmailers blocked him on Sniffies and their phone number traced back to a Microsoft account.  
Its going to be nerve wracking but, block them and go radio silent on Sniffies for awhile. 
Check out a Burner Phone app like Tutanota or something similar.  
If an inquiry is made on why you need a Burner App, you can use a burner number to provide to your clients when you travel or so they can contact you but not on your personal number (nice firewall) and also provide to  salespeople.  
Do not beat yourself up, it happen and remember, these guys are professionals and this is their business.  

 

Watching someone else come is extremely hot

A man who maximizes his Roth IRA contributions.  Woof!

It's been a while since I lived up there. I should go back to try some of the new masseurs, but I am glad several of my old favorites are still around.
Nikola is probably the best & most competent masseur of my cohort here, plus he gets naked and is very relaxed and playful. It doesn't get sexual which is something I actually like, just nice and sensual with MT. The downside with him is Chicago traffic and the fact that he lives out near the airport so his arrival times are very uncertain, and can be frustrating if there is a big traffic meltdown on the freeways.  https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/18450/
Jake is insanely built (actually, too much for my taste), but very sweet and professional. Nudity, MT, sensitivity but again, without going overboard. He has to be the smartest & most professional masseur out there, a true pleasure to interact with.   https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/8479/
If I had to pick one to see on my next visit, it would be Tommy. Massage is OK but that's not the main point anyway. I just LOVE his personality, playfulness, friendliness, and sense of humor. He is also insanely cute and sexy in my book. He lives out in the suburbs and I actually enjoyed going out there to see him, very nice setting. He is for some reason much more punctual than Nikola when it comes to outcalls downtown and other more central areas. Last time I saw him, he fed me grapes as we chatted before the massage and we rinsed off together in the shower afterwords, something I almost never do. It was all very spontaneous as if we were life-long friends. YMMV but I suspect he is really nice and generous with everyone.  https://rentmasseur.com/TommyParker
Vic has to be the coolest, gay-friendliest straight guy I know. Massage is OK but not great, it's sensual, he gets naked and allows MT, but it doesn't get sexual and he has strict limits. He is also very muscular and big. I'd see him again, he is really sexy in my book and it's always a nice, relaxing, if not very therapeutic session.   https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/13252/
OK, on to my shit list.
This guy's pix were outdated over a decade ago, and I had an awful experience. He keeps changing his name too, talk about red flags 🙂  https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/285/
And this straight swindler is visiting again, stay away. https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/44093/

The most surprising thing that could happen during a massage is actually getting a great massage 😂

While traveling I would say 'Itsaboutu' in Iowa City was an unexpected very good surprise https://www.adam4adam.com/profile/view/ITSABOUTU   While more locally I would say it's Mark - https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/781/  in Union NJ.

I've opted for cremation with my ashes scattered at sea.
Finally, a cruise.

Most dog owners perceive their dog to be the smartest dog in the world.  Guilty.  🙂

I’ll counter that by asking if you’ve ever had sex with a man you’re not attracted to? 
We all have (mercy fucks). However, ask yourself have you (or will you) give those same mercy fucks to women? The answer for most will be “no.” 
Being attracted to someone and being BIOLOGICALLY WIRED to be attracted to a specific gender are two different things (which many people in the comments can’t seem to comprehend.) 
 

A co-worker did this only in a speedo and tennis shoes.  He removed a large patch of poison oak, which was shredded by the weed whip and stuck all over is sweaty exposed body.  OMG, from the neck down he was in various stages of red blotches and fist sized rashes.  It took weeks to heal.  Gorgeous guy, tall, furry and ripped, but not to bright.

I'm not gay ..but I am also attracted to men.
I have always found the gay men's obsession with dick hard to understand.
When I look at from a straight man's perspective I don't know of anyone who wants to see a woman's pussy before he sleeps with her. Yet gay men always seem to ask to see my dick before they agree to hook up ( or not ).
I couldn't care less about your dick. I like the body curves ..nice butt and chest same for both men and women .
 

Thank you BuddyWorker for the detailed information on your visit. Based on Bruno's comments regarding Thai Yoga work, I was assuming it would be a form Thai massage. I totally concur that wonderful things do happen when 2 naked bodies are in close proximity with one another during a nude Thai massage. So far I have not found too many providers with this specialization. Something for the 2020 to do list. Thanks again for taking one for the team.

I would tell my 30 year old self to spend more time with my grandmothers, because no one will ever love me in the same unconditional way that both these women did. ❤️

Waste basket in bedroom.  Rectangle garbage container between vanity and toilet in bathroom, and can under sink in kitchen.  Nothing in the living room.  

I have always gotten a small bag of candy; usually no one rings the bell as my porch light is on and I live in a decent hood. However, last night I had one kid to come by, first one in years. That simple thing made me happy!

Even in anonymity we can be touched buy others’ humanity. I understand the curiosity, and you may have to accept it will not be satisfied. 
Keep the nice memories of your conversations, and think of him when generously tipping some other server somewhere. 

...or gladiator movies.